Which Exreligious Pipeline are you on?

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Quiz Questions

1.
Ready... set... go! From 1-10, Which best sums up your religious experience?
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- A.
  1-4 – Wore the WWJD bracelet, went to youth group for the cuties, and got wrecked by purity culture.
- B.
  5-7 – I Was at church 2-5 times a week, and I didn't see myself as religious, I called it a relationship with jesus.
- C.
  8-10 – I was homeschooled with other religious people, and trained to be a missionary.
2.
People say You've changed a lot since you were younger…
- A.
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  Only like... all the time 🤷‍♀️
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  Nope – I'm pretty consistent
3.
If I asked your best friends what sets you apart as a person, how would they respond?
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- A.
  They’d say I’m the life of the party 🎉 I’m bubbly with big-heart. Plus I always tell the most interesting stories… Most of which are true.
- B.
  Whenever my friends need a pep talk, they come to me! They’d probably tell you that I’m a great listener and advice-giver. And that I might be a little on the sensitive side...
- C.
  I take it that by ‘best friends’ you mean my two cats. They’re not super talkative. But they might meow a couple times, which is pretty cool.
- D.
  My friends say I'm pretty edgy, always testing the limits and not afraid to talk about things that make other people uncomfortable.
4.
Which logo most closely sums up the height of your dedication to religion?
- A.
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  memorizing bible verses to get approval and self worth.
- B.
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  Punishing children into submission.
- C.
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  Learning about people dying from our early years.
- D.
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  The constant reminder of shame.
5.
People count on you to…
- A.
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  Have witchy or spiritual conversations
- B.
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  Be open about everything
- C.
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  Show up for every cause
- D.
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  Be expressive with my style
6.
From 1-10, how much do you typically respect authority figures?
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- A.
  1-4 – Nu-uh, I don’t appreciate people telling me how to live my life. Whether or not they’re my boss, I’m not taking anyone’s orders…
- B.
  5-7 – I'm so triggered by getting in trouble that I just avoid authority.
- C.
  8-10 – I don’t idolize them, but if people in positions of power tell me to do something, I’m probably going to do it.
7.
Describe yourself using… drumroll please… a single emoji!
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  – I’m always adding this emoji just to make things interesting/sexy
- B.
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  – I'm queer af and just add the rainbow just because.
- C.
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  – I use the heart eye emoji to make sure all my friends know how much I love them
- D.
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  ✨ – I want to add magic to everything, and this emoji makes everything seem a little more mystical.
8.
If you could ask a life coach one question, what’d it be?
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  What should I do to heal from purity culture?
- B.
  How can I learn to set boundaries with confidence?
- C.
  How can I show-up for my friends and family without letting my own needs fall by the wayside?
- D.
  What can I do to stop sabotaging myself?
- E.
  How can I make hard decisions? I don't even know what I want half the time.
9.
If your friends get in a big fight, what're you most likely to do?
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  I get a little (aka. a lot) involved. It's hard for me not to pick a side... And start yelling...
- B.
  I sit between them and mediate until they come to a peaceful resolution.
- C.
  I curl up on the sofa and scroll Instagram until the screaming stops.
- D.
  I grab them both a glass of water and let them hash it out.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
You’re in the Dedicated ready to be missionary turned queer and slightly kinky Pipeline
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You give things your all when they really matter to you. In the past this meant that you lost yourself in the process of being dedicated. You see challenges as opportunities to prove yourself. Roadblocks that others run from motivate you to push harder and jump higher. On top of that, your tendency to challenge the status quo means you’re naturally innovative. You find new, unexpected solutions to old problems.Now that you're on your way and discovering yourself, who you are and what you want, you are taking your power back and it's been a bit of a wild journey.You are more intuitive than you have given yourself credit for, and you are much more capable than you yet know. And god, you're tired from carrying so much weight.You've found purity culture affecting so many more parts of your life than you expected.A quick start to help you heal from purity culture...1. Define what purity culture meant for you.Whats interesting is that we all experience things in unique ways. How you experienced purity culture may have been different than those you went to youth group with. Try answering these questions in your journal:What did purity culture tell me about my gender?What did purity culture tell me about my sexuality? Clothes? Body? expression?What was my responsibility in purity culture?----Check out This Episode In my Podcast Bitches, Witches, and Queers. The Church Taught Us Sex work.----Once you have these answers write them out like beliefs:In purity culture I was told that my body was not my own, so the belief was: my body belonged to those who held more power than me.oof, that hurts. Take a moment to love on yourself for having to live with that belief.Then notice: where else has that belief had an effect on you? Where does the idea that you don't belong to you still show up in your life?Give that part of you a big hug. Like literally, hold yourself for a moment.Next time you notice what you are doing comes from that belief, just get curious (not judgy ;)) and ask, do I still need this belief here?If not, give yourself permission to make another choice. Wait a minute – let me introduce myself...Hey there, I’m Christina Carlson 👋 A Life and Energy Coach. I do Self-Relationship Coaching for those untangling themselves fromreligion and patriarchyYour Relationship to Yourself is the longest relationship you’ll ever have,And yet so many of us live in constant conflict with ourselves, Beating ourselves up when we make mistakes,Living by the rules of a society that wasn’t built for us. It doesn’t have to be this way.It’s possible to heal your relationship with yourself so that you can have your back, be a safe space for yourself, and your own biggest advocate. I know you,you care deeply about others,you give a lot to those you love and were probably taught that love = sacrifice, but that model is not sustainable.You deserve to be your own advocate, to believe in yourself, to believe your experience, to trust yourself and believe deeply that you matter. How you relate to you is foundation for every other relationship in our lives, whether that’s work, family, friends, nature, things.Here I support you to redefine how you relate to yourself so you can live a vibrant life where you are able to move with greater confidence, trust yourself, and value yourself is a powerful way. There is no reason to delay, this work will change every area of your life.and let me tell you,You Matter. Deeply Check out these resources to support you on your journey.1. Subscribe to my podcast Bitches, Witches, and Queers where I interview powerful thought leaders on life, spirituality, and what it means to heal in the world we live in.If you like raw, honest, and supportive content, You'll Love it.Find in Here2. Checkout this post on my blog. I talk about coming back to yourself and trusting yourself: which increases your emotional intelligence ;) 🙌Check in out Here3. Follow me on Instagram. From ways to find your intuition, to tips on boundaries and new perspectives on your healing journey, I’ve got you covered!Check Out My Insta Plus expect to see me in your inbox with ways to be re-mother yourself in this stage of life ✨
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You’re in the Youth Group leader turned Tattooed Witch who has multiple Tarot Decks Pipeline.
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Whether in the office or out for drinks with friends, you shine. You’ve got a little something to say about – well, everything! But what sets you apart? When you speak, people actually listen...Your effortless optimism inspires others to seek the light in dark circumstances. They look up to you for your positive sense of humor and peace-making ways. You can’t stand seeing your team split-up by petty conflicts. You’re the superglue sticking them back together.On top of that, your creative mind allows you to think your way out of any conundrum. You come up with solutions that no one else can see.Here’s the thing though, sometimes you might place too much importance on what others think. Maybe you even put your needs in the backseat to appease your peers. Let me tell you, Love, your unique ideas are so worth honoring.Let me offer you a stellar tip to support you in moving out of your own way to make decisions:The answer to the majority of questions, if not all, lies within your body, not your mind.Especially for those of us who were raised in religion, we know how to do mental gymnastics to make everything make sense in some way. Your mind is a genius.andYou don't need to rely on them for every decision you make. Next time you have to make a decision see if you can take a moment to notice your breath. Breathe deeply into your heart.Notice how the breath feels going in and out of your body.How do your feet feel? Is your body supported by any surface?Bring up the question and don't try to answer it. Instead, feel the question in your body and notice what the physical response is to once choice, the another. What is your body telling you?What are you afraid will happen if you make this decision?What is your current indecision protecting you from? (your body is always working for you, if it's hard, it's hard for a reason, you are always doing your best.)Wait a minute – let me introduce myself...Hey there, I’m Christina Carlson 👋 A Life and Energy Coach. I do Self-Relationship Coaching for those untangling themselves fromreligion and patriarchyYour Relationship to Yourself is the longest relationship you’ll ever have,And yet so many of us live in constant conflict with ourselves, Beating ourselves up when we make mistakes,Living by the rules of a society that wasn’t built for us. It doesn’t have to be this way.It’s possible to heal your relationship with yourself so that you can have your back, be a safe space for yourself, and your own biggest advocate. I know you,you care deeply about others,you give a lot to those you love and were probably taught that love = sacrifice, but that model is not sustainable.You deserve to be your own advocate, to believe in yourself, to believe your experience, to trust yourself and believe deeply that you matter. How you relate to you is foundation for every other relationship in our lives, whether that’s work, family, friends, nature, things.Here I support you to redefine how you relate to yourself so you can live a vibrant life where you are able to move with greater confidence, trust yourself, and value yourself is a powerful way. There is no reason to delay, this work will change every area of your life.and let me tell you,You Matter. Deeply Check out these resources to support you on your journey.1. Subscribe to my podcast Bitches, Witches, and Queers where I interview powerful thought leaders on life, spirituality, and what it means to heal in the world we live in.If you like raw, honest, and supportive content, You'll Love it.Find in Here2. Checkout this post on my blog. I talk about coming back to yourself and trusting yourself: which increases your emotional intelligence ;) 🙌Check in out Here3. Follow me on Instagram. From ways to find your intuition, to tips on boundaries and new perspectives on your healing journey, I’ve got you covered!Check Out My Insta Plus expect to see me in your inbox with ways to be re-mother yourself in this stage of life ✨
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You’re in the Worship Leader to Poly Lover pipeline.
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People count on you like a stopwatch, friend. No matter how big or small the issue, you're there to lend a listening ear or helping hand. You don’t need showy demonstrations – like speeches or self-guided projects – to win the respect of your peers…It’s enough that you show-up for everyone on your team. You're reliable, dependable approach naturally soothes conflicts. You know how to make arguing individuals see the value in one another’s perspectives.Peace is the name of your game. You foster patience and empathy. And on top of that, you’re a superstar at taking direction. You’ve got no problem pushing your ego to get the job done.Here’s the thing though, with everyone relying on you, who are you getting to rely on?You deserve to be supported too. And unlike the culture we grew up in, no one is coming to save you.How can you turn a bit of this compassion and empathy around towards yourself?What would it look like to set up some loving boundaries for yourself in your life? Heres a quick tip to help you set boundaries while still loving fiercely...We all do things for a reason, and you my love are no exception. Your genius body and mind have given (and over given) as a way of existing in this world. For many of us who over give (speaking from personal experience here) it can be scary to set boundaries because we think that we will become selfish, lose friends, and lose who we are. Belonging is such an important need in life, so I do not want to discount those fears.It can be scary as fuck to say no, and, you can totally do it.May I suggest you practice from where you are at?I like to think of growth like a stretch. It's important to start from where you are and lean into a stretch. This way you aren't causing damage in the process. What feels like a little bit stretch of a place to say no for you?Or try this: Where are you already super comfortable saying no? (You left religion, so you already have a framework for this.)What would feel a little bit stretchy of a space for you to say no in?Do you always say yes to weekly dinner with your parents even though you are super busy? What would it feel like to say no one time? To ask for a time that would work better for you? To say you can only do monthly now?If going through this process feels super scary, can you ask for some support from someone else who knows this is hard for you? A friend you can just call and sayyy uggghhhhh this is fucking harrdddd. Those friends are gold. If you don't have one, there are FB groups you can find to share in your experience. The Life After is a great one.Wait a minute – let me introduce myself...Hey there, I’m Christina Carlson 👋 A Life and Energy Coach. I do Self-Relationship Coaching for those untangling themselves fromreligion and patriarchyYour Relationship to Yourself is the longest relationship you’ll ever have,And yet so many of us live in constant conflict with ourselves, Beating ourselves up when we make mistakes,Living by the rules of a society that wasn’t built for us. It doesn’t have to be this way.It’s possible to heal your relationship with yourself so that you can have your back, be a safe space for yourself, and your own biggest advocate. I know you,you care deeply about others,you give a lot to those you love and were probably taught that love = sacrifice, but that model is not sustainable.You deserve to be your own advocate, to believe in yourself, to believe your experience, to trust yourself and believe deeply that you matter. How you relate to you is foundation for every other relationship in our lives, whether that’s work, family, friends, nature, things.Here I support you to redefine how you relate to yourself so you can live a vibrant life where you are able to move with greater confidence, trust yourself, and value yourself is a powerful way. There is no reason to delay, this work will change every area of your life.and let me tell you,You Matter. Deeply Check out these resources to support you on your journey.1. Subscribe to my podcast Bitches, Witches, and Queers where I interview powerful thought leaders on life, spirituality, and what it means to heal in the world we live in.If you like raw, honest, and supportive content, You'll Love it.Find in Here2. Checkout this post on my blog. I talk about coming back to yourself and trusting yourself: which increases your emotional intelligence ;) 🙌Check in out Here3. Follow me on Instagram. From ways to find your intuition, to tips on boundaries and new perspectives on your healing journey, I’ve got you covered!Check Out My Insta Plus expect to see me in your inbox with ways to be re-mother yourself in this stage of life ✨
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You're in the Summer Camp Counselor turned Equality Activist/Social Worker Pipeline.
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Friend, talking to you is like a hug. Your Empathetic nature lends you to care deeply for the people around you, and they can feel it.You've changed a lot over the years, but you've always been intuitive and empathetic.You shamed yourself a lot in your younger years, and a lot of shame and responsibility was put on you. Undoing this has been a big part of your deconstruction and you deeply long to set boundaries, because you know you need more care and time, but you don't want to let others down.My love, let me speak to you some kindness for a moment. Your experience matters. How you experience things matters. It doesn't need to make sense or be right to anyone else. How you feel in your life means so much.You are allowed to take up that space.Heres a quick tip to help you set boundaries while still loving fiercely...We all do things for a reason, and you my love are no exception. Your genius body and mind have given (and over given) as a way of existing in this world. For many of us who over give (speaking from personal experience here) it can be scary to set boundaries because we think that we will become selfish, lose friends, and lose who we are. Belonging is such an important need in life, so I do not want to discount those fears.It can be scary as fuck to say no, and, you can totally do it.May I suggest you practice from where you are at?I like to think of growth like a stretch. It's important to start from where you are and lean into a stretch. This way you aren't causing damage in the process. What feels like a little bit stretch of a place to say no for you?Or try this: Where are you already super comfortable saying no? (You left religion, so you already have a framework for this.)What would feel a little bit stretchy of a space for you to say no in?Do you always say yes to weekly dinner with your parents even though you are super busy? What would it feel like to say no one time? To ask for a time that would work better for you? To say you can only do monthly now?If going through this process feels super scary, can you ask for some support from someone else who knows this is hard for you? A friend you can just call and say uggghhhhh this is fucking harrdddd. Those friends are gold. If you don't have one, there are FB groups you can find to share in your experience. The Life After is a great one.Wait a minute – let me introduce myself...Hey there, I’m Christina Carlson 👋 A Life and Energy Coach. I do Self-Relationship Coaching for those untangling themselves fromreligion and patriarchyYour Relationship to Yourself is the longest relationship you’ll ever have,And yet so many of us live in constant conflict with ourselves, Beating ourselves up when we make mistakes,Living by the rules of a society that wasn’t built for us. It doesn’t have to be this way.It’s possible to heal your relationship with yourself so that you can have your back, be a safe space for yourself, and your own biggest advocate. I know you,you care deeply about others,you give a lot to those you love and were probably taught that love = sacrifice, but that model is not sustainable.You deserve to be your own advocate, to believe in yourself, to believe your experience, to trust yourself and believe deeply that you matter. How you relate to you is foundation for every other relationship in our lives, whether that’s work, family, friends, nature, things.Here I support you to redefine how you relate to yourself so you can live a vibrant life where you are able to move with greater confidence, trust yourself, and value yourself is a powerful way. There is no reason to delay, this work will change every area of your life.and let me tell you,You Matter. Deeply Check out these resources to support you on your journey.1. Subscribe to my podcast Bitches, Witches, and Queers where I interview powerful thought leaders on life, spirituality, and what it means to heal in the world we live in.If you like raw, honest, and supportive content, You'll Love it.Find in Here2. Checkout this post on my blog. I talk about coming back to yourself and trusting yourself: which increases your emotional intelligence ;) 🙌Check in out Here3. Follow me on Instagram. From ways to find your intuition, to tips on boundaries and new perspectives on your healing journey, I’ve got you covered!Check Out My Insta Plus expect to see me in your inbox with ways to be re-mother yourself in this stage of life ✨