What's your Relationship IQ?

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Quiz Questions

1.
Which of the following statements best describes the important relationships in your life?

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- A.
  
  I have great relationships with everyone in my life
- B.
  
  I have one or two really good, close relationships, the rest could be better
- C.
  
  I'd describe my relationships as OK, I'm not as close or connected with people as I'd like to be
- D.
  
  I don't do well with relationships. None of mine are good and I wish they were better
- E.
  
  I don’t do well with relationships and that’s ok. They are too stressful.
2.
Which of these statements best describes your experience of TRUST in your relationships

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- A.
  
  I find it difficult to trust people
- B.
  
  I find it easy to trust people, but sometimes I’m betrayed
- C.
  
  I am careful about who I trust and when I do trust someone, I’m usually right
3.
Which of the following best describes your experience setting boundaries?

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- A.
  
  I find it difficult to set (and hold) boundaries. I find it easier to just give in.
- B.
  
  I have very strong boundaries, maybe a little too strong - I need to have things my way.
- C.
  
  I set appropriate boundaries. I train others how to treat me
- D.
  
  I don’t know when to set boundaries until it’s too late.
4.
How do you feel about making requests?

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- A.
  
  I ask for what I want in a respectful manner and usually I get what I want
- B.
  
  I might drop hints but I feel uncomfortable asking for anything
- C.
  
  I sometimes ask for what I want, it depends on the situation
- D.
  
  I worry that I might come on too strong when I ask for what I want, I've been called demanding
5.
How good are you at keeping your word?

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- A.
  
  If I promise to do something, I'll either do it or renegotiate the commitment
- B.
  
  I have the best intentions when making promises, but I get distracted or something better comes along and I don’t deliver
- C.
  
  I sometimes agree to do things I don't want to do - then I don't follow through
6.
How self-confident do you feel?

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- A.
  
  I have a lot of confidence in myself. I trust in my ability to handle whatever life throws at me.
- B.
  
  I'm confident in some areas and situations. There are times and places where I lack confidence.
- C.
  
  I wouldn't describe myself as a confident person.
7.
How do you feel about forgiving others?

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- A.
  
  I find it hard to let go of the past. I don't forgive easily and I rarely forget.
- B.
  
  I forgive, but I find it hard to let go of anger or resentment
- C.
  
  I am able to forgive and let go of anger and resentment easily. Life is too short.
- D.
  
  I am able to forgive most of the time, but with some people, something happens, and I get triggered and the anger and resentment come back.
8.
How do you feel about forgiving yourself?

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- A.
  
  I find it almost impossible to forgive myself. I still feel bad about mistakes I made years ago - even small things
- B.
  
  I have to work hard to forgive myself
- C.
  
  I am able to forgive myself and move on
9.
Do you speak up & use your voice?

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- A.
  
  I always speak up – I make sure people know my view and get angry if needed
- B.
  
  I sometimes refrain from speaking up because I'm afraid of being judged
- C.
  
  I rarely speak up
- D.
  
  I do speak up and share my point of view with kindness
10.
Which of these most accurately describes how you handle conflict?

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- A.
  
  I hate conflict. I avoid it
- B.
  
  I'm comfortable with conflict. I know how to resolve conflict with respect.
- C.
  
  I need to get better at handling conflict
11.
Which of these best describe how you manage your feelings?

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- A.
  
  I feel my feelings and work through them appropriately
- B.
  
  I'm pretty good at managing my feelings but there are times when I lose it
- C.
  
  I often act out in reaction such as breaking down crying, lashing out in anger, or withdrawing. I just can't seem to stop myself
12.
Which of these best describes how you relate to your thoughts?

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- A.
  
  I believe my thoughts create my experience. I am careful about what I think or say - I keep it positive
- B.
  
  I sometimes get caught up in negative thinking
- C.
  
  Most of my thoughts are negative. I often complain.
13.
How are you at listening?

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- A.
  
  I give the other person my full focus, I listen to understand not just reply
- B.
  
  I am often thinking of other things when someone is talking, I find it hard to focus on them (especially if what they're saying isn't interesting to me)
- C.
  
  I try to be a good listener, but sometimes I get distracted and tune out or interrupt them.
14.
What is your relationship with your intuition?

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- A.
  
  I tune into my body, heart, and soul, and trust this inner knowing to guide me in living my life
- B.
  
  I sometimes listen to my intuition, other times I have trouble getting in touch with it
- C.
  
  I don't believe or rely on intuition

Quiz Outcomes

1.

Your Relationship IQ is low

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You probably didn’t have had a parent or mentor or someone to model healthy relationship skills. It’s not your fault! I teach these skills in Relationship School then you practice them in your daily life and then come back and share what happened. Your skills will elevate over time and, at some point, you’ll be confident and able to respond naturally.It’s human to have challenges in relationships. The benefit of the quiz isn’t really the rating of high, medium, or low. The value is in looking at those relationships that are important or impactful where you are not navigating things as well as you want so you can find a path forward to have the deeper connections you desire. My commitment - whatever score you got - is to help you build healthy skills so you can have authentic communication and create delicious relationships. How can you know what to do if/when you have not been taught how to navigate your relationships, especially in challenging situations? When you learn the skills, it’s so much easier to navigate these difficult relationships.I invite you to schedule a follow-up call with me so you can share with me your challenges and we can discuss how your current skills in those situations are sabotaging you. We will also see what skills you can build on so that you have more confidence and are more effective in your relationships!Click the button below to learn more.
2.

You have an average Relationship IQ

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Your results show that while you have many of the skills you need to develop great relationships, you are also missing some important ones.You probably have some deep and meaningful relationships in your life - and some frustrating ones. It’s human to have challenges in relationships. The benefit of the quiz isn’t really the rating of high, medium, or low. The value is in looking at those relationships that are important or impactful where you are not navigating things as well as you want so you can find a path forward to have the deeper connections you desire. My commitment - whatever score you got - is to help you build healthy skills so you can have authentic communication and create delicious relationships. How can you know what to do if/when you have not been taught how to navigate your relationships, especially in challenging situations? When you learn the skills, it’s so much easier to navigate these difficult relationships.I invite you to schedule a follow-up call with me so you can share with me your challenges and we can discuss how your current skills in those situations are sabotaging you. We will also see what skills you can build on so that you have more confidence and are more effective in your relationships!Click the button below to learn more.
3.

You have a high relationship IQ

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Your high IQ score suggests that you have had some people in your life who modeled healthy relationship and communication skills and that’s fantastic! And, if you’re like most people, there are some situations or people that are very difficult for you, and it stresses you and/or the other person. Your rating is a guide regarding your competence with these skills; however, if you answered generically and didn’t consider your difficult relationships than it’s not as useful for knowing what to do when you hit a bump or a boulder! . It’s human to have challenges in relationships. The benefit of the quiz isn’t really the rating of high, medium, or low. The value is in looking at those relationships that are important or impactful where you are not navigating things as well as you want so you can find a path forward to have the deeper connections you desire. Even when you are competent, if you have issues with your spouse, boyfriend, best friend, mom or dad, sibling, boss, neighbor and it weighs on you then what matters more is where you struggle. (Sorry for this bad news.) My commitment - whatever score you got - is to help you build healthy skills so you can have authentic communication and create delicious relationships. How can you know what to do if/when you have not been taught how to navigate your relationships, especially in challenging situations? When you learn the skills, it’s so much easier to navigate these difficult relationships. I invite you to schedule a follow-up call with me so you can share with me your challenges and we can discuss how your current skills in those situations are sabotaging you. We will also see what skills you can build on so that you have more confidence and are more effective in your relationships! Click the button below to learn more.

What's your Relationship IQ?

The health of our relationships - with partners, friends, family, work colleagues, neighbors, and ourselves - determines our overall quality of life.How good are YOU at developing and maintaining relationships? Take this quick quiz to find out!

Quiz Questions

Quiz Outcomes