What is your path to sexual wellness?

As featured in Cosmopolitan!Ready to find out what your PLEASURE POTENTIAL really is?Take this short quiz and discover what is possible erotically. Clear your sexual blocks. Permission your body to feel more.Let's go!

Quiz Questions

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Which of the following best describes your sex life over the past 6 months:

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  I am having regular sex and loving it, but wondering how to go further
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  My sex life has dried up
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  Sex would be more fulfilling if I felt better about my body
- D.
  
  I have no time in my schedule for sex
- E.
  
  My interest in sex is gone
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My personal history around sex would best be described as:

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  Once upon a time...
- B.
  
  Tolerable at best
- C.
  
  Juicy
- D.
  
  Boring
- E.
  
  One more thing to do
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In general how I feel about my body is:

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  There is not much exciting to share, my body is my body
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  I don't think about my body much
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  I think my body is fine. Normal. Average.
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  I sometimes or often hate my body
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  My Body is a wonderland, it is always amazing me
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I touch my body, I give myself pleasure

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  True
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  False
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  It has been awhile.
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  Ewww. No.
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  And, it doesn't feel as good as it used to.
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In terms of your health, what is true for you

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  My weight or body image issues interfere with my pleasure
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  My health has not interfered with my pleasure
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  I am sensing hormonal shifts and that interferes with my pleasure
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  Health issues are not an issue in terms of my pleasure, I just am not having much
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  Health issues have interfered or gotten in the way of pleasure
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My thoughts around toys, vibrators and sensation play

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  Yes, that can be good
- B.
  
  Yes, yes, yes
- C.
  
  If it makes things go faster
- D.
  
  Hmmmm, I am curious
- E.
  
  If I knew about them I might or if I knew my partner would be open to them
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Stress is a reality of life, how does your stress impact your pleasure

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  My pleasure reduces my stress
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  Stress has some impact on pleasure, but is not the key reason why I am not having pleasure
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  Stress with work, kids, parents, etc always takes priority over pleasure
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  Stress impacts my body and when that happens I am not in the mood
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  If I am stressed, I don't want sex
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I respond to touch or the attention of other's by:

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  I wish I would like touch or attention, but wonder if it is authentic or don't notice it at all
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  I'm not currently getting much touch or attention, so hard to say
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  It just interferes with what I am trying to get done
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  Love it, bring it
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  I do not like when other's touch me too much, as I worry it will lead to sex
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How do you relate to sex with a partner(s):

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  It can be an intimate way to connect with someone who aligns with me
- B.
  
  The growing resentment in my relationship has interfered with sex
- C.
  
  My partner and I live like roommates: there is deep friendship, but no passion
- D.
  
  I don't initiate or turn down my partner's advances because I'm uncomfortable with my body during sex
- E.
  
  The only good or great sex we have is on vacation
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When I think I want sex, I sometimes give up because:

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  I initiate and my partner says no
- B.
  
  I'm distracted by my body during sex, and find it hard to stay aroused
- C.
  
  Everything feels routine -- same place, same time, yawnnnnn
- D.
  
  If I have to choose between sex and sleep/tv/chill time, I choose chill time
- E.
  
  I am not sure I would even like sex anymore, it feels like it's been so long
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The words that best describe how I feel about pleasure would be:

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  Yes and More!
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  Stop, wait, not ready yet.
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  When I lose ___ pounds, I can enjoy pleasure.
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  Fitting it into my schedule where?
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  If I could rely on their actually being pleasure, then maybe.
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How would you describe your sex drive:

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  moderate to high
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  low to none
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  low I guess? Nothing really excites me like it used to
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  It can vary depending on how I feel about my body
- E.
  
  low? honestly I've been too busy with other things to really think about it
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In terms of being naked, being seen naked I feel

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  It will just lead to something more
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  I hate it
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  When? I never have time
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  I am fine with my body, just doesn't excite me
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  Excited
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I would love to know more about the following: (check any and all that apply)

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  How to feel good about my body
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  Toys and how to play with them
- C.
  
  Fantasy play
- D.
  
  Embodiment practices
- E.
  
  Loving my body
- F.
  
  My Anatomy, My Vulva
- G.
  
  Communication about sex
- H.
  
  Squirting
- I.
  
  Kink
- J.
  
  What might be on the menu in terms of sex and pleasure, I don't know what I don't know

Quiz Outcomes

1.

Sex is YOUR Superpower!

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High five! Woohoo!Sex and YOU are Doing Well!Celebrate your relationship with your body, your sexuality, your pleasure potential! Here's the thing: sex may have come easy for you, all your life. Or, you may have worked hard to get here, various workshops, coaches, pelvic health specialists, therapy...and here you are, reaping the rewards of that journey. No matter how you got here, you are enjoying the sex that you are having and are at a place of loving your body. You have given yourself permission to explore the erotic and to prioritize your pleasure. Not a lot of women have made it this far. What we know at Back to the Body™ is that to stay at this place and go for more and more and more takes support and is more fun with other women doing the same pleasure journey in life!The components of Back to the Body™ you may connect most with are:👇#1. What if there's even MORE?Countless times, women who thought they’ve reached their pleasure ceilings have found that there’s actually MORE! Through Breath, Sound, Movement, and Touch women learn new heights their pleasure can take in our EXPANSION AND MASTERY RETREATS. Beyond beginner level, the expansion and mastery experiences take what you thought was possible for your body and blow it out of the water. And, our retreats have been studied by an independent, unbiased lens...with amazing results noted for women like you. #2. Bodies change and Body Love can Span Your LifetimeThe aging process does not have to pause your pleasure! You can continue to learn about your body through the practice of Sexological Bodywork and learn about your changing body over time. There is so much to discover in our amazing bodies, and there are only more discoveries to be made as you continue the journey!#3. SisterhoodWomen who come to Back to the Body™ Retreats report sisterhood like no other. There are not many circles of friends we can talk about our latest fantasy with or who applaud with us on our last orgasmic bed story. One of the researched outcomes of our retreats is the power of sharing with one another what is often considered taboo or naughty. Permissioning pleasure in a non-competitive community, with women who have your back is huge in order to continue on your erotic journey. Plus that community continues even after the retreat is over!Meet Pamela Madsen, founder and CEO of Back to the Body™: Sensuous Retreats for Women…Hi, I'm Pamela Madsen, CEO and Founder of Back to the Body™ and The Back to the Body Method® we use on retreats. Let’s talk about yearning. Yearning is not emptiness. It's desire in creation. As we walk through life, the most valuable thing we have working in our favor is our yearning. What is your yearning, your desire? I have a feeling we can feed it. Try me. I have carefully vetted a team of highly trained individuals to support you, with over a decade of this work under us. I dare you. How about a little truth telling and an invitation?I don't believe in finish lines. I believe in dreams, visions and the journey. Sometimes a vision arises out of hope, instinct and experience that turns into a heady conviction of something you just don't quite see yet - but know in your bones that it is there. My imagination is like a finger as it travels along the map of what is possible to create in this lifetime. I think; "Yes, here and here ... and here." We are the nerve-endings of the world and the connectors if we're willing to go there. I am, and mostly I don't travel alone. And sometimes, on this incredible journey; I cry buckets. I have fallen down so damn hard that my head spins. My heart has broken into pieces so big that I have needed a team to help put me back together again. I have made incredible mistakes. I have been the camel who had that last straw placed on their back.This is just true. But I also believe in being relentless. So, there is the getting up again. Yeah. You have all read the memes about getting up again, right?You must be thinking; "What the fuck? This is the invitation that Pamela is offering?" Yep. This is it.For me, and maybe for you, it can be about looking ahead of the curve; and wondering what is there. I love being willing to take the unknown road; or a revolutionary stance. Here's the thing; once you understand how stagnant the soft trails are; the roads that are already paved and just keep getting regurgitated in endless memes, you realize how childish and dull you can become circling around in the same old well-worn paths. What if instead; we are willing to take in what is already there and allow it to come through our own bodies and have it all shine brightly, glamorously and courageously into something new. Sure, you will fall down sometimes and get a scrapped knee. You may cry buckets or wall off your heart for a little while. But what if we chose the revolutionary act of saying what is difficult to say and creating something that was never there before? What if we were all willing to bleed just a little bit for what is possible and enjoy the amazing cake along the way? What if there were Zebras, and oceans, and volcanoes to climb?Would you care about the finish line then? Or would you be too busy experiencing the journey and changing the world?Loving you from here,Pamela MadsenStill Not Sure Where to Start? Use These 3 Resources to Get on Track...1. Visit our Retreat Offerings. We have many locations and options to enhance your experience. From a first time retreat, to an Expansion Retreat which allows more time with your practitioner, to our Mastery Retreats with more intimacy and fewer women participating in deeper dives to the erotic.2. Our team is waiting to hop on a Pleasure Potential call. During this call, you will uncover what is possible for your own pleasure planning. My team will listen to you, help guide you to the next best step on your journey and leave you with your own individualized pleasure plan in place.3. Follow us on Instagram and Facebook. We love to give you more juicy tools, more cutting edge writing and concepts and exclusive content to our followers. Join us!P.S. Check out your Inbox, and move us from junk/spam if needed, to get all the yummy tools and secrets to staying in your full erotic potential. We always respect your privacy and give you ample content to make it worth your time to open!
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Pleasure Pauser

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You’ve hit the PAUSE button on your PLEASURE.This can happen for a variety of reasons and we confuse it with low libido, lack of interest, or maybe it’s just not the right time to explore sex. Stress takes over your life, relationship challenges overrun the erotic, hormones shift and change and medical issues interfere. There are many reasons we hit the pleasure pause. Women who decide to have children have been known to hit the pause button for “someday pleasure” for two decades. Here is the thing: your pleasure is important. And, just you taking this quiz shows me you know that too. It's not my job to convince you about that, it is merely my job to show you the way out of your pause and back into your yes and more. At Back to the Body™ we show you how to hit play again, and how to give yourself that gift of play far past the end of a retreat!Back to the Body™ can support you pressing start on PLEASURE by:👇#1. You hold the key to your yesThere is no magic pill or 12 step program for more. There is no prince or princess on a white horse rescue, there is no Rapunzel's braid to climb. The key is right there inside you to unlock what is yours. Pleasure is not earned by being good. Pleasure is not left for someday when all the galaxies of your universe align just right. It is for now.#2. Traditional ways may not work for you.The doctor, the pill, the therapist, the acupuncturist, the chiropractor, the herbalist...you name it. You may have even tried them all. And, we love them all as well, we do. And, there is something about focusing on THE BODY to heal the body. It is where the answers may lie, it is where the healing can begin. Through Sexological Bodywork sessions and using The Back to the Body Method®, you will transform the various barriers to your own pleasure potential. We have seen it happen time and time again over the past decade we have held retreats.#3. Pleasure heals.You hold an inner pharmacy, did you know that? It is inside of you under the lock of denied pleasure. Once you begin to arouse your desire, you begin to unlock that hidden pharmacy. You’ll tap into a newfound energy, your relationships and communication will improve, you’ll feel better about your body. A recent study on our program by an independent and unbiased lens reported that our container provided a safe space with boundaries for women to release shame, heal from trauma and hurts, and become awaked to one's sexual desires. Meet Pamela Madsen, Founder and CEO of Back to the Body™: Sensuous Retreats for Women...Hi! I'm Pamela Madsen, Founder and CEO of Back to the Body™: Sensuous Retreats for Women and The Back to the Body Method®. Let’s talk about the magical art of the pivot.In life, we can come up against obstacles, and either bulldoze our way through them, stop completely, or pivot.The pivot occurs when a spell is not working, disappointments in love, changes in our relationship status, illness, or even when our heart suddenly isn’t into the magical work we are doing, life is overwhelming, we are not sure what to do next.It’s the moment when you come up against a wall of some sort in your plans, some resistance, and you stop, back up, and pause. You either give up in that moment, or you move in another direction. There is much magic in that moment of the pivot. In the liminal space, before you make a plan, the next steps hang in the balance. Sure, you can ignore that pause and march on through the next steps or moments, but it is a time to take a breath, ground, center, and shield.For me, it is also a reminder to also place my hand on my heart, and remember what is most important to me in my life. To do this yourself, choose three or six things that are important to you, and use that list to get yourself back to center. It can even become a mantra of sorts. When you get to that moment of the pivot, place your hand on your heart, and slowly go through that list, taking a deep breath after you list each one. All else will fall away. If not, go over the list mentally until you feel a sense of calm and centeredness.The pivot can be a good thing, being led in another direction. It is important to remember to listen to your inner voice, the one you recognize, that is not the messages you play in your head. Find the way to distinguish between the two. It’s the whisper that tells you to try a different way or do something else. Many times I have asked my guides, “Why would I do this?!”, but with a gulp, follow their directions. It takes a bit of faith, and a knowledge that they have steered me to where I am thus far. It is a leap, and can be scary. Yet amazing things can come out of that pivot. Many of the events that have happened in these past few years have come from a magical pivot.Try it yourself, and let me know how your pivots turn out. Of if you are feeling stuck, walk yourself through the steps I outlined above, and see if that makes a difference. It takes a bit of practice, so don’t get frustrated if things don’t happen right away! Effectively dealing with pivots can be a fulfilling part of your magical practice, may it be ever so.Pivoting as we speak and loving you from here,Pamela MadsenStill Not Sure Where to Start? Use These 3 Resources to Get on Track...1. Visit our Retreat Offerings. We have many locations and options to enhance your experience. From a first time retreat, to an Expansion Retreat which allows more time with your practitioner, to our Mastery Retreats with more intimacy participating in deeper dives to the erotic.2. Our team is waiting to hop on a Pleasure Potential call. During this call, you will uncover what is possible for your own pleasure planning. My team will listen to you, help guide you to the next best step on your journey and leave you with your own individualized pleasure plan in place.3. Follow us on Instagram and Facebook. We love to give you more juicy tools, more cutting edge writing and concepts and exclusive content to our followers. Join us!P.S. Check out your Inbox, and move us from junk/spam, if needed to get all the yummy tools and secrets to staying in your full erotic potential. We always respect your privacy and give you ample content to make it worth your time to open!
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Broken Mirrors

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Distortions, Old Stories, Self-Doubts...Your Body Image is Getting in Your Way When you see yourself through your old stories and doubts, you deny your body of pleasure. In the hands of a lover, you are in your head worrying about your thighs, your belly, your smells and your taste. It is crucial for pleasure to live and expand in a body that loves itself well. And I am not talking about some bullshit self-love, but the kind that grabs onto your curves and takes itself for a ride. This kind of self-love is not about telling yourself lies about your weight, your looks, your curves. Self-love is about waking up everyday to the truth of your body and telling her a new story. Self-love is about trusting your body to find pleasure and joy at its current weight and size. This is why Back to the Body™ was created in the first place, to fully engage our bodies, all of it. Learning to resource your body is as important as learning how to resource your conscious thought. Paying attention to how our body feels as opposed to how the conscious mind is processing is key to having the experience of embodiment. Embodiment is a process and a practice.How Back to the Body™ can support you in Loving Your Body and Repairing Your Broken Mirrors:👇#1. Your body does not have to EARN touchThis Body does not have to wait for some kind of rapid transformation before it receives pleasure. This body with curves, dimples and folds does not have to apologize or make its desires small. This body is deserving of love, attention and touch. Right now. Exactly as it is. The same with YOUR body.#2. To find your body, bring your bodyWhen we pay attention to how our bodies feel during experiences such as pleasure, there can be a dramatic transformation of how we feel in our skin and the world around us. Paying attention to movement, touch, sensation, breath, and even what might be classified as pain, trauma experiences, or anxiety can help us melt away unease and tension. In embodiment, paying attention to how we receive or give touch, movement, breath and voice can all be tools to use to get back to our body and feel more. Learning to resource your body is as important as learning how to resource your conscious thought. Paying attention to how our body feels as opposed to how the conscious mind is processing is key to having the experience of embodiment. Embodiment is a process and a practice.#3. If you could only feel your body through the pleasure of a lover's handHow can I support you to love your roundness, rolls and curves? Your bony corners and sharp edges? One day you might try touching your body or better yet the body of another with only the sense of pleasure of hands digging into warm flesh. Imagine the pleasure that your lover might feel by touching your warm inviting roundness. Or your hard curves? The pleasure of hands, mouth and teeth enjoying flesh? The bite. Once you can feel your own body through the pleasure of someone else's pleasure in touching you just the way you are ---- you will never see your body the same way again. Feel your body through the touch of a lover.A recent study of our unique container revealed that the safety we provide through boundaries, agreements and our professionalism create space for you to increase your sexual self-image, increase your body image and increase your feelings about your genitals...now that you have scientific proof...what are you waiting for?Meet Pamela Madsen, Founder and CEO of Back to the Body™: Sensuous Retreats for Women..Hi! I'm Pamela Madsen, Founder and CEO of Back to the Body™: Sensuous Retreats for Women and The Back to the Body Method®. And I was born naked. You were born naked.As a young child, before pleasure and self exploration was shamed out of you, you found delight, curiosity and pleasure in your body. You weren't born thinking you were fat or that you had a funny belly or a big ass or any of the stories that might be filling your head. You were born beautiful and delighted in your body. You weren't born being frightened of your sensuous nature; you were taught to close it down because the adults, community, and religious structures in your life controlled you and fed you messages that taught you to fear your body and to have sexual shame.You weren't born being frightened of sexual orientation, or even understanding gender roles. You were not born dieting. Or restricting pleasure. You were carefully taught that in order to be accepted and loved and to have a good life you needed to cloak your body, change your body, control you desires, hide your core erotic being. You weren't taught consent, you were taught to hide. You may have been trusted in every area of your life by the adults around you except your sexuality. You learned that this part of your body needed to be controlled and carefully monitored.We are all in recovery.Blaming our parents, the adults around us as we were growing up, our religious institutions, and government leaders as they are now is useless. It does very little to support change. The people around us were raised in the same culture you were raised in. What they taught you, they taught you out of fear, and out of doing the “right” thing.The work of recovery is yours. It's reaching back for what you were born with - your own authentic erotic being. This is what I mean by "erotic mastery". It's a reclaiming of who you were at birth before the culture got a hold of you and your erotic being. If you decide that you want to reclaim what was taken from you as your birthright - you can. It takes courage and practice. It involves letting go of historical myths that you may be holding; as well as learning how to walk again.I believe that this is how we will change and heal the world. By changing the adults, and helping them recover their light - so that they will raise children who will teach their children a different way of being with our core life energy that runs us-- in love, self acceptance, creativity, and pleasure --or haunts us with self doubt, shame, self hatred, and the judgment of others.When you choose to recover your sexuality and body confidence, you will help heal the world.Loving you from here,Pamela MadsenStill Not Sure Where to Start? Use These 3 Resources to Get on Track...1. Visit our Retreat Offerings. We have many locations and options to enhance your experience. From a first time retreat, to an Expansion Retreat which allows more time with your practitioner, to our Mastery Retreats with more intimacy participating in deeper dives to the erotic.2. Our team is waiting to hop on a Pleasure Potential call. During this call, you will uncover what is possible for your own pleasure planning. My team will listen to you, help guide you to the next best step on your journey and leave you with your own individualized pleasure plan in place.3. Follow us on Instagram and Facebook. We love to give you more juicy tools, more cutting edge writing and concepts and exclusive content to our followers. Join us!P.S. Check out your Inbox, and move us from junk/spam if needed, to get all the yummy tools and secrets to staying in your full erotic potential. We always respect your privacy and give you ample content to make it worth your time to open!
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Low Prioritizer

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Everything and Everyone has Become More Important...Everything Else Grabs Your Attention, But YOUWhether this happened by intention or just slowly crept into your life while you were busy, your sex has been put on a shelf. It has been relegated to the back closet storage. It has been placed at the bottom of your to do list. I'm sorry for that.Many women have moved on from sex due to disappointment, relationship stress, hating their bodies, and more reasons can make the list. They may have been rejected in how they want to express themselves sexually, or buying into messages that good girls don’t have sex. Roles and responsibilities get in the way. Many women become terrified of what is possible or that if they try what other women are doing it won’t work for them. Too tired, too stressed, too busy, too overwhelmed are common problems when it comes to making sex a priority. And, we are led to believe sex is not for women, like it is for men. What could be possible for you when you prioritize pleasure again? Let’s find out!3 ways Back to the Body™ can help you Prioritize your Pleasure again:👇#1 Resentment is the Killer of SexA strong woman loves, forgives, walks away, lets go, tries again, and perseveres… no matter what life throws at her. But this strength doesn’t mean putting yourself on the back burner time and time again. A strong woman also knows what she needs and isn’t afraid to go get it. And this takes support in finding your voice and what you want. Back to the Body™ has the menu list of options, many women do not know what is possible until options are provided. The way to stop resentment building and killing your desire is to take your desires seriously and prioritize YOUR needs. A recent study of our container by an independent and unbiased lens showed that women who attend our retreats show a significant increase in their sexual assertiveness...in other words, they get what they want and desire. #2 Don’t Compare Yourself to Other WomenIf you consciously or unconsciously resent women who feel sexually free, you are holding on with both fists to your own self-limiting beliefs in participating and expanding your own sexuality. Holding onto judgmental beliefs about sexually open women who walk in their turn-on does not serve you. It does not make you more holy or noble or pure. It does not support your life or anyone else's life. What it does is continue to put yourself on a restriction diet and put walls between what is possible for you to have in your own relationship with your own body. By putting down your judgment that you may think is keeping you safe, you begin to embrace what is possible for you to thrive. What if in this moment you decide to welcome the abundance of your own erotic possibility instead of judging your sisters in their pleasure? What if it was possible to think "If she can do it, I can do it". There’s enough for every woman after all. #3 Your Starvation is Not a Badge of HonorWomen oppress our desires with stuff. We allow ourselves to starve our souls until we can't take it anymore. We are frightened of our own life force energy. We close our hearts and bodies to taking in what sustains us. We live a constant mantra of "That should be enough." We allow ourselves to be shamed for wanting or needing more.Somehow we believe that living a life of less or deprivation will bring us what we need. We don't want to rock the boat. We try to make do with less. And then we let loose. We explode. And not always at the best time. We binge. We make a mess. We leave ourselves. What if instead we welcomed self-love and our hunger?How can you convince yourself of your own self worth? When you do, your love for your own body will be unqualified. Women who come to our retreats report becoming awakened to their desire. We are naturally greedy creatures. We are hungry. Perhaps insatiable. But our appetites do not need to be controlled. What is wrong about being hungry for more love, for more sex, for better lives for our children and families, for financial stability, for space to play? What is wrong with wanting to honor ourselves and feel honored by those around us?Meet Pamela Madsen, Founder and CEO of Back to the Body™: Sensuous Retreats for Women..Hi! I'm Pamela Madsen, Founder and CEO of Back to the Body™: Sensuous Retreats for Women and The Back to the Body Method®.What is sex?Have you ever thought about it? I mean, beyond “10 Sex Tips to Change Your Life”.Is it really just about squirting orgasms, fucking machines, and beautiful looking people rolled in oil having some kind of scene with fire shooting out of their ears? Maybe.Or can the hottest sex be something so extraordinarily subtle that it isn't even recognized as sex by people who have never been shown the shades of possibility in our sexual spectrum?Sometimes, like all things we need to be taught to listen enough to really feel and open to the sexual spectrum.I am talking about staying with what is possible in our sexuality. Entertain that we sometimes even run away from the sexuality in our lives because it is uncomfortable. Or too intimate.Where are all the words to describe not the acts of sex but the feelings that come with each type of erotic interaction?I invite you to listen and see with a different eye to sexuality and take in what is there for you.You might be having way more sex than you know.Warm Sex. God Sex. Agape Sex. Animal Sex. Languid Sex. Yearning Sex. Fingers on skin. Slow. Fingernails tracing. Breath on a neck. Rituals. Undressing your lover one button at a time. Sex can be a word placed perfectly somewhere in your life or your lover's life. Sex can be listening. Eyes holding eyes. Sex can be the act of coffee placed in the hands of your lover as they open their eyes. Sex.Where is it in your life outside of genitals touching genitals? Look. Listen. Stay with it. All the feelings that may feel comfortable and uncomfortable if we actually recognize them as being a part of erotic experience as humans.Feel into the moments that send just a little quiver up your spine. Sigh.Loving you from here,Pamela MadsenStill Not Sure Where to Start? Use These 3 Resources to Get on Track...1. Visit our Retreat Offerings. We have many locations and options to enhance your experience. From a first time retreat, to an Expansion Retreat which allows more time with your practitioner, to our Mastery Retreats with more intimacy participating in deeper dives to the erotic.2. Our team is waiting to hop on a Pleasure Potential call. During this call, you will uncover what is possible for your own pleasure planning. My team will listen to you, help guide you to the next best step on your journey and leave you with your own individualized pleasure plan in place.3. Follow us on Instagram and Facebook. We love to give you more juicy tools, more cutting edge writing and concepts and exclusive content to our followers. Join us!P.S. Check out your Inbox, and move us from junk/spam if needed, to get all the yummy tools and secrets to staying in your full erotic potential. We always respect your privacy and give you ample content to make it worth your time to open!
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Sleeping Beauty

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Boredom = Low DesireYou Don't Know what You Don't KnowTHE EPIDEMIC OF THE BORED VULVADo you have a bored vulva? Can’t feel your desire or turn on? Rather watch Netflix than do anything sexual? Frankly, you may be really, really, really bored.My bet is that you are smart, educated and have read a lot of books, seen too many talk shows, and have experimented with a lot of stuff already. You may have all the buzzwords down and you have already learned how to "quiet the mind", eat raw, juice, support your adrenals, balance your hormones, protect you gut, walk, meditate, detox, do the master cleanse, use food as medicine, find God, and you may have even looked at your own vagina in a mirror many times. You might even have checked out a "Tantra'' book or two from the library, or attended a yoga retreat. You may have checked out coffee and wheatgrass enemas, plasma rich platelets, stem cells, manifestation, the power of positive thinking and the power of now..For the first time in your very busy and achieving life, you may actually want to let go of responsibilities and get exploring.You are not alone.Divorce statistics show women that in "mid life" are leaving their marriages, starting new ones, choosing to be single by choice, ditching it all or even starting new careers. Women nearing mid life are being the initiators of change in their own lives. And not all of us are ready to do some kind of replay of "Eat, Pray, Love" in a pizzeria in Italy or an ashram in India.But, we do want more and we are ready.Back to the Body™ can support shaking up your boredom and putting the joy and excitement back into sex. 3 ways Back to the Body™ can help you spark interest in your Pleasure again:👇#1 Exploring Your Desires Won’t Explode Your WorldWe like to pretend that we don't really need more. Or have no desire for something different. I think we also have a deep-seated fear of what we will do when the shit hits the fan. Because if you go out and explore your own big fat desires, no doubt that somewhere along the way you will stub your toe on your own heart, and things will get uncomfortable. In fact, things might even blow up in your face.There is no cultivation of growth and transformation when your habit is to just try to seek the way of the smooth lake with no ripples. Transformation and change imply a willingness to be alive rather than trying to seek the path of no wind.#2 Embrace Your Desires and Feed ThemWe are naturally greedy creatures. We are hungry. Perhaps insatiable. But our appetites do not need to be controlled. What is wrong about being hungry for more love, for more sex, for better lives for our children and families, for financial stability, for space to play? What is wrong with wanting to honor ourselves and feel honored by those around us?Can you embrace your own desire?Female desire is creation energy. It's time to feed it.#3 Start With Your Relationship with Your VulvaStart with re-exploring your own body and your own sexuality before you decide to throw everything up in the air. The boredom you are feeling may just be with your own abandoned, bored vagina. Start there, with your own relationship to your own sexuality and then see what you really want in your life. You might be really surprised. And you can do that without ditching everything in your life. I did. And at Back to the Body™, I show other women how to do it too.A recent study by an independent and unbiased lens of our retreats specifically, revealed some of the following results:Not feeling judged enables greater pleasureWomen attending our retreats become awakened to their sexual desiresWomen who attend report owning their sexual selvesAnd, women report a significant increase in their sexual satisfaction post-retreat!Meet Pamela Madsen, Founder and CEO of Back to the Body™: Sensuous Retreats for Women..Hi! I'm Pamela Madsen, Founder and CEO of Back to the Body™: Sensuous Retreats for Women and The Back to the Body Method®.The female prone body, laying passively on her back is the standard way we approach female sexuality. It's from this place of butterflied legs that we ask women to find their pleasure. For whose comfort and pleasure is that? Does it make her partner feel more in control? Is it scary for the world to see a woman dance in the erotic?Does anyone realize that this is mostly what is being offered to women in the world of sexual enlightenment? It's that same old model of female containment and passive receiving. It’s goal orientated and it's often not the goal of the female partner. Sometimes, we even time her (don't even get me started). It's the model of women being "done to". STILL. I don't care how you package it up. It's passive. It's contained. It's controlled. We can offer limited pleasure this way and less connection which can feel 'safer'.I will preach that this is not the elixir that women are seeking when they seek sexual enlightenment, support, pleasure and transformation. But it's what they are often served. I'm so over it. Not when I'm around. The Back to the Body™ Team and "The Back to the Body™ Method" are fighting to upend this model.Here’s to table dancing, here’s to the female body in movement, here’s to loud bright fierce pleasure.Loving you from here,Pamela MadsenStill Not Sure Where to Start? Use These 3 Resources to Get on Track...1. Visit our Retreat Offerings. We have many locations and options to enhance your experience. From a first time retreat, to an Expansion Retreat which allows more time with your practitioner, to our Mastery Retreats with more intimacy participating in deeper dives to the erotic.2. Our team is waiting to hop on a Pleasure Potential call. During this call, you will uncover what is possible for your own pleasure planning. My team will listen to you, help guide you to the next best step on your journey and leave you with your own individualized pleasure plan in place.3. Follow us on Instagram and Facebook. 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