ARE YOU A PEOPLE PLEASER?

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Quiz Questions

1.
You have plans today, but a friend calls to ask you for a last minute favour. How do you respond?

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- A.
  
  You say yes. You want to be supportive, so you cancel your plans and rush out to help them
- B.
  
  You say yes even though you're busy, You'll just re-arrange your week to fit everything in
- C.
  
  You say you can't, but you feel guilty and promise to help them next time
- D.
  
  You decline and tell them you are unavailable. You know you need to take time for yourself as planned
2.
Someone in your friend group makes a dismissive remark to you. This isn’t the first time they’ve done it. How does this make you feel?

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- A.
  
  It hurts, but you let it go. You don't want to make them feel awkward
- B.
  
  You keep quiet and resolve to spend less time with them in the future
- C.
  
  You laugh it off and pretend it hasn’t fazed you. If you’re being honest, deep down it hurt.
- D.
  
  You recognize that is was hurtful and ask them not to speak to you like that.
3.
You just helped a friend out. Your friend didn’t say thank you for the time and effort you spent. How does this make you feel?

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- A.
  
  You feel taken for granted, but you don’t want to make them feel bad, so you let it go.
- B.
  
  You’re upset and want to be acknowledged. You like feeling needed and valued.
- C.
  
  You’re a little annoyed, but you shake it off fairly quickly
- D.
  
  You let them know that while you were happy to help, you missed their appreciation of your effort.
4.
Your manager calls asking if you can pick up a last-minute piece of work that has come up. It’s 4pm on a Friday, and you have other things to finish up. What do you do?
- A.
  
  You immediately say yes. This is an opportunity to impress your boss
- B.
  
  You say yes. You'll move your schedule around and make it work.
- C.
  
  You’re not too happy, but say yes - You don’t want to let your team down.
- D.
  
  You say it's not going to be possible, but you’ll be happy to work on it on Monday.
5.
A friend asks to re-arrange some plans to a day that doesn’t really work for you so well. How do you respond?
- A.
  
  You agree to the new time they’ve asked for, you don’t want to risk them cancelling
- B.
  
  You say yes. You want to be supportive, even it's stressful to move your plans
- C.
  
  You say yes and cancel your plans. It’s the right thing to do to keep them happy.
- D.
  
  You respond with a simple ‘no, unfortunately, that time doesn’t work for me’ and offer another couple of options instead.
6.
Imagine a work scenario. You are wrapping up a big project that is due today. There are a number of things that have been left undone. What do you do?

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- A.
  
  You feel it’s your duty to pick up the slack, you work late to ensure that nothing is left undone.
- B.
  
  You’re annoyed that they haven’t done their share of the work but you just get on with it and do it for them anyway.
- C.
  
  You don’t want your colleagues to get into trouble so you get everything done to help them out.
- D.
  
  You explain that while you’re happy to support, you’re not going to pick up everything and agree on a plan of action.
7.
At a gathering, a hot topic comes up for discussion that you feel strongly about. It becomes clear that everyone else feels differently to you. What do you do?

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- A.
  
  You stay quiet about your views. You want to keep the peace, and avoid disagreements even though it feels uncomfortable.
- B.
  
  You listen and agree with everyone else’s point of view. It feels important to make sure everyone else feels comfortable.
- C.
  
  You enthusiastically smile and validate everyone's thoughts and opinions and points of view.
- D.
  
  When it’s your turn to speak, you calmly and confidently express your differing views.

Quiz Outcomes

1.

All Good Girl 🙌🏽

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Your results are in… and you are ‘All Good Girl’! You’re the one person that everyone wants to have around them when conflict happens, because you’re known for knowing exactly what to do to keep the peace and are easy to get along with (probably because you rarely express your own needs!). You might always say that everything is fine with you, or everything is 'all good'Because that’s all the you really want, for everyone to get along. You’ll often find yourself literally smoothing over any disagreements that may arise at work, in relationships or between your friends or within your family. You feel at your best when everyone else around you is happy; it’s when you feel safest and most secure within your relationships and in your environment. You work hard to keep the peace just to make sure everyone around you is getting along. In order to fit in more, you may be used to playing small and dimming your light just to maintain the status quo. As a result, you could feel a little unfulfilled with your life and circumstances. You might also have lost sight of the things that truly make you feel happy, the things that most light you up. What are they for you?Perhaps you’ve noticed a tendency to stay stuck in certain situations which feel uncomfortable or no longer feel right, just because you don’t want to rock the boat or upset anyone. Ready to discover more? Your full report is on its way to you now via email
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The Manager 🙌🏽

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Can I please speak to the Manager?As The Manager you make the perfect wing woman. You’re the person that everyone wants to have standing in their corner. You support and hold others up. The Manager has a hand in everything in an attempt to make everything run smoothly. You try to anticipate problems before they arise, in order to prevent more work later, except you have more work now!You see this supportive function as a deeply bonding exercise, standing in the shadow of whoever is the centre of attention, making sure that they have everything they need to maintain their place under the spotlight. You work hard, tirelessly even, to ensure that you prove yourself indispensable and essential. Your innermost motivation is a deep desire to be needed. Whilst the supporting role is an important one, your over-commitment to the cause often means that you dim your own light so that others can shine. You’ll very often put your own needs last and bend over backwards to ensure that everyone else has what they need. Of course, you may not feel you receive the recognition you deserve, which can lead to resentment, bitterness and feeling unappreciated. Whilst you may not want the spotlight, you do deserve to be celebrated for your own unique gifts and talents of which, there are likely to be many! It’s time that you take a step back and acknowledge yourself for your true brilliance. LOOKING FOR FURTHER SUPPORT?Come and join me over in my private Facebook community. We have a wonderful supportive group, and I’d love to see you there!
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The Original (‘OG’) People Pleaser! 🙌🏽

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You are known for being that person who is so incredibly nice, and is constantly tripping over themselves to keep everyone else happy. You tirelessly put yourself second for others. You’re organised to a fault, keeping track of every little detail just so that you don’t forget or let anyone down.Do any of the following sound familiar? You’re the person who spends hours inputting everyone’s birthdays into your phone so that you can send them a birthday card. You are the person most likely to jump at a last-minute request to help someone – and you find it incredibly difficult to say ‘no’! You’re also the one constantly sending messages in group chats to answer everyone's questions and acknowledge everyone. You might spend a while, hours even, going over a conversation you’ve had with someone and worrying about everything you might have said ‘wrong’. You are constantly vigilant to ensure that everyone else is happy. In fact, you convince yourself that when everyone else is happy, that then, and only then, will you be happy, and yet, it rarely turns out that way. While some of the traits associated with the OG might need to be addressed and tweaked, it’s really important to note that caring about others is no bad thing! It can be a beautiful way to live your life and some of these traits are also incredibly endearing and make you, you! Just observe where you are putting others happiness ahead of yours.LOOKING FOR FURTHER SUPPORT?Come and join me over in my private Facebook community. We have a wonderful supportive group, and I’d love to see you there!
4.

Recovering People Pleaser! 🙌🏽

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Your results are in… and you are ‘The Recovering People-Pleaser’! As a ‘Recovering People-Pleaser’, you are someone who has begun to do the work around healing your behaviours with people-pleasing, in some shape or form. It’s likely that you’ve had previous struggles with people-pleasing at some stage in your life. Where once you might have made compromises around your time, energy and happiness to please others, as a Recovering People-Pleaser you’ve learnt (from hard-won experience) that this simply doesn’t serve you. It’s likely that you know yourself pretty well by now; you know what you want, you know what you need, you know what makes you feel good, and on the flipside of that, what doesn’t. This is a really great place to be. What this means is that you are now able to navigate through situations that you may once have found challenging, with ease. You are confident enough now to be assertive, and say exactly what you mean, more often. You’re able to say ‘no’, when no is exactly what you mean and definitely what you want to say. Of course, nobody is perfect and no-one gets it right all of the time. There inevitably will be situations or scenarios, where you find yourself slipping back into old patterns and behaviours and that’s also okay. It’s important that you acknowledge all of the incredible work that you’ve done already and to ensure you keep taking steps forward to further build your confidence and assertiveness. Ready to discover more? Your full report is on its way to you now via email - and you can also download it by clicking the button below.

ARE YOU A PEOPLE PLEASER?

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Quiz Questions

Quiz Outcomes