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The Distanced Relationship
1. TAKE THE QUIZ - to identify any Toxic Traits2. DOWNLOAD THE WORKSHEET - to define any Toxic Behaviors3. WATCH THE VIDEOS - to learn more about healthy relationships4. DEEPEN YOUR DATE NIGHT - with our free bonus activityDISTANCEDEvery relationship has periods of feeling more connected and having more emotional distance. Imagine there is a spectrum of disconnection, with toxicity at one end and general dysfunction at the other. When emotional distance is a result of a person truly lacking the skills to be vulnerable or become emotionally connected, dysfunction can occur. At the other end of the spectrum, using emotional distancing as punishment or withholding is more toxic. Communication Disconnection around communication can be a source of toxicity and frustration. When a person is not communicating directly about their needs or wants in a relationship, it is hard to find satisfaction in it. On the reverse side of this, when someone is not clearly communicating their intent or commitment to the relationship, a form of manipulation occurs and the partner might feel that they are being strung along. Emotional LiteracyIn my experience working as a therapist, most people have a significant amount of difficulty accessing, acknowledging, and verbalizing their feelings, which leads to some amount of dysfunction or miscommunication in most couples and relationships. When feelings are deliberately withheld, and not just the loving warm ones, we begin to move into a more toxic zone of emotional withholding. Sharing your feelings and listening to your partner’s feelings is a healthy skill to develop in or out of therapy. General CommunicationIf general communication is lacking in your relationship a great deal of dysfunction can occur. A partnership is built around the idea that there’s a team of two people working together towards a common goal, ideally, this is a 50 - 50 partnership in which there’s trust to confide in each other. When secrets are kept or withheld, toxicity can build – open communication, even around difficult topics is essential to have a healthy relationship. FREE BONUS ACTIVITYDEEPEN YOUR DATE NIGHTOur free bonus activity is a series of ten questions designed to help you feel closer and improve connection.