What's your People Pleasing style?

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Quiz Questions

1.
You're working on a group project. You hear through the grapevine that one colleague in the group is overwhelmed with the work and feels you're not pulling your weight. Which response sounds the most like you?
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- A.
  Tell everyone you're "on it" and start working late to make your part of the project extra perfect.
- B.
  Take a different route to the restroom to avoid seeing this colleague and pray she never confronts you.
- C.
  Start chatting with the colleague and invite her to happy hour. It'll be easier if you two are besties.
- D.
  Tell the overwhelmed colleague you're happy to take on her part of the project so she can make time for self- care.
2.
A friend calls to vent about a mutual friend who's "driving her nuts". She says she can no longer be around her. Which response sounds the most like you ?
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- A.
  You tell her you agree, even though you really like the person, then you just shut up and listen. You do NOT want to get in the middle of this.
- B.
  You list some reasons why that person is getting on your nerves as well. You want to give the friend who called the validation she needs.
- C.
  You tell her you're going to call the other friend and help get this worked out. You assure her you can fix this and make it better.
- D.
  You instantly wonder if she's also annoyed by you, so you start digging around for whether she's also mad at you.
3.
You board a plane with rows of three seats on each side. You approach your row and see a husband & wife arguing over the window seat. You look at your ticket and realize that you're assigned to that window seat. Which response sounds the most like you?
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- A.
  You tell them you're assigned to the window seat, then make jokes about how you're going to have to separate them by sitting between them if they keep arguing. You chat with the wife the whole flight to ease the tension.
- B.
  This is awkward. So, you sit down quietly the MIDDLE seat without making eye contact and put on your headphones.
- C.
  (Even though you hate the back of the plane), you tell the couple that you're moving back there so they can spread out over the three seats.
- D.
  You tell them you're assigned to the window but are more than happy to sit in the middle or the isle seat so one of them can have the window.
4.
Your best friend is having a party and you promised you'd be there. A few days before, your boss tells you you're receiving an award at a work event scheduled the same night as the party. Which response sounds the most like you?
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- A.
  You can do it all. You hit her party first, mingle with everyone, then rush over to your work event just in time to accept your award. Then, you race back for the late night portion of your friend's party. You stay to help clean up and are the last to leave.
- B.
  You tell your friend you must leave her party early to make your work event, but you make it up to her by hiring an awesome DJ to show up and make the party extra special for her.
- C.
  You know your friend really needs. So, you tell your boss that while you're grateful for the award, you're not able to be there to accept it.
- D.
  You can't bear the thought of disappointing your friend, so you go to her party first, avoid talking to her, then sneak out early to make it to your work event. The next day, you apologize to her for leaving early and for avoiding her.
5.
A stranger speaks rudely to you in the grocery store parking lot because you're taking up two spaces, making it difficult for them to get their groceries in their backseat. Which response sounds the most like you?
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- A.
  You feel terrible about this. You engage them in conversation, letting them know you didn't realize what you had done and are happy to move your car right away.
- B.
  Ugh! This person probably thinks you're an entitled jerk. You apologize and explain that you must have been distracted. You make small talk to make sure they know you're a good person.
- C.
  You can fix this! You apologize, move your car, help them load their groceries, then put their empty cart back for them.
- D.
  You DO NOT want to deal with this person. You quickly hop in your car and move as far away from this person as possible.
6.
Your friend calls crying. Her boyfriend broke up with her. You're also friends with her boyfriend and you've always thought the relationship was unhealthy. She says she wants to go over to his house and beg him to stay. Which response sounds the most like you?
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- A.
  You rush to her house with wine and food. You clean her house for her and run her errands so she can feel less stressed.
- B.
  You assess what she needs from you, then cancel your plans for the day so you can comfort her and drive her to his house if that's what she needs.
- C.
  You want her to know you support her. You tell funny stories to get her laughing, then call more friends to come over. This calls for a cheer up party!
- D.
  You don't want to say something that'll upset her. You tell her you support her no matter what, then try to figure out a way to politely get off the phone.
7.
Two of your family members are arguing. In your opinion, one is clearly in the wrong. They're both confiding in you about it. Which response sounds the most like you?
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- A.
  You know what to do. You meet with each of them, provide a listening ear, give sound advice and make a plan for helping them move forward.
- B.
  You HATE it when they fight. You validate each person but mostly keep your opinion to yourself. You do NOT want to escalate this.
- C.
  You'll do whatever it takes to defend the one who has been wronged. You advocate for her and tell the other person what she did wrong. You won't let her stand alone.
- D.
  You don't want anyone to be mad at you or think you're siding with the other. You schedule individual FUN outings with each of them to get their minds off this.
8.
For a week, you've been helping a friend move into a new home. You're exhausted and looking forward to a day to relax with your spouse. Your friend calls and asks for ONE MORE DAY of help. Which response sounds the most like you?
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- A.
  You're happy she feels she can ask you for help. You hire professional movers and take her out to dinner instead of packing.
- B.
  You can't let her down and don't want her to think you're a bad friend. You put a smile on your face and power through one more day of packing with her.
- C.
  You tell her you're sorry but can't come over because you think you're getting sick (which is not true but feels necessary to say).
- D.
  She needs you. Without hesitation, you tell your spouse you have to help your friend one more day.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Your People Pleasing style Is… The Peacemaker
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You're a PEACEMAKER who values connection with others. You enjoy being friendly and maintaining a sense of positive association with people. You're a kind person so you expect others will be kind back, and most of the time they are. However, when someone is unkind or accusatory, it's highly upsetting to you.You're uncomfortable with conflict and confrontation, so you either avoid it or take the blame in order to "keep the peace". This pattern often leads you to feel that others are taking advantage of you. Through deeper understanding of your unique People Pleasing behavior, you can learn new skills, transform your relationships and ultimately your life. ✨ It's time for the Transformation ✨Hi! I'm Anne C. Frazier, licensed mental health therapist and people pleasing recovery coach.I believe you're worthy of authentic & balanced relationships that don't require you to people please in order to get your needs met. Click below for supportive resources to kickstart your journey! Best Wishes to You and Take Care, Anne
2.
Your People Pleasing style is… The Accommodator
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You're an ACCOMMODATOR who enjoys meeting the needs of others. As an Accommodator, you love to problem-solve! You're willing to jump in and fill any role people need. You're willing to sacrifice your own comfort for the comfort of others. While this is rewarding at times, all this accommodating ultimately leaves you feeling physically & emotionally exhausted. You often wonder if anyone is there for you, or even sees the real you. Through deeper understanding of your unique People Pleasing behavior, you can learn new skills, transform your relationships and ultimately your life. ✨ It's time for the Transformation ✨Hi! I'm Anne C. Frazier, licensed mental health therapist and people pleasing recovery coach.I believe you're worthy of authentic & balanced relationships that don't require you to people please in order to get your needs met. Click below for supportive resources to kickstart your journey! Best Wishes to You and Take Care, Anne
3.
Your People Pleasing Style is... The Hero
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You're a HERO who enjoys rescuing others. You love to help and you're really good at it! You often go way above and beyond for the people you love. Your love is BIG and generous! There are times where people are even overwhelmed by your level of sacrifice. But, lately all this helping is taking its toll. You're starting to feel undervalued and you're wondering if it's all worth it. Through deeper understanding of your unique People Pleasing behavior, you can learn new skills, transform your relationships and ultimately your life. ✨ It's time for the Transformation ✨Hi! I'm Anne C. Frazier, licensed mental health therapist and people pleasing recovery coach.I believe you're worthy of authentic & balanced relationships that don't require you to people please in order to get your needs met. Click below for supportive resources to kickstart your journey! Best Wishes to You and Take Care, Anne
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Your People Pleasing Style is... The Social Butterfly
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You're a Social Butterfly who loves to spend time with people. And people love to be with you! You're friendly, fun and put people at ease! You're not great at prioritizing your own self-care or alone time because you feel a deep sense of obligation to get together with friends and loved ones. You worry about letting them down.But, you're tired and all this social interaction is leading to feeling burnt out and exhausted. Often when you plan to say no to things, the FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) is just too much, so you end up going anyway.Through deeper understanding of your unique People Pleasing behavior, you can learn new skills, transform your relationships and ultimately your life. ✨ It's time for the Transformation ✨Hi! I'm Anne C. Frazier, licensed mental health therapist and people pleasing recovery coach.I believe you're worthy of authentic & balanced relationships that don't require you to people please in order to get your needs met. Click below for supportive resources to kickstart your journey! Best Wishes to You and Take Care, Anne

What's your People Pleasing style?

Is People Pleasing holding you back? Discover your unique style of People Pleasing so you can break the habit and create more authentic relationships!

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