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Dismissive Avoidant
As a dismissive avoidant you are likely to be slow to warm up to others. You may come across as cold or distant. You take your time to warm up in relationships. Emotions can be quite difficult for you because during childhood it was not safe for you to be vulnerable. You likely experienced neglect from your caregiver growing up. You are very practical, grounded, and tend to be very high achieving.Strengths:Practical and groundedHigh achievingSelf-sufficientChallenges:Can be distant or coldOut of touch with their emotionsAvoid conflictAs a dismissive avoidant you tend to experience higher levels of guilt and shame. Your go-to emotions are irritation and impatience with your partner. You can also feel often like trapped or swallowed by your partner or close relationships. You try to avoid conflict as much as possible and will resort to passive aggression to get your needs met. When there is conflict you tend to stonewall or disappear to avoid it. You would prefer for each partner to self-soothe on their own. You have a high need for freedom, alone time, and autonomy. Your work is to get in touch with your emotions, learn to be vulnerable, and share needs and boundaries from a grounded non-reactionary place.Ready to shift these old patterns? Click here to learn more about working with me.