Dysfunctional Family Roles Quiz

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When tensions run high at the dinner table, you:

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    make a joke to defuse the tension
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    stay out of it to avoid tarnishing your image
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    want to tell the truth about underlying issues
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    do whatever it takes to keep everyone happy
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    do your best to blend into the background
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  When it comes to your parents (or caregivers), you...

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    feel misunderstood and provoked to anger
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    protect and take care of them
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    stay out of their way as much as possible
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    keep them happy by achieving outward success
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    use humor to reach them
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  You tend to get attention for...

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    you avoid attention even though you yearn for it
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    helping others in the family
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    your achievements
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    making people laugh
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    for telling the truth or "causing trouble"
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  What is your deepest fear?

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    appearing imperfect to others
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    that the family will fall apart without you
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    facing or discussing conflict
  • D.
    rejection and abandonment
  • E.
    sharing your thoughts and feelings
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  What character trait do you identify with most?

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    unlovable
  • B.
    upbeat, jovial
  • C.
    self-sacrificial, helper
  • D.
    people pleaser
  • E.
    achiever
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  What's your Halloween costume?

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    black sheep
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    invisible woman/man
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    superhero
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    court jester
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    juggler/plate spinner
• 7.
  What do you struggle with most?

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    depth and intimacy
  • B.
    feeling misunderstood
  • C.
    asking for help or support
  • D.
    taking time for yourself
  • E.
    asserting yourself

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Your role is...Mascot

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  The mascot is the dysfunctional family role that distracts from serious issues using humor. They are the “funny one” and use their wit to defuse tension.They may even address the family’s issues in a humorous way that prevents any real change or acknowledgment. The mascot feels it is their responsibility to prevent conflict by being funny.This pressure to entertain and make others feel better at the expense of their own needs can carry on into adulthood. They feel it is their job to save others and can become classic people pleasers.3 Quick Resources for you:How to know if you're part of a dysfunctional familyHow to spot dysfunctional family rolesDysfunctional families on IGWho am I to teach you this?Hi, I'm Laura K. Connell, a trauma-informed author and coach who grew up in a dysfunctional family system and married into one as well! In 2009, that marriage ended marking the beginning of my journey away from self-abandonment.Over the last dozen years, I’ve studied the dynamics of dysfunctional families and realized unmet childhood needs were the source of my self-sabotage and unfulfilled dreams. Since then, I’ve learned the secret to self-parenting through self-compassion and setting boundaries. I’ve made it my mission to share this knowledge with you, pouring everything I've learned into a course called The Self-Parenting Solution.Are you ready to grow out of the dysfunctional family system and live an authentic life? This affordable yet life-changing course will give you the step-by-step strategies and secrets you need to stop self-abandonment and set yourself free.
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  Your role is...Lost Child

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  The Lost Child avoids conflict in the family by staying small and quiet, almost invisible. They keep to themselves and may be considered loners.They don’t express needs or interact much with the family. As a result, they may have trouble developing social skills and forming intimate relationships.They are also used as a pawn in the family system to prove that everything is fine. Since they don’t complain or cause trouble they must be doing “okay”.In reality, they experience severe neglect and don’t feel they matter to the parents or family at large.3 Quick Resources for you:How to know if you're part of a dysfunctional familyHow to spot dysfunctional family rolesDysfunctional families on IGWho am I to teach you this?Hi, I'm Laura K. Connell, a trauma-informed author and coach who grew up in a dysfunctional family system and married into one as well! In 2009, that marriage ended marking the beginning of my journey away from self-abandonment.Over the last dozen years, I’ve studied the dynamics of dysfunctional families and realized unmet childhood needs were the source of my self-sabotage and unfulfilled dreams. Since then, I’ve learned the secret to self-parenting through self-compassion and setting boundaries. I’ve made it my mission to share this knowledge with you, pouring everything I've learned into a course called The Self-Parenting Solution.Are you ready to grow out of the dysfunctional family system to live an authentic life? This affordable yet life-changing course will give you the step-by-step strategies and secrets you need to stop-self abandonment and set yourself free.
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  Your role is...Scapegoat

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  The Scapegoat is the one singled out to take the blame for all the problems in the family. Rather than look at themselves, the family points a collective finger at the scapegoat.The scapegoat tells the truth about obvious defects in the family. As a result, she is gaslit and made to feel crazy as a result.She may be the mentally healthiest member of the family but by banding together, the clan convinces itself, and the Scapegoat, that the opposite is true.The Scapegoat may take on the status of “problem child” or have addiction issues due to a lifetime of being isolated, maligned, and rejected.Fear of change and exposure motivates the family to sacrifice the Scapegoat this way. Rather than face the truth and the possibility of deconstructing the family system, they demonize the truth teller.3 Quick Resources for you:How to determine if you're the family scapegoatScapegoat post on IGHow to spot dysfunctional family rolesWho am I to teach you this?Hi, I'm Laura K. Connell, a trauma-informed author and coach who grew up in a dysfunctional family system and married into one as well! In 2009, that marriage ended marking the beginning of my journey away from self-abandonment.Over the last dozen years, I’ve studied the dynamics of dysfunctional families and realized unmet childhood needs were the source of my self-sabotage and unfulfilled dreams. Since then, I’ve learned the secret to self-parenting through self-compassion and setting boundaries. I’ve made it my mission to share this knowledge with you, pouring everything I've learned into a course called The Self-Parenting Solution.Are you ready to grow out of the dysfunctional family system and live an authentic life? This affordable yet life-changing course will give you the step-by-step strategies and secrets you need to stop-self abandonment and set yourself free.
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  Your role is...Hero

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  The Hero takes on the pressure of proving to the world that the family is normal and healthy. They make their parents feel like they did a good job by appearing perfect and high-achieving on the outside.The Hero may have to act as a surrogate spouse to their parent. They are not allowed to show weakness and can become overly responsible and perfectionistic.As an adult, they may succumb to workaholism due to the immense pressure to succeed. This work focus prevents them from establishing intimacy in relationships.The dysfunctional family role of Hero supplies evidence of the family’s health and well-being. This way they can avoid addressing their problems in a “nothing to see here” fashion.3 Quick Resources for you:How to know if you're part of a dysfunctional familyHow to spot dysfunctional family rolesDysfunctional families on IGWho am I to teach you this?Hi, I'm Laura K. Connell, a trauma-informed author and coach who grew up in a dysfunctional family system and married into one as well! In 2009, that marriage ended marking the beginning of my journey away from self-abandonment.Over the last dozen years, I’ve studied the dynamics of dysfunctional families and realized unmet childhood needs were the source of my self-sabotage and unfulfilled dreams. Since then, I’ve learned the secret to self-parenting through self-compassion and setting boundaries. I’ve made it my mission to share this knowledge with you, pouring everything I've learned into a course called The Self-Parenting Solution.Are you ready to grow out of the dysfunctional family system and live an authentic life? This affordable yet life-changing course will give you the step-by-step strategies and secrets you need to stop-self abandonment and set yourself free.
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  Your role is...Enabler

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  The Enabler is the martyr of the family who tries to keep everyone happy while avoiding the underlying issues. They fear the family will fall apart and they will be left alone if they don't care for everyone's needs (except their own).It may be the spouse or child of someone mired in addiction who “enables” the addict to continue with their unhealthy behavior. By denying anything is wrong, the enabler unwittingly ensures healing never takes place.They are terrified of the crisis that would ensue if the family faced the truth about its problems. However, a crisis is exactly what such a family needs in order to grow.3 Quick Resources for you:How to know if you're part of a dysfunctional familyHow to spot dysfunctional family rolesDysfunctional families on IGWho am I to teach you this?Hi, I'm Laura K. Connell, a trauma-informed author and coach who grew up in a dysfunctional family system and married into one as well! In 2009, that marriage ended marking the beginning of my healing journey away from self-abandonment.Over the last dozen years, I’ve studied the dynamics of dysfunctional families, and realized unmet childhood needs were the source of my self-sabotage and unfulfilled dreams. Since then, I’ve learned the secret to self-parenting through self-compassion and setting boundaries. I’ve made it my mission to share this knowledge with you, pouring everything I've learned into a course called The Self-Parenting Solution.Are you ready to grow out of the dysfunctional family system and live an authentic life? This affordable yet life-changing course will give you the step-by-step strategies and secrets you need to stop-self abandonment and set yourself free.