Your role is...Scapegoat
The Scapegoat is the one singled out to take the blame for all the problems in the family. Rather than look at themselves, the family points a collective finger at the scapegoat.The scapegoat tells the truth about obvious defects in the family. As a result, she is gaslit and made to feel crazy as a result.She may be the mentally healthiest member of the family but by banding together, the clan convinces itself, and the Scapegoat, that the opposite is true.The Scapegoat may take on the status of “problem child” or have addiction issues due to a lifetime of being isolated, maligned, and rejected.Fear of change and exposure motivates the family to sacrifice the Scapegoat this way. Rather than face the truth and the possibility of deconstructing the family system, they demonize the truth teller.3 Quick Resources for you:How to determine if you're the family scapegoatScapegoat post on IGHow to spot dysfunctional family rolesWho am I to teach you this?Hi, I'm Laura K. Connell, a trauma-informed author and coach who grew up in a dysfunctional family system and married into one as well! In 2009, that marriage ended marking the beginning of my journey away from self-abandonment.Over the last dozen years, I’ve studied the dynamics of dysfunctional families and realized unmet childhood needs were the source of my self-sabotage and unfulfilled dreams. Since then, I’ve learned the secret to self-parenting through self-compassion and setting boundaries. I’ve made it my mission to share this knowledge with you, pouring everything I've learned into a course called The Self-Parenting Solution.Are you ready to grow out of the dysfunctional family system and live an authentic life? This affordable yet life-changing course will give you the step-by-step strategies and secrets you need to stop-self abandonment and set yourself free.