How effective are you at giving feedback?

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Quiz Questions

1.
When you provide feedback to your partner, you usually feel:
- A.
  Nervous and Worried
- B.
  Detached and Distant
- C.
  Confident and Trusting
- D.
  Angry and Defensive
2.
Which style of giving feedback best describes you?
- A.
  I try to keep the peace. I usually try to set my needs aside.
- B.
  I've been known to dose out sarcasm, a little dig or give the silent treatment. Yeah pretty much mixed signals.
- C.
  Listen, I'm pretty direct. I'm going to tell you what is on my mind. I can't help it if you are sensitive and get easily offended. That's not my problem.
- D.
  Even though sometimes I struggle with how to say it, I pride myself on being upfront yet gentle with my feedback.
3.
You believe that trust is:
- A.
  Hard to establish and maintain
- B.
  Not a priority; I value self-sufficiency
- C.
  Often elusive and confusing
- D.
  Essential for a healthy relationship
4.
How do you handle emotional conflicts with your partner?
- A.
  With fear and uncertainty.
- B.
  With open dialogue and compromise.
- C.
  By withdrawing or avoiding the issue.
- D.
  Direct and intense.
5.
What’s your biggest challenge with giving feedback?
- A.
  I don’t like confrontation. I avoid it most of the time.
- B.
  I am pretty assertive but some topics are just hard to talk about. I want to give my person feedback in a way that makes them feel good. I need suggestions.
- C.
  I can sometimes come off as harsh.
- D.
  I try to make a joke or a sarcastic comment to get my point across. It usually gets a rise out of my partner but I'm not sure its very effective.
6.
How often do you express your thoughts and feelings openly with your partner?
- A.
  Very often. I think dialogue is important.
- B.
  Sometimes, but I fear rejection.
- C.
  Always, I don't hesitate to tell them what I think.
- D.
  Rarely, I prefer to keep things to myself.
7.
What typically happens when you give your partner feedback?
- A.
  I don't really know. I don't give it very often. I keep most things to myself.
- B.
  They get defensive or shut down.
- C.
  They don't seem to get the message. The conversation can go in a different direction than I hoped it would.
- D.
  If I am being honest and gentle, it usually brings us closer together....eventually.
8.
Where do you think you need the most help in giving effective feedback?
- A.
  I worry that I'm going to upset my partner if I tell them what is bothering me. So I don't say anything.
- B.
  I need help being direct, clear and consistent.
- C.
  I need help not getting so angry or not coming across harshly.
- D.
  I am always looking for new and different ways to get my point across and deepen the connection.
9.
When my partner gives me feedback, I tend to:
- A.
  Get defensive or resistant.
- B.
  Listen attentively and appreciate their perspective
- C.
  Feel confused or overwhelmed.
- D.
  Disengage and distance myself.
10.
Your partner suffers from road rage...it is upsetting to you. You....?
- A.
  You decide it's best just not to say anything. After all it will make them even more upset and what you really want is a calm environment.
- B.
  You call them an "asshole!", among other expletives. You don't like to name call but in this case they deserved it. You saw your life flash in front of your eyes!
- C.
  You make sarcastic comments about their driving and hope they get the point. You tell yourself if they do it again...you swear that you will never get in a car with them.
- D.
  You give yourself a minute to calm yourself and you share with your partner how it feels to be in the passenger seat when they are swerving in and out of traffic and on their cell phone. You share in a way that is honest and firm yet kind and loving.
11.
In the bedroom, you're not exactly getting what you want. You....:
- A.
  You put up with it, another Friday night bites the dust. You plan to vent to your best friend. It's too embarrassing to tell your partner.
- B.
  You blurt out - NO! Stop! I don't like that.
- C.
  You hope they read your mind. Surely it can happen based on all the mental gymnastics and subtle signals your dropping.
- D.
  You ask your partner at a neutral time if they would be open to talking about exploring ways to mix it up in the bedroom.
12.
Your partner is a mess in the bathroom they struggle to pick up after themselves. You say:
- A.
  Nothing. I just try to overlook the negative aspects of your partner.
- B.
  Rude comments usually under your breath. They know your upset but they can't really hear you.
- C.
  "Can't you pick up your crap, for once!. I'm tired of living like this. Get it together!"
- D.
  "Babe, I noticed your clothes on the floor this morning. Can we talk about the cleanliness of the bathroom?"
13.
You and your partner have dinner out and your partner runs into an old friend and chats it up. You sit there waiting to be introduced but it doesn't happen. After the friend leaves, You:
- A.
  Sit there fuming! Racking your brain thinking "why do they have the social skills of a pea?" But say nothing.
- B.
  When your partner asks what you want to order for dinner, you look at them and mumble something under your breath. They ask you what's the matter and you say "oh nothing".
- C.
  You rip into your partner about how they are so inconsiderate and obviously don't even acknowledge your existence. It pretty much ruins your evening.
- D.
  You say hey, who was that? Your partner tells you it was a friend from an old job. You share that you felt uncomfortable and would have loved for them to have introduced you.
14.
How comfortable are you with vulnerability in your relationship?
- A.
  I find it extremely challenging.
- B.
  Very comfortable.
- C.
  Somewhat comfortable, but I worry about rejection.
- D.
  Not very comfortable, I prefer self-reliance.
15.
How do you typically handle disagreements with your partner?
- A.
  Through open and respectful communication.
- B.
  With anxiety and mixed messages.
- C.
  By withdrawing or needing space.
- D.
  I can be direct and harsh.
16.
You believe that effective feedback in a relationship requires:
- A.
  I want to be understood.
- B.
  Independence and self-reliance.
- C.
  Trust, empathy, and vulnerability.
- D.
  Caution, as it may lead to rejection.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
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What is your feedback type?Congratulations on completing the quiz! Your results will be sent to your email.Starter Guide: Giving Constructive FeedbackBe on the lookout for this free resource. Discover practical steps for delivering feedback in such a way that overcomes resistance; strengthens connections and inspires others to take action.And Who Am I To Tell You? Hi there! I’m Dr. Lee LeGrice I'm a psychotherapist with offices in Colorado and Texas. In my practice, my main area of focus is relationships. A specialty of mine is helping people create safe, secure, loving relationships. Giving feedback in an effective way is a crucial skill to managing conflict and creating a healthy, secure relationship. Healthy relationships don't just happen, they take work!The Feedback Quiz is built upon many years of hands-on experience working with couples, where I've honed in on the key issues they encounter when it comes to giving feedback. Giving feedback is challenging. Giving EFFECTIVE feedback that is HONEST and KIND can make all the difference in the world. Most of us lacked effective role models for communication. Some experienced harsh criticism, while others received no guidance at all, leaving us to rely on our own judgement to understand expectations. This quiz is a first step in assessing where you are in developing this skill. Most of us have picked up some bad habits along this life journey. I've learned that these bad habits are in place to keep us protected. But these habits are no longer serving us very well. The good news is that regardless of the bad habits we acquired, we can learn the skill of giving effective feedback and healthy communication at any point in our lives. Want more help in giving effective feedback?1. Check out my Blog "Giving Feedback in a Way that Strengthens Relationships" 2. Follow me on Facebook and Instagram You’re going to come away knowing how to build positive habits!3. Learn about your Attachment Style and how early relationships affect our current relationships.
2.
Check your email for your results.
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What is your feedback type?Congratulations on completing the quiz! Your results will be sent to your email.Starter Guide: Giving Constructive FeedbackBe on the lookout for this free resource. Discover practical steps for delivering feedback in such a way that overcomes resistance; strengthens connections and inspires others to take action.And Who Am I To Tell You? Hi there! I’m Dr. Lee LeGrice I'm a psychotherapist with offices in Colorado and Texas. In my practice, my main area of focus is relationships. A specialty of mine is helping people create safe, secure, loving relationships. Giving feedback in an effective way is a crucial skill to managing conflict and creating a healthy, secure relationship. Healthy relationships don't just happen, they take work!The Feedback Quiz is built upon many years of hands-on experience working with couples, where I've honed in on the key issues they encounter when it comes to giving feedback. Giving feedback is challenging. Giving EFFECTIVE feedback that is HONEST and KIND can make all the difference in the world. Most of us lacked effective role models for good communication. Some experienced harsh criticism, while others received no guidance at all, leaving us to rely on our own judgement to understand expectations. This quiz is a first step in assessing where you are in developing this skill. Most of us have picked up some bad habits along this life journey. I've learned that mostly these bad habits are in place to keep us protected. But these ways of being are no longer serving us very well. The good news is that regardless of the bad habits we have acquired, we can learn the skill of giving effective feedback and healthy communication at any point in our lives. Want more help in giving effective feedback?1. Check out my Blog "Giving Feedback in a Way that Strengthens Relationships" 2. Follow me on Facebook and Instagram You’re going to come away knowing how to build positive habits!3. Learn about your Attachment Style and how early relationships affect our current relationships.
3.
Check your email for your results.
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What is your feedback type?Congratulations on completing the quiz! Your results will be sent to your email.Starter Guide: Giving Constructive FeedbackBe on the lookout for this free resource. Discover practical steps for delivering feedback in such a way that overcomes resistance; strengthens connections and inspires others to take action.And Who Am I To Tell You? Hi there! I’m Dr. Lee LeGrice I'm a psychotherapist with offices in Colorado and Texas. In my practice, my main area of focus is relationships. A specialty of mine is helping people create safe, secure, loving relationships. Giving feedback in an effective way is a crucial skill to managing conflict and creating a healthy, secure relationship. Healthy relationships don't just happen, they take work!The Feedback Quiz is built upon many years of hands-on experience working with couples, where I've honed in on the key issues they encounter when it comes to giving feedback. Giving feedback is challenging. Giving EFFECTIVE feedback that is HONEST and KIND can make all the difference in the world. Most of us lacked effective role models for communication. Some experienced harsh criticism, while others received no guidance at all, leaving us to rely on our own judgement to understand expectations. This quiz is a first step in assessing where you are in developing this skill. Most of us have picked up some bad habits along this life journey. I've learned that these bad habits are in place keep us protected. But these habits are no longer serving us very well. The good news is that regardless of the bad habits we have acquired, we can learn the skill of giving effective feedback and healthy communication at any point in our lives. Want more help in giving effective feedback?1. Check out my Blog "Giving Feedback in a Way that Strengthens Relationships" 2. Follow me on Facebook and Instagram You’re going to come away knowing how to build positive habits!3. Learn about your Attachment Style and how early relationships affect our current relationships.
4.
Check your email for your results.
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What is your feedback type?Congratulations on completing the quiz! Your results will be sent to your email.Starter Guide: Giving Constructive FeedbackBe on the lookout for this free resource. Discover practical steps for delivering feedback in such a way that overcomes resistance; strengthens connections and inspires others to take action.And Who Am I To Tell You? Hi there! I’m Dr. Lee LeGrice I'm a psychotherapist with offices in Colorado and Texas. In my practice, my main area of focus is relationships. A specialty of mine is helping people create safe, secure, loving relationships. Giving feedback in an effective way is a crucial skill to managing conflict and creating a healthy, secure relationship. Healthy relationships don't just happen, they take work!The Feedback Quiz is built upon many years of hand-on experience working with couples, where I've honed in on the key issues they encounter when it comes to giving feedback. Giving feedback is challenging. Giving EFFECTIVE feedback that is HONEST and KIND can make all the difference in the world. Most of us lacked effective role models for providing feedback. Some experienced harsh criticism, while others received no guidance at all, leaving us to rely on our own judgement to understand expectations. This quiz is a first step in assessing where you are in developing this skill. Most of us have picked up some bad habits along this life journey. I've learned that mostly these bad habits are in place to try to keep us protected. But these ways of being are no longer serving us very well. The good news is that regardless of what type bad habits we have acquired, we can learn the skill of giving effective feedback and healthy communication at any point in our lives. Want more help in giving effective feedback?1. Check out my Blog "Giving Feedback in a Way that Strengthens Relationships" 2. Follow me on Facebook and Instagram You’re going to come away knowing how to build positive habits!3. Learn about your Attachment Style and how early relationships affect our current relationships.