It's time to beat boundary overwhelm and SAY THE THING you want to say!

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  If your boundary style was a song, what would it be?

  • A.
    "It's About Damn Time!" By Lizzo
  • B.
    "Bad Romance" By Lady Gaga
  • C.
    "Control" By Janet Jackson
  • D.
    "Fantasy" By Mariah Carey
  • E.
    "Hello?" By Adele
• 2.
  Where would we find you if you sensed that a challenging conversation was about to happen? 

  • A.
    "I’m outta here sister! Conflict isn’t really my thing!"
  • B.
    Agreeing with the other party, to make sure you’re not seen as a trouble maker.
  • C.
    Gloves off, stance tight, eyes fixed on the prize. "I'm not going down without a fight!"
  • D.
    Conversation? WHAT Conversation? It’s times like these that my voice goes AWOL and I’m frozen in time. Tap tap tap … ahem… is this thing on?? 🎤
  • E.
    Grounded, in my body and feeling curious about what each of us have to say.
• 3.
  How would your bestie (the one that "CAPITOL K" knows you) describe you

  • A.
    I’m agreeable, easy going and never one to “ruffle feathers”. I’d rather say yes, and go along with an idea, even if it’s not what I really want, than deal with confrontation or conflict.
  • B.
    Even though I have the biggest heart and make sure everyone is taken care of before me, I often feel disappointment when the same courtesy isn’t shown in return.
  • C.
    I’m a little bit overbearing when it comes to making joint decisions or giving my opinion to others. I’m mostly focused on myself when it comes to making decisions or having conversations. I can be pushy and a little cold hearted if I don’t agree with someone.
  • D.
    I’m easily approachable and receive requests and feedback with curiosity. They feel safe to share thoughts and concerns with me because I communicate with compassion.
  • E.
    I’m empathetic to a fault. I carry the energy of others around with me after a tough conversation, or witnessing an unjust act.
• 4.
  Which beverage represents the feeling you get when you work on projects with colleagues or friends/family? 

  • A.
    Scotch: Straight Up. No rocks. It’s gotta be quick and it’s likely gonna burn a little!
  • B.
    Floral, fragrant herbal tea: A warm hug for your insides that leaves you feeling grounded, balanced and easy going.
  • C.
    A triple espresso: Invigorating and gets you ready for the day!
  • D.
    A crisp glass of Chardonnay: smooth, well rounded and full of life.
  • E.
    Shot of tequila. Bottom of the bottle. You hope the worm doesn’t land in your glass and when it does, you drink it anyway… even though the thought makes you cringe.
• 5.
   What’s the WORST?

  • A.
    Having someone express disappointment about a truth you shared with them.
  • B.
    Feeling like you don’t have the courage to speak up in the first place.
  • C.
    Causing harm with your direct and domineering communication style.
  • D.
    Making a mistake and having to listen to someone berate you.
  • E.
    Giving up, walking away, not living up to your potential.
• 6.
  What’s the BEST?

  • A.
    Soul affirming time with besties.
  • B.
    Solo trips to the beach.
  • C.
    Helping my friends and family achieve their goals and dreams.
  • D.
    Giggling with friends about the latest Hollywood gossip.
  • E.
    Saying “NO THANK YOU” for the first time, and then the second time.
• 7.
  PICK A PERMISSION SLIP!

  • A.
    Permission to self care the shizzz outta yourself before caring for anyone else!
  • B.
    Permission to put the rule book aside, PLAY and fill your soul to the brim for once!
  • C.
    Permission to rest. No justification, no guilt!
  • D.
    Permission to let the horse out of the barn and let her run FREE. Your way, on your terms!
  • E.
    Permission to give ZERO EFFS and let your embodied truth lead the way!
• 8.
  The most challenging thing to say is:

  • A.
    “Thanks for thinking of me, I’m not interested in joining you today”
  • B.
    “I feel very hurt by what I just heard you say”.
  • C.
    “I don’t appreciate this sarcasm and teasing. Please stop.”
  • D.
    “I’m not interested in gossiping about other people. I need this conversation to take another direction”
  • E.
    “No thank you.”
• 9.
  When someone else says NO or declines your ideas/requests you’re most likely to:

  • A.
    Feel shocked, then frozen. and not know how to respond.
  • B.
    Pretend you’re ok with what you heard but feel really sad inside, and perhaps resentful.
  • C.
    Immediately defend your position or become aggressive/say hurtful things to the other party to protect yourself.
  • D.
    Act like everything is a-ok and never say a word. You don’t like other people knowing you were hurt.
  • E.
    Acknowledge their answer and ask some open ended questions to better understand where they were coming from.
• 10.
  The vacation vibe that most aligns with how you want to feel about setting boundaries in your life and work is:

  • A.
    NYC, BABY: Vibrant, full of energy and little pockets of amazing experiences within the whole exciting package!
  • B.
    Europe: Refined, old school charm, and packed to the brim with culture and delicious moments.
  • C.
    Island Beach Vacay: Laid back, playful and away from the drama of everyday.
  • D.
    Cabin in the woods: Easy, un-complicated, nothing to think about but the simplicity of being.
  • E.
    Skiing in the mountains: You pick the speed, the level of challenge and how long you want to engage in the activity.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Amiable Ascendant Boundary Archetype

  As an Amiable Ascendant, you like to keep status quo and avoid confrontation. Your boundaries can feel "leaky" or non-existent at times. It might seem like you're overly influenced by other people, a pushover, and that you don't have your own thoughts or opinions, but you know a deeper truth.You are an advocate of growth for yourself and others. Your truth speaking "IT" factor is intersecting the horizon at the same time as your embodied confidence is building. Rise, sister, RISE!Your curiosity and desire for self-love and is a SUPERPOWER!Click the button to read on about how stronger boundaries can support you in a more aligned personal power.
• 2.
  Balanced Believer Boundary Archetype

  As a Balanced Believer, you feel at home in your body when you need to set a boundary. You're curious, approachable, and hold dignity of yourself and others in the highest regard. In a world where it's more common to fight or retreat, the Balanced Believer can be mistaken for "too neutral", but you know a deeper truth. The peace you have in your heart Your truth speaking "IT" factor is your ability to put others at ease and be seen and heard in your presence, this is why you are so trusted. Your commitment to embodied, clear communication is a SUPERPOWER!Click the button to read about how you can harness that super power to create epic shit in your life!
• 3.
  Gracious Guardian Boundary Archetype

  As a Gracious Guardian, your big hearted empathy means you put yourself ahead of others a lot of the time. The courage it takes to advocate for others can look like missed self care opportunities for yourself. Your truth speaking "IT" factor is you allow others to feel cared for with your kind heart . Your commitment to seeing everyone for who they are is a SUPERPOWER!Click the button to read on about how you can support yourself in stronger boundaries... that feel GOOOOOOD to express!
• 4.
  Valiant Visionary Boundary Archetype

  As a Valiant Visionary, your self assuredness means you hold your ground when you believe you're right. Self doubt doesn't stand a chance around you, at least not for long.Sometimes this boundary archetype is misunderstood, because that visionary energy can come across as hard to connect with, but you know a deeper truth. That is, you deeply desire connection and belonging with others. Your truth speaking "IT" factor is that you value justice. Your commitment to making sure the right outcome happens is a SUPERPOWER! This is a gift to all of those important causes you believe in! Click the button to read on about how you can balance your boundaries and your energy, so everyone you need to set them with feels seen and heard... and dignity is never spared in the process!