Are You Wired for Parenting or Partnering?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  Choose answers based on how you felt before you became a parent or a partner.    Don't overthink it - select what *feels* right for YOU. 

  • A.
    Okie
  • B.
    Dokie
• 2.
  When you were younger, what excited you most about your future?

  • A.
    Becoming a parent and raising the next generation
  • B.
    Building a deep, lasting partnership with someone special
  • C.
    Achieving professional goals/status
• 3.
  Would you take action to become a parent on your own? (think: surrogacy, adoption, fostering)

  • A.
    Absolutely
  • B.
    No way
  • C.
    Meh, maybe, but I doubt it
• 4.
  When you spend time with others, where do you instinctively find yourself?

  • A.
    Deep in conversation, sharing thoughts, dreams, and emotional moments together
  • B.
    Taking care of practical needs like managing the meals, organizing, or making sure everyone is comfortable
  • C.
    A little bit of this and a little bit of that - no pressure situations are my fav
• 5.
  In your adolescence, did you take an active interest in kids? (think: babysitting, big brother/sister mentoring, coaching)

  • A.
    Yes, totally!
  • B.
    Hard pass
• 6.
  Which statement is most true about your "social battery" level?

  • A.
    I prefer to be around other people - it's like my battery gets recharged
  • B.
    Being around people takes a lot of energy - I typically recharge solo
  • C.
    As long as I'm with people I care about, I rarely need alone time to recharge
• 7.
  How likely are you to do things for others that you don't want to do?

  • A.
    Very likely - I enjoy helping others and typically offer before I'm asked
  • B.
    Somewhat likely - I might feel burdened by it but wouldn't cancel on them
  • C.
    Unlikely - I'd either not commit in the first place or find a way to get out of it
• 8.
  If you went your whole life without having children, how do you think you'd feel?

  • A.
    Relieved! Crisis averted successfully
  • B.
    Mostly fine - I'd feel like my life was full of amazing moments and connections, with or without kids
  • C.
    A little bummed, like I missed out on something big, but I'd still feel good about everything else I go to do
  • D.
    Deeply unsettled, like something really important was missing the whole time
• 9.
  Do you think couples should stay together if they're only doing it "for the kids"? 

  • A.
    Yes, I understand the sacrifice and would probably make it, too
  • B.
    No, they should honor their own happiness and support the kids along the way
• 10.
  If you had to choose one, which would you rather have?

  • A.
    A mostly unhappy relationship while parenting children I adore
  • B.
    A mostly happy relationship without children
• 11.
  Which aligns with you more?

  • A.
    I would be more ok without a partner as long as I became a parent
  • B.
    I would be more ok without kids as long as I found a solid partner

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  You Were Born to be a ... PARENT

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  Those who are born to be parents naturally have a deep sense of care, responsibility, and nurturing. They thrive in environments where they can guide, teach, and support others, especially children. For them, parenting is a core part of their identity - it's where they find their purpose and fulfillment. They often feel a strong instinctual drive to create stability and safety for others. This can look like: 1. Feeling strongly that children should come first, above all, often times unintentionally neglecting others' needs2. Expecting (and embracing) having to manage the emotions of children - it's doing this for another adult that you're not into. 3. Having a definition of success that is more attributed to how secure your kids are (vs any other)4. Recognizing you're more willing to make sacrifices for sake of parenting than for partneringThough the journey is complicated at times, those born to be parents tend to embrace the evolving nature of parenting, constantly adapting and learning along the way. They are in it for the long haul, driven by the vision of raising the next generation, regardless of the difficulties they may face.Even though parenting is likely your strong suit, that doesn't mean you can't thrive as a partner, too. At the end of the day, it really comes down to where your intuitive energy goes. It's all about finding your steady - making connection, communication, and shared growth a priority while embracing the unique challenges and joys of parenting.And hey -- maybe you're not raising children (&/or don't plan to). That still won't change your wiring. Your instinct to guide, protect, and nurture still shows up (think: in your friendships, partnerships, work, community). Whether you're raising kids or raising the standards in your world, the drive to create stability and care for others is undeniable. Your work now isn't about suppressing that instinct or getting bogged down by the literal role title; it's about learning to direct it with intention because that shit runs deep. Inside our SHIFT programs, we focus on helping people (not just parents). It's all about nervous-system-informed coaching for those of us who are ready to stop white-knuckling our way through life and actually find our steady. Join your revolution. Book Your Clarity CallLet's talk some SHIFT! Book a 20-minute chat to unravel any of your mental clusterf*cks. (p.s. it's also on me!)Stay Steady,Davina
• 2.
  You Were Born to be a ...  PARTNER

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  Those who are born to be partners naturally have a deep sense of connection, communication, and emotional intimacy. They thrive in environments where they can build deep, meaningful relationships, particularly with a romantic partner. For them, partnership is a core part of their identity - it's where they find their sense of purpose and fulfillment. They feel driven to create a strong, stable bond, and a sense of shared growth with another person.This can look like:1. Feeling strongly that partnership should come first, often unintentionally neglecting the needs of your children (or others)2. Expecting (and embracing) the responsibility of nurturing your partner’s emotional needs—it's doing this for a child that you’re not as connected with 3. Having a definition of success that is more attributed to the strength of your relationship (vs any other)4. Recognizing you’re more willing to sacrifice for the sake of your partnership than for much elseWhile the journey is complicated at times, those born to be partners tend to embrace the evolving nature of partnership, constantly adapting and learning along the way. They are in it for the long haul, driven by the vision of building a fulfilling, lifelong relationship, regardless of the challenges they may face.Even though partnership is likely your strong suit, that doesn’t mean you can’t thrive as a parent, too. At the end of the day, it really comes down to where your intuitive energy goes. It’s all about finding your steady - making connection, communication, and shared growth a priority while embracing the unique challenges and joys of partnership.And hey -- maybe you're not partnered up (&/or don't plan to be). That still won't change your wiring. Your instinct to bond, collaborate, and connect still shows up (think: in your friendships, hobbies, work, community). Whether you're committed to someone or to yourself, the drive to create reciprocity and emotional electricity is undeniable. Your work now isn't about suppressing that instinct or getting bogged down by the literal role title; it's about learning to direct it with intention because that shit runs deep. Inside our SHIFT programs, we focus on helping people (not just parents or partners). It's all about nervous-system-informed coaching for those of us who are ready to stop white-knuckling our way through life and actually find our steady. Join your revolution. Book Your Clarity CallLet's talk some SHIFT! Book a 20-minute chat to unravel any of your mental clusterf*cks. (p.s. it's on me!)Stay Steady,Davina
• 3.
  Like My Favorite Wine, You're a BLEND

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  Looks like you've got a blend of qualities from both the parenting and partnering sides. You’re balancing a natural drive for nurturing and connection, but maybe you’re still figuring out how those energies fit together in your life. It’s like sipping from both glasses - yummy AND likely to give you a headache!Whether you’re leaning more into one role or still figuring out how to juggle both, there’s no wrong way to go about it. The next step? Let’s tap into your intuition by:1. Retaking the quiz from the perspective of a different version of yourself (think: late teens / early 20s)&/or2. Talking SHIFT with me to dig deeper and clear up some of the mental clusterf*ck. (p.s. it's on me!)Inside our SHIFT programs, we focus on helping people (not just parents or partners). It's all about nervous-system-informed coaching for those of us who are ready to stop white-knuckling our way through life and actually find our steady. Join your revolution. Book Your Clarity CallBook a 20-minute chat to unravel any of your mental clusterf*cks. (p.s. it's on me!)You’re in the right place to unravel it all — Let's make SHIFT happen! Stay Steady,Davina