The statements below concern how you feel in emotionally intimate relationships. Answer the questions in terms of how you generally experience relationships, not just in what is happening in a current relationship. Respond to each statement by giving a number from 1 through 7 to indicate how much you agree or disagree with the statement. 1 = strongly disagree and 7 = strongly agree. At the end of the survey, you will find some slightly complicated scoring instructions. Trust me. You can get through this. Use a calculator.
Quiz Questions
1.
1. It’s not difficult for me to get close to my partner.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
2.
2. I often worry that my partner will not want to stay with me.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
3.
3. I often worry that my partner doesn’t really love me.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
4.
4. It helps to turn to my romantic partner in times of need.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
5.
5. I often wish that my partner’s feelings for me were as strong as my feelings for him or
her.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
6.
6. I worry a lot about my relationships.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
7.
7. I feel comfortable depending on romantic partners.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
8.
8. When I show my feelings for romantic partners, I’m afraid they will not feel the same
about me.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
9.
9. I rarely worry about my partner leaving me.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
10.
10. My partner only seems to notice me when I’m angry.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
11.
11. I feel comfortable depending on romantic partners.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
12.
12. I do not often worry about being abandoned.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
13.
13. My romantic partner makes me doubt myself.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
14.
14. I find that my partner(s) don’t want to get as close as I would like.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
15.
15. I’m afraid that I will lose my partner’s love.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
16.
16. My desire to be very close sometimes scares people away.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
17.
17. I worry that I won’t measure up to other people.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
18.
18. I find it easy to depend on romantic partners.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
19.
19. I prefer not to show a partner how I feel deep down.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
20.
20. I feel comfortable sharing my private thoughts and feelings with my partner.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
21.
21. I worry that romantic partners won’t care about me as much as I care about them.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
22.
22. I find it difficult to allow myself to depend on romantic partners.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
23.
23. I’m afraid that once a romantic partner gets to know me, he or she won’t like who I
really am.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
24.
24. I am very comfortable being close to romantic partners.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
25.
25. I don’t feel comfortable opening up to romantic partners.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
26.
26. I prefer not to be too close to romantic partners.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
27.
27. I get uncomfortable when a romantic partner wants to be very close.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
28.
28. I find it relatively easy to get close to my partner.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
29.
29. I usually discuss my problems and concerns with my partner.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
30.
30. I tell my partner just about everything.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
31.
31. Sometimes romantic partners change their feelings about me for no apparent reason.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
32.
32. When my partner is out of sight, I worry that he or she might become interested in
someone else.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
33.
33. I am nervous when partners get too close to me.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
34.
34. It’s easy for me to be affectionate with my partner.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
35.
35. It makes me mad that I don’t get the affection and support I need from my partner.
A.
1
B.
2
C.
3
D.
4
E.
5
F.
6
G.
7
36.
36. My partner really understands me and my needs.