The statements below concern how you feel in emotionally intimate relationships. Answer the questions in terms of how you generally experience relationships, not just in what is happening in a current relationship. Respond to each statement by giving a number from 1 through 7 to indicate how much you agree or disagree with the statement. 1 = strongly disagree and 7 = strongly agree. At the end of the survey, you will find some slightly complicated scoring instructions. Trust me. You can get through this. Use a calculator.

Quiz Questions

1.

1. It’s not difficult for me to get close to my partner.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

2.

2. I often worry that my partner will not want to stay with me.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

3.

3. I often worry that my partner doesn’t really love me.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

4.

4. It helps to turn to my romantic partner in times of need.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

5.

5. I often wish that my partner’s feelings for me were as strong as my feelings for him or
her.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

6.

6. I worry a lot about my relationships.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

7.

7. I feel comfortable depending on romantic partners.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

8.

8. When I show my feelings for romantic partners, I’m afraid they will not feel the same
about me.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

9.

9. I rarely worry about my partner leaving me.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

10.

10. My partner only seems to notice me when I’m angry.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

11.

11. I feel comfortable depending on romantic partners.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

12.

12. I do not often worry about being abandoned.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

13.

13. My romantic partner makes me doubt myself.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

14.

14. I find that my partner(s) don’t want to get as close as I would like.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

15.

15. I’m afraid that I will lose my partner’s love.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

16.

16. My desire to be very close sometimes scares people away.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

17.

17. I worry that I won’t measure up to other people.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

18.

18. I find it easy to depend on romantic partners.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

19.

19. I prefer not to show a partner how I feel deep down.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

20.

20. I feel comfortable sharing my private thoughts and feelings with my partner.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

21.

21. I worry that romantic partners won’t care about me as much as I care about them.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

22.

22. I find it difficult to allow myself to depend on romantic partners.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

23.

23. I’m afraid that once a romantic partner gets to know me, he or she won’t like who I
really am.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

24.

24. I am very comfortable being close to romantic partners.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

25.

25. I don’t feel comfortable opening up to romantic partners.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

26.

26. I prefer not to be too close to romantic partners.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

27.

27. I get uncomfortable when a romantic partner wants to be very close.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

28.

28. I find it relatively easy to get close to my partner.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

29.

29. I usually discuss my problems and concerns with my partner.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

30.

30. I tell my partner just about everything.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

31.

31. Sometimes romantic partners change their feelings about me for no apparent reason.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

32.

32. When my partner is out of sight, I worry that he or she might become interested in
someone else.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

33.

33. I am nervous when partners get too close to me.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

34.

34. It’s easy for me to be affectionate with my partner.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

35.

35. It makes me mad that I don’t get the affection and support I need from my partner.

A.

1

B.

2

C.

3

D.

4

E.

5

F.

6

G.

7

36.

36. My partner really understands me and my needs.