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You’re A... Pleaser
You're a Pleaser!As a Pleaser, you are motivated by maintaining positive workplace relationships, often at your own expense (keep scrolling to the end) You're gifted, deeply empathetic, and instinctively attuned to what others need. For Pleasers, the ultimate prize is being liked, and any threat to that approval can send you spiraling: What did I say wrong? What does their delay in response mean? Pleasers often come from challenging or chaotic homes, shaped by parents who were unpredictable or emotionally volatile.A common combination of Unfulfilled Achiever archetypes are the Pleaser and the Grinder. It's the desire to please that urges these Grinders to work. Often driven by the need to be liked for their usefulness, these individuals tend to express love through acts of service. In order to avoid feelings of inadequacy and maintain favor, they grind, hustle, and overwork. Pleasers can often confuse managing with caretaking, which can prevent them from providing feedback to their reports and lead to taking on others' work, or being overly empathetic, allowing others to take advantage of them.You don't have to be conventionally nice to be a Pleaser; many are quietly seething with resentment because no one takes care of them.Frustration is a frequent companion for Pleasers who feel that their time, energy, and entire self is solely for other people's gain. Thier anger signals that a boundary has been crossed, but they don't know which one. Pleasers may set boundaries at first, but they often struggle to maintain a clear line between themselves and others. The irony of the Pleaser: In their attempts to maintain connection, they lose themselves and feel more alone than ever. Trading authenticity for attachment is a losing bargain; both sides end up with less. In childhood, Pleasers learned early that to stay connected and in the good graces of their caregivers, they needed to repress their needs and authenticity. In attachment theory, a psychological understanding of how humans make connections as determined by early childhood experiences, Pleasers often have anxious attachment styles, causing them to feel fearful and codependent.For many Pleasers, over-functioning is a coping mechanism. They do more than their share to avoid conflict or disconnection because if a relationship ruptures, it might expose their deepest fear: that they're not good enough, not capable, or don't belong. A Pleaser's response to the pain of their success wound is to create a semblance of safety through being liked. As a result, Pleasers feel intense discomfort when others are upset with them or when they believe they are the cause of someone's unhappiness. So it's no surprise that setting a boundary with a boss, client, or family member can send Pleasers into an anxiety spiral, feeling deeply insecure. Psst.... Your FULL personality profile is in your inbox right now! Head on over to your inbox to get personalized steps to move out of Pleasing and into fulfillment!! Motivation:Belief that being liked and approved of will bring the safety, belonging, and control they long for. They love it when you call them: 👪 A team player❤️👂 An empathetic leader💁 Easy to be around 🎁 The Gifts: Empathetic: They genuinely care about how other people feel.Reliable: They will follow through on what they say.Intuitive: They are attuned to people's energies and needs.👤The Shadow:Their sense of worth often rises and falls with the most recent feedback from a manager or superior.They regularly put others' needs ahead of their own, leading to resentment and burnout.Anxiety around workplace relationships can lead to sleepless nights and days spent spiraling into self-doubt.They constantly feel unappreciated. Luckily, there are some very tangible ways that Pleasers like you can find fulfilment. Step into my office...Hey there unfulfilled “Pleaser Overachiever”, I'm Brooke Taylor holistic career-coach, former Googler, and here to help you build the fulfilling career of your dreams ☀️I've helped hundreds of unfulfilled women just like you find their passion and purpose through healing their Success Wound (more on that later).Their results?💼95% of clients seeking a new job landed one or received a badass promotion💸Negotiated raises upwards of 25% 💡Changed career paths entirely at age 40🚀Launched businesses that landed multiple rounds of funding 🦸🏼♀️Lead teams and transformed their leadership styleHealed from crippling burnout❤️Sound dreamy? Well, it's time for you to live the dream ☀️Check your inbox for personalized tips to go from pleaser overachiever to finally fulfilled, without sacrificing your excellence!1. Check your inbox for your FULL "The Pleaser” profile with personalized steps you can take today to create more fulfillment in your career and heal your Success Wound. Feel free to hit "REPLY" and tell me what your results have uncovered. AND get ready to receive tons of insider tips and tricks for your journey. 2. Preorder my book Healing the Success Wound which will help you go deepen your strengths, and go from stuck to fulfilled like the 5,000 other women who have taken these exact steps.🎊 Huge CONGRATS on taking this step toward fulfilment in your career. Here's to work that feels like purpose! 🎊
