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Your relationship could benefit from focusing on your health
You have really good intentions and are probably a "go-getter" but all that hustle and hard work has been taxing on your health, leaving you feeling depleted, exhausted, and just craving more sleep and enough energy to get through the day.It’s easy to see why your relationship is struggling if your physical body can barely make it through the day. It's hard to think about weekend activities, travel plans, uncovering your true self, sharing your deepest desires, and giving unconditionally to your partner when you just need more time to recover and feel better.You're probably being asked to do things in your relationship that you just don't have the energetic and mental capacity for right now.It's really hard to show up in a relationship if you have no energy and are hoping for the other person to just leave you alone and let you be.Not to mention, it's not very sexy or attractive to be so tired that you spend all your free time scrolling on your phone or watching TV in hopes to recover for the work week again.How do you know if your health is really what you should focus on first, before all the other solutions?Let’s play “Tick the boxes!”Do you…☑️ Have trouble getting out of bed in the mornings or feel unmotivated☑️ Feel best & most energetic after dinner ☑️ Feel jumpy, wired and tired, or on "high alert"☑️ Have low T, libido is off, hormone imbalance, irregular cycles☑️ Have food intolerances, GI distress, IBS, leaky gut☑️ Tend to overwork yourself to the point of exhaustion☑️ Have trouble relaxing and if you do relax, you tend to fall asleep☑️ Feel anxious and/or depressed, or have personality swings☑️ Rarely do things for fun, recreation, or play☑️ Rely on caffeine or naps to get through your days☑️ Brain fog or poor memory☑️ Crave salt and/or sugar, get hangry often, or have blood sugar imbalances☑️ Gain weight easily or can't drop weight no matter howlittle you eat☑️ Get sick often...if you check even 3 of these boxes, then chances are your health is holding you back and could be seriously damaging your relationship."Physical fitness is the first requisite of happiness." — Joseph H. PilatesHealth is more than just working out.In 2012, Victor was running our business full time. He was working out hard but when he wasn't at work, he was exhausted. Robyn would complain, "I'm up all night with the baby and you can't even go for a 3 mile run with me." His adrenal fatigue, or what we could just call "lack of health caused by too much stress" was causing our relationship so much pain.Of course, doctor's would say there was nothing wrong with him and that it was all in his head. They never asked about his stress or if something in his past was causing these symptoms. They just wanted to prescribe an anti-anxiety & anti-depressant medication. Luckily, we said no and came up with our own unique healing strategy that worked. Not only did he fully recover from adrenal fatigue, but was also able to create a more passionate relationship, be a fully present father, and start doing sports, hobbies, and travel that created a better connection in our relationship.Are you ready to get and stay healthy?Do you want to get your head above water and then start swimming to a much more exciting and vibrant future? Do you want to have energy to exercise and play? Do you want to get restful sleep and have mental clarity to chase your dreams and passions? Are you ready to invest the time, money, and effort into yourself so that you can wake up to a life you love?Let’s take a look at some of the foundations of health:Nutrition – The key to health is providing your body the nutrients it needs to do what it does best, which is heal. Your body wants to be in equilibrium but if you are putting toxins in it continuously, or causing the gut lining to break down through stress (physical or emotional), then it's kind of like shoveling the driveway in the middle of a snow storm.With the right nutrition and supplements, you can heal your gut lining and dramatically improve your body's ability to heal. .With a healed gut lining, your body will better absorb nutrients, which means you will have more energy, great hormone function, and clarity of thought.Mindfulness – It’s easy to wander through life without much direction, reacting to the world instead of purposely creating a life you desire.Mindfulness allows us to be aware of the thoughts and feelings that are driving our actions so that we can feel in charge of our reality.Practicing self-awareness is a core focus of our health program.Did you know that your subconscious is in charge of 80-95% of your thoughts? And that the average person has 60,000 or more thoughts a day! Your thoughts dictate your actions so if you aren't living the life you want right now, it might be because of your thoughts.Being unaware of your thoughts and feelings may be causing you to stay in a job you don't like, not standing up for yourself or setting boundaries, chasing goals that don't really align with who you really are or want to be. When you don’t know yourself very well, it can be hard to find the right friends or job to fulfill you and challenge you into new growth.Fitness – It can be very tempting to overtrain when you have adrenal fatigue. When your adrenals are shot, you have trouble producing enough cortisol, but then, when you workout or put yourself under other stresses, your body pumps out just enough cortisol to lift you up temporarily. So while working out might make you feel good in the short term, it isn't getting you the health you need for your relationship.The problem is that over time, your adrenals can burn out, making it so that you don't produce any cortisol. This is why it is very important to catch adrenal fatigue before it turns into adrenal burnout. What do we know about health & relationships you might wonder?Hey! We are Robyn and Victor and have been Health, Fitness, Healing, and Empowerment Coaches for almost 30 years.After decades of focusing on just strength training and then helping Victor recover from adrenal fatigue, we realized that we were living on a hamster wheel that had no fun in sight.From 2012 to 2015, Robyn had changed from being a type A, over-achiever who wanted a big house and a pool to just wanting a chill life where she could surf, hike, climb, and be time rich. Enjoying the outdoors with her family seemed like a better way to live and so, we decided to sell most of our belongings and move into an RV to travel.This wasn't easy for Victor. While his adrenal fatigue healing protocol definitely fixed his health, it didn't do enough to reprogram his mind and achieve personal growth. Limiting beliefs were standing in the way of the life they dreamed of.He no longer struggled to get through his day but unworthiness, fear of failure, scarcity, and judgement, along with a deeply rooted victim mindset, were creating a whole new cascade of issues.What started with a journey of health led to a much deeper, but more meaningful, journey of self-awareness, self growth, & reprogramming beliefs.We aren't willing to accept a mediocre marriage of just getting by.We wanted to wake up excited for the day ahead, feel passionate about each other, and create a strong, connected family unit. We wanted the f*ck yeah! That's why we have created our Parent to Partner program that includes kick ass self care, modalities to move beyond trauma, and a protocol for helping you write a brand new story for your future.Dig Deeper...Here are some resources to help you on your journey:Check out this podcast episode, Write Your Super Hero Story. In it, we share our #1 empowerment tool to help you create a passionate relationship and step into being the Hero of your own story.Follow us on Instagram for tips & tricks to improve your communication with your partner.Don’t know where to begin but you know you’re ready for change? Book a call with us to discuss how we can help you achieve health and make your relationship more passionate. 🏛️ We can help you architect your life 🏘️There’s a present in your inbox! We’ve sent you our Reignite The Passion workbook and companion couples visualization meditation. Hit reply and let us know what you think?Over the next few days, we'll be sharing more ideas with you to help catapult your relationship to growth and awareness!"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed no hope at all." — Dale Carnegie