Discover the Key to Your Courtship Success!

Quiz Questions

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  Do you feel easily upset, triggered, or anxious during courtship or relationships?

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    Yes, I often feel anxious, avoidant, emotionally reactive or not enough.
  • B.
    I'm kinda in-between.
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    No, I don't feel emotionally reactive. I'm usually secure, calm and at peace.
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  Do you find it difficult to trust—whether that’s trusting Allah’s plan, yourself, or men?

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    Never! I fear getting left, look for red flags, question my judgement and feel pressure to make the relationship work on my time and my terms.
  • B.
    I'm kinda in-between.
  • C.
    Yes, I trust the courtship process. I feel confident and relaxed with men.
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  Are you clear and confident about what you want in your love life and your vision for marriage?

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    Without a doubt I believe I will attract a compatible partner and I'm clear how to make it happen and how it will feel!
  • B.
    I'm kinda in-between.
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    I feel unsure how my love life will look in the next 5 years. I don't actually believe a good partner exists for me or how to make it happen.
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  Do you consistently hold positive beliefs about men, courtship, and your ability to meet the right partner?

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    Optimistic, feeling highly worthy and desirable for the men I desire to be with. I enjoy courtship and meeting men.
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    I'm kind in-between.
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    I tend to have a lot of negative thoughts about men and fear I will have to settle. Don't feel I have a lot of options.
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  Do you know the qualities of the type of man who would be the best match for you?

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    I feel fully confident on who are the right men for me and how to quickly and easily identify them.
  • B.
    I'm kinda in between
  • C.
    Hmm...I don't feel confident on who are the authentic right partners for me. Courtship feels like a bit of a burden. Sometimes I think "Men like the idea of me and not the real me."
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  Are you confident in setting and keeping healthy boundaries while courting?

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    I feel fully clear and aligned with my values. I effortlessly set boundaries and walk away from men who push them!
  • B.
    I'm kinda in-between.
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    Men tend to push my boundaries and deep down I know I allow it. I often shrink with men in order to please them or feel loved.
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  Do you feel sure about where and how to meet compatible men?

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    I know where to meet men I like. I take consistent action and meet men I'm attracted to and feel compatible with.
  • B.
    I'm kinda in-between.
  • C.
    I feel clueless about where to meet men and not sure it will happen. I often feel burnt out, frustrated or fearful I've wasted too much time. Let's not even talk about ghosting and rejection!
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  Do you feel prepared and ready to be the kind of partner your ideal man is also seeking?

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    Consistently meeting compatible men who see my value. They make me feel loved, desirable, and respected.
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    I'm kinda in-between. 
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    I don't feel highly worthy for the men I want. When I meet a guy I like I feel like I have to to prove my value to them.
• 9.
  Are you confident about how to move through courtship in a way that leads to marriage?

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    I feel clear on how to court for commitment in a way that makes me feel desired, authentic, confident, and highly pursued.
  • B.
    I'm kinda in-between.
  • C.
    I have no clue what I'm doing. I often feel like like I'm chasing or applying pressure for commitment. Sometimes, I become prematurely exclusive with a man just to hear he isn't ready for commitment or stuck in a situationship.
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  When courting, do the men you’re genuinely interested in actively pursue you? (If you haven’t courted in the past 6 months, choose RED.)

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    Men are consistent, make plans for the future, and I feel confident, relaxed and feminine.
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    I'm kinda in-between.
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    I'm frustrated! Men are inconsistent and lack good communication. I feel like I do all the planning and try to control the outcome.
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  Are you comfortable being open, emotionally available, and creating genuine connections with men?

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    I feel authentically connected with warmth, and feel confident sharing uncomfortable thoughts & feelings, along with things that bring me joy.
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    I'm kinda in-between.
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    I struggle with communicating my feelings and truth out of fear that I will push men away or be judged. I've fear opening up may lead to ghosting or abandonment so I hold back.
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  Do you often find yourself in unclear or casual “situationships” instead of committed courtships?

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    I understand how to navigate commitment conversations and move into commitment with ease.
  • B.
    I'm kinda in-between. 
  • C.
    I find myself in situationships or fully exclusive with men who aren't committed. I often wait for the man to end the relationship or communication, even when I'm not satisfied. 
• 13.
  Are you attracting men who are genuinely ready, willing, and able to commit to marriage?

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    The men I meet are ready, willing and able to commit on mutual terms, within a reasonable timeframe.
  • B.
    I'm kinda in-between.
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    The men I meet aren't ready to commit on mutual terms with long term expectations. I often give ultimatums or apply pressure which makes me feel even worse.
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  Seriously, last question...which describes you?

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    I haven't consistently been courted by a man longer 30 days in the last 12 months.
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    I have been courted by a man for 90 days+ WITHOUT commitment in the last 12 months.
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    I've exclusively been courted AND committed for 6 months+ in the last 12 months, and experienced a breakup.

Quiz Outcomes

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  1: You’re a (drumroll, please)...             Captivating Queen of Courtship!

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  Without a doubt you're an absolute Queen of Courtship. You’re all about meeting great men and you feel confident about how to make a real love connection happen. Which makes you a lot of fun to be around and for an enchanting relationship experience. You’re probably feeling like quite the bell of the ball and ready to choose your king.You are next-level feminine energy. You value quality, healthy men and aren’t afraid to bet on the long shot. Sometimes you may even risk courting men outside of your comfort zone, yet, you can still roll with the punches and value the experience even if the relationship doesn't work out. But more often than not, you find yourself attracting men who meet your relationship goals and are ready to commit.Read on for your personalized courtship playbook!1. Focus on the future. Does your current vision of love reflect your actual relationship goals? Maybe you see yourself having deep stimulating conversations with your man by a blazing fireplace. Unless you’re dangerously in love at the moment, I’d recommend continuing working on getting crystal clear on how you envision your love and family life, believing it's possible, and align your relationships with that.2. Get real with your communication. It’s homework time, friend. Breakdown what you need to work on to create deeper emotional connection and not just shallow love ones. The basics: listen more, connect from your throne, and your lean into your authentic feminine energy. 3. Check your habits. Some daily rituals are more valuable than others. Continue to focus on creating a captivating life that supports your Captivating Queen energy and continue pouring into your own bucket, allowing men to get the overflow.Who am I to tell you how to attract a partner? Funny you should ask…Hey, I’m Zara J. ✌️Relationship coach, author, creator of the Captivating Courtship Code and host of the Courtship Code podcast. I've spent the last decade helping successful, high achieving Muslim women connect, court, and commit to the right ready man for marriage. I started as matchmaker in 2015 and in 2020 packaged all of my experience and client results into my simple 6 step process, The Captivating Courtship Code. My clients value personal growth and gaining relationship skills to navigate courtship in a practical and easy way so they can attract a committed relationship that will lead to marriage.I’m passionate about helping my clients create happy, healthy, high value love lives with ease so they can live their best life and I can’t wait to help you, too.Ready To Captivate Courtship? Here’re Three Sweat-Free Steps!1. Catch me crushing dating & courtship misconceptions on my podcast, Courtship Code — new episode every week, beautiful. From relationship anxiety to creating a match game plan, I've got the scoop.2. Download the Captivating Courtship Playbook. Designed for smart muslim women ready to find lasting love. Meet me in your inbox? Confirm Your Subscription NOW and lookout every weekend for new our newsletter filled with blogs and insights delivered straight to your inbox.
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  2: You’re a (drumroll, please)...               Courtship Path 1

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  Not going to lie—When it comes to courtship, you’ve either got it going on OR you are slightly in denial! You know enough about this love thing to attract potential partners but you're not fully clear on what you need to do differently to be your own marriage goals.Odds are you’re a little guarded with most areas of courtship and connection. You like to have fun with the process, but you’re a little red flag focused. You get annoyed with men, but no one has to worry about you flipping a table—What’d be the point?Independence and logic has always earned you more than being vulnerable or following your pure heart and intuition. Emotional reactions? Sometimes. Avoid meeting men? Rarely. But you know better than to ever say you've got relationships all figured out, right?O.K., you get it. You're ready for love...My big challenge for you? Surrender and be open to commitment. Maybe your love life only seems not-so-bad because you’re not setting your vision of love clear enough and rejecting before allowing yourself to be rejected. You’re avoiding Mr. Right because you're too focused on perfection and failure.“It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan.” — Eleanor RooseveltRead on for your personalized courtship playbook!1. Focus on the future. Does your current vision of love reflect your actual relationship goals? Maybe you see yourself having deep stimulating conversations with your man by a blazing fireplace. Unless you’re dangerously in love at the moment, I’d recommend continuing working on getting crystal clear on how you envision your love and family life, believing it's possible. Align your relationships goals and fully commit to making them happen, now.2. Get real with your feminine connection and communication. It’s vulnerability time, friend. Embrace what you need to work on to create deeper emotional connections and not just surface level-like. Do the work to trust your so you can let your walls down, release judgment and open your heart to a real relationship. Stop being afraid to be fully seen and authentic. You don't have to have all of the answers and you don't have to do everything on your own, ask for help. The basics: listen more, stay on your throne, and connect with your feminine energy. 3. Learn New Relationship Skills and Expand Your Options. Focus on developing new relationship skills to navigate courtship with intention. This includes improving communication, setting boundaries, and understanding compatibility. Simultaneously, meet new people and open yourself to possibilities. The more options you explore, the clearer you’ll become about what aligns with your vision of love.Who am I to tell you how to attract a partner? Funny you should ask…Hey, I’m Zara J. ✌️Relationship coach, author, creator of the Captivating Courtship Code and host of the Courtship Code podcast. I've spent the last decade helping successful, high achieving Muslim women connect, court, and commit to the right ready man for marriage. I started as matchmaker in 2015 and in 2020 packaged all of my experience and client results into my simple 6 step process, The Captivating Courtship Code. My clients value personal growth and gaining relationship skills to navigate courtship in a practical and easy way so they can attract a committed relationship that will lead to marriage.I’m passionate about helping my clients create happy, healthy, high value love lives with ease so they can live their best life and I can’t wait to help you, too.Ready To Captivate Courtship? Here’re Three Sweat-Free Steps!The Simple 3-Step Courtship Blueprint Training for High-Achieving Muslim WomenIn this complimentary training you will learn a proven path to attracting a compatible, marriage-ready man without stress or wasting time. What You’ll Learn in This Free 5-Day Training:💡Day 1: How to Surrender and Trust the Process to Attract a Compatible HusbandThe mindset shifts that make marriage happen fasterThe secret to releasing anxiety and allowing yourself to be pursuedWhy trying to control courtship is pushing marriage further away💡 Day 2: How to Meet Marriage-Ready MenThe best ways to position yourself to attract serious men who are ready for commitmentWhere to meet quality men, whether online or in-person💡 Day 3: How to Make Heart-Centered ConnectionsThe key to creating natural attraction and building trustHow to form an emotional bond without over-investing too soon💡 Day 4: The First 30 Days of Courtship—What Works & What Doesn’tHow to pace the process to create emotional connectionWhy moving too fast can cause attraction to drop—and how to prevent it💡 Day 5: The Path to Marriage Without Wasting TimeHow to stop second-guessing and gain clarity on your next stepsThe key shifts that make courtship feel effortless and aligned
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  3: You’re a (drumroll, please)...               Courtship Path 2!

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  When it comes to courtship, you reject incompatible men (and feel rejected by compatible ones)!Let me set the scene—you’re out at that bougie new bistro downtown and the guy of your dreams approaches you (or slides in your DM if the bistro is your IG account). Before you know it, you're all in your head planning the wedding and baby names. You know how rare it is to meet a real life unicorn. And you sure as heck ain’t gonna miss your chance to make him yours!Props, friend, you’ve got amazing taste. Your long-term marriage goals are never far from mind. You’re A-OKAY with denying incompatibility in the present if it means big pay-offs in the future with your perfect prince charming...Here’s the hold-up—If you’re attracting commitment ready men, fair enough. Just make sure you’re equally and as invested in your vision of love as the men you have to convince to commit. Because quickly attaching and becoming exclusive with a man who hasn't actually committed to you is your biggest blindspot.I know it’s hard to meet the right guy. And listen, the right guy will like the real you, not just the idea of you. But trust yourself and intuition more. You want a man who sees your value AND is willing to commit long-term, not one you have to force and pressure him to realize it. Know you're a good woman. And you KNOW you want to be a wife. Maybe there's a better aligned relationship than the man you’ve been obsessing over—Ease-up (just a bit). Don’t tell the guy you have your eye on I said this, but sometimes walking away can get you further than being patient!Read on for your personalized courtship playbook!1. Focus on the future. Does your current vision of love reflect your actual relationship goals? Maybe you see yourself having deep stimulating conversations with your man by a blazing fireplace. Unless you’re dangerously in love at the moment, I’d recommend continuing working on getting crystal clear on how you envision your love and family life, believing it's possible, and align your relationships with that.2. Manage your emotional reactions. Get real with your feminine connection and communication skills. Yes, you're an articulate communicator but you need to work on being an effective communicator with men. It's normal to feel a little anxious but if you don't learn to manage your emotions, communicate, and keep boundaries with men you will keep thinking men only like the idea of you and not the real you and always feel like you're waiting for the shoe to drop, and get left. You need to get clear on your authentic value and own it. It’s vulnerability time, friend, trust your intuition, and embodying your Captivating Queen feminine energy.3. Check your habits. Some daily rituals are more valuable than others. When you get so used to pouring into others and being uber independent you don’t think twice before trying to prove to a man you're wife worthy, and find yourself doing the absolute most and becoming resentful. I’m not saying be selfish—Just make sure the man is actually commitment ready! Focus on creating a captivating life that supports your Captivating Queen energy and continue pouring into your own bucket, let men get the overflow. 4. Quit overthinking. Laying in bed letting your worries and concerns spiral into an emotional frenzy, or going down the Google and Youtube rabbit hole trying to figure out how to get him to commit, why he didn't call back, or whatever is stressing you out won't make courtship anymore enjoyable. Stop trying to control the outcome. You need a courtship game plan that can eliminate relationship anxiety, what ifs, and set you up for success and what's next!Ready To Captivate Courtship? Here’re Three Sweat-Free Steps!1. Catch me crushing dating & courtship misconceptions on my podcast, Courtship Code — new episode every week, beautiful. From relationship anxiety to creating a match game plan, I've got the scoop.2. Download the Captivating Courtship Playbook. Designed for smart muslim women ready to find lasting love.👉 Register for the Next Marriage Connect Mixer — a faith-centered networking event for single, professional Muslim women to gain new courtship insights, connect with like-minded peers, and expand your marriage network with confidence. Meet me in your inbox? Confirm Your Subscription NOW and lookout every weekend for new our newsletter filled with blogs and insights delivered straight to your inbox.The Simple 3-Step Courtship Blueprint Training for High-Achieving Muslim WomenIn this complimentary training you will learn a proven path to attracting a compatible, marriage-ready man without stress or wasting time. What You’ll Learn in This Free 5-Day Training:💡Day 1: How to Surrender and Trust the Process to Attract a Compatible HusbandThe mindset shifts that make marriage happen fasterThe secret to releasing anxiety and allowing yourself to be pursuedWhy trying to control courtship is pushing marriage further away💡 Day 2: How to Meet Marriage-Ready MenThe best ways to position yourself to attract serious men who are ready for commitmentWhere to meet quality men, whether online or in-person💡 Day 3: How to Make Heart-Centered ConnectionsThe key to creating natural attraction and building trustHow to form an emotional bond without over-investing too soon💡 Day 4: The First 30 Days of Courtship—What Works & What Doesn’tHow to pace the process to create emotional connectionWhy moving too fast can cause attraction to drop—and how to prevent it💡 Day 5: The Path to Marriage Without Wasting TimeHow to stop second-guessing and gain clarity on your next stepsThe key shifts that make courtship feel effortless and alignedHey, I’m Zara J. ✌️Relationship coach, author, creator of the Captivating Courtship Code and host of the Courtship Code podcast. I've spent the last decade helping successful, high achieving Muslim women connect, court, and commit to the right ready man for marriage. I started as matchmaker in 2015 and in 2020 packaged all of my experience and client results into my simple 6 step process, The Captivating Courtship Code. My clients value personal growth and gaining relationship skills to navigate courtship in a practical and easy way so they can attract a committed relationship that will lead to marriage.I’m passionate about helping my clients create happy, healthy, high value love lives with ease so they can live their best life and I can’t wait to help you, too.
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  4: You’re a (drumroll, please)...                 Courtship Path 3!

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  When it comes to love, you feel like you've lost your way (but it's not too late)!O.K. beautiful, you’ve probably got a list of reasons why you can't attract a good man and a plethora of experiences to back-up your negative feelings about courtship that you think most cannot relate to. You truly want to protect yourself from painful experiences so you meticulously research about relationships or how to avoid certain types of men and mistakes…In a sea of fake love, you desire to be on a safe harbor!You're so focused on guarding your heart that you're not playing to win. Whether it’s learning new relationship skills or healing from past disappointments, you’ve got to start opening up your heart and get the knowledge to transform your love life with a man who deserves your inner queen.My advice? Don’t let your fear of rejection or disappointment hold you back from your actual vision of love. Try to learn more effective ways to court, create connection and communication, and make sure your support system is truly positive and encouraging your relationship goals. Get out of isolation and get a village. All friends aren't the best friends for your love journey.Single and bitter aren’t mutually exclusive, friend...Read on for your personalized courtship playbook!1. Focus on the future. Does your current vision of love reflect your actual relationship goals? Maybe you see yourself having deep stimulating conversations with your man by a blazing fireplace. Unless you’re dangerously in love at the moment, I’d recommend continuing working on getting crystal clear on how you envision your love and family life, believing it's possible, and align your relationships with that.2. Total Package Confidence. Get real with your feminine connection and communication. It’s vulnerability time, friend. Breakdown what you need to become the best version of you and trust yourself again. You can't keep internalizing your past experiences as a reflection of your worthiness or desirability and expect to truly feel like a Captivating Queen. Stop being afraid to be fully seen and authentic. The basics: take action, trust your intuition, stay on your throne, and embodying your Captivating Queen feminine energy. 3. Believe in love again. If you believe it you can achieve it. But that can seem unrealistic when you haven't experienced what you desire to feel. So what do you do to reignite your belief in your relationship goals? Simple: get new relationship skills, get a positive support system, take big consistent action so you can get new positive experiences. You have to make your love life a priority—In the right way! 4. Quit overthinking. Laying in bed letting your worries and concerns spiral into an emotional frenzy, or going down the Google and Youtube rabbit hole trying to figure out how to get him to commit, why he didn't call back, or whatevers stressing you out won't make courtship anymore enjoyable. Stop trying to control the outcome. You need a courtship game plan that can eliminate relationship anxiety, what ifs, and set you up for success and what's next!Ready To Captivate Courtship? Here’re Three Sweat-Free Steps!1. Catch me crushing dating & courtship misconceptions on my podcast, Courtship Code — new episode every week, beautiful. From relationship anxiety to creating a match game plan, I've got the scoop.2. Download the Captivating Courtship Playbook. Designed for smart muslim women ready to find lasting love.👉 Register for the Next Marriage Connect Mixer — a faith-centered networking event for single, professional Muslim women to gain new courtship insights, connect with like-minded peers, and expand your marriage network with confidence. Meet me in your inbox? Confirm Your Subscription NOW and lookout every weekend for new our newsletter filled with blogs and insights delivered straight to your inbox.The Simple 3-Step Courtship Blueprint Training for High-Achieving Muslim WomenIn this complimentary training you will learn a proven path to attracting a compatible, marriage-ready man without stress or wasting time. What You’ll Learn in This Free 5-Day Training:💡Day 1: How to Surrender and Trust the Process to Attract a Compatible HusbandThe mindset shifts that make marriage happen fasterThe secret to releasing anxiety and allowing yourself to be pursuedWhy trying to control courtship is pushing marriage further away💡 Day 2: How to Meet Marriage-Ready MenThe best ways to position yourself to attract serious men who are ready for commitmentWhere to meet quality men, whether online or in-person💡 Day 3: How to Make Heart-Centered ConnectionsThe key to creating natural attraction and building trustHow to form an emotional bond without over-investing too soon💡 Day 4: The First 30 Days of Courtship—What Works & What Doesn’tHow to pace the process to create emotional connectionWhy moving too fast can cause attraction to drop—and how to prevent it💡 Day 5: The Path to Marriage Without Wasting TimeHow to stop second-guessing and gain clarity on your next stepsThe key shifts that make courtship feel effortless and alignedWho am I to tell you how to attract a partner? Funny you should ask…Hey, I’m Zara J. ✌️Relationship coach, author, creator of the Captivating Courtship Code and host of the Courtship Code podcast. I've spent the last decade helping successful, high achieving Muslim women connect, court, and commit to the right ready man for marriage. I started as matchmaker in 2015 and in 2020 packaged all of my experience and client results into my simple 6 step process, The Captivating Courtship Code. My clients value personal growth and gaining relationship skills to navigate courtship in a practical and easy way so they can attract a committed relationship that will lead to marriage.I’m passionate about helping my clients create happy, healthy, high value love lives with ease so they can live their best life and I can’t wait to help you, too.