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3: You’re a (drumroll, please)... Courtship Path 2!
When it comes to courtship, you reject incompatible men (and feel rejected by compatible ones)!Let me set the scene—you’re out at that bougie new bistro downtown and the guy of your dreams approaches you (or slides in your DM if the bistro is your IG account). Before you know it, you're all in your head planning the wedding and baby names. You know how rare it is to meet a real life unicorn. And you sure as heck ain’t gonna miss your chance to make him yours!Props, friend, you’ve got amazing taste. Your long-term marriage goals are never far from mind. You’re A-OKAY with denying incompatibility in the present if it means big pay-offs in the future with your perfect prince charming...Here’s the hold-up—If you’re attracting commitment ready men, fair enough. Just make sure you’re equally and as invested in your vision of love as the men you have to convince to commit. Because quickly attaching and becoming exclusive with a man who hasn't actually committed to you is your biggest blindspot.I know it’s hard to meet the right guy. And listen, the right guy will like the real you, not just the idea of you. But trust yourself and intuition more. You want a man who sees your value AND is willing to commit long-term, not one you have to force and pressure him to realize it. Know you're a good woman. And you KNOW you want to be a wife. Maybe there's a better aligned relationship than the man you’ve been obsessing over—Ease-up (just a bit). Don’t tell the guy you have your eye on I said this, but sometimes walking away can get you further than being patient!Read on for your personalized courtship playbook!1. Focus on the future. Does your current vision of love reflect your actual relationship goals? Maybe you see yourself having deep stimulating conversations with your man by a blazing fireplace. Unless you’re dangerously in love at the moment, I’d recommend continuing working on getting crystal clear on how you envision your love and family life, believing it's possible, and align your relationships with that.2. Manage your emotional reactions. Get real with your feminine connection and communication skills. Yes, you're an articulate communicator but you need to work on being an effective communicator with men. It's normal to feel a little anxious but if you don't learn to manage your emotions, communicate, and keep boundaries with men you will keep thinking men only like the idea of you and not the real you and always feel like you're waiting for the shoe to drop, and get left. You need to get clear on your authentic value and own it. It’s vulnerability time, friend, trust your intuition, and embodying your Captivating Queen feminine energy.3. Check your habits. Some daily rituals are more valuable than others. When you get so used to pouring into others and being uber independent you don’t think twice before trying to prove to a man you're wife worthy, and find yourself doing the absolute most and becoming resentful. I’m not saying be selfish—Just make sure the man is actually commitment ready! Focus on creating a captivating life that supports your Captivating Queen energy and continue pouring into your own bucket, let men get the overflow. 4. Quit overthinking. Laying in bed letting your worries and concerns spiral into an emotional frenzy, or going down the Google and Youtube rabbit hole trying to figure out how to get him to commit, why he didn't call back, or whatever is stressing you out won't make courtship anymore enjoyable. Stop trying to control the outcome. You need a courtship game plan that can eliminate relationship anxiety, what ifs, and set you up for success and what's next!Ready to Captivate Courtship?Watch the First 4 Videos from The Captivating Courtship Code and Discover the Proven Pathway to Aligned MarriageYour quiz results revealed your current Pathway to Marriage — the stage you’re in and what’s quietly blocking you from attracting the relationship you desire.Now it’s time to take your next step toward clarity, confidence, and connection.When you join the Captivating Courtship Code Waitlist, you’ll get exclusive early access to watch 4 videos from Module 1, where you’ll learn how to shift from anxious and uncertain to confident and captivating.What You’ll Learn Inside the 4 VideosVideo 1: The 3 Core Captivating Courtship Beliefs: Understand the foundation of feminine confidence and trust that attracts marriage without forcing or chasing.Video 2: Trust: Learn how to surrender control and allow pursuit while staying grounded and in your feminine leadership.Video 3: Judgment & Rejection: Free yourself from fear, comparison, and emotional walls that block aligned connections.Video 4: Cultivating Your Vision of Love: Clarify your intentions and attract a partner who aligns with your faith, values, and future.💍 Why Join the WaitlistWhen you join today, you’ll:Get instant access to all 4 videosReceive early enrollment invitations before doors open December 1–19Qualify for a 4-month payment plan when you book your early enrollment call by November 15Get priority access to the next live 8-week cohort beginning January 8 – February 26, 2026Who am I to tell you how to attract a partner? Funny you should ask…Hey, I’m Zara J. ✌️Relationship coach, author, creator of the Captivating Courtship Code and host of the Courtship Code podcast. I've spent the last decade helping successful, high achieving Muslim women connect, court, and commit to the right ready man for marriage. I started as matchmaker in 2015 and in 2020 packaged all of my experience and client results into my simple 6 step process, The Captivating Courtship Code. My clients value personal growth and gaining relationship skills to navigate courtship in a practical and easy way so they can attract a committed relationship that will lead to marriage.I’m passionate about helping my clients create happy, healthy, high value love lives with ease so they can live their best life and I can’t wait to help you, too.
