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Your sexual communication style is…The Thinker
When communicating, Thinkers like to reflect upon a situation before responding. This makes you a thoughtful communicator. However, as a person who highly values a life of the mind, you can have difficultly identifying and feeling complex emotions. Pleasing your partner is important to you; but you're not always sure how to balance that with what you want in between the sheets. As for your own needs, you tend to downplay the emotional kind, or anything that make you feel vulnerable.On the plus side, your analytical skills let you figure out core problems. You're great at finding novel ways to fix what's wrong.In bed, Thinkers tend to value the physical aspect of lovemaking (a rare chance to NOT be in your head). Accordingly, you may resent having to process another's disappointments, frustrations, and needs. Intellectual prowess makes you a wonderful companion, and a sought-after lover. Also, your thirst for knowledge can lead to wonderful erotic expansion.Here are some sexual communication tips for thinkers...☑️ Try to listen without being so judgmental☑️ Fixing problems is great, but you might need to first let your partner explain, in their own way☑️ Work on giving your partner more emotional support☑️ Talk about true needs and preferences, even if this makes you vulnerable☑️ Cultivate a practice of giving compliments☑️ Use your big brain to figure out compromise in bed, so everyone is having equal pleasure☑️ It's OK to connect head and heartNeed help implementing any of the above?Introducing Sexual Solutions CoachingSexual Solutions Coaching is a practice you might not know much about. Essentially, it's life coaching, but centered on helping you navigate bedroom obstacles, to achieve specific bedroom goals. In contrast to most therapy, sexual solutions coaching offers expertise in sexuality, and it's often short-term, with an outlined goal.My specialty is helping women, and their partners, navigate issues such as: Sex After MenopauseFinding Remedies for Sexual Pain IssuesLibido BoostingSexual Issues Related to TraumaCommunication Between CouplesUnderstanding and Claiming More PleasureI work via courses and also one-on-one sessions. I also do speaking on college campuses, related to consent and women's empowerment.A Little More About Me...Hi, I'm Laura ZamAfter going on an epic odyssey solving six kinds of sexual problems, associated with childhood trauma and menopause, I learned first-hand how difficult it was to get good information about female sexuality and solving intimacy problems. I wrote a book about this journey where I use a lot of humor to address these serious topics, 'cause that's just how I roll. I also got certified as a sexuality educator so I could help other women navigate their own sex challenges. My practice has been going strong for 10 years.It’s my mission to empower women to claim the pleasure, intimacy, and wholeness that's their birthright.That said, because women's sexuality is embedded in a context of relationship, I also work with couples. And because partnerships are embedded in a larger universe of shame, misinformation, fear, repression, and wounding, I also often speak about sexual healing--for all genders--and how that positively impacts society.A great way to learn about me is through my bestselling book, "The Pleasure Plan," available at bookstores everywhere.Some Resources for You...Here are some additional resources to help you on your journey finding awakening, empowerment, and healing.Want to learn about sexual healing? Check out my limited podcast series, Sexual Healing Central. My current podcast series focuses exclusively on sex & menopause. It's weekly, and you can ask questions live! Check out Sex and Menopause with Laura ZamFinally, don’t know where to begin but you know you’re ready to begin solving a sexual issue? Book a call with me to discuss how I might help you find the pleasure and clarity you deserve. 🏛️ You are the architect of your sex life 🏘️Over the next few days, I'll be sharing more ideas with you to help catapult your sexual growth!