Unhealed Emotional Wounds

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  How often do you experience a sense of deep calm?

  • A.
    Never. I’m always on edge, even when laying on a beach in Hawaii or watching Netflix on the couch.
  • B.
    Once in a while I feel calm. There has to be no stress in my life, lots of down time, and maybe a hard workout or some CBD.
  • C.
    Often enough. I can some calm almost every day. I’ve got a meditation or yoga routine that helps keep me breathing and grounded.
  • D.
    I’m calm most of the time. Not much ruffles me. I know that life works itself out and I can trust what happens.
• 2.
  In happy are you in your personal relationships?

  • A.
    I have very few people I feel safe with and trust. I long for more closeness and support but hardly anyone knows how to give that to me.
  • B.
    I’ve had a couple of close friends or romantic partners in my life but never on a consistent basis.
  • C.
    I’m pretty happy with my relationships. I have a few people in my life who really get me. I want more friends or maybe a romantic partner, but I’m content with my social circle.
  • D.
    I have people who love me, see me, and value me. And I love, see, and value them back. My friendships are easy and I have exactly the kind of romantic relationship I want with someone incredible.
• 3.
  Do you consider yourself a perfectionist?

  • A.
    Yes. About everything. I want to look perfect, be perfect, act perfect, and make sure I smell like field of wildflowers at all times. I’m constantly anxious about how I look and if I’m doing enough in my life.
  • B.
    I’m perfectionistic about some things but not others. My house is a disaster but my nails are always done. There are one or two areas of my life that I am perfectionistic. The rest I let go.
  • C.
    Nope. I know that perfection isn’t possible on this planet. I’m ok with that fact that no matter how hard I try, I will always disappoint people. So I try and do what’s right by me. I don’t feel much guilt and feel really free in how I express myself
• 4.
  How often do you feel anxious?

  • A.
    Never. I’m chill all of the time.
  • B.
    A little. When I’ve had too much coffee or my partner is upset with me, I can get anxious. But most of the time I’m fairly relaxed.
  • C.
    Often. I’ve usually got anxiety running through my body. Even if my life is pretty calm, I worry a lot about what could go wrong
  • D.
    Always. No matter what I do, I’m anxious. I’ve tried mediation, yoga, reiki, all of it, and I’m still anxious. Nothing helps ever and it makes me want to cry.
• 5.
  How often do you feel a sense of dread? 

  • A.
    Never. Dread? I don’t know what you are talking about.
  • B.
    A little. If people are really upset with me or I feel like I’m failing, I can experience feeling dread.
  • C.
    Often. I have really high expectations of myself and I always feel like I’m failing.
  • D.
    Always. I wake up with the crushing weight of dread on my chest every morning. It is hard to face the day.
• 6.
  How well do you relax?

  • A.
    I’m pretty relaxed most of the time. It takes flying monkeys and giant tigers coming after me to get me anxious.
  • B.
    I can relax when I really try. I dedicate some time every day to letting go and just relaxing.
  • C.
    I try and relax but constantly feel on edge. Even with no major stressors and watching my favorite show, I may still feel some anxiety.
  • D.
    I’m constantly on edge. Nothing helps me relax. I’ve tried sleeping aids, nervous system gadgets, deep breathing, praying, cursing…..nothing helps.
• 7.
  When in a relationship, how comfortable are you asking for a hug, a kiss, or help of some kind?

  • A.
    I never ask for anything from someone I love. I’m an island. I’ll handle my needs myself or I just won’t get them met. Life is safer this way.
  • B.
    I’m terrified to ask. I’ll only ask if I’m really desperate.
  • C.
    I don’t always love asking for what I need, but mostly I do it anyways. I know if I ask my partner for a hug, I might get rejected. But its important for me that I ask and try.
  • D.
    I feel completely comfortable letting my partner know what I need. And I only choose partners who are willing to help give me what I need the majority of the time. The few times when my partner can’t meet my needs, I understand and meet them in other ways.
• 8.
  On a day-to-day basis, how often can you feel the energy moving in your hips, legs, and feet?

  • A.
    Huh? What are you even talking about?
  • B.
    I’ve experienced feeling my whole body but the feeling is rare
  • C.
    I can often feel the energy moving through my whole body
  • D.
    I can always feel the energy running through my body from my toes to my nose and it makes me feel grounded and good.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  You're Rocking It!

  You’ve likely done a lot of self-growth and healed the major traumas in your life. Your body and nervous system are cozy, safe, and happy. You are able to advocate for yourself, go for what you want in life, and not take rejection personally. Your relationships are largely fulfilling and you know you can either find a great romantic relationship if you want one, or you are already in one. Keep on doing what you’re doing! If at some point you do feel stuck, reach out to me and let me know what’s going on for you.
• 2.
  You're Doing Great!

  You’ve likely experience several emotional wounds, but you’ve actively tried to tackle them and overcome them. Going for what you want in life still feels a little scary, but the fear isn’t stopping you. You’re putting yourself out there with your relationships, asking to be loved and loving others. It all can feel a little overwhelming sometimes, but you’re committed to growth and you’re using everything to grow and learn. You know how to find a sense of safety in your body and have discovered the pleasure of fully inhabiting your body. Your nervous system is stable the majority of the time. Sometimes life’s events may knock you over, but you know how to rebound. Keep doing what you’re doing! If you do feel you could use some fine-tuning or are ready for the next level, feel free to book a free consultation with me here.
• 3.
  Oh honey, that poor body of yours is going through it! 

  Your nervous system is constantly on edge, locked into fight or flight. This makes is hard, even impossible, to feel joy, happiness, and a sense of safety. You likely feel anxious most of the time and struggle with feeling good enough. You’re a perfectionist who is constantly trying to be better, look better, and do better, and its exhausting. Even when you try to rest, you don’t really rest. That mind and body of yours are always in overdrive, trying to fix yourself or your life so you can finally feel safe.You’re feeling tired on such a deep level. Sleep and Netflix aren’t enough to revive you. You feel like you just can’t access deep rest and relaxation. The reason you feel the way you do is because you’ve got unhealed emotional wounds in your body and energy field. You’ve experienced tough stuff, and nobody has been able to help you heal it. You might have tried therapy, reiki, crystal therapy, and meditation but none of it has helped enough. You still feel on edge. You’re still trying hard all of the time to be the perfect person. Anxiety has become your most familiar friend. You crave deep peace, but just don’t know how to find it. Look, I’m not going to give you the same generic tips that you’ve already received like, “breathe deeper, start a gratitude journal, and don’t sweat the small stuff.” Likelihood is, you’ve tried that and it hasn’t worked. That’s because you need something more powerful to shift the underlying tension in your nervous system. I’m not going to sugarcoat it, your body and energy field need more support and they need the right kind of support. The good news is that everything you are struggling with can be really easy to heal with the right kind of help. Gentle techniques that are targeted just for you and what you have experienced have the power to change everything. You don’t have to keep existing with the sense of dread and anxiety that has been haunting you. It is possible to wake up happy, excited about your day, and content with wonderful friendships and an amazing romantic partner. All of this is possible for you. If you want to talk and tell me exactly what’s going on for you, feel free to book a free consultation here.