I zoomed out, feeling numb and can’t think of any solution.
2.
When you face conflict, do you have a strong urge to...
A.
"Do nothing because you feel paralyzed or stuck, having a difficult time responding or making decisions during a confrontation."
B.
"Avoid conflict or negativity at any cost - putting someone else’s needs above your own."
C.
"Compelled to control and fix the situation head-on."
D.
"Avoid confrontation and withdraw from the situation (feel overwhelmed or anxious)."
3.
Picture this - You just received an email with a massive complaint about your work how do you feel about that?
A.
"I start internalizing the negative feedback and feel an overwhelming sense of guilt or self-blame, looking for ways to “make it right” for them."
B.
"It’s a personal attack on you, and now it’s your time to find any faults in the person who gave you the feedback."
C.
"I don’t even know how to react in situations likes these."
D.
"I completely ignore that feedback or start questioning my abilities to be good enough (which more often than not triggers negative talk and feelings of inadequacy)."
4.
What core feeling describes the way you run your business right now?
Anxiety/Fear-You may seek safety and avoid stressful situations by eating even when you’re not hungry, going out for a walk, or scrolling on social media.
Anger-You may confront the perceived threat or challenge by dominating, controlling, and fixing it immediately.
5.
Picture this → “You are currently juggling multiple clients and they keep asking questions, your team members need answers and on top of it you NEED to show up on Instagram. What do you do? ”
I wish I could postpone the project/extend the deadline but I am too afraid of what the client might say so I just suck it up.
6.
Picture this - You’re presented with multiple options and choices. What do you do?
A.
I feel overwhelmed by the choices and struggle to make a decision. Acting anxious, indecisive, and all over the place (Trying to avoid the responsibility of making a choice.)
B.
I quickly evaluate the options and confidently choose the one that I believe is the best. (I got no problem standing up and discrediting other options)
C.
The multiple options paralyze me. I’m zooming out and going “blank,” finding it challenging to make any decision at all. (Hoping that someone else will take charge.)
D.
I go along with the preferences of those around me, ignoring my own ideas (Aiming to maintain harmony where everyone is happy.)