The Relationship Rejuvenator: Understanding your Stress Language: The Silent Conversation in Your Brain

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Quiz Questions

1.
What’s your go-to activity when you’re feeling stressed?
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- A.
  I bury myself in coffee, work, exercise, drugs, alcohol or my self-medication of choice!
- B.
  I start planning logistics
- C.
  Think about happy things instead
- D.
  I may yell and might look like a crazy person
- E.
  Stay calm, sing or just peace out!
2.
When you're stressed, how do you feel?
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- A.
  Overwhelmed and stuck
- B.
  Frustrated and ready to explode
- C.
  Confused, like nothing's going right
- D.
  Drained and in need of a distraction
- E.
  Urgent need to solve the problem
3.
When a friend is venting, what’s your typical response?
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- A.
  I tell them not to worry, everything will be fine
- B.
  I seek to be helpful by offering solutions
- C.
  I give them a moment but do everything I can to shut down the conversation
- D.
  I listen but can’t offer any response
- E.
  I get frustrated and start complaining too
4.
How do you react when your day does not go according to plan?
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- A.
  I go into “work mode” to escape the stress
- B.
  I quickly figure out a way to gain insight to gain a new perspective to make the day better
- C.
  I go into paralysis by analysis!
- D.
  I make sure everyone knows about it to make myself feel better
- E.
  I keep on keeping on and attempt to avoid the uncomfortable feelings
5.
If your partner or friend is upset, how do you react?
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- A.
  I feel uncomfortable, withdraw and leave them to it
- B.
  I immediately offer solutions
- C.
  I remove myself asap and distract myself sometimes with work, exercise or something else to make me feel better
- D.
  I try to tell them everything will be fine
- E.
  I get frustrated, may snap at them and wish they would just get on with it.
6.
What's your usual coping mechanism when faced with an unexpected stressful situation?
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- A.
  Find someone to about my stress usually with frustration and anger
- B.
  Ignore it and hope it goes away
- C.
  Deny the issue and tell myself it’s no big deal
- D.
  Dive into my daily activities
- E.
  Take charge and sort out the problem if I can
7.
How do you feel when someone offers unsolicited advice?
- A.
  I get irritated and defensive
- B.
  I’m grateful—they’re helping me fix things!
- C.
  I appreciate their help but ignore it
- D.
  I just focus on what is in front of me and tune out
- E.
  I feel overwhelmed and may shut down
8.
How do you usually respond when a problem arises?
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- A.
  Pretend it’s not a big deal and ignore it
- B.
  Drop everything and try to fix it immediately
- C.
  Freeze up and avoid it
- D.
  Get angry and vent to someone
- E.
  Handle it privately, but dive into work or another distraction
9.
How do you feel if someone criticises your work?
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- A.
  I tell them why they are wrong
- B.
  I just start something else at work to distract myself
- C.
  I feel disheartened and withdraw from them
- D.
  I just smile and nod and tell myself that they don’t really understand
- E.
  I ask for more information and immediately look for ways to improve things
10.
How do you feel after a stressful day?
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- A.
  I’m often fuming and I can’t shake it off
- B.
  I try to convince myself it wasn’t that bad
- C.
  I just want to escape to an island on my own
- D.
  I feel like I haven’t done enough to solve the issue
- E.
  I feel emotionally drained and exhausted
11.
If you’re in an argument, how do you typically respond?
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- A.
  I try to downplay it, placate the other person and often just agree with them
- B.
  I tolerate it and then distract myself with my food, alcohol, exercise or work.
- C.
  I try to resolve and fix things in the quickest way possible
- D.
  It is easier for me to become distant and stop engaging
- E.
  I raise my voice and get louder as I need to be heard
12.
How do you prepare for something you know will be a stressful situation?
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- A.
  I tell myself to stay positive and everything will be fine
- B.
  I ignore it and wait to see how things turn out
- C.
  I anticipate as much as I can with an action plan
- D.
  I keep myself busy with something else to avoid thinking about it
- E.
  I get ready for any possible conflict with anyone who gets in my way.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
The Problem Solver
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You’re a go-getter who thrives on problem-solving. When stress hits, you tackle the situation head-on, eager to find a quick solution. While your intentions are good, this approach may leave others feeling like they’re not being heard, especially when they just need to vent. You’re all about action, but remember that sometimes, stepping back and listening can solve more than fixing the problem straight away. You might need to learn when to ease off and let others figure things out on their own.
2.
The Internaliser
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When stress builds, you tend to freeze, unsure how to handle it. This can make you feel trapped or helpless, and you may shut down emotionally. While others might find your lack of response confusing, it’s just your way of processing overwhelming situations. You may struggle with expressing your feelings, which can lead to a sense of isolation. Learning to open up or take small steps toward action could help ease your stress and create better support from those around you. If you would like further personalised support, simply click on the button below:
3.
The Volcano
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You wear your emotions on your sleeve and don’t hesitate to let them out when you’re stressed. When things go wrong, your frustration might escalate the situation, and your temper could fuel conflict. While your emotions are genuine, it’s important to recognise when they’re affecting others negatively. Anger is often a sign of underlying frustration, and learning to communicate those feelings calmly could prevent unnecessary arguments. Channelling your energy into constructive actions will help release stress in a more positive way.Further individual or relationship help is readily available!
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The Reality Dodger
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You prefer to keep things light and optimistic, even when stress is overwhelming. Denial can sometimes help you avoid facing difficult truths, but it might also leave you out of touch with reality. You may brush off problems, which can lead to others shouldering the burden or feeling unsupported. While staying positive is great, it's also important to acknowledge challenges and deal with them head-on. Finding a balance between optimism and realism will help you manage stress more effectively.Further personalised individual or relationship support is available here...
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The Silent Sufferer
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You deal with stress by retreating into work, exercise, or other distractions, keeping your feelings under wraps. While you appear in control, this self-medication can leave you emotionally drained and disconnected from others. The lack of emotional expression can lead to feelings of loneliness or frustration. Finding healthier ways to address your emotions, such as talking things through with someone, will help prevent burnout. You might discover that it’s okay to slow down and ask for support when needed.Don't journey alone! Further individual or relationship support is found here...