Uncover Emotional Barriers You Didn’t Know You Had: Is Hidden Trauma Quietly Shaping Your Life?

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Quiz Questions

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How often do you feel on edge or overstimulated, even when nothing obvious is wrong?
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  Very often, it’s like my body is bracing for something, even when things seem calm.
- B.
  Often, I feel restless or tense without a clear reason.
- C.
  Sometimes, it depends on my environment or how much I’ve taken on.
- D.
  Rarely, I usually feel grounded unless something specific triggers me.
- E.
  Almost never, I feel emotionally and physically settled most of the time.
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Do moments of sadness or emptiness tend to drift in, even when things seem fine on the outside?
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  Very often, it’s like my body is bracing for something, even when things seem calm.
- B.
  Often, I feel restless or tense without a clear reason.
- C.
  Sometimes, it depends on my environment or how much I’ve taken on.
- D.
  Rarely, I usually feel grounded unless something specific triggers me.
- E.
  Almost never, I feel emotionally and physically settled most of the time.
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Do you ever find yourself avoiding certain places, people, or memories because they feel too emotionally heavy to face?
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  Often, there are things I instinctively avoid because they feel overwhelming or unsafe.
- B.
  Sometimes, I notice the urge to avoid, but I’m learning to stay present with what arises.
- C.
  Rarely, there are a few tender spots, but they don’t control my life.
- D.
  Almost never, I’m able to face most experiences, even the uncomfortable ones.
- E.
  Not at all, I feel emotionally open and grounded with my past.
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Shame can feel like a heavy coat. How often do you find yourself carrying its weight?
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  Often. It feels like a part of me I’ve carried for a long time.
- B.
  Sometimes. It shows up when I feel vulnerable or exposed.
- C.
  Occasionally. I’m aware of it, but it doesn’t take over.
- D.
  Rarely. I’ve done some healing, and it no longer holds the same power.
- E.
  Not at all. I’ve learned to meet myself with compassion instead.
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When life feels overwhelming, do you ever find yourself reaching for coping habits that don't truly support your well-being?
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  Yes. Sometimes it feels like I'm just trying to survive, and those habits take over.
- B.
  Occasionally. I fall into old patterns when I’m stressed or dysregulated.
- C.
  Sometimes. I notice the pull, but I try to stay mindful of my choices.
- D.
  Rarely. I’ve developed healthier ways to care for myself, though I’m not perfect.
- E.
  Never. I have strong inner and outer support that helps me stay grounded.
6.
How would you describe your relationship with sleep lately?
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  Strained. I often struggle to fall or stay asleep, and it affects my energy.
- B.
  Inconsistent. Some nights are restful, others leave me feeling wired or restless.
- C.
  Up and down. I have both good and difficult sleep cycles.
- D.
  Mostly steady. I rest well, with only the occasional disruption.
- E.
  Supportive. I sleep deeply and wake feeling restored.
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Have you ever felt emotionally isolated, like you're on an island you can’t quite leave?
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  Often. I feel emotionally disconnected and exhausted from trying to reach others.
- B.
  Sometimes. I’ve sent out signals for support, but I don’t always feel seen.
- C.
  Occasionally. It feels isolating at times, but I’m learning to reconnect.
- D.
  Rarely. I have tools and people that help me come back to connection.
- E.
  Not really. I feel emotionally supported and know how to care for my inner world.
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How often do you find yourself caught in dark or heavy thought patterns?
- A.
  Often. These thoughts visit regularly and can feel hard to shake.
- B.
  Sometimes. I notice them, but I have tools to help me move through them.
- C.
  Occasionally. They show up now and then, but I don’t feel stuck there.
- D.
  Rarely. I’ve learned how to shift my thoughts before they spiral.
- E.
  Almost never. I feel emotionally steady and rarely visit that space anymore.
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How often do you experience bursts of anger or irritability that feel out of proportion to the moment?
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  Often. It can feel like a sudden wave, and I’m not always sure where it’s coming from.
- B.
  Sometimes. I feel irritation build up, especially when I’m overwhelmed or tired.
- C.
  Occasionally. It shows up in specific situations, but I’m usually aware of the cause.
- D.
  Rarely. I notice it, but it passes quickly and doesn’t take over.
- E.
  Almost never. I feel emotionally steady and respond calmly most of the time.
10.
Do you ever feel like you're on high alert even in spaces that should feel safe?
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  Often. It’s like my system is always scanning for danger, even when I’m home.
- B.
  Sometimes. I find it hard to fully relax, but I’m becoming more aware of it.
- C.
  Occasionally. I notice moments of tension, but they don’t last long.
- D.
  Rarely. I feel mostly safe and can settle easily in familiar places.
- E.
  Not at all. I feel deeply at ease in my environment and within myself.
11.
Which areas of your life feel most emotionally heavy or overwhelming right now? (Select all that apply)
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  Balancing work with rest or creative flow
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  Maintaining nourishing relationships
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  Managing time, energy, and expectations
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  Navigating social interactions or overstimulation
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  Financial security and survival stress
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  Physical health or chronic fatigue
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  Feeling emotionally dysregulated or anxious
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  Feeling like you have to hold it all together
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  Carrying the weight of past experiences or trauma
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  Parenting, caregiving, or emotional labor
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  Personal healing, growth, or transformation
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  Self-worth, confidence, and inner criticism
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Where do you feel most in need of support, guidance, or gentle structure right now? (Select all that apply)
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  Tools to reduce stress without overwhelm
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  Feeling seen, supported, and not alone in this journey
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  Nourishing my body to support my emotions
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  Emotional processing and self-regulation techniques
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  Feeling more connected to my body through gentle movement
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  Building new habits without burnout
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  Improving focus, clarity, or mental fog
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  Sleep and rest that actually restores me
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  Calming my nervous system and finding emotional safety
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  Personal or spiritual growth that feels embodied
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  Cultivating deep, supportive relationships
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  Understanding and softening my inner critic

Quiz Outcomes

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Result: Hidden Wounds Unearthed
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Understanding the Unseen:You Feel Deeply Even When You Don’t Always Know WhyYou’ve been moving through life with a quiet unease while feeling things intensely, sensing more than you can explain. You might carry emotions that don’t quite make sense, or react in ways that seem bigger than the moment. These responses often trace back to hidden traumas and experiences your nervous system stored, even if your mind didn’t name them.For highly sensitive women, these wounds often live beneath the surface, shaping relationships, energy, boundaries, and self-perception. The world may not see them, but you feel them. And that matters.The Path to Healing:Uncovering hidden emotional patterns is not a sign of weakness, it’s a sign that you’re ready. Ready to step into a more grounded, clear, and compassionate relationship with your body, your story, and your sense of self.Healing isn’t about rushing. It’s about reclaiming your rhythm."The human soul doesn't want to be advised or fixed or saved. It simply wants to be witnessed — to be seen, heard, and companioned exactly as it is." - Parker J. PalmerEmpowerment Through Recovery: Proven Strategies for Deep Recovery1. Somatic Work: Support your body in feeling safe again. Slow, intentional movement and nervous system attunement help release held tension and restore inner calm.2. Gentle Breathwork: Learn breath patterns that don’t override, but listen, offering your system a chance to regulate without overwhelm.3. Trauma-Informed Therapy: Whether through a skilled therapist or a safe community like Loinnir, healing in relational space where you are truly seen, can be life-giving.About Nichola and Healing WildflowerHi, I’m Nichola Gois, founder of Healing Wildflower. I’m a trauma counselor dedicated to helping highly sensitive and empathic women navigate the challenges of burnout, stress, and hidden traumas that impact their emotional and physical well-being.My work is deeply rooted in both my personal and professional experience. Growing up during the conflicts in Northern Ireland, I faced life-threatening situations and emotional hardships from a young age. As a highly sensitive person myself, I often carried the weight of these experiences silently, becoming a source of strength for others while suppressing my own needs.These challenges inspired me to spend over 15 years studying trauma-informed practices, counseling, breathwork, subconscious rewiring, and mind-body healing. My mission is to guide other highly sensitive women toward resilience, peace, and a deeper understanding of their unique gifts.At Healing Wildflower, I blend cutting-edge neuroscience with intuitive, trauma-sensitive techniques to address hidden wounds, nervous system dysregulation, and the toll of overstimulation. Together, we’ll work toward uncovering and healing the layers of your past so you can feel more balanced, empowered, and connected to your inner light.Your Next StepsReady to explore your healing journey further? Here’s how we can begin:🌿 Join My Free Facebook Group: Connect with a community of highly sensitive women on similar paths. Inside, you’ll find tools like guided meditations, tapping, and stress-reducing exercises. You’ll also receive my free ebook on stress and resilience, offering insights to help you navigate life with greater ease.👉 Click here to join the group🌿 Explore Loinnir: Reclaiming Power, Peace, and the Parts You Buried to Survive: This program is designed to help you regulate your nervous system, release stored trauma, and create a fulfilling, purposeful life. 👉 Learn more hereP.S. Keep an eye on your inbox for more resources, tools, and guidance to help you heal hidden wounds and embrace your authentic self.With Love & GratitudeNicholaHealing Wildflower
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Result: Resilient Warrior
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Embracing the Battle:You've Survived with Strength. Now It's Time to Heal with GentlenessYou’ve moved through life with remarkable resilience, often holding space for others even while quietly carrying your own weight. You’ve learned to navigate challenges with inner strength but also, perhaps, with self-protection and suppressed emotion. That’s not weakness. That’s wisdom born from experience.Still, being the strong one can get heavy. And even resilient hearts need room to soften.Harnessing Inner Strength:What if your strength isn’t just in pushing through, but in learning to rest, to receive, to trust the wisdom of your own nervous system?This is an invitation to honour how far you’ve come… while allowing yourself to move from guardedness to groundedness. From surviving to gently thriving"Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars." - Khalil GibranProven Strategies for Conscious AwarenessHere are a few ways to deepen your healing and strengthen your connection to your authentic self:1. Somatic Healing Practices: Let your body feel safe again. Through breath, movement, and stillness, somatic work can help release the tension held in your muscles and heart.2. Healing Through Breathwork: Reconnect to your breath in a way that doesn’t override, but listens. Breathwork can bring your system out of fight-or-flight and into quiet restoration.3. Trauma-Informed Therapy: You don’t have to hold it all alone anymore. A trauma-aware guide or healing space like Loinnir can help you feel supported, safe, and seen, without pressure to perform.About Nichola and Healing WildflowerHi, I’m Nichola Gois, founder of Healing Wildflower. I’m a trauma counselor dedicated to helping highly sensitive and empathic women navigate the challenges of burnout, stress, and hidden traumas that impact their emotional and physical well-being.My work is deeply rooted in both my personal and professional experience. Growing up during the conflicts in Northern Ireland, I faced life-threatening situations and emotional hardships from a young age. As a highly sensitive person myself, I often carried the weight of these experiences silently, becoming a source of strength for others while suppressing my own needs.These challenges inspired me to spend over 15 years studying trauma-informed practices, counseling, breathwork, subconscious rewiring, and mind-body healing. My mission is to guide other highly sensitive women toward resilience, peace, and a deeper understanding of their unique gifts.At Healing Wildflower, I blend cutting-edge neuroscience with intuitive, trauma-sensitive techniques to address hidden wounds, nervous system dysregulation, and the toll of overstimulation. Together, we’ll work toward uncovering and healing the layers of your past so you can feel more balanced, empowered, and connected to your inner light.Your Next StepsReady to explore your healing journey further? Here’s how we can begin:🌿 Join My Free Facebook Group: Connect with a community of highly sensitive women on similar paths. Inside, you’ll find tools like guided meditations, tapping, and stress-reducing exercises. You’ll also receive my free ebook on stress and resilience, offering insights to help you navigate life with greater ease.👉 Click here to join the group🌿 Explore Loinnir: A Journey to Light and Transformation: This program is designed to help you regulate your nervous system, release stored trauma, and create a fulfilling, purposeful life. 👉 Learn more hereP.S. Keep an eye on your inbox for more resources, tools, and guidance to help you heal hidden wounds and embrace your authentic self.With Love & GratitudeNicholaHealing Wildflower
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Result: The Nurtured Soul
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Journey of Self-Compassion:You’ve Built a Gentle Refuge Within. Now It’s Time to Let It BreatheThere’s a quiet strength in how you’ve learned to care for yourself. You’ve created inner safety, a place to land when the world feels too loud. This nurturing presence is a gift to yourself and to others. It speaks to your wisdom, your sensitivity, and your depth.But even the most compassionate hearts need tending, too.Sometimes, the roles of “healer” or “caretaker” can quietly mask deeper fatigue or disconnect. This isn’t about doing more, it’s about expanding your sanctuary to include all of you: the soft, the uncertain, the still healing.Embracing Self-Love:This part of your path is about resting in your own presence. About remembering that you don’t need to hold it all perfectly to be whole. That nurturing can be reciprocal, your inner self caring for you, not just others."What happened to you does not define you. It's how you use your experiences to uplift yourself and others that truly matters." - Nichola Gois, Healing WildflowerPath to Inner Peace: Effective Strategies for Balanced LivingHere are some ways to continue nurturing your soul and deepening your connection to yourself:1. Grounding Practices: Gentle rituals like touching the earth, mindful stillness, or quiet creative play can anchor you into the now, where softness lives.2. Nervous System Regulation: Rather than managing stress, learn to attune to your body. Tools like EFT, co-regulation, or somatic sensing can help you honour what’s truly needed.3. Community and Connection: You don’t need to walk this with grace alone. Safe spaces like Loinnir can offer connection, resonance, and a reminder: you’re allowed to receive, too.About Nichola and Healing WildflowerHi, I’m Nichola Gois, founder of Healing Wildflower. I’m a trauma counselor dedicated to helping highly sensitive and empathic women navigate the challenges of burnout, stress, and hidden traumas that impact their emotional and physical well-being.My work is deeply rooted in both my personal and professional experience. Growing up during the conflicts in Northern Ireland, I faced life-threatening situations and emotional hardships from a young age. As a highly sensitive person myself, I often carried the weight of these experiences silently, becoming a source of strength for others while suppressing my own needs.These challenges inspired me to spend over 15 years studying trauma-informed practices, counseling, breathwork, subconscious rewiring, and mind-body healing. My mission is to guide other highly sensitive women toward resilience, peace, and a deeper understanding of their unique gifts.At Healing Wildflower, I blend cutting-edge neuroscience with intuitive, trauma-sensitive techniques to address hidden wounds, nervous system dysregulation, and the toll of overstimulation. Together, we’ll work toward uncovering and healing the layers of your past so you can feel more balanced, empowered, and connected to your inner light.Your Next StepsReady to explore your healing journey further? Here’s how we can begin:🌿 Join My Free Facebook Group: Connect with a community of highly sensitive women on similar paths. Inside, you’ll find tools like guided meditations, tapping, and stress-reducing exercises. You’ll also receive my free ebook on stress and resilience, offering insights to help you navigate life with greater ease.👉 Click here to join the group🌿 Explore Loinnir: A Journey to Light and Transformation: This program is designed to help you regulate your nervous system, release stored trauma, and create a fulfilling, purposeful life. 👉 Learn more hereP.S. Keep an eye on your inbox for more resources, tools, and guidance to help you heal hidden wounds and embrace your authentic self.With Love & GratitudeNicholaHealing Wildflower
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Result: The Evolving Seeker
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Quest for Answers:You're Not Just Searching, You're Remembering What You Already KnowYou’ve been on a sacred path of self-discovery, moved by a quiet inner pull to understand, heal, and grow. Your seeking isn’t shallow, it’s soulful. It often comes from lived pain, inherited patterns, or inner questions that wouldn’t stay quiet.You sense there’s more beneath the surface, and you’re right.Path of Enlightenment:Your curiosity is powerful, but healing doesn’t come from finding all the right answers. It comes from becoming more deeply present with yourself, your thoughts, your patterns, your wounds, and your wonder.The path forward is less about “doing” and more about allowing—letting your body, your emotions, and your subconscious speak."Your hardest times often lead to the greatest moments of your life. Keep going. Tough situations build strong people in the end." - Roy T. BennettEmbracing Positivity: Key Strategies for Lighter LivingHere are a few ways to bring balance, joy, and purpose to your journey:1. Subconscious Healing + Emotional Integration: Explore practices that go beneath the mind, like somatic inquiry, inner child reconnection, or subconscious recoding. These can gently rewire patterns you’ve outgrown.2. Joy as Regulation, Not Distraction: Choose activities that restore rather than perform, quiet walks, expressive movement, playful art, or nourishing stillness.2. Learning with Compassion, Not Pressure: Continue exploring books, circles, or workshops (like Loinnir) that honour both your depth and your need for rest, safety, and slowness.About Nichola and Healing WildflowerHi, I’m Nichola Gois, founder of Healing Wildflower. I’m a trauma counselor dedicated to helping highly sensitive and empathic women navigate the challenges of burnout, stress, and hidden traumas that impact their emotional and physical well-being.My work is deeply rooted in both my personal and professional experience. Growing up during the conflicts in Northern Ireland, I faced life-threatening situations and emotional hardships from a young age. As a highly sensitive person myself, I often carried the weight of these experiences silently, becoming a source of strength for others while suppressing my own needs.These challenges inspired me to spend over 15 years studying trauma-informed practices, counseling, breathwork, subconscious rewiring, and mind-body healing. My mission is to guide other highly sensitive women toward resilience, peace, and a deeper understanding of their unique gifts.At Healing Wildflower, I blend cutting-edge neuroscience with intuitive, trauma-sensitive techniques to address hidden wounds, nervous system dysregulation, and the toll of overstimulation. Together, we’ll work toward uncovering and healing the layers of your past so you can feel more balanced, empowered, and connected to your inner light.Your Next StepsReady to explore your healing journey further? Here’s how we can begin:🌿 Join My Free Facebook Group: Connect with a community of highly sensitive women on similar paths. Inside, you’ll find tools like guided meditations, tapping, and stress-reducing exercises. You’ll also receive my free ebook on stress and resilience, offering insights to help you navigate life with greater ease.👉 Click here to join the group🌿 Explore Loinnir: A Journey to Light and Transformation: This program is designed to help you regulate your nervous system, release stored trauma, and create a fulfilling, purposeful life. 👉 Learn more hereP.S. Keep an eye on your inbox for more resources, tools, and guidance to help you heal hidden wounds and embrace your authentic self.With Love & GratitudeNicholaHealing Wildflower
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Result: The Grounded Optimist
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Anchored in Positivity:You carry light in a world that often feels heavyYour ability to stay grounded and hopeful is one of your quiet superpowers. Through life’s challenges, you’ve found ways to anchor yourself in what’s possible, in what can be healed, in the beauty that still exists. This strength has likely supported others as much as it’s supported you.But even light needs rest. And even optimism deserves space to feel what’s real.Nurturing Hope:Hope is most powerful when it’s embodied, not just heldThere may be moments when your positivity has become a shield, protecting you from pain you didn’t yet have the capacity to process. That’s not a flaw—it’s a wise adaptation. Now, there’s an opportunity to soften into your own emotional truth and let your hope take deeper root."Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood." — Marie CurieHarnessing Joy: Essential Strategies for Vibrant Well-beingHere are a few ways to nurture your optimism and maintain a vibrant sense of balance:1. Connect with Nature: Let the earth hold some of what you carry. Being with trees, wind, or water, even for a few minutes, can reset your nervous system and bring you back to presence.2. Practice Embodied Gratitude: Go beyond a mental list. Feel into what your body experiences when you remember a kind word, a warm meal, or a quiet moment. Let gratitude be a sensation, not a task.3. Move Gently, Feel Deeply: Try movement that supports nervous system regulation and emotional release. Slow dance, gentle stretching, intuitive movement, whatever helps you reconnect to yourself without effort.About Nichola and Healing WildflowerHi, I’m Nichola Gois, founder of Healing Wildflower. I’m a trauma counselor dedicated to helping highly sensitive and empathic women navigate the challenges of burnout, stress, and hidden traumas that impact their emotional and physical well-being.My work is deeply rooted in both my personal and professional experience. Growing up during the conflicts in Northern Ireland, I faced life-threatening situations and emotional hardships from a young age. As a highly sensitive person myself, I often carried the weight of these experiences silently, becoming a source of strength for others while suppressing my own needs.These challenges inspired me to spend over 15 years studying trauma-informed practices, counseling, breathwork, subconscious rewiring, and mind-body healing. My mission is to guide other highly sensitive women toward resilience, peace, and a deeper understanding of their unique gifts.At Healing Wildflower, I blend cutting-edge neuroscience with intuitive, trauma-sensitive techniques to address hidden wounds, nervous system dysregulation, and the toll of overstimulation. Together, we’ll work toward uncovering and healing the layers of your past so you can feel more balanced, empowered, and connected to your inner light.Your Next StepsReady to explore your healing journey further? Here’s how we can begin:🌿 Join My Free Facebook Group: Connect with a community of highly sensitive women on similar paths. Inside, you’ll find tools like guided meditations, tapping, and stress-reducing exercises. You’ll also receive my free ebook on stress and resilience, offering insights to help you navigate life with greater ease.👉 Click here to join the group🌿 Explore Loinnir: A Journey to Light and Transformation: This program is designed to help you regulate your nervous system, release stored trauma, and create a fulfilling, purposeful life. 👉 Learn more hereP.S. Keep an eye on your inbox for more resources, tools, and guidance to help you heal hidden wounds and embrace your authentic self.With Love & GratitudeNicholaHealing Wildflower