What is your Shadow Story?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When I dream of my “perfect life”, I focus on:

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  • A.
    A cozy home and life far from cities and people.
  • B.
    Time and energy for close relationships.
  • C.
    Bringing long-held projects and goals to fruition.
• 2.
  In a Zombie Apocalypse my first priority would be:

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  • A.
    Gathering all my fur babies, family and loved ones together.
  • B.
    Stock-piling food and resources.
  • C.
    Executing a plan of escape to safer quarters.
• 3.
  In what area of your life would you say “The Universe DOES NOT Support Me?

  • A.
    Achieving goals.
  • B.
    Romantic relationships.
  • C.
    Personal heath and self-worth.
• 4.
  In my closest relationships I am the one:

  • A.
    Who knows what all the drama is about.
  • B.
    Who people confide in.
  • C.
    Who people go with relationship issues.
• 5.
  In my work and world experience I am most uncomfortable when:

  • A.
    I am the one who decides WHO is given the trust and access.
  • B.
    I am the one who decides WHAT requires trust to be accessed.
  • C.
    I am in roles of trust and access.
• 6.
  Fill in this sentence: “I do not feel ______ in my body."

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  • A.
    Confident.
  • B.
    Independent.
  • C.
    Safe.
• 7.
  I mostly lack confidence and capability in this area of my life:

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  • A.
    Relationships.
  • B.
    Self-care.
  • C.
    Bringing goals to fruition.
• 8.
  If I am guaranteed not to be found out, how do I behave when I encounter a bowl of unguarded deliciousness that says “Take one.”?

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  • A.
    I take as much as I can - what a great opportunity for me.
  • B.
    I take one.
  • C.
    I take a couple - there's plenty for everyone.
• 9.
  In what area of your life do you feel most strongly “I am on NOT on the right path”?

  • A.
    Life goals.
  • B.
    Relationships.
  • C.
    Health and self-care.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Ground

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  Congratulations! You’re scared to be in your body and don’t accept yourself as you are. This is good news.The shadow story is never about how “you’re broken”. The shadow story is about bringing your awareness to the false story you’re telling yourself that isn’t true, that has never been true. Your shadow story is covering up the truth of your worth and value as you are. This is never a truth that can be given from outside. Accepting yourself exactly as you are, right now, is the goal for most personal and spiritual self-development. This path is not to change yourself or make a list of what needs to be fixed and check them off like a home reno project. This path is to hold yourself in love, empathy and compassion for all the ways you rejected yourself in fear. Who are you without the shadow story of rejecting self as not good enough? Which of your gifts, talents and passions are the shadow story covering up with a false belief about separation and fear?
• 2.
  Connection

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  Congratulations! You struggle with healthy relationships and boundaries with others. This is great news. The shadow story isn’t about your failure to make a relationship work or how relationships are ultimately unfulfilling. The shadow story is a planted flag that points to how you have told ourself the story that unhealthy relationships and boundary issue are all you deserve. Boundary invasions and not accepting responsibility for emotional needs are the repeated pattern in your life, either by you or to you. The shadow story isn’t about pointing out your failures or how you’re “broken”. The shadow story is a loving friend who wants you to open your eyes to the healthy support and loving relationships that you deserve. What kind of nourishing and supportive relationships are the shadow story covering up with false beliefs about guilt and obligation?
• 3.
  Sovereignty

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  Congratulations! You struggle with the personal sovereignty needed to realize your goals and bring your ideas to fruition. This is fantastic news. The shadow story isn’t about proving that you’re “broken” or a “failure”. The shadow story is a bright and shining neon light pointing out how you need faithful personal ground, trust and independence in self to realize your dreams. The shadow story is the projected voice of doubt and lack of faith of others, which has nothing to do with you. The shadow story’s purpose is one of a supportive, faithful friend who is guiding you back to your own ground, your own worth, your own vision and faith in your ability. This is your life. These are your dreams for what it can be. When you assume your dreams and goals are with you to be realized, it changes how you approach resistance. What can you accomplish in your life without accepting the fear and doubt of the shadow story?