How Healthy Is Your Marriage?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  How do you prioritize your relationship with your spouse?

  • A.
    By ensuring we have daily check-ins and meaningful conversations or times together.
  • B.
    We try to connect at least once or twice a week.
  • C.
    We connect once or twice a month.
  • D.
    Other things (kids, jobs, situations) have taken priority right now.
• 2.
  How would you rate the romance in your marriage?

  • A.
    Non existent.
  • B.
    We occasionally go on dates or do romantic gestures.
  • C.
    We go on regular dates, flirt, and do small things to show each other our love.
  • D.
    We would like to be, but life is busy.
• 3.
  How do you resolve disagreements in your marriage?

  • A.
    Although there might be some heated disagreement or dissatisfaction, we are willing to eventually find a middle ground.
  • B.
    We maintain a respectful and open dialogue, actively listen to each other's perspectives, and work toward compromise and understanding.
  • C.
    We resort to harmful tactics, such as yelling or name-calling when resolving disagreements.
  • D.
    We tend to avoid conflicts or disagreements rather than addressing them.
• 4.
  How would you rate your spiritual intimacy?

  • A.
    Church is a regular part of our life. We often pray together and seek God's wisdom for our life decisions.
  • B.
    One of us is a Christian and/or has an active spiritual life while the other doesn't.
  • C.
    We're both Christians but don't regularly discuss our faith or go to church.
  • D.
    We're not religious.
• 5.
  How would you rate your emotional intimacy?

  • A.
    We have good understanding and empathy towards each other's emotions.
  • B.
    There is a lack of understanding and empathy towards each other's emotions.
  • C.
    We consistently engage in intimate conversations and freely share vulnerable feelings.
  • D.
    We occasionally engage in emotional connection, but it's uncomfortable.
• 6.
  How would you rate your sex life?

  • A.
    It's good, but we disagree on the frequency.
  • B.
    We have sex, but it lacks deep connection and intimacy.
  • C.
    Almost non-existent.
  • D.
    It's great! We enjoy deep intimacy regularly and are both satisfied.
• 7.
  How do you manage finances?

  • A.
    Only one of us handles the finances.
  • B.
    Many of our disagreements are due to how we spend our money.
  • C.
    We plan our budget together making decisions on how to spend and save our money.
  • D.
    We keep our finances separate and/or hidden from each other.
• 8.
  What do you do when you face a challenge in your marriage?

  • A.
    We spend quality time together to strengthen our bond and overcome it. We're not afraid to ask for help from a pastor, marriage counselor, or someone more knowledgeable.
  • B.
    We tend to ignore it. Sometimes it gets better, but usually it gets worse.
  • C.
    Try to talk it out.
  • D.
    Divorce is frequently threatened.
• 9.
  Do you feel there is transparency in your marriage?

  • A.
    No, which is a regular problem in our marriage.
  • B.
    We have open transparency most of the time.
  • C.
    Yes, we are teammates in everything and are open with each other.
  • D.
    We've learned there are some topics that are "off limits."

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Critical

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  At this level, a marriage becomes unhealthy and problematic. There may be a lack of trust and communication, and you might find yourselves in frequent conflicts. Negativity and criticism might outweigh positive interactions, leading to emotional distance and disconnection. However, this level of marriage can and will succeed with intervention to address underlying issues that work towards healing and rebuilding a healthier relationship.
• 2.
  Stagnant and Complacent

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  Your marriage is neither healthy nor unhealthy, but rather stuck in a state of complacency. You may have settled into a routine without necessarily growing or working on the relationship. While not necessarily toxic, it might lack passion, excitement, and personal development.
• 3.
  The Strivers

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  You are in a good marriage, demonstrating a strong foundation of trust and respect. You are able to openly express your thoughts and feelings and are willing to compromise and find solutions to any conflicts that arise. While you may face occasional challenges, you consistently put effort into nurturing your marriage.
• 4.
  Harmonious and Supportive

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  You have a healthy and positive marriage where both partners share a strong bond, effective communication, and mutual support. You strive towards common goals, celebrate each other's successes, and provide emotional stability and encouragement during challenging times.