Is Trauma Ruining Your Life?

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Quiz Questions

1.
It is my fault when someone gets angry with me.
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- A.
  Mostly not true
- B.
  Occasionally true
- C.
  Usually true
- D.
  Almost always true
2.
Other people’s feelings/needs are more important than mine.
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- A.
  Mostly not true
- B.
  Occasionally true
- C.
  Usually true
- D.
  Almost always true
3.
People will think I am too aggressive if I express my feelings/needs directly.
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- A.
  Mostly not true
- B.
  Occasionally true
- C.
  Usually true
- D.
  Almost always true
4.
I must be perfect so that others will love me and not abandon me.
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- A.
  Mostly not true
- B.
  Occasionally true
- C.
  Usually true
- D.
  Almost always true
5.
I avoid assuming a position of responsibility.
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- A.
  Mostly not true
- B.
  Occasionally true
- C.
  Usually true
- D.
  Almost always true
6.
I can’t let others get too close to me or my life will be consumed by their needs.
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- A.
  Mostly not true
- B.
  Occasionally true
- C.
  Usually true
- D.
  Almost always true
7.
I exaggerate my accomplishments when I meet someone new, so they will like me.
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  Mostly not true
- B.
  Occasionally true
- C.
  Usually true
- D.
  Almost always true
8.
I can’t admit to a mistake because I am afraid people might reject me if I did.
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- A.
  Mostly not true
- B.
  Occasionally true
- C.
  Usually true
- D.
  Almost always true
9.
I compare myself to others, because I feel either one-up or one-down in relationship to them.
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  Mostly not true
- B.
  Occasionally true
- C.
  Usually true
- D.
  Almost always true
10.
I can’t ask other people for help, even when I need it because they will think I am too needy.
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- A.
  Mostly not true
- B.
  Occasionally true
- C.
  Usually true
- D.
  Almost always true
11.
If people knew who I really am, they would not want to be with me.
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  Mostly not true
- B.
  Occasionally true
- C.
  Usually true
- D.
  Almost always true

Quiz Outcomes

1.
You Are Rocking This Life Thing
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Love Your LifeYour score suggests that you have a relatively healthy and balanced self-perception and interpersonal approach. Someone who scores like this likely has a strong sense of self-awareness, healthy self-esteem, and balanced approach to relationships and personal needs. You do not apear to have had big "T" trauma in your childhood or you have done a lot of work on yourself to be so self-aware and balanced. I hope you feel fabulous about yourself, even A-MAZING, and know how wonderful that is. If you don't, then it's possible you have some things that still need to be investigated and neurosculpted, but not sure a trauma group is necessary for that unless you know exactly what you have to work on. Then maybe and can't hurt.Carry on, girl.You still might be interested in the Inner Thrive Women's Wellness Group. Check it out below.
2.
You Are Moving Right Along
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Your scores suggest that you have experienced some degree of trauma or adverse experiences in early childhood that have influenced your beliefs about yourself and your behaviors with others. Your answers indicate a bit of complexity in your early life but you have figured out how to move forward and live your best life. These responses may indicate a bit of a need for further exploration and support to address and heal those past experiences that are still creating negative patterns in your life. Generally, you are doing very well and I recommend you acknowledge your growth and personal awareness. There may be some lingering issues from the past that you could work out in a group. It will not hurt to have the group support and be intentional in your wellness. Way to go.
3.
Hey, You Need More Support In Your Life
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Your score is not the highest, but it is up there and suggests you may be experiencing significant difficulties stemming from early childhood experiences. You may have a deeply ingrained pattern of prioritizing others' needs and emotions over your own, which may have developed as a survival mechanism to cope with abusive dynamics where your needs were neglected or invalidated. Your hyper-vigilance and fear of abandonment or anger could be a result of traumatic experiences of unpredictability or volatility in relationships, where you felt you had to constantly monitor your behavior to avoid triggering bad things. Your score also suggests that you may lean toward trying to be good or perfect, which could stem from a deep-seated fear of rejection or abandonment. Your answers indicate that conditional love or lack of approval in childhood, where you felt you had to meet impossible standards to earn love and acceptance are plaguing you. Accepting help may be hard for you due to feelings of unworthiness possibly resulting from experiences of neglect, but you do need help so click the button below to investigate how you might get it. You are not alone nor is this all hopeless by any means. Hang in there. You wellness is worth it.
4.
Okay, Girlfriend, Time To Get Serious About Healing
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Brace yourself. I know you were prepared for a high score and it might be a little overwhelming to read further. If you think it might trigger you, then skip it and go straight to the bottom of this page and click the green button. Life is hard enough without rubbing your nose in it. If you a just interested in seeing if this fits you, then read on with care. It seems you are deeply impacted by early experiences and that you are facing significant challenges in your everyday life. Below are some things that could be bothering you. Of course, this is a super long list and again might feel overwhelming to read. You can skip it and go straight for the help at the bottom of the page. Your high score indicates you might be challenged by:Internalizing blame and guilt for others' emotions and reactions.Prioritizing others' needs over her own.Fear of expressing herself directly due to concerns about being perceived as aggressive.Worrying about negative reactions when stating her feelings or needs.Hyper-vigilance to avoid triggering others' anger or abandonment.Sacrificing her own needs to maintain relationships.Striving for perfection to avoid rejection or abandonment.Dependency on others for decision-making.Reluctance to assert herself due to fear of retaliation or punishment.Seeking external validation for self-worth.Fear of negative consequences for expressing needs directly.Avoidance of responsibility due to lack of self-confidence.Limited problem-solving abilities due to learned helplessness.People-pleasing behavior to avoid rejection or abandonment.Preference for one-sided relationships to maintain connections.Feeling unworthy or inadequate if she needs to ask for support.Difficulty in self-awareness or identifying her own needs.Fear of intimacy and boundary-setting.Emotional confusion or disconnection as coping mechanisms.Exaggerating accomplishments for validation and acceptance.Fear of rejection based on authenticity.Impostor syndrome and fear of exposure.Reluctance to seek help due to fear of appearing needy.Feeling controlled by others' expectations.Fear of judgment or criticism based on intelligence.Avoidance of admitting mistakes due to fear of rejection.Reluctance to accept help due to feelings of unworthiness.Comparison to others for self-assessment.Sensitivity to acknowledgment and validation of accomplishments.Belief that she doesn't deserve love or acceptance.These responses indicate significant emotional distress and may suggest a need for professional support and therapy to address and heal from the effects of childhood trauma.You could use a good professional to help you. This group is probably not the best place to start your healing. If you have been in therapy for some time, then this wellness group may be just what you need to move you along further. Check it out. And, listen, you are worth every bit of help, support and kindness there is. Never forget that.