Will Your Love Last?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  Do you tend to shut down instead of working out relationship disagreements?

  • A.
    Rarely Ever
  • B.
    Sometimes
  • C.
    Most Times
• 2.
  Do you "one up" when your significant other tells you ways you can improve in the relationship? (ex: Well YOU don't...)

  • A.
    Rarely ever
  • B.
    Sometimes
  • C.
    Most times
• 3.
   Do you roll your eyes or use sarcasm when your partner speaks during a disagreement?

  • A.
    Rarely ever
  • B.
    Sometimes
  • C.
    Most times
• 4.
  When you’re upset with your partner, do you make generalizations about your partner’s character or abilities? (Ex: “You’re always so selfish”).

  • A.
    Rarely ever
  • B.
    Sometimes
  • C.
    Most times
• 5.
  You delay or avoid addressing important issues in your relationship?

  • A.
    Rarely ever
  • B.
    Sometimes
  • C.
    Most times
• 6.
  Do you find it difficult to apologize or admit mistakes in the relationship?

  • A.
    Rarely ever
  • B.
    Sometimes
  • C.
    Most times
• 7.
  Do you find yourself thinking that you are smarter or have more common sense than your partner?

  • A.
    Rarely ever
  • B.
    Sometimes
  • C.
    Most times
• 8.
  Do you feel that you frequently point out your partner's mistakes or shortcomings?

  • A.
    Rarely ever
  • B.
    Sometimes
  • C.
    Most times

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Stonewalling: Is Your Toxic Relationship Trait

  When things are good in your relationship, they're good. But when things go left you have a tendancy to show stonewalling behaviors. Stonewalling means that you withdraw from the conversation with your partner by shutting down, refusing to respond, or ending the discussion abruptly with humor or an insult. This behavior can make your partner feel abandoned, and make you appear not to care about their feelings and concerns. It leaves room for unaddressed issues that can stack and cause extreme emotional distance over time. When a person learns to become numb to the relationship due to this growing emotional distance it can be difficult to recover the relationship if this reoccurs without correction.Addressing and eliminating stonewalling can help you improve your relationship and reduce the risk of divorce or a lifetime of relationship misery.The reason this is so damaging to a relationship, is because stonewalling can make your partner feel unheard, that you do not care about how they've been impacted and that you do not care about the relationship.Stonewalling is one predictor of divorce.
• 2.
  Defensiveness: Is Your Toxic Relationship Trait

  When things are good in your relationship, they're good. But when things go left you have a tendancy to be defensive. This means that you tend to respond to disagreements by puting the attention back on your own needs/concerns instead of giving your partner the floor to share theirs. You may also call out your partner's flaws instead of taking responsibility for your part of the problem. The blame game escalates conflict and prevents resolution, getting you no where.Addressing and eliminating defensiveness can help you improve your relationship and reduce the risk of divorce (or a lifetime of relationship misery).The reason this is so damaging to a relationship, is because defensiveness can make your partner feel unheard and that you do not care about how they've been impacted by your actions. Defensiveness is one predictor of divorce.
• 3.
  Contempt: Is Your Toxic Relationship Trait

  When things are good in your relationship, they're good. But when things go left, you have a tendency to show contempt towards your partner. This means that you tend to respond to disagreements by showing a lack of respect for your partner, often through sarcasm, mockery, eye-rolling, hostile humor or a look of disgust. The reason this is so damaging to a relationship, is because contempt can make your partner feel small or that you believe you are superior to them. Contempt is considered the MOST significant predictor of divorce.
• 4.
  Criticism: Is Your Toxic Relationship Trait

  When things are good in your relationship, they're good. But when things go left, you have a tendancy to be critical towards your partner. This means that you tend to respond to disagreements by attacking your partner's character, personality or abilities rather than addressing a specific behavior or issue. You may make statements that imply something is inherently wrong with your partner. You tend to lose sight of attacking the problem instead of your partner.The reason this is so damaging to a relationship, is because constant criticism can make your partner feel like what they do will never be good enough or that only their mistakes are noticed but their efforts is continually overlooked. Criticism is one of the predictors of divorce.
• 5.
  Congrats! You don't display any of the 4 predictors of divorce in your relationship.

  Let's be real, nobody's perfect, but when it comes to the 4 toxic relationship traits that are predictors of divorce: stonewalling, defensivness, contempt and criticism, you show that you have developed great communication habits during disagreements.You likely have friends and family who are struggling in their relationships. It is likely connected to relationship heavy hitters mentioned above. Share your support for them. And don't forget to share this quiz. It can offer them much needed insight.
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