Do you experience feelings of "meanness" or guilt when you assert yourself or say no in a work-related context?
A.
Always, I can't shake off the feeling that I'm letting someone down.
B.
Sometimes, but only if I haven't met my own high standards.
C.
Rarely, I'm usually too caught up in others' issues to notice.
D.
Never, I'm too overwhelmed to even consider asserting myself.
E.
I don't experience this; I'm comfortable with setting boundaries.
2.
Are you afraid that setting boundaries or saying no will negatively impact your relationships or career?
A.
Yes, I worry about the consequences all the time.
B.
I'm not afraid, but I strive for perfection in all relationships.
C.
Not really, I'm more concerned with solving everyone else's problems.
D.
The thought doesn't cross my mind; I'm swamped with tasks.
E.
No, I believe in the positive power of healthy boundaries.
3.
Do you feel like your to-do list is never-ending, regardless of how much you accomplish in a day?
A.
Yes, and it's exhausting trying to please everyone.
B.
Absolutely, because it has to be perfect.
C.
My to-do list includes everyone else's tasks, so it's endless.
D.
My list is a mountain that's impossible to climb.
E.
No, I complete what's important and leave time for myself.
4.
Do you struggle to celebrate your achievements because you're always focused on the next goal or task?
A.
Yes, there's no time for celebration when others need me.
B.
Of course, nothing is ever good enough.
C.
I'm too busy helping others to think about my own achievements.
D.
I don't have achievements; I have pending tasks.
E.
I make it a point to celebrate my wins, big or small.
5.
Do you spend excessive time perfecting details that may not significantly impact outcomes?
A.
Yes, because I can't let anyone down.
B.
Always, the details have to be flawless.
C.
Sometimes, but I'm more focused on others' tasks.
D.
I don't have time for details, just the next task.
E.
No, I focus on what truly matters.
6.
Are you often overwhelmed by trying to meet everyone else's expectations before considering your own needs?
A.
Yes, everyone else's happiness is my priority.
B.
I'm overwhelmed by my own expectations, not others'.
C.
Absolutely, I'm the go-to person for everyone's issues.
D.
I'm just overwhelmed, period.
E.
No, I balance my needs with others' expectations.
7.
How often do you find yourself saying 'yes' when you really want to say 'no'?
A.
All the time, I'm afraid of what might happen when I say "no".
B.
Often, because saying 'no' might mean I've done less than my best.
C.
Frequently, because someone has to step up and help.
D.
Rarely, as I'm already buried under my own tasks.
E.
I say 'no' when necessary; it's part of my self-care.
8.
When faced with a new opportunity, what's your immediate reaction?
A.
I think about whether it will make others happy.
B.
I wonder if I can execute it perfectly.
C.
I consider if it will help someone else before myself.
D.
I worry about how it will add to my workload.
E.
I evaluate if it aligns with my goals and boundaries.
9.
What's your approach to handling criticism?
A.
I take it to heart and try harder to please.
B.
I use it to perfect my work even more.
C.
I often end up taking on more to prove I can handle it.
D.
It's just another thing that overwhelms me.
E.
I consider it constructively within the context of my boundaries.
10.
How do you prioritize your daily tasks?
A.
I prioritize others' needs above my own.
B.
I focus on what needs to be done perfectly.
C.
I make sure everyone else is taken care of first.
D.
I try to tackle the most pressing tasks, but it's a losing battle.
E.
I balance my tasks with time for self-care.
Quiz Outcomes
1.
People Pleasing
You are trying to keep your boss happy, your kids happy, your spouse happy, and your needs inevitably are last on the list. You are afraid to say "no" and always say yes to every request.
2.
Perfectionism
Impossibly high standards & high attention to detail are running you into the ground.
3.
Over Helping
Picking up the problems and responsibilities of others leaves your needs last on the list and likely to be forgotten
4.
Too busy
Overachieving, Too Busy all of the time, Never ending checklist and you never pause to acknowledge today’s wins before you are chasing down the next “To Do”
5.
Serene Success
Congratulations! You have healthy boundaries and are enjoying the success you've created in your life
