Codependency Quiz

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When my partner is upset, I usually…

  • A.
    drop everything to fix it, even if I’m exhausted.
  • B.
    give them space and check in later.
  • C.
    feel anxious until I know they’re okay.
• 2.
  If my partner seems distant, my first thought is…

  • A.
    I have to figure out what’s going on and make it better.
  • B.
    Did I do something wrong?
  • C.
    They probably just need some time alone.
• 3.
  When I try to express my needs, I usually…

  • A.
    hesitate, second-guess, or water them down.
  • B.
    keep quiet, because I don’t want to rock the boat.
  • C.
    share them calmly, even if it feels a little uncomfortable.
• 4.
  I feel most responsible for…

  • A.
    My partner’s moods, at least some of the time.
  • B.
    Pretty much everyone’s feelings, all the time.
  • C.
    My own emotions and well-being.
• 5.
  When conflict comes up, I…

  • A.
    avoid it completely or blow up after holding it in too long.
  • B.
    try to smooth it over quickly so it’s done.
  • C.
    can stay with it and work through it.
• 6.
  When it comes to making decisions in my relationship, I usually…

  • A.
    defer to what my partner wants, even if it’s not what I want.
  • B.
    try to compromise, but often second-guess if I’m being “too much.”
  • C.
    consider both of our needs and trust the choice we make together.
• 7.
  If my partner doesn’t meet my need…

  • A.
    I feel rejected, unworthy, and spiral.
  • B.
    I can usually find other ways to meet it.
  • C.
    I feel hurt and hope they’ll notice eventually.
• 8.
  Most of the time in my relationship, I feel…

  • A.
    balanced and connected.
  • B.
    exhausted, anxious, or stuck.
  • C.
    a mix of love and resentment.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  You’ve Got Some Codependent Tendencies (But They’re Not Running the Show)

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  Most of the time I’m fine… but why do I still catch myself people-pleasing or holding back?I see you, love. Most of the time you feel pretty solid, but every now and then you notice yourself shrinking a little—saying yes when you mean no, softening your needs, or carrying the weight of how someone else feels.Those are early signs of codependency. It’s when your self-worth gets tangled up in how others feel about you— something most of us pick up in childhood when love felt tied to keeping people happy or comfortable. It can look like:Small compromises of your boundaries to avoid tension.Feeling a little too responsible for someone else’s emotions.Hesitating to share your needs to “keep the peace.”Hi, my name is Alyssa and in my 10+ year relationship, we faced the same dysfunctional patterns, even ending it at one point. It wasn’t until I addressed the root of my own issues and stopped placing all the blame on my partner that we began to heal and enjoy each other again.The good news is that these patterns aren’t running your life. And because you’re already aware of them, you can start shifting them before they grow bigger.If you are ready to address and heal the root of these tendencies, then you are in the right place. I have taught the thousands of people in our community the way out of codependency so that you can experience more peace and connection in your relationship.That’s why I created my free Shadow Work + Inner Child Guide. It’ll help you spot where these old habits sneak in, soothe the parts of you that feel unsafe, and practice meeting your needs with confidence.
• 2.
  Codependency Is Sneaking Into Your Relationship More Than You’d Like

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  You love deeply, but sometimes it leaves you tired, anxious, and unsure of yourself.I see you, babe. You’re showing up with so much love, but it often leaves you tired, anxious, and questioning yourself. Boundaries feel hard, guilt creeps in, and you might notice your relationships leaning one-sided.Signs you might notice:Feeling guilt or anxiety when you try to set a boundary.A strong urge to “fix” or “save” your partner when they’re upset.Difficulty honoring your needs because everyone else’s feel more urgent.This is codependency showing up in your day-to-day. It’s when your self-worth gets tangled up in someone else— when a delayed text or a partner’s mood can make you spiral into self-doubt. It often starts in childhood, when love felt tied to how well you managed others’ emotions. Back then, it kept you safe. But now, it leaves you drained and resentful.Hi, my name is Alyssa and in my 10+ year relationship, we faced the same dysfunctional patterns, even ending it at one point. It wasn’t until I addressed the root of my own issues and stopped placing all the blame on my partner that we began to heal and enjoy each other again.The good news is that these patterns aren’t permanent. Once you learn to separate old wounds from what’s really happening, you’ll start feeling more calm, grounded, and connected in your relationship.If you are ready to address and heal the root of these tendencies, then you are in the right place. I have taught the thousands of people in our community the way out of codependency so that you can experience more peace and connection in your relationship.That’s why I created my free Shadow Work + Inner Child Guide. It’ll help you:Uncover the roots of the patterns keeping you stuckBreak the guilt + resentment cycleBuild the self-trust you’ve been cravingThe shadow work prompts you'll get are small shifts that create huge changes when explored with curiousity.
• 3.
  Codependency Is Running the Show Right Now

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  No matter how much I give, it never feels like enough— and I’m exhausted.I see you babe, and I know how heavy this feels. Right now, it probably feels like you’re living on an emotional rollercoaster— anxiety, guilt, resentment, overthinking, repeat. You love hard, but it’s draining, and it feels like no matter what you do it’s never enough.You might notice:Feeling deep guilt or anxiety when you focus on your own needs.Burnout or resentment from always putting others first.People-pleasing on autopilot and struggling to hold boundaries.This is what codependency looks like when it’s really ingrained. It happens when your self-worth gets tied to how others feel about you— when their moods or responses dictate your value. Most of us learned this young, in homes where love or safety felt tied to keeping others happy. Back then it kept you safe, but today it leaves you stuck in painful, lopsided dynamics.And when your relationship is stuck in this dynamic, no one wins.Hi, my name is Alyssa and in my 10+ year relationship, we faced the same dysfunctional patterns, even ending it at one point. It wasn’t until I addressed the root of my own issues and stopped placing all the blame on my partner that we began to heal and enjoy each other again.But you need to know, you are not broken, and you are not destined to stay in this cycle. As much as it might hurt to hear this, healing codependency doesn’t start with your partner— it starts with you. When you turn inward and tend to the parts of yourself that feel unsafe, everything shifts. I’ve been where you are, and when I started doing this work, my relationship transformed completely—not because my partner suddenly “did the work,” but because I did mine.If you are ready to address and heal the root of these tendencies, then you are in the right place. I have taught the thousands of people in our community the way out of codependency so that you can experience more peace and connection in your relationship.That’s why I created my free Shadow Work + Inner Child Guide. Inside, you’ll find practices to:Uncover the wounds driving your codependent cycles.Break out of the guilt–resentment loop.Build self-trust so you can feel grounded and safe in love again.You’ll even get powerful journal prompts to help you start right away.