Find out what thinking patterns get in your way

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  What’s your favorite way to socialise?

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    I’m a bit of a party animal. I love a night out dancing with friends… the more the merrier!
  • B.
    Once a year I host a perfectly curated gathering with all the right people. Otherwise I don’t socialise much
  • C.
    I love meeting new people and learning about their interesting lives.
  • D.
    I love a night in with just a couple of my favourite people sharing snacks.
• 2.
  What would your friends say are your best personality traits?

  • A.
    Loyal, sceptical, rational.
  • B.
    Helpful, generous, caring.
  • C.
    Intelligent, productive, accomplished.
  • D.
    Confident, thoughtful, hard working.
• 3.
  How would you describe your closest relationships?

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    I worry that I’m way out of my league.
  • B.
    I have a few close friends but I tend to overthink everything… it’s exhausting.
  • C.
    I love all my people! I want to hug them and help them and show them love all the time!
  • D.
    I have an amazing posse of high achievers, we’re constantly outdoing each other!
• 4.
  Which mind chatter tends to dominate your thoughts?

  • A.
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    I gravitate to mistakes of the past, it’s super annoying
  • B.
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    I fixate on decisions until I know every detail
  • C.
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    I’m always thinking about what I can do for others but put myself at the bottom of the list
  • D.
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    I often feel like I don’t fit in but I’m pretty good at faking it
• 5.
  Which superhero do you secretly admire?

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    Kitty Forman from That 70’s Show. Always ready with brownies for the bake sale, and eager to help a friend in need, Kitty sometimes struggles to feel seen and appreciated by her husband, the ever-cranky Rhett.
  • B.
    Mike Ross from Suits. You’re a super gifted person with a lot to offer, but you tend to just go along with what’s easy instead of working hard to find the right path for yourself.
  • C.
    Amy Farrah Fowler-Cooper from Big Bang Theory. Cerebral almost to a fault, you have your fun and whimsical side that you only let those closest to you see. Tiara, anyone?
  • D.
    Tony Stark of Ironman fame. A little moody but always ready to kick some serious butt and perceptive enough to see people’s shortcomings.
• 6.
  What area of life do you struggle with most?

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    I sometimes feel unappreciated, which is crazy, because I do so much for others.
  • B.
    I really have a hard time opening up and trusting others. But then, I also feel like I’m not always open with myself.
  • C.
    I’m not sure anyone actually sees the real me.
  • D.
    I sometimes have a hard time letting my heart lead the way in my friendships. I’m always so caught up in my head.
• 7.
  What, if anything, makes you resentful?

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    I wouldn’t say I’m resentful but sometimes I feel unappreciated.
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    I struggle with jealousy when it seems like my friends are moving forward easily in life and I’m stuck.
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    It drives me crazy when other people at work get all the credit when it feels like I’m doing the heavy lifting!
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    I really resent people giving me advice. I mean it’s not like they have it all together, right?

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Your limiting mindset is... Risk Aversion

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  Risk-averse individuals tend to prioritise safety and stability over taking chances, often leading them to avoid situations that could result in uncertainty or potential failure. This cautious approach can manifest in various aspects of life, including career choices, financial investments, and personal relationships. While being risk-averse can help in making prudent decisions and maintaining a sense of security, it can also hinder growth and opportunities for innovation. Such individuals may miss out on experiences that involve calculated risks, ultimately limiting their potential for success and personal fulfilment. Additionally, this aversion can foster anxiety about change or new endeavours, making it challenging to navigate the complexities of life and adapt to evolving circumstances.We all need to undertake risk assessments in things that we do. But sometimes we can risk assess ourselves out of situations unnecessarily or out of fear of things going wrong. Not everything goes according to plan but we often learn the most from those situations and experience the most growth as a person. This in turn grows our self-confidence and sense of self-worth. We also learn to trust our own judgement and feel more confident in trying out new things.How do you know if risk aversion is really what you should focus on in coaching?Which boxes do you tick?Do you…☑️ Have a difficult time making decisions☑️ Would rather have others make decisions for you and have a difficult time committing☑️ Spend excessive time analysing potential outcomes and consequences before making decisions, leading to paralysis by analysis.☑️ Tend to choose perceived stable and secure options, such as jobs or investments, even if they offer limited growth potential.☑️ Experience a heightened fear of making mistakes or facing negative outcomes, often resulting in procrastination or indecision.☑️ Have difficulty adapting to new situations or environments, often feeling uncomfortable with transitions or transformations.☑️ Over reliance on the opinions of others before making decisions.☑️ Worry more about the potential regret of a decision than the possible benefits, which can lead to missed opportunities.☑️ Reluctance to try new activities or take on challenges that involve uncertainty, preferring familiar routines.☑️Do others get frustrated slowness to make decisions☑️ Frequently second guess yourself☑️ Dwell on your mistakes☑️ Compare yourself to others☑️ Silence your intuitionIf you check even 3 of these boxes, then chances are you doubt yourself enough that it’s holding you back, and it might even be damaging your relationships and ability to take advantage of opportunities (or even see opportunities as that) as they present themselves. It might be holding you back at work, getting a promotion or finishing projects. You may miss deadlines."There are risks and costs to action. But they are far less than the long-range risks of comfortable inaction.." — John F. KennedyHOW CAN I HELP?We are all on a life rollercoaster. It can be really uncomfortable and confusing. On the one hand you know you are a really competent and resourceful person who can manage things. But then comes along the self-doubt chatting away in your head talking you out of doing things, just in case it goes wrong and then the anxiety takes over. Whilst this can be valid at times, it is not always valid and can get in the way of you doing the things you would really love to try out. Are you ready to learn how to believe in yourself and your own judgement?You are in the right place. My coaching is where you will find support, encouragement and guidance that will help you to grow your confidence in a sustainable way. Be that one to one coaching, self study programmes (coming soon) or group programmes (also coming soon).There’s a present in your inbox! I have sent you a recording that helps you to think about what it would be like to make a change versus not make a change. I hope that it might help and would love to hear what you think.Options to connect with me:go to my website contact pageGet to know me on SUBSTACK (lots of free stuff to read and listen to)Follow me on InstagramI am not a hard sell coach and so I won't send you 300 emails a day, I hate all that too. You have signed up for my newsletter, which goes out about once a month. When I have new programmes available you will be the first to hear about them. It takes a long time to create them, so it won't be that often!
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  Your limiting mindset is... Perfectionism 

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  Perfectionism is a mindset where individuals strive for the perfect outcome, and set extremely high standards for themselves. They can sometimes expect perfection from other people. It often involves a fear of making mistakes, leading to self-criticism and sometimes procrastination to avoid perceived failure. While it can drive excellence, perfectionism may also create stress and hinder productivity by focusing too much on minor details. It is very common for a perfectionist to say, oh I am not perfect and/or believe that. That can be because you set your standards so high, no one on the planet could hit them. So of course, it goes to without saying you would not see yourself as being perfect.You may be fearful of letting go of those high standards, as you see it positive and protective trait. It might feel like some kind of emotional safety but conversely you feel anxious all the time. You've more than proven your skills at delivering excellence, but you’re starting to feel a bit like you're riding a train to burn out land. You tend to focus on perceived 'failures' rather than successes. For someone who has tiled a wall with 300 tiles, they will only notice the one corner of one tile that is not quite flush. Not something anyone else would notice. You would not be pleased or feel a sense of satisfaction with the other 299 perfect tiles.It is exhausting looking at life through this window.How could self-esteem coaching help you?How many red flags do you check…🚩 Find it difficult to approach tasks unless you know you can do it perfectly leading to procrastination.🚩 View the end product as the most important part of any undertaking.🚩 Trouble calling something finished, or take an excessive amount of time, until it’s done to impossible standards.🚩Take an excessive amount of time to complete a task that does not typically take others long to complete.🚩 You’re exhausted, even though you don’t feel like you didn’t accomplish anything."Perfection is the enemy of progress." — Winston ChurchillHOW CAN I HELP?We are all on a life rollercoaster. It can be really uncomfortable and confusing. On the one hand you know you are a really competent and resourceful person who can manage things. But then comes along the self-doubt chatting away in your head talking you out of doing things, just in case it goes wrong and is not up to a standard you perceive is ok. This creates anxiety and makes you doubt yourself. Your self-esteem continues to plummet as you feel a failure all the time even when others say you are amazing. You feel less and less confident.Are you ready to learn how to believe in yourself and to be able to set different boundaries in relation to achievement, depending on what it is? Not to do a rubbish job, but to be able to be proud of what you have done and enjoy the journey to get there? See it as learning rather than "evidence" of constant failure.You are in the right place. My coaching is where you will find support, encouragement and guidance that will help you to grow your confidence in a sustainable way. Be that one to one coaching, self study programmes (coming soon) or group programmes (also coming soon).There’s a present in your inbox! I have sent you a recording that helps you to think about what it would be like to make a change versus not make a change. I hope that it might help and would love to hear what you think.Options to connect with me:go to my website contact pageGet to know me on SUBSTACK (lots of free stuff to read and listen to)Follow me on InstagramI am not a hard sell coach and so I won't send you 300 emails a day, I hate all that too. You have signed up for my newsletter, which goes out about once a month. When I have new programmes available you will be the first to hear about them. It takes a long time to create them, so it won't be that often!
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  Your limiting mindset is... Imposter Syndrome

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  Imposter syndrome is a psychological pattern where individuals doubt their accomplishments and fear being exposed as a "fraud," despite evidence of their competence and success. Those experiencing it often attribute their achievements to luck or external factors rather than their own skills and hard work. This self-doubt can lead to anxiety, stress, and a reluctance to pursue new opportunities, as they fear they won't measure up to expectations.Imposter syndrome can be a silent, heavy burden that keeps talented, capable individuals from reaching their true potential. When plagued by self-doubt, people often discount their achievements, fearing they’ll be “found out” as frauds, even when they’re genuinely skilled. This mindset limits personal and professional growth, causing people to shy away from opportunities, avoid taking risks, or hesitate to voice their ideas. Constantly battling feelings of inadequacy can also lead to high stress, burnout, and low self-esteem, creating a cycle of underperformance that reinforces those imposter feelings. Ultimately, imposter syndrome robs people of the confidence and joy they deserve in their work and life.Tick some boxes with me.Do you:☑️ Have difficulty with accepting and/or believing compliments☑️ Feel that you have not been successful, it was just luck or timing, or other people's help rather than your own skills or efforts.☑️ Never really happy with things you have done or accomplished☑️ Feel you could have always done a bit more, done a bit better☑️ Focus on career, relationships, and success, instead of yourself☑️ The word 'mistake' and 'failure' make you break out in a sweat☑️ Check things for mistakes over and over again☑️Take a long time to complete tasks ☑️Procrastinate☑️Find it difficult to complete tasks on time or at all"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work" - Thomas Edision (one of my favourite quotes!).HOW CAN I HELP?We are all on a life rollercoaster. It can be really uncomfortable and confusing. On the one hand you know you are a really competent and resourceful person who can manage things. But then comes along the self-doubt chatting away in your head talking you out of doing things, just in case it goes wrong and then the anxiety takes over. Whilst this can be valid at times, it is not always valid and can get in the way of you doing the things you would really love to try out. Are you ready to learn how to believe in yourself and your own judgement?You are in the right place. My coaching is where you will find support, encouragement and guidance that will help you to grow your confidence in a sustainable way. Be that one to one coaching, self study programmes (coming soon) or group programmes (also coming soon).There’s a present in your inbox! I have sent you a recording that helps you to think about what it would be like to make a change versus not make a change. I hope that it might help and would love to hear what you think.Options to connect with me:go to my website contact pageGet to know me on SUBSTACK (lots of free stuff to read and listen to)Follow me on InstagramI am not a hard sell coach and so I won't send you 300 emails a day, I hate all that too. You have signed up for my newsletter, which goes out about once a month. When I have new programmes available you will be the first to hear about them. It takes a long time to create them, so it won't be that often!
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  Your limiting mindset is... People Pleasing

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  Supporting others is your calling in life. You seem to give endlessly, but sometimes you’re left feeling stretched a bit thin, and maybe even unappreciated, unheard and unseen.People-pleasing can lead to several significant disadvantages, primarily centred around the neglect of one’s own needs and feelings. Individuals who prioritise pleasing others often sacrifice their own desires, leading to resentment and frustration over time. This behaviour can result in a lack of authentic relationships, as connections may become superficial and based on approval rather than genuine understanding. Additionally, constant people-pleasing can drain emotional energy, causing stress and burnout, and ultimately hinder personal growth by preventing individuals from setting boundaries and asserting themselves. As a result, the pursuit of external validation can overshadow one's true identity, leaving a lingering sense of emptiness and dissatisfaction.As a loving, kind and supportive person, it’s easy for others to take advantage of your generous heart. But it is not fair that you are not able to get your needs met and be able to set healthy boundaries you feel proud of rather than anxiety and fear stricken by.Are you guilty of being a chronic people pleaser?Let’s tick some boxes!If you:☑️ Experience feelings of worthlessness or inadequacy, relying on external validation for self-worth.☑️ Consistently putting others’ needs before your own, leading to feelings of resentment or burnout.☑️ Are always the first to volunteer, even if you’re too busy☑️ Frequently saying “sorry” even in situations where an apology isn’t necessary, reflecting a lack of confidence.☑️ Know you deserve better but setting boundaries feels too scary and anxiety provoking☑️ Feel like you can’t do anything right☑️Fear disapproval and worry excessively about what others think and seek their approval to feel validated.☑️Taking on more responsibilities than you can handle to please others, resulting in overwhelm and stress and resentment.☑️Feel confused why you do so much for others who do very little in return for you ☑️ Going to great lengths to keep the peace, often at the expense of addressing your issues or feelings.If you tick a few of those boxes, then some support around why you find it hard to set boundaries and tools to be able to might be helpful to you.“If you try to please all, you please none.” — AesopHOW CAN I HELP?We are all on a life rollercoaster. It can be really uncomfortable and confusing. On the one hand you know you are kind, thoughtful and empathetic. But then comes along the self-doubt chatting away in your head talking you out of saying no to others, even when you know they are asking too much or do nothing in return for your kindness. You may feel resentful but also feel that you don't deserve others to give back. Are you ready to learn how work out who are the keepers in your life and how you can say no without feeling too bad about it?You are in the right place. My coaching is where you will find support, encouragement and guidance that will help you to grow your confidence in a sustainable way. Be that one to one coaching, self study programmes (coming soon) or group programmes (also coming soon).There’s a present in your inbox! I have sent you a recording that helps you to think about what it would be like to make a change versus not make a change. I hope that it might help and would love to hear what you think.Options to connect with me:go to my website contact pageGet to know me on SUBSTACK (lots of free stuff to read and listen to)Follow me on InstagramI am not a hard sell coach and so I won't send you 300 emails a day, I hate all that too. You have signed up for my newsletter, which goes out about once a month. When I have new programmes available you will be the first to hear about them. It takes a long time to create them, so it won't be that often!