The Shadow Self Assessment

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When someone criticizes you, how do you usually react?

  • A.
    I feel threatened and often react defensively or with a strong emotion.
  • B.
    I feel uncomfortable but try to understand their point of view.
  • C.
    I consider their criticism and use it as an opportunity to grow.
• 2.
  How often do you find yourself doing things you secretly dislike?

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  • A.
    Very often; I struggle to say no even when I don’t want to do something.
  • B.
    Sometimes; it depends on the situation and who is asking.
  • C.
    Rarely; I am usually honest with myself and others about my preferences.
• 3.
  How do you feel about exploring your darker thoughts or emotions?

  • A.
    Uncomfortable and avoidant; I’d rather not think about them.
  • B.
    Curious but apprehensive; it’s daunting but necessary.
  • C.
    Open and willing; I believe understanding them is crucial for my growth.
• 4.
  When do you feel most authentic or true to yourself?

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  • A.
    I’m not sure; I often feel like I’m playing a role.
  • B.
    In comfortable and familiar situations with things and people I know
  • C.
    In all aspects of my life, I strive to be genuine and true to my values.
• 5.
  Do you find yourself criticizing or judging others in your mind?

  • A.
    Yes, I often find fault with others or judge them.
  • B.
    Sometimes, but I try not to dwell on these thoughts.
  • C.
    Rarely; I try to see the reasons behind people’s actions and show empathy.
• 6.
  What happens when you face a personal failure?

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  • A.
    I beat myself up about it and dwell on the negative consequences.
  • B.
    I feel bad for a while but try to move past it eventually.
  • C.
    I see it as a learning experience and an opportunity for growth.
• 7.
  How well do you think you know yourself?

  • A.
    Not very well; I often feel confused or lost about who I really am.
  • B.
    Somewhat well; I have some understanding but know there’s more to discover.
  • C.
    Very well; I have spent a lot of time introspecting and understanding my deeper motivations.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  You are currently UNINTEGRATED

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  You have little awareness of your shadow self. Your unconscious parts remain unexplored, which may lead to repeated patterns of behaviour that you do not understand. Life can feel confusing because reactions to various situations might seem disproportionate or unexpected. You might frequently encounter personal and interpersonal conflicts without clear reasons, attributing the challenges to external factors rather than any inner unresolved issues.Please do not distress - there is help below if you are ready - please read on.⚠️ In this stage you may feel the following ⚠️❌ You feel confused about your emotional reactions❌ You have difficulty understanding why the same negative patterns happen in your life ❌ You have relationship issues with no insight into the cause of them❌ You feel stuck, lost or blocked in life without knowing why 🔥If you "level up" to the next stage of AWAKENING, you will get the following benefits 🔥✔️ Increased self-awareness, leading to a better understanding of personal motives and reactions.✔️ Initial steps towards emotional intelligence, which can improve relationships and personal decision-making.✔️ Reduced confusion about personal behaviours as awareness grows.Sounds great, but HOW do you get there??🧠 To "level up" to the next stage of AWAKENING, you must do the following 🧠✅ Begin journaling or using other self-reflection tools to track feelings and reactions.✅ Engage in mindfulness practices to increase awareness of the present moment and one's reactions.✅ Seek feedback from close friends or family about patterns they might observe.
• 2.
  You are in AWAKENING

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  You have started to recognize that there is a shadow self. You may have started to notice that certain patterns, emotional responses, or interactions in your life recur in ways that suggest a deeper underlying issue. Although, you may not currently fully engage with these aspects. Life in this stage involves moments of introspection and curiosity, but with a significant distance still to cover in understanding these deeper layers.Welcome to the journey - read below for more help with this process :). ⚠️ In this stage you may feel the following ⚠️❌ You feel overwhelmed by the realization that there is much about oneself that is unknown.❌ Anxiety about what uncovering these unknown aspects might reveal.❌ You feel some resistance to acknowledging less favourable traits or past actions.❌ You know self-improvement will help you a lot, but it feels like a lot to fix 🔥If you "level up" to the next stage of EXPLORATION, you will get the following benefits 🔥✔️ Enhanced insight into personal behavioural patterns and their origins.✔️ A stronger sense of you being the CREATOR of your life, which gives you confidence✔️ The ability to anticipate reactions and manage situations more effectively - no more emotional outbursts!Sounds great, but HOW do you get there??🧠 To "level up" to the next stage of EXPLORATION, you must do the following 🧠✅ Educate oneself about the "shadow" and how it controls our lives.✅ Start acknowledging and noting down situations where the shadow might be influencing behaviour (Hint: it's your triggers, jealousies and judgements of others)✅ Consider professional help like coaching or therapy to guide the initial understanding and acceptance of these hidden aspects
• 3.
  You are in EXPLORATION

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  You have actively started delving into your shadow, identifying specific traits or past experiences that you may have ignored or suppressed - congrats! You may have experienced a life challenge recently or not long ago that triggered a deeper self-examination. With this, you might start connecting your behaviours and reactions to unrecognized fears or desires. Life can become a bit turbulent as this exploration can unearth discomfort, but it also brings a greater sense of self-awareness.Hold on tight - because the joy found through growth has just begun. Keep reading below :)⚠️ In this stage you may feel the following ⚠️❌ You may be feeling discomfort and emotional pain as neglected aspects of the self come to light.❌ You may be questioning your self-identity as new truths are uncovered about yourself.❌ You may feel lost because you do not know the next "correct" direction to go in your life❌ You wish life was simple like it used to be and may wish it went back to before 🔥If you "level up" to the next stage of CONFRONTATION, you will get the following benefits 🔥✔️ Deeper emotional resilience as one learns to confront and process difficult truths.✔️ Increased empathy and understanding for oneself and others.✔️ Clarity of purpose and values as hidden parts of the self are revealed.Sounds great, but HOW do you get there??🧠 To "level up" to the next stage of CONFRONTATION, you must do the following 🧠✅ Dive deeper into personal history and trauma to uncover sources of current behaviour and feelings.✅ Engage in creative activities like art, writing, meditation, dream analysis or breathwork to express and explore unconscious thoughts.✅ Begin discussing these discoveries in a safe space, such as with a coach, therapist or a supportive group.
• 4.
  You are in CONFRONTATION

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  You are self-aware and are now facing your shadow aspects directly, dealing with the challenges and conflicts these aspects bring into your life. This might involve acknowledging harmful behaviours, toxic relationships, or self-sabotaging patterns and taking steps to change these dynamics. Life during this stage is about overcoming internal conflicts and can often feel like an intense battle with oneself.How do we end the battle? Does it ever end? Do we ever "win" this battle of self-development - read on.⚠️ In this stage you may feel the following ⚠️❌ You have difficulty in facing the harsh truths about your flaws and making necessary life changes.❌ You may be experiencing conflicts with others as you begin to change your beliefs or behaviours.❌ You experience inner turmoil as you re-create your identity and form new habits 🔥If you "level up" to the next stage of ACCEPTANCE, you will get the following benefits 🔥✔️ Peace with oneself by accepting all aspects of the personality.✔️ Greater harmony in personal relationships through understanding and integration of the shadow - you become magnetic.✔️ Reduction in internal resistance and struggle, leading to smoother emotional processing.Sounds great, but HOW do you get there??🧠 To "level up" to the next stage of ACCEPTANCE, you must do the following 🧠✅ Actively work on changing behaviours and thought patterns identified as detrimental - more action, less thinking✅ Set practical goals for addressing these shadow aspects in daily life (hint: facing fears regularly)✅ Engage in conflict resolution and assertiveness training to better manage interpersonal dynamics influenced by the shadow - no more hiding from conflict!
• 5.
  You are in ACCEPTANCE

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  You are in the stage of embracing and accepting the shadow self, recognizing its role in your personality and life. This stage brings a sense of peace as you have stopped fighting your nature and have begun to see the value in all parts of yourself, including the imperfect or previously unwanted traits. Life here becomes more integrated and authentic, with fewer internal conflicts and a greater capacity for empathy towards yourself and others.But how do we FULLY accept ourselves? It feels so hard. How do we transcend this stage towards FULL integration?⚠️ In this stage you may feel the following ⚠️❌ You may find difficulty in fully embracing your imperfections - because of this you are not as magnetic as you could be❌ You have accepted some of your flaws and shadow, but may still struggle with unconditional self-love❌ You have moments of backsliding into denial or resistance against the shadow self. Slipping into bad old habits. 🔥If you "level up" to the next stage of FULLY WHOLE, you will get the following benefits 🔥✔️ A balanced and authentic self-expression that aligns with one’s true identity. You will find your purpose if you haven't already✔️ Enhanced confidence and self-esteem by embracing and utilizing all parts of oneself.✔️ The ability to face life’s challenges with a comprehensive understanding of one's capacities and limitations.Sounds great, but HOW do you get there??🧠 To "level up" to the next stage of FULLY WHOLE, you must do the following 🧠✅ Practice radical acceptance to embrace all aspects of the self, including those previously judged.✅ Continue coaching, therapy or support groups to reinforce the integration of shadow aspects.✅ Reflect on personal growth and changes, acknowledging and celebrating progress.
• 6.
  You are FULLY WHOLE

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  You are ONCE again fully whole - as you were as a child. Through shadow work, inner child healing, self-acceptance and self-love, you have transcended the trivial issues of this world. You are in the Kingdom of Heaven, which belongs to he or she who becomes once again like a child. You feel entirely at peace with yourself and embody a harmonious and authentic self-expression. Your life is marked by a profound sense of inner peace, purpose, and fulfilment. Interactions with others are characterized by genuineness and depth, and you often exhibit a resilient and adaptable nature across various life situations.You are at the HIGHEST stage of shadow integration - so what now? Read on.⚠️ In this stage you may feel the following ⚠️❌ You may feel disconnected from many people as you have done so much work on yourself.❌ You now have a responsibility to help other people with your knowledge and you may not know exactly how to do this 🔥Benefits you will get by helping others with your abilities 🔥✔️ Sustained personal fulfilment and a lasting sense of completeness.✔️ Mastery over self-regulation and emotional responses, facilitating more effective leadership and interpersonal relationships.✔️ A profound connection with life, allowing for a meaningful impact on one’s environment and community.Sounds great, but HOW do you get there??🧠 How to maximize your benefits to other people 🧠✅ Commit to continuous personal growth and learning to adapt to life’s changes while maintaining wholeness.✅ Serve as a mentor or guide for others undertaking their journey of self-discovery.✅ Keep exploring new dimensions of the self and how they manifest in the world.Would you like more in-depth support with this process? Connor Beaton offers one of the most comprehensive and impactful shadow work courses - click here for more information.I highly recommend this course - I was blown away by the amount of value it has!Click here for the shadow work course :)