Which signs of the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style do you have?

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Quiz Questions

1.
What usually happens when someone comes (emotionally) close?
- A.
  I crave emotional closeness and feel secure in relationships.
- B.
  I want to be close, but when it happens it never feels 'perfect enough', so I pull away, get the 'ick' or start doubting my feelings.
- C.
  I want emotional distance and feel suffocated when people get too close.
- D.
  I don't think too much about emotional closeness or distance.
2.
How do you react after experiencing a deep emotional connection with someone?
- A.
  I feel secure and happy.
- B.
  I feel good, but kind of crash afterwards. I start doubting whether I said the wrong thing, whether I even really enjoyed the moment and sometimes feel an urge to retreat or run away.
- C.
  I immediately feel overwhelmed and start withdrawing.
- D.
  I don't feel much of a reaction either way.
3.
How often do you question your feelings for your partner?
- A.
  Very often, I analyze whether I'm in love, attracted or happy enough.
- B.
  Rarely, I generally feel stable in my emotions.
- C.
  Sometimes, but I trust my feelings overall.
- D.
  I wonder why I don't feel enough, and I'm afraid I have to break up because of it (even though I don't want to.
4.
How do you react when your partner shows consistent love and affection?
- A.
  I like it but sometimes doubt if I truly feel the same way. Feels like I'm faking it, or should love them more.
- B.
  I appreciate it and feel safe.
- C.
  It makes me uncomfortable, and I respect them less (even though I don't want to).
- D.
  I appreciate it, but sometimes it feels a bit suffocating, like I have to perform or give it back.
5.
When you're in a relationship, do you often think about whether your partner is "the one"?
- A.
  No, I just enjoy the relationship as it is.
- B.
  Yes, I constantly analyze and worry if I'm making the right choice.
- C.
  Occasionally, but I doesn't stress me out.
- D.
  I am absolutely sure they are the one, I'm just not sure they want me.
6.
What happens when you're dating someone who is emotionally unavailable?
- A.
  I lose interest quickly.
- B.
  I feel an intense emotional pull and find them very attractive. I really want them to like and want me.
- C.
  It feels like I have to work to get approval, and when I do get approval it feels like a high.
- D.
  I try to help them open up, but if they are not willing to work on it, I end the relationship.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Anxious Preoccupied Attachment
It could be that you are fearful avoidant, leaning anxious. That's a thing! :)It means that usually you recognize most of the signs of the Anxious Preoccupied attachment style, and you sometimes flip to the dismissive side, when someone gets TOO close. If you notice yourself acting and reacting differently in different relationships, it could be that you are dominant in the fearful avoidant attachment style.If you are very consistent in how you act and react, and that tends to be in an Anxious Preoccupied way, you are probably dominant in this attachment style!
2.
Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
You have most signs of the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style. This is not a diagnosis, and you are not doomed :) It just says something about the way you relate to others, and connect with others. You probably notice yourself wanting things to be perfect, including your own feelings towards your partner. You ruminate and analyze a lot, find it hard to really be in the moment and enjoy your relationship and tend to fear doing things wrong. At the same time, you are wonderful. You are a deep thinker, you research everything and just want to make sure you make the absolute best choice.There are beautiful things about this attachment style, and if you notice yourself mainly experiencing the negative impact it can have (anxiety, fear, panic, depressed feeling, fear of others), know that healing is possible. And when you've healed, you'll feel calm, enjoy life and allow love and support, and it'll feel normal.
3.
Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style
It could be that you are fearful avoidant, leaning dismissive. That's a thing! :)It means that usually you recognize most of the signs of the Dismissive Avoidant attachment style, and you sometimes flip to the anxious side, when someone is emotionally unavailabe for example. If you notice yourself acting and reacting differently in different relationships, it could be that you are dominant in the fearful avoidant attachment style and the way you react to others depends on the situation.If you are very consistent in how you act and react, and that tends to be in an Dismissve Avoidant way, you are probably dominant in this attachment style!
4.
Secure Attachment
The signs point to you being mostly securely attached. That is a good thing! It means that you have a strong foundation, and you generally believe that you are worthy of love and you have healthy relationships, friendships and boundaries in general. You are never 100% one attachment style, and if there are signs of other attachment styles that you recognize and are struggling with, you can heal those! That way you'll become more and more secure.