Make sure they know they ticked me off and then point out three other ways they could be better in our friendship. I'm such a good friend!
B.
Be quietly ticked off, but just pretend it didn't happen because I hate conflict.
C.
Probably not speak up at the time, but you can bet your ass I’m replaying the whole thing in the shower later, crafting flawless comebacks that never actually come out of my mouth in front of other people.
D.
I don’t have time for that BS. If you tick me off, you just won't hear from me anymore.
3.
When people you care about share they’re struggling, you…
Hyper-focus on fixing their problem instead of actually supporting them—because if they just did it right, they wouldn’t be struggling in the first place.
B.
Help them because I can’t seem to say no—helping others is just in my DNA—even though, if I’m honest with myself, I’m exhausted and over it.
C.
Give them a supportive nod while panicking internally about saying the wrong thing—and then hope they never mention it again.
D.
Absorb their stress like a human sponge, carry it around for days, and worry about it way more than they do—because apparently, their problem is now my problem. Why do I do this?
4.
When life throws you a curveball, your first instinct is to…
Put it off, avoid it completely—
and secretly hope it magically works itself out.
B.
Immediately go into problem-solving mode, make a to-do list, research five possible solutions, and maybe even create a color-coded spreadsheet—because if I can organize the chaos, I can control the chaos… right? Right?
C.
Tackle it solo like a one-woman survival show, even if I’m clearly out of my depth—because asking for help feels like admitting defeat, and I’d rather wrestle a bear.
D.
Instantly launch into a mental Olympics of worst-case scenarios, analyze every possible outcome like it’s my job, then text a friend, "Is this a minor inconvenience or the beginning of my villain origin story?"
Stay aggressively busy so I don’t have to acknowledge the slow-brewing existential dread creeping in—because if I stop moving, my brain might catch up, and we cannot have that, can we?
B.
Ignore it completely until my eye starts twitching, my back locks up, and I have to lie down "just for a minute"… for three hours.
C.
Shut down completely, cancel everything, and retreat into my “leave me the hell alone” bubble.
D.
Attempt “self-care,” but somehow end up wandering Target with a lump in my throat, clutching a $12 candle and wondering why no one takes care of me the way I take care of them.
6.
When you think about meaning or purpose in this phase of life, your reaction is…
Honestly, I think I’m one bad day away from impulsively quitting my job, and taking off to the woods to raise alpacas. Pretty much over people at this point.
B.
Meaning? Purpose? Who has time for that? I’m over here making sure everyone else is okay—maybe I’ll have time to think about that when I retire...or die.
C.
I feel like everyone else has this figured out but me! But every time I try, I just worry I’ll pick the wrong path and fail.
D.
I’ve done everything “right”—checked all the boxes, hit the milestones—but somehow it still feels off. Like I built a great life that doesn’t actually fit me anymore. (And I have no idea what to do with that.)
7.
What’s your relationship with relaxation & fun?
I treat it like a rare luxury item—only allowed after I’ve conquered my entire to-do list, solved world peace, and earned it through sheer exhaustion.
B.
Fun? Rest? I mean, sure, in theory. But between handling everyone else’s needs and keeping the world spinning, who has the time?
C.
I feel like I rest plenty but yet never feel rested. And fun? Fun is zero drama, my favorite show, and my pet.
D.
I know I need it, but every time I try, my brain interrupts with Shouldn’t you be doing something more useful? and suddenly I’m reorganizing my spice cabinet.
Do you know how much sh*t I have to do? Present? HA! I’m too busy with my stuff and everyone else’s to stop thinking about all the things I have to do today or tomorrow.
B.
I don’t. The only way to shut off my brain is to distract myself with my phone, work, food, TikTok, Netflix—whatever numbs me out for a while.
C.
Wherever I am and whoever I’m with, my brain is always five steps ahead—overanalyzing conversations from three years ago while also predicting worst-case scenarios for next Tuesday.
D.
If I slow down long enough to be present, I’ll either cry, crash, or start questioning my entire life—so instead, I just keep moving. Productive? Yes. Peaceful? Not even close.
9.
Your tolerance for drama, nonsense, and general foolishness is now…?
I refuse to lower my standards for friends & partners—but somehow, that just means I end up alone & doing everything myself...which is pretty lonely & exhausting.
B.
Honestly? I just avoid it. Don’t text back, don’t engage, don’t deal. If I pretend it’s not there, it doesn’t exist.
C.
I try to set boundaries…but then I feel bad, backtrack, and end up agreeing to bake 200 cupcakes for an event I don’t even want to go to.
D.
I should let things go, but I don't. Instead I think of them over and over life a bad mixtape. Why do I care this much???
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