Which Dead Mom Bestie Style Are You?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When you’re having a full-on dead mom grief spiral, what’s your go-to move?

  • A.
    I throw myself into work/gym/TikTok scroll until the feelings get bored and leave me alone.
  • B.
    Text 3 friends at once like ‘do you still love me??’ (but, like, casually).
  • C.
    Cry while drafting a message, delete it, then ghost everyone for 3 days.
  • D.
    Call a trusted friend, cry it out, then journal about it with my oat milk matcha latte and crystals nearby.
• 2.
  Your bestie cancels on brunch last minute. How do you react?

  • A.
    Cool, I didn’t want to wear real pants anyway.
  • B.
    Do they hate me? Did I do something wrong?? spirals.
  • C.
    Double text them mad AND miss them immediately.
  • D.
    Bummed, but happy for a solo bookstore run with a cozy drink in hand.
• 3.
  If your dead mom grief had a vibe, what would it be?

  • A.
    Ice Queen but make it chic.
  • B.
    That clingy ex who just won’t let go.
  • C.
    A situationship - confusing, messy, but sooo magnetic.
  • D.
    Main character energy with a vibey playlist.
• 4.
  How do you feel when someone tries to comfort you?

  • A.
    Uncomfy. Don’t touch me, I’m fine 🙃.
  • B.
    Finally, validation!! Tell me more, bestie.
  • C.
    I want it…no wait, ew, too much, back off.
  • D.
    Seen, safe, and grateful - pass the tissues.
• 5.
  Your mom comes up in conversation unexpectedly. What happens?

  • A.
    Change subject like a pro comedian, nobody even noticed.
  • B.
    Overshare and trauma dump instantly.
  • C.
    Laugh too loud then ugly cry in the bathroom 5 mins later.
  • D.
    Take a breath, share honestly, stay grounded.
• 6.
  Which aesthetic screams your dead mom grief style?

  • A.
    Clean girl vibes, slick bun, emotional armor chic.
  • B.
    Rom-com lead, always waiting for the text back.
  • C.
    E-girl eyeliner with cozy cottagecore cardigans.
  • D.
    Soft life influencer, matcha in hand, good boundaries.
• 7.
  What’s your situationship with self-care?

  • A.
    Self-care is finishing my to-do list. Period.
  • B.
    Self-care is calling 7 friends until someone answers.
  • C.
    Light a candle, cry, journal, then ignore my needs for a week.
  • D.
    Bubble bath + therapy + logging off IG when I need to.
• 8.
  If your dead mom grief had a playlist, the first song would be…

  • A.
    Olivia Dean - The Hardest Part (quiet strength, holding it in)
  • B.
    Sabrina Carpenter - Because I Liked a Boy (messy, overthinking energy)
  • C.
    Chappell Roan - Hot To Go! (push-pull chaos but somehow iconic)
  • D.
    SZA - Good Days (soft, grounded, holding hope in the grief)

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  You are: 🖤 The Independent Bestie

  You’ve survived by being the strong one. Keeping it all locked up. Somewhere along the way you learned that feeling too much wasn’t safe (or even welcome). So, you built your own vault for grief. Unbreakable. Unshakable.But here’s the plot twist, babe: grief doesn’t vanish just because you shut the door. It goes underground (heavier, quieter) waiting for the day your body aches, your relationships crack, or that little voice inside finally whispers, “I can’t hold this anymore.”See if this sounds like you:🖤 You choke back tears like it’s your part-time job.🙅🏻‍♀️ “How are you?” → you’ll switch topics faster than a TikTok scroll.💪 Everyone calls you so strong but honestly, you’re tired of carrying it all.🥶 Some days you feel numb, like the memories don’t even belong to you.🧱 Deep down you worry: if you actually let it out, everything you’ve built might come crashing down.There’s a club with your name on it, babe ✨Inside GrievHERS™ - a dead mom club, you’ll finally have a space where you don’t have to keep it all together. A place to set down the armor, sip your coffee, and say the thing you’ve been swallowing back.Through monthly calls, soul-care practices, and the kind of conversations only other motherless daughters get, you’ll learn how to let grief breathe without feeling like you’re falling apart. You’ll see that strength isn’t just holding it all in - it’s letting yourself be witnessed.Your grief deserves a hype squad. You deserve softness. No matter how long it’s been since your loss, the doors to this sisterhood are wide open.➡️ Your next step? Lower the drawbridge and let one feeling in. Just one. We'll hold the rest with you.
• 2.
  You are: 💖 The Ride-or-Die Bestie

  You’re the one who gets it done. The dependable one. The “of course she’ll handle it” friend. Everyone leans on you because you always show up.But here’s the thing, babe: behind all that productivity is pain. You care for everyone else while quietly unraveling inside. Somewhere along the way, you learned that love had to be earned by doing, maybe even for a mom who died too soon, or one who couldn’t fully receive you.Now? Your worth still feels tied to fixing, performing, over-delivering. And rest? It feels like a foreign language.See if this sounds like you:💖 You’ve cried in the bathroom between tasks, wiped your face, and powered through.📞 You’re the one checking in on everyone but no one’s really checking in on you.🎭 You’ve been told you’re “so together,” even when you’re falling apart inside.⏰ Rest makes you feel guilty, twitchy, or like you’re “wasting time.”🤍 You’ll show up for everyone else but rarely for yourself.There’s a club with your name on it, babe ✨Inside GrievHERS™ - a dead mom club, you’ll finally have a space where you don’t have to keep it all together. This isn’t another thing to check off your list; it’s the one space where you don’t have to do anything to be worthy. A soft landing where you can finally put the weight down and let someone hold you for a change.Inside our monthly calls and community, you’ll learn how to rewrite the story that love has to be earned through over-giving, over-doing, over-caring. Here, your worth isn’t in what you do, it’s in who you are.Your grief deserves tending. You deserve to be on the receiving end. No matter how long it’s been, this community of grievHERS™ is open to you.➡️ Your next step? Rest isn’t lazy, babe, it’s your radical act of healing.
• 3.
  You are: 🔥❄️ The Hot-and-Cold Bestie

  You’re all in…until you’re not. One minute you’re pouring your heart out, the next you’re ghosting the group chat. You crave closeness, connection, and love but the second it shows up, you feel yourself pulling away.Grief feels the same way: sometimes it crashes in like a tidal wave, other times you wonder if you’ve gone completely numb. You want safety and freedom. You want to be held and to run. No wonder it feels confusing, your heart has been through so much, and it’s still trying to decide if it’s safe to stay.See if this sounds like you:🔥 You’ll spill your soul at 2am, then feel embarrassed and shut down by sunrise.❄️ You crave reassurance but get itchy when people get too close.🔥 Your grief hits in extremes, all-consuming one day, distant the next.❄️ You worry you’re “too much” and “not enough” at the same time.🔥 You want community, but you don’t fully trust it.There’s a club with your name on it, babe ✨Inside GrievHERS™ - a dead mom club, you’ll finally have a space where you don’t have to choose between craving connection and running from it. Here, you can take baby steps, open up a little, pull back when you need to, and still know you’re held.Through monthly calls, gentle practices, and a community that actually gets it, you’ll learn how to let grief feel safe again. To explore your mom’s presence without the pressure to “get it right.” To be seen without being swallowed.Your grief deserves a space that won’t overwhelm you. You deserve connection that honors both your fire and your frost. No matter how long it’s been since your loss, this sisterhood of grievHERS™ is ready to hold you, at your pace.➡️ Your next step? Let yourself try one toe in the water. We’ll be here when you’re ready for more.
• 4.
  You are: 🌙The Balanced Bestie

  You’ve figured out that grief isn’t something to fix, it’s something to carry with care. You can let people in without losing yourself, and you know how to hold space for your feelings without getting swept away by them.While you seem to have it down, bestie, even balance deserves tending. Being the “stable one” doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to break down, ugly cry, or need support. You don’t have to always be the one holding it together.See if this sounds like you:🌿 You can share your grief without feeling like it’s “too much.”💌 You’re the friend people trust to hold their messy, and you usually can.🌙 You’ve learned how to lean in without drowning.💖 You actually believe healing is possible (even if it’s slow).🤍 Sometimes you forget that you deserve the same softness you give everyone else.There’s a club with your name on it, babe ✨Inside GrievHERS™ - a dead mom club isn’t just a space for fixing your grief, it’s about weaving your grief into your life in a way that feels whole. You don’t have to keep living in your head, analyzing every memory. Here, you get to drop into your body, your soul, and your feeling self.Through monthly calls and guided practices, I’ll help you translate what you know into what you can actually feel. To embody the wisdom, you’ve been carrying all along, not just think about it.Your grief deserves to be lived, not just studied. You deserve to connect with your mom in every way possible, especially through your heart. No matter how long it’s been since your loss, this circle of grievHERS™ is waiting for you.➡️ Your next step? Let yourself soften. Integration is your superpower.