How Connected Are You And Your Spouse? 

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  If you and your spouse were in the same room and you saw something interesting out the window, like a beautiful bird, would you

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  • A.
    Exclaim, "Look at that!”, as you point it out to your partner.
  • B.
    Keep it to myself, thinking he won’t care anyway.
  • C.
    Watch in wonder, but don't think to point it out.
• 2.
  Whether you and your partner are saying goodbye for the day or reuniting after many hours apart, what is the quality of your goodbye or greeting?

  • A.
    We barely acknowledge each other.
  • B.
    Our goodbyes and greetings are kind but not much of a fanfare. There’s not much emotion in them.
  • C.
    We give each other a long hug or kiss and there seems to be real love in those moments.
  • D.
    We say bye, or hello, but I don't feel much warmth in them.
• 3.
  How many nights a week do you hug or cuddle in bed before you fall asleep?

  • A.
    Never.
  • B.
    Every night we are with each other.
  • C.
    2 -4 nights.
  • D.
    We don't sleep in the same room, but we snuggle pretty much every day.
  • E.
    Maybe 1 night a week?
• 4.
  When you’re having a hard day or feeling upset about something that isn’t about your partner, how much do you share about what’s going on for you?

  • A.
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    I feel safe and comfortable to share most things that feel close to my heart.
  • B.
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    I am fairly selective about what I share with him… because he doesn’t tend to respond in a way that makes me feel better.
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    I never share much that’s close to my heart with him. He doesn’t seem to care (or I just don't want him to know what I'm feeling).
• 5.
  When you’re apart for several hours, a day, or more, you:

  • A.
    Look forward to when I see my sweetie again!
  • B.
    Don't miss him, and also don't look forward to when he's back, but it’s fine when he returns.
  • C.
    I don’t exactly dread his return, but I really don’t look forward to it, either.
• 6.
  How easy is it for you to be vulnerable with your partner about your dreams and desires?

  • A.
    It’s very hard, and I tend to avoid opening up about these things.
  • B.
    It can sometimes be hard to be vulnerable and share what I want. But I can do it when I muster my courage.
  • C.
    I feel very comfortable to share any and all of my desires and dreams with my partner!
  • D.
    I don't have trouble telling him what I want, although I tend to do it in a way that’s more like complaining or getting upset when he doesn’t do something I want! 🙄
• 7.
  How often does your spouse call your attention to something he thinks you might be interested in (like an article he’s reading or a sports game), or bring up a topic he knows you might find some interest in?

  • A.
    Most days at least once.
  • B.
    Pretty much never.
  • C.
    1 – 3 times a week or so (or every once in a while).
• 8.
  When you’re having a somewhat difficult conversation about your relationship or something going on in your life, and emotions are stirred up a bit, how do you and your spouse communicate?

  • A.
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    Sometimes things turn into arguments, but we are also often able to work through things and de-escalate to some degree. It’s rare that it becomes a giant argument.
  • B.
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    We don’t do well with this (arguments often ensue, and one or both of us often feel misunderstood.)
  • C.
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    We tend to provide plenty of space for each of us to calmly share our perspectives, and we listen well to each other. Things often get resolved without much hubbub.
• 9.
  How disappointed do you feel in your partner's ability to give you love in a way that feels really like love to you?

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  • A.
    I’m not disappointed at all. I feel his love for me regularly and it feels nourishing.
  • B.
    I wouldn’t say I’m exactly disappointed, but I’m not satisfied with how much or how obvious the quantity and quality of his love is.
  • C.
    I’m very disappointed and rarely feel loved and important.
  • D.
    I'm not disappointed. But it would be nice if he'd show his love in a way that feels like love a bit more.
• 10.
  How much laughter, playfulness and flirtiness is there in your daily interactions with your honey?

  • A.
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    Laughter and flirtiness?! What are you even talking about?!!! That’s not a thing for us.
  • B.
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    There are days we laugh, and feel joy or playfulness, or flirtiness between us. But it’s not a ton.
  • C.
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    Our relationship is filled with all of those delightful things, and I can pretty much count on it every day (unless one of us is having a particularly hard moment).
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    We have occasional moments of laughter, but I wouldn't say playful or flirty.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Your level of connection is. . . rather good! (And you can always fine tune and bring in even more intimacy).

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  Congrats, friend –not only is taking the "How Connected Are You And Your Spouse?" quiz in and of itself like casting a little magic spell 🪄 that will start bringing alive even more connection — so long as you let the questions themselves, and your results below, really linger in your mind and heart. . .. . . but it also shows your commitment to having a healthy, connected relationship, which is key to HAVING one! 🙌Based on your responses, it looks like you and your honey have a pretty good connection! You think about each other, share of your hearts and bodies, and handle challenges in a way that doesn't push you apart. So kudos to you! You’ve been doing the good work!🥰Keep in mind, this doesn't mean your connection is fail-proof, or that there isn’t more room for even more BETTER lovin’, because all intimate relationships do need ONGOING, proactive attention and effort for them to continue being loving, intimate, and nourishing... …and there are ALWAYS deeper levels of intimacy and love we can achieve with our partner. You certainly DO have the potential for more yumminess, joy, love, and connection between you! Especially because most people (probably even you, too) don’t even know, let alone use the specific skills to create the most delicious, palpably loving, fulfilling connection that we tend to want, and thrive in, as sensitive women! So if you want to develop or fine tune the most essential skills to keep up and deepen the closeness and love you already have with your honey, understand this:1. Your Blocks to Intimacy and Connection. You will want to understand how to spot and “remove” them (This is beautiful internal work that shifts everything for the better!) As Rumi said “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Just being open to the idea that you, like all of us, have some of these barriers is often enough to start to see them more clearly. And that’s the beginning of dismantling them. 🎉2.Your Energetics (Emotions) This is about learning how to shift your own state of being into one most conducive to connection and loving intimacy. Some ideas? Try open-heartedness, presence, vulnerability, and non-judgment. (Want to understand this a bunch better and make some real shifts right now? Check out this podcast episode, Curiosity, Communication, and Connecting. It’s all about this!)3. Your Biochemistry. We need a certain biochemical cocktail circulating through our blood to feel the most connected, and to naturally, authentically act in ways that improve the intimacy and closeness in our relationship. We can get this connection-biococktail circulating in our bodies on purpose. Try holding hands more. Try stress-reducing activities. Try putting a hand on your OWN heart for a minute and really feeling it there.4.The Actual Things You Do And Say. There are very specific actions, ways of communicating, and gestures that are AMAZING at quickly deepening connection. Many small moments of these add up. Try reaching out a hand to rub his shoulder. Try being genuinely interested when your partner shares something with you – even if it’s a news article, or an instagram reel. Make sure you follow the simple ground rules of great communication. (See below for some resources.)This podcast episode goes into all of these in more depth.🥰Now that you get a very general sense of them, you can get to work learning how to really live these out on a regular basis–and watch as closeness wells WAY up (EVEN MORE) between you.Don't want to feel like you're throwing spaghetti at the wall? Instead, want clear direction full of specific research-backed things to do in all 4 of these categories? Then you should absolutely get my short but power-packed course, The Closer To Your Husband In 7 Days Challenge.You’ll get one concrete proven-to-work thing to do each day for the next 7 days, that's simple and quick to implement (just 5-15 mins a day!), and the accountability, support, and energy from me and the group to help you succeed.At the end of it all? A sense of closeness, connection, and love (even better communication and more laughter) that you never knew could grow so much between you and your partner in just one week – and the confidence to keep it all up!Grab it here for only $29 with this coupon code: CONNECTNOW You'll ONLY get this coupon here, so use it now at the checkout. (Normally $37. Honestly, it’s a steal, but I want more women to KNOW and DO these things – because we women deserve to be fulfilled in our relationships – and this stuff WORKS!)Don't know me yet? Oops! Let me introduce myself:Hey there, and welcome – I'm Hannah Brooks 👋 I'm a Love Expert, Marriage Coach, and host of the “Highly Sensitive, Happily Married Podcast”. I help highly sensitive and deep feeling women release patterns that lead to conflict and disconnection, put an end to the upset in their marriage, and create the loving, light, genuinely connected and collaborative relationship they really want with their significant other – one that gets better by the day – even when their partner isn’t actively working on their relationship, too. Find me at hspmarriagecoaching.comNot yet ready for a short course with me? I get it. Check out these free resources first:1) Listen to these releveant episodes of my podcast, Highly Sensitive, Happily Married: How To Keep Connection Alive In A Busy Life and The Practice of Great Relationship. They'll help you shift into more connection, and understand what truly changes a marriage for the better at a foundational level for lasting love. You can also check out my whole giant library of podcast and blog posts (it’s FULL of advice and wisdom for building healthy, happy relationships as a sensitive woman) 🙌 2) Find out if you are Highly Sensitive, what the term even means, and the impact it can have on your relationship with these 33 clues. Because understanding this, and how to work with this trait, can make or break a marriage (and your spirit!).🥰3) Grab my 7 Most Powerful Phrases To Deepen Connection I use these regularly with my own hubby, and I get messages from women all the time telling me how these phrases have worked amazingly well to build loving intimacy - and get their partner to collaborate better, as well! (Round this out with these great podcast episodes on communication: 5 Dos And Don’ts For Higher Quality Communication, and How To "Hold Space" For Your Spouse)💓P.S. Expect to see me in your inbox soon with more tips on growing and maintaining a great relationship with your honey!
• 2.
  Your level of connection is. . .Not bad. . . But not great, either. (And you probably feel less satisfied than you'd like.)

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  Congrats, friend – not only is taking the "How Connected Are You And Your Spouse?" quiz in and of itself like casting a little magic spell 🪄 that will start bringing alive more connection right away — so long as you let the questions themselves, and your results below, really linger in your mind and heart. . .. . . but it also shows your commitment to having a healthy, connected relationship, which is key to HAVING one! 🙌Based on your responses, it looks like you and your honey are doing okay when it comes connection and loving intimacy. The not so great news is that, at this point, it doesn’t seem like your connection with your partner is as strong and fulfilling as you probably want deep down, because of the trials and tribulations of daily modern life, and, well, just being a human trying to live with another human!! (Totally understandable!)The good news is this definitely leaves you with plenty of room to create much more fulfilling connection with your spouse – and to feel lots more yummy, nourishing love and joy bubbling up between you consistently. 🥰And yes, that’s absolutely possible, and won't take tons of effort! It just isn’t happening as much as you may like because you, like most people, haven’t known or used the specific skills and tricks to create the most delicious, palpably loving, fulfilling connection that we tend to want, and thrive in, as sensitive women. But it is definitely available between you and your spouse. And you’re in the right place to learn how to bring it alive. Get started now by understanding this:1. Your blocks to intimacy and connection. You will want to understand how to spot and “remove” them (This is beautiful internal work that shifts everything for the better!) As Rumi said “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Just being open to the idea that you, like all of us, have some of these barriers is often enough to start to see them more clearly. And that’s the beginning of dismantling them. 🎉2.Your Energetics (Emotions) This is about learning how to shift your own state of being into one most conducive to connection and loving intimacy. Some ideas? Try open-heartedness, presence, vulnerability, and non-judgment. (Want to understand this a bunch better and make some real shifts right now? Check out this podcast episode, Curiosity, Communication, and Connecting. It’s all about this!)3. Your Biochemistry. We need a certain biochemical cocktail circulating through our blood to feel the most connected, and to naturally, authentically act in ways that improve the intimacy and closeness in our relationship. We can get this connection-biococktail circulating in our bodies on purpose. Try holding hands more. Try stress-reducing activities. Try putting a hand on your OWN heart for a minute and really feeling it there.4.The Actual Things You Do And Say. There are very specific actions, ways of communicating, and gestures that are AMAZING at quickly deepening connection. Many small moments of these add up. Try reaching out a hand to rub his shoulder. Try being genuinely interested when your partner shares something with you – even if it’s a news article, or an instagram reel. Make sure you follow the simple ground rules of great communication. (See below for some resources.)This podcast episode goes into all of these in more depth.🥰Now that you get a very general sense of them, you can get to work learning how to really live these out on a regular basis–and watch as closeness wells WAY up between you.Don't want to feel like you're throwing spaghetti at the wall? Instead, want clear direction full of specific research-backed things to do in all 4 of these categories? Then you should absolutely get my short but power-packed course, The Closer To Your Husband In 7 Days Challenge.You’ll get one concrete proven-to-work thing to do each day for the next 7 days, that's simple and quick to implement (just 5-15 mins a day!), and the accountability, support, and energy from me and the group to help you succeed.At the end of it all? A sense of closeness, connection, and love (and better communication and more laughter) that you never knew could grow so much between you and your partner in just one week – and the confidence to keep it all up!Grab it here for only $29 with this coupon code: CONNECTNOW You'll ONLY get this coupon here, so use it now at the checkout. (Normally $37. Honestly, it’s a steal, but I want more women to KNOW and DO these things – because we women deserve to be fulfilled in our relationships – and this stuff WORKS!)Don't know me yet? Oops! Let me introduce myself:Hey there, and welcome – I'm Hannah Brooks 👋 I'm a Love Expert, Marriage Coach, and host of the “Highly Sensitive, Happily Married Podcast”. I help highly sensitive and deep feeling women release patterns that lead to conflict and disconnection, put an end to the upset in their marriage, and create the loving, light, genuinely connected and collaborative relationship they really want with their significant other – one that gets better by the day – even when their partner isn’t actively working on their relationship, too. Find me at hspmarriagecoaching.comNot yet ready for a short course with me? I get it. Check out these free resources first:1) Listen to these relevant episodes of my podcast, Highly Sensitive, Happily Married: Curiosity, Communication, and Connecting, How To Keep Connection Alive In A Busy Life and The Practice of Great Relationship. They'll help you shift into more connection, and understand what truly changes a marriage for the better at a foundational level for lasting love. You can also check out my whole giant library of podcast and blog posts (it’s FULL of advice and wisdom for building healthy, happy relationships as a sensitive woman) 🙌 2) Find out if you are Highly Sensitive, what the term even means, and the impact it can have on your relationship with these 33 clues. Because understanding this, and how to work with this trait, can make or break a marriage (and your spirit!).🥰3) Grab my 7 Most Powerful Phrases To Deepen Connection I use these regularly with my own hubby, and I get messages from women all the time telling me how these phrases have worked amazingly well to build loving intimacy - and get their partner to collaborate better, as well! (Round this out with these great podcast episodes on communication: 5 Dos And Don’ts For Higher Quality Communication, and How To "Hold Space" For Your Spouse)💓P.S. Expect to see me in your inbox soon with more tips on growing and maintaining a great relationship with your honey!
• 3.
  Life and normal human challenges have gotten in the way of you and your spouse being able to feel the depth of connection that really is possible for you. So your level of connection is not so good right now. But don't despair...

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  First, off congrats, truly. . . not only is taking the "How Connected Are You And Your Spouse?" quiz in and of itself like casting a little magic spell 🪄 that will start bringing alive more connection right away — so long as you let the questions themselves, and your results below, really linger in your mind and heart. . .. . . but it also shows your commitment to having a healthy, connected relationship, which is key to HAVING one! 🙌Based on your responses, there is good and not-so-good news:The not so great news is that at this point, it looks like you and your partner are having a bit of a hard time with connection and loving intimacy, and you're probably feeling pretty unfulfilled. This is most likely due to the trials and tribulations of daily modern life, and, well, just being a human trying to live with another human!! (Totally understandable, especially when you, like most of us, simply haven't been taught the specific skills and tricks to create the most palpably loving, fulfilling connection that we tend to want, and thrive in, as women.)The good news is this definitely leaves you with lots of room to create much more fulfilling connection with your spouse – and to feel lots more yummy, nourishing love and joy bubbling up between you consistently! 🥰And yes, that’s quite possible! Even when there isn't a lot of connection currently, for most couples like you, a LOT more of it IS available (I've seen it hundreds of times), so long as you're willing to learn a few things and make some small, consistent efforts! And you’re in the right place to do so. Get started now by understanding this:1. Your Blocks to Intimacy and Connection. You will want to understand how to spot and “remove” them (This is beautiful internal work that shifts everything for the better!) As Rumi said “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Just being open to the idea that you, like all of us, have some of these barriers is often enough to start to see them more clearly. And that’s the beginning of dismantling them. 🎉2.Your Energetics (Emotions) This is about learning how to shift your own state of being into one most conducive to connection and loving intimacy. Some ideas? Try open-heartedness, presence, vulnerability, and non-judgment. (Want to understand this a bunch better and make some real shifts right now? Check out this podcast episode, Curiosity, Communication, and Connecting. It’s all about this!)3. Your Biochemistry. We need a certain biochemical cocktail circulating through our blood to feel the most connected, and to naturally, authentically act in ways that improve the intimacy and closeness in our relationship. We can get this connection-biochemistry circulating in our bodies on purpose. Try holding hands more. Try stress-reducing activities. Try putting a hand on your OWN heart for a full minute and really feeling it there.4.The Actual Things You Do And Say. There are very specific actions, ways of communicating, and gestures that are AMAZING at quickly deepening connection. Many small moments of these add up. Try reaching out a hand to rub his shoulder. Try being genuinely interested when your partner shares something with you – even if it’s a news article, or an instagram reel. Make sure you follow the simple ground rules of great communication. (See below for some resources.)This podcast episode goes into all of these in more depth.🥰Now that you get a very general sense of them, you can get to work learning how to and really live these out on a regular basis–and watch as closeness wells WAY up between you.Want clear direction full of specific research-backed things to do in all 4 of these categories (instead of feeling like you're throwing spaghetti at the wall)?Then you should absolutely get my short but power-packed course, The Closer To Your Husband In 7 Days Challenge. It's an excellent place to really kick-start a much better relationship!You’ll get one concrete proven-to-work thing to do each day for the next 7 days, that's simple and quick to implement (just 5-15 mins a day!), and lots of accountability, support, and energy from me and the group to help you succeed.At the end of it all? A sense of closeness, connection, and love (and better communication and more laughter) that you never knew could grow so much between you and your partner in just one week – and the confidence to keep it all up!Grab it here for only $29 with this coupon code: CONNECTNOW You'll ONLY get this coupon here, so use it now at the checkout. (Normally $37. Honestly, it’s a steal, but I want more women to KNOW and DO these things – because we women deserve to be fulfilled in our relationships – and this stuff WORKS!)Don't know me yet? Oops! Let me introduce myself:Hey there, and welcome – I'm Hannah Brooks 👋 I'm a Love Expert, Marriage Coach, and host of the “Highly Sensitive, Happily Married Podcast”. I help highly sensitive and deep feeling women release patterns that lead to conflict and disconnection, put an end to the upset in their marriage, and create the loving, light, genuinely connected and collaborative relationship they really want with their significant other – one that gets better by the day – even when their partner isn’t actively working on their relationship, too. Find me at hspmarriagecoaching.comNot yet ready for a short course with me? I get it. Check out these free resources first:1) Listen to these releveant episodes of my podcast, Highly Sensitive, Happily Married: How To Keep Connection Alive In A Busy Life and The Practice of Great Relationship. They'll help you shift into more connection, and understand what truly changes a marriage for the better at a foundational level for lasting love. You can also check out my whole giant library of podcast and blog posts (it’s FULL of advice and wisdom for building healthy, happy relationships as a sensitive woman). 🙌 2) Find out if you're Highly Sensitive, what the term even means, and the impact it can have on your relationship with these 33 clues. Because understanding this, and how to work with this trait, can make or break a marriage (and your spirit!).🥰3) Grab my 7 Most Powerful Phrases To Deepen Connection I use these regularly with my own hubby, and I get messages from women all the time telling me how these phrases have worked amazingly well to build loving intimacy - and get their partner to collaborate better, as well! (Round this out with these great podcast episodes on communication: 5 Dos And Don’ts For Higher Quality Communication, and How To "Hold Space" For Your Spouse)💓P.S. Expect to see me in your inbox soon with more tips on growing and maintaining a great relationship with your honey!