What Is Your Attachment Style?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When you’re in a new relationship, you usually:

  • A.
    Crave closeness but sometimes feel suspicious or overwhelmed, so you send mixed signals
  • B.
    Enjoy getting to know your partner and gradually building trust at your own pace
  • C.
    Want to spend as much time with your new partner as possible and worry if they don’t text back quickly
  • D.
    Like your independence and need a lot of space, even when things get serious
• 2.
  If your partner cancels last minute, how do you react?

  • A.
    I start worrying they’re losing interest and feel anxious until I hear from them again
  • B.
    Honestly, I might be relieved to have more time to myself
  • C.
    I might get upset or distant, or even test them to see if they care
  • D.
    I understand—life happens! We’ll reschedule when it works for both of us
• 3.
  How do you handle conflict in a relationship?

  • A.
    I’d rather avoid conflict. I need time alone to process and can shut down if things get intense
  • B.
    Sometimes I get really emotional, or suddenly withdraw—my reactions can feel unpredictable, even to me
  • C.
    I talk things through and try to find a solution together
  • D.
    Conflict makes me nervous—I want to fix things immediately and can’t relax until we’re okay
• 4.
  How do you feel after an argument?

  • A.
    I feel like I’ll be abandoned and I reach out or make up right away
  • B.
    I prefer to keep my distance, maybe even consider if the relationship’s worth it
  • C.
    I can admit my mistakes and apologize or talk things out
  • D.
    I really want to reconnect, but I also shut down or lash out
• 5.
  When your partner wants more emotional intimacy, you:

  • A.
    I want closeness but also feel afraid—sometimes I pull away or start a fight
  • B.
    I feel comfortable getting closer and sharing my feelings
  • C.
    I love it! I want to be as close as possible so I can feel secure in the relationship
  • D.
    I feel a bit suffocated or pressured, and need more space
• 6.
  How do you feel when you and your partner are apart for a week (ex: business trip)?

  • A.
    I miss them but trust our relationship and use the time for myself or friends
  • B.
    I might go from missing them intensely to feeling annoyed or suspicious, often unsure how I really feel
  • C.
    I feel uneasy, text them a lot, and worry something might be wrong
  • D.
    I enjoy the break and value the time alone; I don’t feel an urgent need to connect
• 7.
  What was your relationship with your parents or caregivers growing up?

  • A.
    They were sometimes loving, sometimes not; and I always had to prove myself to "earn" their love
  • B.
    They were mostly distant or discouraged showing emotions; I learned to rely only on myself
  • C.
    They were unpredictable, and I never knew what to expect from them
  • D.
    They were consistent, supportive, and made me feel safe and valued
• 8.
  How do you practice self-love when you’re in a relationship?

  • A.
    Sometimes I focus on me, other times I feel obsessed with my partner
  • B.
    I often don’t know how to love myself and prefer not to be alone
  • C.
    I take care of my needs and support my partner at the same time
  • D.
    I focus on my independence and doing things on my own

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Secure
• 2.
  Anxious
• 3.
  Avoidant
• 4.
  Disorganized (Fearful-Avoidant)