What’s the Mask You Wear When You Forget You Matter?

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Quiz Questions

1.
What do you secretly wish people understood about you?
- A.
  How much love and care you give behind the scenes.
- B.
  That you’re trying your best even when you don’t always show it.
- C.
  That you’re tired of carrying everything on your own.
- D.
  That you’re not as put-together as you seem.
- E.
  That you're so much more than what you achieve.
- F.
  That your needs are just as valid as everyone else’s.
- G.
  That you’re finally learning to honor your truth—and it’s changing everything.
2.
What’s your biggest “block” when it comes to worthiness?
- A.
  You keep chasing love through overgiving—hoping your efforts will make you matter.
- B.
  You still feel like an outsider, even in familiar spaces—like there’s always something just a little “off” about you.
- C.
  You rarely let others in or admit you need help—it feels safer to handle everything on your own.
- D.
  You constantly shapeshift to be liked or accepted—wearing whatever mask feels safest in the moment.
- E.
  You tie your value to your productivity or success—if you’re not doing, you’re not enough.
- F.
  You fear your needs make you unlovable or a burden—so you keep them hidden behind a well-kept smile.
- G.
  You know you’re already worthy—but sometimes you forget to live like it, especially when old patterns whisper otherwise.
3.
How do you react when you're praised or complimented?
- A.
  You downplay it or redirect the attention.
- B.
  You feel awkward, unsure how to receive it.
- C.
  You think, “What do they want from me?"
- D.
  You wonder if they’d still say that if they saw the real you.
- E.
  You immediately think of what you still haven’t done yet.
- F.
  You hope they’ll say more, just so you can believe it.
- G.
  You take a breath, receive it fully, and say thank you.
4.
When you're triggered, what’s your first instinct?
- A.
  You over-function, hoping that if you smooth things over fast enough, you can make everything okay again.
- B.
  Push people away and hide. It feels safer to withdraw than to risk being misunderstood—or rejected all over again.
- C.
  Go into “fix-it” mode and handle it solo.
- D.
  Make yourself smaller to avoid more conflict. You edit your truth to stay “lovable,” keeping the peace even if it costs your voice.
- E.
  Take on more to distract from your feelings.
- F.
  Pretend you don’t care, but silently replay everything on loop.
- G.
  Take a breath, feel the feeling, and move with compassion.
5.
In childhood, you were often:
- A.
  The peacemaker or “easy” one who didn’t need much. You kept the peace by disappearing just enough to stay safe.
- B.
  The misunderstood one who didn't quite fit the mold. You felt like the puzzle piece no one could place—so you started hiding your edges.
- C.
  The responsible one who took care of everyone else. You learned that being “strong” meant never needing anything for yourself.
- D.
  The achiever who made others proud. You believed love came easiest when you excelled—and kept excelling.
- E.
  The overachiever who never felt quite there yet. Even gold stars didn’t erase the ache of still not feeling enough.
- F.
  The quiet one, always trying to stay useful to stay connected. If you could stay helpful, maybe they'd notice you. If you disappeared, maybe they wouldn’t leave.
- G.
  The one who saw the world differently—and trusted their magic. Even if others didn’t understand it, you’ve always carried light in your bones.
6.
What’s your biggest fear in relationships?
- A.
  Being left behind. You fear that if you stop giving, you’ll disappear from their heart entirely.
- B.
  Being rejected for who you are. You’ve spent so long trying to belong—being fully seen still feels risky.
- C.
  Being let down when you need support. Depending on others feels like handing over your heart without a safety net.
- D.
  Being unloved if you stop meeting expectations. You’re terrified love might vanish the moment you stop earning it.
- E.
  Being seen as a failure. If you're not “winning” at love, part of you fears you're not worthy of it.
- F.
  Being forgotten when you're not giving anything. You wonder: if I’m not useful… will I even matter?
- G.
  Losing myself to someone else’s version of love. You’ve worked so hard to return to yourself—you won’t leave her behind again.
7.
What’s your relationship with rest?
- A.
  You feel guilty resting unless you've proven yourself valuable that day.
- B.
  You resist rest because you fear looking lazy or different.
- C.
  You avoid rest—it makes you feel exposed or like a burden.
- D.
  You rest only when every box is checked and no one can judge you.
- E.
  Resting feels unproductive—there’s always something to prove.
- F.
  You embrace rest as a sacred act of self-worth. Rest is your reclamation. It’s how you remind yourself that being is enough.
- G.
  You only rest when you feel you've earned your place in someone’s life. Rest is conditional—and you often need to “do enough” just to feel like you’re allowed to exist.
8.
How do you talk to yourself when you make a mistake?
- A.
  You wonder if this means you're no longer valuable to others. Your worth feels so wrapped up in how you show up, give, or serve… one misstep feels like you might disappear.
- B.
  You spiral into self-doubt—“I’ll never be good enough.” There’s a whisper that says your flaws are the reason you’ve never quite fit—and that voice gets loud when you fall short.
- C.
  You scold yourself for needing anyone or letting someone in. Mistakes feel like proof that trusting was a bad idea—so you retreat deeper into independence.
- D.
  You immediately worry about disappointing others. It’s less about the mistake… and more about who might stop loving you because of it.
- E.
  You push yourself harder to fix it or prove your worth again. You hustle into overdrive—because if you can fix it fast, maybe the shame won’t stick.
- F.
  You take ownership gently and offer yourself compassion. You know growth isn’t always graceful—but you trust your soul is still worthy, even in the mess.
- G.
  You panic, fearing this mistake will make people forget you. Underneath it all is a little voice wondering if this is the moment they stop seeing you, stop needing you, stop loving you.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
The Tender Over-Giver
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Sweet soul, you learned to give until you disappeared. You poured yourself into others just to keep love close. And somewhere along the way, you forgot that your presence—your heart—is the gift. You don’t have to earn your place, love. You already belong. Let’s remember: the love you seek outside? It starts by staying with you. Signature Patterns: • Over-giving, over-functioning, over-caring. • Feeling invisible unless you’re “useful.” • Anxiety when someone pulls away. • Saying yes when your soul is screaming no. • Feeling depleted but afraid to pull back. What You Might Believe: • If I stop giving, they’ll leave.• My needs are too much.• I have to earn love to keep it.• It’s selfish to choose myself. • If I rest, I’ll lose connection. What You’re Really Craving: • Safe, steady love that sees you. • To be chosen without performance. • To feel emotionally held. • To stop carrying what isn’t yours. • To stay with yourself—no matter what they do. What Will Set You Free: Learning how to receive your own love first. Pulling your energy back and watching the truth surface. Being seen by you before needing to be seen by anyone else.Practicing gentle boundaries as love notes to yourself. Healing Moves to Try: The Sacred Pull-Back: Practice withholding the urge to fix or chase. Let discomfort rise. Let truth meet you. Boundaries = Self-Love: Say no, just once, and don’t explain. Let it be enough.Write Your Worth: Journal as if you’re writing a love letter to your inner child. Tell them they never had to earn their place. Tender Reconnection Practice: Place your hand on your heart. Whisper: “I will not leave you again.” Reflection Prompts: • Where have I been abandoning myself to avoid being abandoned by others? • Who am I when I stop chasing? • What does it feel like to receive my own love? • What part of me still believes I need to give to stay safe? Your Becoming: From: “The one who gives until they disappear.” To: “The one who stays with themself no matter who walks away.” 💖 Wanna Go Deeper? This archetype gets full love and attention in the YOU MATTER course—because when you stop over-giving and start self-honoring, everything shifts. We’ll walk you home to your worth, one sacred boundary at a time. Keep an eye on your inbox...
2.
The Approval Seeker
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You became everything they needed. You read the room. You played the part. You kept the peace. You got the gold stars—but lost your truth. Now? You’re remembering that your voice matters. That your truth is sacred. That love doesn’t require performance—it requires presence. You don’t have to keep molding yourself to feel worthy. You’re worthy because you’re you. Let’s take the mic back. Let’s sing your soul song—on your terms. Signature Patterns: • Hiding your true opinions or feelings to avoid conflict.• Saying yes when your soul is whispering no. • Confusing being liked with being loved. • Feeling disconnected from who you really are. • Living by “shoulds” instead of soul-truths. What You Might Believe: • If I stop performing, I’ll be rejected.• If I’m not helpful or impressive, I’m not lovable.• It’s selfish to say no.• My truth will rock the boat, and that’s dangerous.• I need to be someone else to be accepted.What You’re Really Craving: • To feel free enough to be yourself, not a curated version of you. • To stop performing and start living authentically. • To experience love without conditions, masks, or molds. • To finally say: “This is who I am. Take it or leave it."• To remember what your true voice even sounds like.What Will Set You Free: Letting go of approval addiction and reconnecting with your own needs. Taking baby steps toward expressing your truth—without apology.Creating space to explore your identity outside of roles, achievements, or expectations.Learning to set boundaries and own your yes AND your no. Healing Moves to Try: Truth-Telling Practice: Say one thing today that’s fully true for you. Let it land. Breathe through any discomfort. Role Inventory: Make a list of all the roles you play (good daughter/son/person, overachiever, peacemaker, etc.). Cross out the ones that no longer fit. Voice Activation: Sing in the shower. Shout into a pillow. Speak your desires aloud. Let your voice wake up again. Aligned Choice Ritual: Each morning, ask: “What does my truth need today?” Then listen—and act on it. Reflection Prompts: • What masks do I wear to feel loved? • What truths have I been swallowing? • Where in my life am I molding myself to be accepted? • Who am I—when I’m not trying to be anything for anyone? Your Becoming: From: “The one who became what others needed.” To: “The one who speaks, moves, and lives from her truth.” 💖 Wanna Go Deeper? The YOU MATTER course offers soul-nourishing space to drop the performance, reclaim your voice, and step fully into your authentic power. You don’t need to impress anyone. You just get to be you. Keep an eye on your inbox...
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The Shapeshifter
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You, my radiant friend, were never too much. You were just in rooms that couldn’t hold your light. So you started shrinking. Silencing. Shaping. But the truth? You’re meant to take up space. You’re meant to be bold and soft and messy and real. It’s not your job to fit in—it’s your birthright to belong to yourself. Signature Patterns: • Constantly editing yourself to be palatable. • Comparing your life to everyone else’s highlight reel. • Feeling like you’re too much or not enough. • Avoiding your own desires to stay liked. • Feeling deeply lonely, even when surrounded by others. What You Might Believe: • If I show the real me, they’ll leave.• Being different makes me hard to love. • I have to fit in to be safe. • Everyone else has it figured out but me.• My authenticity is a liability. What You’re Really Craving: • To be loved without condition or compromise. • To say what you really think—and not be punished for it. • To belong to a community without abandoning your truth. • To stop measuring yourself against someone else’s path. • To feel grounded in your self-worth, no matter who’s watching. What Will Set You Free: Radical self-acceptance—especially of the parts you’ve hidden. Letting yourself be fully seen—even if your voice shakes. Creating rituals that affirm your truth, your voice, your worth. Stopping the comparison game and choosing celebration instead. Healing Moves to Try: Say the Unsaid: Share a truth you’ve been swallowing. Let your voice take up space. Mirror Magic: Look into your own eyes and say: “I see you. I accept you. All of you.” Identity Reclamation: Write out everything that makes you you. Circle the ones you’ve hidden. Start showing up with them. Belonging Within Ritual: Light a candle, place one hand on your chest. Whisper: “I’m done abandoning myself to feel safe. I am home now.” Reflection Prompts: • What parts of me have I exiled just to feel accepted? • Who would I be if I never apologized for being myself again? • When did I first learn it was dangerous to stand out? • What would it feel like to fully belong—without changing who I am? Your Becoming: From: “The one who molded themself to be accepted.” To: “The one who shows up in their truth—no apologies, no edits.” 💖 Wanna Go Deeper? In the YOU MATTER course, we help you stop hustling for belonging and start rooting into your self-worth. You’ll learn how to take up space, own your voice, and shine like the light you’ve always been. Keep an eye on your inbox...
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The Striver
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Oh love, you’ve been running so hard. Hustling for gold stars. Checking all the boxes. Proving your worth one to-do list at a time. But somewhere along the way, the finish line kept moving—and so did your peace. Let’s slow down. Because guess what? You were already enough before the accolades, the performance, the approval. You’re not here to earn your worth. You’re here to remember it. Let’s stop striving and start receiving. You’ve done enough, friend. You are enough. Signature Patterns: • Struggling to rest without guilt. • Equating your value with productivity. • Setting the bar higher every time you reach it. • Striving, pushing, proving, and still not feeling fulfilled. • Living in “when/then” mode: “When I ____, then I’ll feel worthy.” What You Might Believe: • If I slow down, I’ll fall behind.• Rest is for later—after I’ve earned it.• I’ll be lovable once I achieve more.• I need to prove I’m worth investing in. • If I’m not performing, I’m not valuable. What You’re Really Craving: • Permission to rest, play, be. • To feel proud of yourself without needing external validation. • To know that who you are—not what you produce—is enough. • To reconnect with your joy, not just your goals. • To be loved in your stillness, not just your success. What Will Set You Free: Redefining success on your own terms.Releasing the belief that worth is something you earn. Letting yourself rest without guilt. Learning to celebrate being just as much as doing. Healing Moves to Try: Rest Ritual: Set aside sacred, non-negotiable rest. Not earned. Not justified. Just because you deserve it. Enoughness Inventory: Write down everything you’ve already done. Then write, “I didn’t have to do any of this to be worthy.” Celebrate Without Conditions: Acknowledge wins—even tiny ones. You don’t need a parade to throw confetti for yourself. Body-Led Days: Let your body—not your calendar—guide your choices. Trust the body's pace. Reflection Prompts: • What story do I carry about rest, worth, and success? • What do I think I have to do to be “enough”? • How do I talk to myself when I slow down? • What part of me still feels like I have to hustle for love? Your Becoming: From: “The one who earned love through performance.” To: “The one who knows their enough, even when they're still.” 💖 Wanna Go Deeper? The YOU MATTER course is a sanctuary for the Striver’s soul. Together, we’ll rewrite your definition of worth, release the hustle-for-worth loop, and help you remember: the most magnetic thing you can be is fully yourself. Keep an eye on your inbox...
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The Hidden Heart 💔
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You learned to smile when your heart was aching. To stay strong when you wanted to fall apart. To keep it polished when it was messy behind the scenes. You wore the mask because it made you feel safe. But behind that mask is a soul that is tender, powerful, worthy, and whole. You don’t need to hide anymore. You don’t need to earn love. You are love. Let’s breathe off the pressure. Let’s let you be real. Signature Patterns: • Feeling like you always have to “keep it together.” • Battling a loud inner critic or self-judgment. • Dodging compliments or positive attention. • Shutting down or withdrawing when things get emotional. • Fearing that if you’re not perfect, you’ll be rejected. What You Might Believe: • If I’m not okay, I’m a burden. •It’s safer to perform than to be real.• I have to be strong, no matter what.• If people saw the real me, they’d leave.• There’s something wrong with me.What You’re Really Craving: • To be fully accepted—mess, feelings, humanness and all. • To drop the act and still feel deeply loved. • To be emotionally held in the places that feel raw. • To believe your softness doesn’t make you broken—it makes you brilliant. What Will Set You Free: Letting yourself be witnessed in your truth—not just your strength. Meeting your shame with so much love, it can’t hold you hostage anymore. Letting go of the belief that perfection equals safety.Learning that your vulnerability is the key to connection—not a risk to avoid. Healing Moves to Try: Soft Spot Journaling: Write to the part of you that hides. Tell that part of you they are safe now. Let them speak back. Unfiltered Share: Tell one trusted person how you really feel today. Without sugarcoating. Let yourself be held. Shame-Release Mirror Ritual: Look into your eyes and say: “I see the real you. I love you. I won’t hide you anymore.” Receive Practice: When someone compliments you… take a breath, smile, and let it land. Reflection Prompts: • What am I hiding—and why? • What am I afraid will happen if I’m real? • What parts of me feel “unlovable”—and what if they’re actually sacred? • When did I start believing I had to be flawless to be worthy? Your Becoming: From: “The one who wore the mask to stay safe.” To: “The one who lets their truth be seen—and knows they are still loved.” 💖 Wanna Go Deeper? In the YOU MATTER course, you’ll be gently guided to unpack shame, soften your inner critic, and reconnect with the most lovable, raw, radiant version of you—the real you. Keep an eye on your inbox...
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The Fierce Independent
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The Lone Wolf Who Secretly Wants to Be Held You became strong because you had to. You learned that vulnerability felt like weakness. You carried it all. You helped everyone else. You learned to survive on your own. But love? Real love? It includes being held. It includes receiving. You don’t have to prove your strength by doing everything alone anymore. Softness is not a threat. It’s your birthright. You’re not too much, or too needy. You’re a human being with a heart that deserves to exhale. Let it exhale now, love. Signature Patterns: • Doing everything yourself (even when you’re drowning). • Resisting help or tenderness. • Struggling to be vulnerable, even with safe people. • Feeling emotionally isolated—even in a crowd. • Believing that needing equals weakness. What You Might Believe: • If I let go of control, I’ll get hurt. • I’m the only one I can count on.• Asking for help is risky or shameful. • People always let me down—so why bother?• If I open up, I’ll be seen as a burden. What You’re Really Craving: • To finally be supported—not just the supporter. • To be able to lean back into softness. • To share the load without guilt or fear. • To feel safe in love again. • To be vulnerable… and not be punished for it. What Will Set You Free: Letting yourself receive—even when it feels uncomfortable. Releasing the story that strength means solitude. Learning to trust again—starting with your spiritual support team. Opening your heart, just a little at a time, to let love in. Healing Moves to Try: The “Yes” Challenge: Say yes to one offer of help this week—even if it’s just someone opening a door or making you tea. Let it land. Spiritual Support Ritual: Light a candle. Say aloud: “Spirit, I surrender this burden. I am ready to be held.” Feel the shift. Let It Out Letter: Write a letter to yourself or your younger self who had to be strong. Thank them. Let them rest now. Emotional Vulnerability Practice: Share a struggle with someone safe. Not for advice—just to be seen. Reflection Prompts: • When did I learn it wasn’t safe to ask for help? • What does “letting go” bring up for me? • What do I think will happen if I soften? • What part of me still believes I must be the strong one at all times? Your Becoming: From: “The one who does it all because you had to.” To: “The one who knows they are worthy of softness, rest, and being held.” 💖 Wanna Go Deeper? In the YOU MATTER course, we gently invite you to take off the armor. To be supported. To surrender what you’ve been holding for too long—and remember: receiving is sacred. You’re not meant to do this life alone. Keep an eye on your inbox...
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An Awakened Heart
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You are the light you’ve been waiting for. You’ve journeyed through the fires of shame, rejection, abandonment, overgiving, and striving—and emerged more whole, not in spite of your pain, but because of it. You no longer chase worthiness in others. You embody it. You no longer perform for love. You are love. How This Archetype Shows Up: • You listen to your soul over your ego (even when it’s hard).• You set boundaries not just to protect yourself, but to honor your expansion. • You’re grounded, but not guarded—open to connection without self-abandonment. • You give from overflow, not depletion. • You no longer see your healing as a means to get someone back—you do it for you. What You’re Learning: • How to feel safe in stillness after a lifetime of striving. • How to trust your knowing over someone else’s narrative. • How to let love in without overextending yourself to earn it. • That softness is strength. Slowness is sacred. You are already home within yourself. Supportive Practices: • Daily mirror affirmations: “I am already whole.” • Letting joy be your GPS. • Gentle boundaries that reflect your current worth—not your past wounds. • Creating beauty and spaciousness in your routines—ritualizing your radiance. Watch Out For: Even as an Awakened Soul, you may still feel tugged by the old stories—especially in moments of grief, nostalgia, or longing. Remember: You’re not regressing. You’re revisiting. And this time, you’re holding yourself differently. Your Healing Mantra: I am already worthy. I no longer hustle for what I already hold.A Loving Invitation for Your Becoming:Even as an Awakened Soul, you’re still learning how to live your worth out loud, to trust joy without guilt, and to stay rooted in your truth when life gets loud.The YOU MATTER course is your next-level sanctuary— a space where your integration becomes embodiment, your softness becomes power, and your healing becomes how you lead.You don’t need to hustle for your worth. But if you’d love support in holding it more deeply, nourishing it daily, and living it in every relationship and room— then this is for you. Keep an eye on your inbox...