What Role Do You Play in Relationships—People-Pleaser, Fixer, or Something Else? 

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  Choose what fits your first instinct. There are 8 questions, and you can select up to 2 answers per question if more than one feels true. There’s no right or wrong — just patterns to explore. Go with what feels most familiar. 

  • A.
    Got it.
  • B.
    Let's go!
• 2.
  1. When you're involved in conflict with someone you care about, how do you usually respond?

  • A.
    You get defensive or double down—You feel like you have to stand your ground.
  • B.
    You shut down completely—it’s too much to process, so you disconnect and withdraw inside yourself.
  • C.
    You try to solve the problem immediately so things don’t spiral.
  • D.
    You apologize and try to smooth things over.
  • E.
    You stay quiet or back down—it’s not worth making things worse.
  • F.
    None of the above.
• 3.
  2. When you express a boundary or need, you feel...

  • A.
    Guilty or selfish for speaking up.
  • B.
    Uncomfortable—like your needs can wait because there’s too much else to take care of.
  • C.
    Afraid it will create distance or tension.
  • D.
    Like it’s probably not worth saying—your needs might not matter that much anyway.
  • E.
    Clear and calm, trusting that honoring your needs is healthy—even if others don’t like it.
  • F.
    None of the above.
• 4.
  3. When you're overwhelmed or emotionally flooded, how do you usually cope?

  • A.
    You shut down completely—feel hopeless, ashamed, or like disappearing. It’s hard to even try.
  • B.
    Get busy organizing, planning, or solving problems—it gives you a sense of control when things feel chaotic.
  • C.
    Double down, take charge, and push through discomfort by staying productive and in control.
  • D.
    You try to keep others happy—even if you're overwhelmed yourself.
  • E.
    You freeze or go blank—numb, quiet, unsure what to do. You shut down to avoid making things worse.
  • F.
    None of the above.
• 5.
  4. Growing up, you felt safest when:

  • A.
    Everyone got along and no one raised their voice.
  • B.
    You were being “good," not upsetting anyone, and keeping everyone happy.
  • C.
    You didn’t ask for much—staying quiet, distracted, or self-sufficient felt safer than needing anything from others.
  • D.
    You were staying busy—performing, achieving, fixing, or managing things to feel in control and avoid emotional chaos.
  • E.
    You were in control or handling things on your own.
  • F.
    None of the above.
• 6.
  5. When someone offers to support or care for you, you usually:

  • A.
    Worry they’ll see you as needy—and you don’t want to be a burden.
  • B.
    You say “I’m fine” or disappear—it feels safer not to need anything from anyone.
  • C.
    Go quiet or freeze—you’re unsure how to receive care and feel uneasy letting it in.
  • D.
    You feel uncomfortable—relying on others makes you feel weak or out of control.
  • E.
    Feel awkward and try to give something back—it's hard to just receive without doing something in return.
  • F.
    None of the above.
• 7.
  6. When someone you care about is upset (not with you), you tend to:

  • A.
    Feel annoyed by their emotional neediness.
  • B.
    You take over and start offering solutions—it helps you feel useful and in control.
  • C.
    You go still and quiet—strong emotions make you uneasy, like something bad might happen.
  • D.
    You feel overwhelmed and shut down—your body checks out, and it’s hard to stay present at all.
  • E.
    You try to make them feel better right away—even if it means hiding how you really feel.
  • F.
    None of the above.
• 8.
  7. You feel most valuable when:

  • A.
    You feel irrelevant or unnoticed—and part of you prefers it that way because it feels safer than letting anyone down.
  • B.
    You’re staying quiet and calm to avoid conflict. You’d rather keep the peace than make waves.
  • C.
    Others are happy with you and you feel appreciated.
  • D.
    You’re accomplishing things on your own—you feel strongest when you don’t need anyone.
  • E.
    You’re being productive—solving, achieving, or getting things done. It makes you feel useful, capable, and in control.
  • F.
    None of the above.
• 9.
  8. When you make a mistake or feel you've disappointed someone, you...

  • A.
    Feel anxious and rush to make sure they’re not mad at you—even if you didn’t do anything wrong.
  • B.
    Get defensive or explain yourself—you feel like you have to protect your intentions.
  • C.
    Avoid the conversation—you’d rather not bring it up or make things worse.
  • D.
    Jump in to fix it, smooth it over, or make up for it—even if it wasn’t really your responsibility.
  • E.
    You spiral into shame or shut down—you assume it’s your fault and want to disappear.
  • F.
    None of the above.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  People-Pleaser

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  You’ve learned to make others comfortable, even if it means shrinking yourself. You’re kind, loyal, and deeply attuned to others’ needs—but it often comes at the cost of your own.You might apologize even when you’re not wrong, avoid asking for what you need, or feel guilty setting boundaries. ✨ You can care deeply about others without being responsible for their feelings. You can have compassion and hold boundaries. You can stay true to yourself—because your needs matter too.
• 2.
  Fixer

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  You jump in, take charge, and try to make everything better. You’re resourceful, competent, and everyone’s go-to problem-solver. But underneath the action is a deeper fear: if you’re not fixing, are you still needed?You may carry emotional burdens that were never yours to hold. It’s time to put them down.✨ You don’t have to earn love through usefulness. Your worth is not defined by what you do for others—it’s in who you are.
• 3.
  Peacekeeper

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  You’re the calm in the storm. You avoid drama, smooth over tension, and pride yourself on being easy to be around. You likely learned early on that staying quiet was the safest path.But avoiding conflict can mean avoiding yourself. Your truth, your voice, your needs.✨ What if your power isn’t in disappearing—but in showing up fully, even when it’s uncomfortable?
• 4.
  Empowered
• 5.
  Fiercely Independent
• 6.
  Collapser