Attachment Style Quiz

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Quiz Questions

1.
Are you in a relationship?
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
2.
What is your relationship status?
- A.
  Prefer not to say
- B.
  Short term relationship (less than one year)
- C.
  Long term relationship (more than one year)
- D.
  Married
3.
How would you rate your current satisfaction in your relationship?
- A.
  Prefer not to say.
- B.
  We are very happy
- C.
  Things are not how I would like them to be
- D.
  The relationship may be nearing a breakup
4.
What’s your favorite way to connect with others?
- A.
  Deep, meaningful conversations.
- B.
  I enjoy connecting but need my space.
- C.
  Sharing fun activities together.
- D.
  Keeping things light and casual.
5.
What makes you nervous about relationships?
- A.
  Not much, I feel secure.
- B.
  Fear of losing independence.
- C.
  Fear of getting hurt.
- D.
  Fear of abandonment.
6.
I can be very emotionally present with others (friends, family, partners, strangers), but it takes me a while to build trust and share vulnerable things about myself.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
7.
How often do you feel overwhelmed by emotions in relationships?
- A.
  Very often, I feel anxious.
- B.
  Rarely, I keep emotions at bay.
- C.
  Sometimes, but I manage it.
- D.
  Often, I struggle with this.
8.
I often put other people in my life on a big pedestal. (Partner, friends, family)
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
9.
I feel naturally comfortable and safe expressing my feelings and needs to loved ones.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
10.
In a perfect world, what would your ideal relationship look like?
- A.
  Trusting and open-hearted.
- B.
  Independent yet connected.
- C.
  Balanced with mutual support.
- D.
  Full of love and reassurance.
11.
I feel very upset when others infringe on my need for space or time alone.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
12.
I am willing to work through challenges in a relationship before suddenly trying to leave the relationship itself. (If you're not in a relationship, think of how you would handle conflict in a partnership.)
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
13.
I tend to be out of touch with my emotions quite frequently.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
14.
I am very attuned to others' needs and often put them before my own and resent it later.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
15.
I constantly want to be emotionally closer to my partner. This can also apply to my close friendships or romantic interests.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
16.
I am effective at compromising and communicating.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
17.
It is very difficult for me to set boundaries unless I am angry. I can sometimes set excessive boundaries and push people away too dramatically out of anger.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
18.
If I notice my partner showing any signs of coldness, I panic and want to get closer as quickly as possible. This often happens to me in friendships as well.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
19.
It is not uncommon for me to experience inward emotional turbulence throughout the duration of my romantic relationship. This applies to close family members as well.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
20.
I often feel very hot or very cold towards my partner or family members. I tend to operate in extremes in how I relate to others.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
21.
I know that I am worthy of a healthy, happy relationship.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
22.
When I feel hurt by a loved one, I often have a strong fight or flight response. I find myself wanting to push this person as far away as possible. (Friends, family, romantic relationship).
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
23.
I do not feel as though I need anything from my romantic partner or loved ones. It can be difficult to conceptualize how others would meet a lot of my needs.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
24.
I do not enjoy being out of romantic relationships. I often fear being alone.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
25.
If a loved one's behavior hurts me, I will express my feelings and try to understand what caused them to act that way.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
26.
I hunger for closeness, but I fear the emotional difficulty of it at the same time (friends, family, romantic partners).
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
27.
I do not like making social plans with others in advance. I often fear being trapped by commitments with other people.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
28.
I find that setting boundaries comes naturally to me.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
29.
I focus much more on the relationships in my life than I do on myself.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
30.
I often feel protective over my space, privacy and belongings.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
31.
I generally feel invaded when my partner or loved ones demand too much physical affection.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
32.
I would prefer to spend most of my free time with my partner if I were to be in a romantic relationship. It would be hard for me to want to do things separately.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
33.
I feel that it is easy to be vulnerable with my romantic partner or loved ones.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
34.
I find that my partner or loved ones usually emotionally recover from conflict before I do.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
35.
I deeply fear being abandoned by my partner or love interests.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
36.
I have previous knowledge of attachment theory.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
37.
How old are you?
- A.
  Prefer not to say
- B.
  18 - 24
- C.
  25 - 34
- D.
  35 - 44
- E.
  55+
38.
What is your gender?
- A.
  Prefer not to say
- B.
  Male
- C.
  Female
- D.
  Other

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Anxious Preoccupied
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Your attachment style is Anxious Preoccupied. If you're anxiously attached, relationships can leave you feeling insecure, unsafe, or constantly on edge due to a deep-rooted fear of abandonment. You crave closeness, seek constant reassurance, and feel intense anxiety when a loved one pulls away. While this behavior can come off as "clingy," it's a defense mechanism rooted in fear.You often seek closeness and reassurance in relationships, which can be a strength when balanced. Embrace your caring nature and work on building self-confidence. Remember, your sensitivity is a gift that allows you to connect deeply with others. To enhance your journey, consider exploring our 12-week experience package to help you feel more secure and balanced in your relationships.
2.
Fearful Avoidant
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Your attachment style is Fearful Avoidant. You may experience a push-pull dynamic in relationships, desiring closeness but fearing vulnerability. This awareness is a powerful step towards healing. Embrace your courage to face fears and build trust. Your resilience is a testament to your strength. Our self-paced mini journey can support you in navigating these emotions and finding peace in your connections.
3.
Dismissive Avoidant
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Your attachment style is Dismissive Avoidant. You value independence and self-reliance, which can be empowering. Recognize the importance of emotional connections and allow yourself to open up gradually. Your strength lies in your ability to maintain calm in challenging situations. Our 1:1 single session can help you explore ways to balance independence with intimacy, enhancing your relationships.
4.
Secure Attached
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Your attachment style is Secure Attached. You have a balanced approach to relationships, feeling comfortable with intimacy and independence. This stability is a foundation for healthy connections. Celebrate your ability to communicate effectively and nurture relationships. To continue thriving, consider our coaching services to further enhance your emotional well-being and relationship skills.