Take our 60-second quiz: Who’s Carrying the Mental Load in Your Family?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When it comes to remembering appointments, deadlines, and activities…

  • A.
    I keep track of them—and remind everyone else.
  • B.
    We both track some things, but I usually double-check.
  • C.
    It’s split pretty evenly.
  • D.
    My partner handles most of that.
• 2.
   If a holiday, birthday, or school event is coming up, who handles the prep?

  • A.
    I’m already planning it 3 weeks ahead.
  • B.
    I do most of the prep but ask for help when I can.
  • C.
    We divide the prep pretty equally.
  • D.
    My partner usually leads here.
• 3.
  Who notices when you’re low on household essentials (toilet paper, snacks, sunscreen)?

  • A.
    Me. Always me.
  • B.
    Usually me, but occasionally my partner catches it.
  • C.
    We both pay attention and make lists together.
  • D.
    My partner’s the first to notice and act.
• 4.
  Who handles childcare logistics like signing permission slips, packing bags, managing sick days, or setting up babysitters?

  • A.
    That’s all on me.
  • B.
    Mostly me, with some help when I ask.
  • C.
    It’s shared 50/50.
  • D.
    My partner does most of this.
• 5.
  When it comes to your family's emotional needs—checking in on moods, managing tantrums, navigating big feelings—who tracks and responds most consistently?

  • A.
    Me. I'm the emotional barometer of the house.
  • B.
    I take the lead, but we talk about it together.
  • C.
    We both handle emotional care together.
  • D.
    My partner is more tuned in than I am.
• 6.
  If you suddenly stepped back from managing your household for a week, what would happen?

  • A.
    Everything would fall apart. No one else knows the system.
  • B.
    Some things would be missed, but it’d be okay.
  • C.
    Things would run fairly smoothly.
  • D.
    My partner would probably pick up the slack without much issue.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
   🎉 You’re Not the Default Parent

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  Someone else is running point on the day-to-day management. Or you have efficient systems and support in place to decrease your mental load. Woohoo!
• 2.
  ⚖️ Fairly Balanced (But Worth a Check-In)

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  It sounds like you and your partner share the mental load pretty evenly. Still, check in—things shift as kids grow and life gets busier.
• 3.
   🧠 Mostly You, With a Little Backup

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  You handle most of the thinking work, but you’ve got some help. There’s room to build more shared systems so the load doesn’t fall back on you by default.
• 4.
   🎒 You’re the Default Parent

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  You’re carrying the bulk of the mental load—and probably feeling it. You’re the one anticipating needs, juggling invisible tasks, and quietly keeping the household afloat. It’s time for support, and we’ve got your back.