What's Your Relationship Archetype?

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Quiz Questions

1.
You just shared something deeply vulnerable with a friend or partner, and their response felt dismissive. What happens next?
- A.
  I immediately shut down. I won’t make that mistake again.
- B.
  I try to explain myself again. Maybe I didn’t say it right the first time?
- C.
  I smile and pretend it didn’t hurt - but I cry later when I’m alone.
- D.
  I change the subject. Emotions feel like too much, even mine.
- E.
  I question if I was being too sensitive and feel ashamed or guilty for bringing it up.
- F.
  I get angry, but I don’t say anything. They should just know that hurt me.
- G.
  I stay silent but mentally rehearse the ‘perfect’ thing I should’ve said.
2.
You feel hurt because someone you love crosses a boundary you didn’t clearly communicate. What’s your inner response?
- A.
  I feel frozen. I don’t want to make things worse, so I say nothing.
- B.
  I make a mental note to never let that happen again and pull away emotionally.
- C.
  I try to explain the situation logically, hoping they’ll understand without conflict.
- D.
  I downplay it - "It’s fine, no big deal" - but I can’t stop thinking about it.
- E.
  I blame myself for not being clearer, then try to act like everything’s normal.
- F.
  I vent to someone else. It’s easier than confronting them.
- G.
  I withdraw and go inward. I need to figure out why this keeps happening.
3.
You’re beginning a new relationship (romantic or platonic), and things are going well. What starts to bubble up?
- A.
  I start worrying I won’t be good enough once they really get to know me.
- B.
  I try to make sure they feel safe and supported - even if I don’t know how to yet.
- C.
  I become very self-aware. I want to come across as confident and put-together.
- D.
  I over-analyze everything they say or do and look for red flags or signs they’ll leave.
- E.
  Even though everything’s going well, I’m already bracing for the moment it all blows up.
- F.
  I want to stay chill, but part of me wants to run before they can hurt me.
- G.
  I notice how much I want this to work and get scared by the intensity of that longing.
4.
You sense tension or awkwardness in a relationship. What do you typically do in response?
- A.
  I immediately ask, “Did I do something wrong?”
- B.
  I try to “fix” the situation - maybe bring a gift, plan a hangout, or talk it through.
- C.
  I feel guilty and overextend myself to make them feel better.
- D.
  I take space. I assume they need time - and maybe I do too.
- E.
  I tell myself it’s not a big deal and wait for it to pass.
- F.
  I feel frustrated they aren’t just being honest - it makes me not trust them.
- G.
  I play it cool, but my stomach’s in knots until it resolves.
5.
When someone offers to support you emotionally, how do you feel?
- A.
  I want to say yes, but I don’t want to feel indebted or weak.
- B.
  I soften. It’s rare and feels like a relief.
- C.
  I appreciate the offer but change the subject quickly.
- D.
  I get suspicious and wonder, "what do they really want?"
- E.
  I want support, but I’d rather be the one giving it.
- F.
  I downplay what I’m going through. I don't want to burden them.
- G.
  I say I’m fine, but secretly hope they ask again.
6.
You’re in a conflict. Emotions are rising, and you feel misunderstood. How do you typically react?
- A.
  I get louder or more intense - it feels like the only way I’ll be heard.
- B.
  I cry or go silent. I hate how conflict makes my body feel.
- C.
  I try to keep things calm, even if that means swallowing what I really feel.
- D.
  I want to talk it out now. I can’t handle unresolved tension.
- E.
  I get critical, if they’d just listened to me in the first place, we wouldn’t be here.
- F.
  I remove myself and need hours (or days) to process before I can talk.
- G.
  I try to make a joke or lighten the mood to avoid the conflict.
7.
You start to fall for someone (romantically, creatively, or platonically). What scares you the most?
- A.
  That I’ll give too much and lose myself again.
- B.
  That they’ll leave once they see all of me.
- C.
  That I’ll need them more than they need me.
- D.
  That I’ll end up responsible for their happiness.
- E.
  That my intensity will push them away.
- F.
  That I’ll be too much or not enough. I'm never just right.
- G.
  That I’ll lose the connection unless I stay hyper-attuned to their needs.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
🕊 You are The Harmonizer
Hey lovely, you are The Harmonizer,These are the gifts you bring to your loved ones - they are your medicine:You make others feel safe in your presence.You feel emotions that other people miss, especially the ones left unsaid.You sense tension rising before it’s visible, and instinctively try to soothe it.You notice the small cues: a glance, a sigh, a shift in tone, and adjust in real time.You believe that harmony is possible, and you do what you can to create it.But when you were a child, you learned to keep the peace by saying the right thing, even if it meant hiding how you really felt.So now…You carry the weight of unspoken emotions to keep the peace.You over-explain your feelings hoping that someone will get you.You adjust your words, and your tone so you feel more palatable.You replay conversations over and over, wishing you’d said something different.You’re scared to upset anyone so you push your own needs down.You’ve been managing your relationships instead of enjoying them.Keeping the peace at the cost of your truth.Taking on the pain for others.Working so hard to be understood, just to stay connected.You don’t need these masks to stay safe anymore.When you reclaim your gifts, you become the woman who stops abandoning herself for love.💫 Your sensitivity no longer means over-responsibility, it becomes understanding and empathy.💫 Your voice stops smoothing things over, and starts creating honest connection.💫 Your nervous system becomes a signal of safety to the people you loveCan you feel what’s possible?The connection you’ve been working so hard for is already within you. Your medicine is waiting.Watch your inbox for this full archetype breakdown plus a personalized video, so you can come back to it anytime you need to remember who you really are in relationship.When you’re ready to shift these patterns for good, come join me inside The Relationship Energetics Medicine Bundle.This is your starter kit to relationships that root, nourish, and grow with you—without abandoning yourself for love.Inside The Relationship Energetics Medicine Bundle, you’ll get 5 somatic and energetic tools that shift how you feel, so you can show up differently in your relationships.You’ll discover how to:🌿 Shift the patterns that keep you stuck in over-giving, silence, or spiraling so that you can create connection without self-abandonment.🌿 Rewire how your body responds when you feel overwhelmed so that you feel steady, clear, and anchored in the truth of who you are.🌿 Reconnect with your own intuition so that you stop outsourcing your wisdom and start trusting yourself againI use these tools everyday and I teach them to all my clients.These aren’t quick fixes, lovely, they’re embodied shifts that will activate your medicine and transform your life because your relationships need the real you.When you’re ready, grab The Medicine Bundle for $97. It’s your toolkit for deeper, safer, more honest relationships—without abandoning yourself.
2.
🔐 You are The Keeper
Hey lovely, you are The Keeper,These are the gifts you bring to your loved ones - they are your medicine:You know how to stay steady when others unravel.You make space for others to feel without rushing to fix or explain.You feel emotions deeply, even if you rarely show them.You have a calming presence that makes others feel grounded.You can track the emotional tone of a room and instinctively know what’s needed.But when you were a child, you learned to stay steady and quiet - so no one would leave or fall apart.So now…You keep your feelings in because you’re scared they’ll be too much.You silence your truth so you don’t upset anyone.You wait for the perfect moment to speak, but it rarely comes.You hold back tears in conversations, then cry in private.You’re scared that if you open up, your relationships will all fall apart.You’ve been holding it all together for everyone.Choosing peace over truth.Staying quiet, even when something hurts.And underneath that strength… you’re exhausted.You don’t need these masks to stay safe anymore.When you reclaim your gifts, you become the woman who no longer abandons herself to be loved.💫 Your steadiness supports others without making you responsible for their emotions.💫 Your emotions bring clarity because you finally let yourself feel them.💫 Your strength includes your feelings and lets people see the real you.Can you feel what’s possible?You don’t have to hold it all anymore. Your medicine is waiting.Watch your inbox for this full archetype breakdown plus a personalized video, so you can come back to it anytime you need to remember who you really are in relationship.When you’re ready to take back your medicine, come join me inside The Relationship Energetics Medicine Bundle.This is your starter kit to relationships that root, nourish, and grow with you -without abandoning yourself for love.Inside The Medicine Bundle, you’ll get 5 somatic and energetic tools that shift how you feel - so you can show up differently in your relationships.You’ll discover how to:🌿 Shift the patterns that keep you stuck in over-giving, silence, or spiraling so that you can create connection without self-abandonment.🌿 Rewire how your body responds when you feel overwhelmed so that you feel steady, clear, and anchored in the truth of who you are.🌿 Reconnect with your own intuition so that you stop outsourcing your wisdom and start trusting yourself againI use these tools everyday and I teach them to all my clients.These aren’t quick fixes, lovely, they’re embodied shifts that will activate your medicine and transform your life because your relationships need the real you.When you’re ready, grab The Medicine Bundle for $97. It’s your toolkit for deeper, safer, more honest relationships—without abandoning yourself.
3.
💗 You are The Devoted
Hey lovely, you are The Devoted.These are the gifts you bring to your loved ones - they are your medicine:You love with your whole heart.You care deeply - you're the one people turn to when life gets hard.You anticipate needs before they’re spoken.You create a feeling of safety and closeness that others often lean on.Your love runs deep - and you give it freely.But when you were a child, you made yourself easy to love by putting everyone else first.So now…You say yes when your body is screaming no.You smile when you’re hurting.You give and give, hoping it will be enough to stay close.You soften your truth to be accepted.You make yourself smaller so others stay comfortable.You’ve confused love with sacrifice.You’ve mistaken ease for safety.You’ve believed that your needs are just too much.You don’t need these masks to stay safe anymore.When you reclaim your gifts, you become the woman who no longer abandons herself to be loved.💫 Your care stops being one-sided and starts being mutual.💫 Your tenderness includes your own needs, not just theirs.💫 Your presence invites others to meet the real you, not just be held by you.Can you feel what’s possible? Love gets to include you, too. Your medicine is waiting.Watch your inbox for this full archetype breakdown plus a personalized video, so you can come back to it anytime you need to remember who you really are in relationship.When you’re ready to take back your medicine, come join me inside The Relationship Energetics Medicine Bundle.This is your starter kit to relationships that root, nourish, and grow with you—without abandoning yourself for love.Inside The Medicine Bundle, you’ll get 5 somatic and energetic tools that shift how you feel—so you can show up differently in your relationships.You’ll discover how to:🌿 Shift the patterns that keep you stuck in over-giving, silence, or spiraling so that you can create connection without self-abandonment.🌿 Rewire how your body responds when you feel overwhelmed so that you feel steady, clear, and anchored in the truth of who you are.🌿 Reconnect with your own intuition so that you stop outsourcing your wisdom and start trusting yourself againI use these tools everyday and I teach them to all my clients.These aren’t quick fixes, lovely, they’re embodied shifts that will activate your medicine and transform your life because your relationships need the real you.When you’re ready, grab The Medicine Bundle for $97. It’s your toolkit for deeper, safer, more honest relationships—without abandoning yourself.
4.
🫶 You are The Connector
Hey lovely, you are The Connector.These are the gifts you bring to your loved ones - they are your medicine:You bring lightness and warmth into the room.You know how to make others feel welcomed, safe, and seen.You ease tension with presence, humour, or warmth - often without even trying.You’re playful, curious, and emotionally intelligent.People feel better just being around you.But when you were a child, you stayed light and easy - because going deeper didn’t feel safe.So now…You pull away when things get too intense.You change the subject when the energy feels heavy.You make others laugh when you’re actually uncomfortable.You disappear emotionally while still being physically present.You crave closeness but only if it stays light.You’ve been managing your relationships instead of enjoying them.Keeping the peace at the cost of your truth.Taking on the pain for others. Working so hard to be understood, just to stay connected.You don’t need these masks to stay safe anymore.When you reclaim your gifts, you become the woman who no longer abandons herself to be loved.💫 Your lightness builds real connection because you’re not avoiding what’s hard.💫 Your warmth holds space for truth not just comfort.💫 You stay open and spacious even when emotions get big.Can you feel what’s possible?Depth and freedom get to coexist.Your medicine is waiting.Watch your inbox for this full archetype breakdown plus a personalized video, so you can come back to it anytime you need to remember who you really are in relationship.When you’re ready to take back your medicine, come join me inside The Relationship Energetics Medicine Bundle.This is your starter kit to relationships that root, nourish, and grow with you—without abandoning yourself for love.Inside The Medicine Bundle, you’ll get 5 somatic and energetic tools that shift how you feel—so you can show up differently in your relationships.You’ll discover how to:🌿 Shift the patterns that keep you stuck in over-giving, silence, or spiraling so that you can create connection without self-abandonment.🌿 Rewire how your body responds when you feel overwhelmed so that you feel steady, clear, and anchored in the truth of who you are.🌿 Reconnect with your own intuition so that you stop outsourcing your wisdom and start trusting yourself againI use these tools everyday and I teach them to all my clients.These aren’t quick fixes, lovely, they’re embodied shifts that will activate your medicine and transform your life because your relationships need the real you.When you’re ready, grab The Medicine Bundle for $97. It’s your toolkit for deeper, safer, more honest relationships—without abandoning yourself.
5.
🌀 You are The Shapeshifter
Hi lovely, you are The Shapeshifter,These are the gifts you bring to your loved ones - they are your medicine:You know how to read a room.You know how to speak, act, or respond in ways so everyone gets along.You adapt and blend in with ease.You’re intuitive, emotionally intelligent, and aware of what others need before they ask.You help people feel comfortable, safe, and seen.But when you were a child, you became who others needed you to be - so you wouldn’t be rejected or judged.So now…You become who others need you to be.You shrink or shift your truth to keep things calm.You say the right thing even when it’s not the whole truth.You hide your real feelings behind the version of you that’s easiest to love.You question who you are when no one’s around to reflect it.You’ve been performing your way into connection.Molding yourself to stay liked. Making yourself easy, agreeable, or “fine” so no one pulls away.You don’t need these masks to stay safe anymore.When you reclaim your gifts, you become the woman who no longer abandons herself to be loved.💫 Your adaptability helps you express who you are, not just who others want you to be.💫 You name what’s true for you, not just what others want to hear.💫 You let yourself be fully seen, even if it means being misunderstood.Can you feel what’s possible?You don’t have to change to belong.Your medicine is waiting.Watch your inbox for this full archetype breakdown plus a personalized video, so you can come back to it anytime you need to remember who you really are in relationship.When you’re ready to take back your medicine, come join me inside The Relationship Energetics Medicine Bundle.This is your starter kit to relationships that root, nourish, and grow with you—without abandoning yourself for love.Inside The Medicine Bundle, you’ll get 5 somatic and energetic tools that shift how you feel—so you can show up differently in your relationships.You’ll discover how to:🌿 Shift the patterns that keep you stuck in over-giving, silence, or spiraling so that you can create connection without self-abandonment.🌿 Rewire how your body responds when you feel overwhelmed so that you feel steady, clear, and anchored in the truth of who you are.🌿 Reconnect with your own intuition so that you stop outsourcing your wisdom and start trusting yourself againI use these tools everyday and I teach them to all my clients.These aren’t quick fixes, lovely, they’re embodied shifts that will activate your medicine and transform your life because your relationships need the real you.When you’re ready, grab The Medicine Bundle for $97. It’s your toolkit for deeper, safer, more honest relationships—without abandoning yourself.
6.
🔥 You are The Truth Carrier
Hi lovely, you are The Truth Carrier,These are the gifts you bring to your loved ones - they are your medicine:Your emotional depth lets you feel what others miss, and name what matters.You sense what others avoid and instinctively track the heart of the issue.You remember what’s been left unspoken because you care about repair.You know when it’s time for a real conversation and you're not afraid to go there.You care deeply about honesty, and you want your relationships to be built on it.But when you were a child, you held back your truth because being honest didn’t feel safe.So now…You hold things in until they boil over.You tell yourself it’s not a big deal - until it suddenly is.You explode when no one listens because it’s been building for so long.You say what others don’t want to hear, but it often comes out too loud or too late.You hope someone else will name what’s wrong but it always ends up being you.You’ve been carrying the weight of what’s unsaid.Swallowing your truth to keep the peace - then erupting when it gets too heavy.You feel like no one hears you until you’re yelling.You don’t need these masks to stay safe anymore.When you reclaim your gifts, you become the woman who no longer abandons herself to be loved.💫 You speak up early instead of waiting until it explodes.💫 Your voice opens space for honesty instead of pushing people away.💫 You stand in what’s true even when it’s hard to say.Can you feel what’s possible?You’re allowed to be heard.Your medicine is waiting.Watch your inbox for this full archetype breakdown plus a personalized video, so you can come back to it anytime you need to remember who you really are in relationship.When you’re ready to take back your medicine, come join me inside The Relationship Energetics Medicine Bundle.This is your starter kit to relationships that root, nourish, and grow with you—without abandoning yourself for love.Inside The Medicine Bundle, you’ll get 5 somatic and energetic tools that shift how you feel—so you can show up differently in your relationships.You’ll discover how to:🌿 Shift the patterns that keep you stuck in over-giving, silence, or spiraling so that you can create connection without self-abandonment.🌿 Rewire how your body responds when you feel overwhelmed so that you feel steady, clear, and anchored in the truth of who you are.🌿 Reconnect with your own intuition so that you stop outsourcing your wisdom and start trusting yourself againI use these tools everyday and I teach them to all my clients.These aren’t quick fixes, lovely, they’re embodied shifts that will activate your medicine and transform your life because your relationships need the real you.When you’re ready, grab The Medicine Bundle for $97. It’s your toolkit for deeper, safer, more honest relationships—without abandoning yourself.
7.
🪞 You are The Reflector
Hi lovely, you are The Reflector,These are the gifts you bring to your loved ones - they are your medicine:You feel deeply and your emotional depth brings compassion, and understanding.You sense emotional undercurrents others miss so you can respond to what’s really going on.You read the room without effort and instinctively adjust to keep connection intact.You’re exquisitely attuned to others so people feel emotionally met, even without words.You help people feel seen and understood simply by being present.But when you were a child, you absorbed everyone else’s emotions because it felt safer than feeling your own.So now…You feel responsible for other people’s emotional states.You lose track of your needs and preferences in the moment.You take on energy that isn’t yours and it drains you.You mirror the emotions around you and lose your center in the process.You confuse emotional closeness with codependency.You’ve been disappearing in your relationships.Attuning to others instead of listening for your own truth.Absorbing feelings, fixing atmospheres, softening edges just to stay connected.You don’t need these masks to stay safe anymore.When you reclaim your gifts, you become the woman who no longer abandons herself to be loved.💫 Your empathy gives you energy instead of draining you.💫 Your sensitivity becomes a superpower you feel without losing yourself.💫 You stay connected to yourself instead of adapting to the room.Can you feel what’s possible? You get to feel what’s yours and let the rest go. Your medicine is waiting.Watch your inbox for this full archetype breakdown plus a personalized video, so you can come back to it anytime you need to remember who you really are in relationship.When you’re ready to take back your medicine, come join me inside The Relationship Energetics Medicine Bundle.This is your starter kit to relationships that root, nourish, and grow with you—without abandoning yourself for love.Inside The Medicine Bundle, you’ll get 5 somatic and energetic tools that shift how you feel—so you can show up differently in your relationships.You’ll discover how to:🌿 Shift the patterns that keep you stuck in over-giving, silence, or spiraling so that you can create connection without self-abandonment.🌿 Rewire how your body responds when you feel overwhelmed so that you feel steady, clear, and anchored in the truth of who you are.🌿 Reconnect with your own intuition so that you stop outsourcing your wisdom and start trusting yourself againI use these tools everyday and I teach them to all my clients.These aren’t quick fixes, lovely, they’re embodied shifts that will activate your medicine and transform your life because your relationships need the real you.When you’re ready, grab The Medicine Bundle for $97. It’s your toolkit for deeper, safer, more honest relationships—without abandoning yourself.