Are You Holding On or Leveling Up?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When you express your needs, your partner usually...

  • A.
    Listens, responds, and adjusts with intention
  • B.
    Says sorry but doesn’t really change
  • C.
    Gets defensive or avoids the convo
  • D.
    I don’t really bring them up anymore
• 2.
  How do you feel after spending time with them?

  • A.
    Uplifted, seen, and safe
  • B.
    Confused but hopeful
  • C.
    Drained or uncertain
  • D.
    Numb or overthinking everything
• 3.
  Do they speak your love language?

  • A.
    Yes, effortlessly
  • B.
    Kind of, but not consistently
  • C.
    No, and I’ve explained it many times
  • D.
    I don’t even know what mine is anymore
• 4.
  Are you afraid to start over?

  • A.
    Not at all
  • B.
    A little, but I could do it
  • C.
    Yes, I don’t want to start from scratch again
  • D.
    That’s probably the only reason I stay
• 5.
  Have you changed your standards to fit the relationship?

  • A.
    No, if anything they did
  • B.
    Maybe a few
  • C.
    Definitely
  • D.
    I don’t even remember what my standards were before
• 6.
  When you imagine your future, they…

  • A.
    Fit into your vision naturally
  • B.
    Might be there but it’s blurry
  • C.
    Feel like they’re holding you back
  • D.
    Aren’t really part of the picture anymore
• 7.
  How do you feel about your needs in this relationship?

  • A.
    Respected and prioritized
  • B.
    Occasionally met, but not always
  • C.
    Constantly negotiating just to be heard
  • D.
    Afraid to bring them up at all
• 8.
  When you talk about your relationship to friends, you usually…

  • A.
    Glow and feel proud
  • B.
    Make excuses or sugarcoat things
  • C.
    Downplay your unhappiness
  • D.
    Avoid talking about it altogether
• 9.
  What’s your gut feeling telling you most days?

  • A.
    This is right
  • B.
    I’m not sure
  • C.
    I deserve better
  • D.
    I feel stuck
• 10.
  What would you tell your best friend if she were in your exact situation?

  • A.
    Keep nurturing this—it’s real
  • B.
    Have an honest check-in with yourself
  • C.
    You need more than this
  • D.
    Walk away and don’t look back

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  You’re in Soulmate Season

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  You’re not settling. You’ve done the work and it shows. Keep communicating, keep evolving, and don’t forget—alignment over aesthetics.
• 2.
  You’re in the Gray Area

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  There’s potential, but potential without action becomes resentment. Ask yourself if they’re growing with you or just coasting next to you.
• 3.
  Settling Is Showing Up

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  You’ve been adjusting, shrinking, and rationalizing. It’s not too late to reintroduce yourself—to them and to you.
• 4.
   It’s Time to Choose You

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  This isn’t love. This is emotional labor in heels. You deserve real intimacy, not just proximity. Let this be your wake-up call.