What’s Really Draining Your Time?Discover your Time Drain Archetype and how to reclaim your energy.

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  How do you usually feel at the end of the day?

  • A.
    Drained but still running through tomorrow’s to-do list
  • B.
    Anxious I didn’t do enough or disappointed in myself
  • C.
    Numb or checked out—I just want to scroll or hide
  • D.
    Relieved that I didn’t upset anyone or cause conflict
  • E.
    Exhausted from trying to help everyone else
• 2.
  Which sentence feels most true?

  • A.
    “If I don’t do it, it won’t get done.”
  • B.
    “I don’t want to disappoint anyone.”
  • C.
    “Everything feels like too much lately.”
  • D.
    “I can rest once everyone else is okay.”
  • E.
    “Resting makes me feel guilty or behind.”
• 3.
   How do you usually respond to stress?

  • A.
    I get super productive—I clean, organize, get things done
  • B.
    I shut down or avoid everything
  • C.
    I try to fix or help someone else
  • D.
    I try to keep things smooth and avoid conflict
  • E.
    I take on more tasks to stay in control
• 4.
  When someone asks you for a favor, your first thought is…

  • A.
    “I’ll make it work somehow.”
  • B.
    “They probably need me more than I need rest.”
  • C.
    “Ugh—I don’t have the energy, but I’ll do it.”
  • D.
    “If I say no, they’ll think I’m selfish or lazy.”
  • E.
    “Maybe if I ignore it, they’ll forget.”
• 5.
   What does your inner critic say most often?

  • A.
    “You should be doing more.”
  • B.
    “You can’t let them down.”
  • C.
    “Why can’t you just get it together?”
  • D.
    “Everyone’s relying on you.”
  • E.
    “You’re not helping enough.”
• 6.
  What happens when you finally take a break?

  • A.
    You feel guilty and start thinking about what needs to get done
  • B.
    You feel like you don’t even know what you want
  • C.
    You worry someone else is upset or struggling
  • D.
    You finally exhale—but it takes a while
• 7.
   Which of these feels hardest to receive?

  • A.
    Help
  • B.
    Praise
  • C.
    Stillness
  • D.
    Saying no
  • E.
    Letting others figure things out

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  The Performer 

  If I’m not productive, I don’t matter.You’re constantly striving. Your to-do list never ends, and still, you feel like it’s not enough. Success brings a moment of relief—and then another goal appears. You equate rest with laziness and pause with failure. You feel the pressure to always be on.This is often rooted in praise-based love: when your worth was tied to performance, grades, achievements, or “being impressive.” Your nervous system lives in high-functioning fight always proving, always pushing.You are enough even when you do nothing. Your value doesn’t come from your output, it comes from your essence. Let’s build rhythms that honor your being, not just your doing.Before you go: Your quiz guide is on its way to your inbox. If you don’t see it in 5 minutes, check your spam or promotions tab — and drag it into your inbox so you never miss a tip.
• 2.
  The Frozen One

  It’s all too much… I shut down.You often feel paralyzed by all the things on your plate. You want change you just don’t know where to start. Some days you have energy and clarity, and others you feel like disappearing. You might judge yourself for procrastinating, numbing, or zoning out.Your nervous system is likely caught in freeze an ancient survival response that protects you by making you “invisible” when life feels too overwhelming or unsafe. This isn’t laziness. It’s a signal that your system needs gentleness, not pressure.You don’t need to push through, you need to soften. Regulation begins with presence, not perfection.Before you go: Your quiz guide is on its way to your inbox. If you don’t see it in 5 minutes, check your spam or promotions tab — and drag it into your inbox so you never miss a tip.
• 3.
  The Fixer 

  Let me help you, then I'll rest.You find identity in being the one who solves the problems, smooths the path, or offers solutions. But you’re tired. There’s always another fire to put out, another person who “needs” you. You delay your own rest and pleasure because someone else always seems to come first.Often tied to enmeshment or emotional parentification, this pattern forms when you felt responsible for others’ wellbeing early on. Your nervous system may be stuck toggling between fight (rescue/fix) and fawn (maintain connection).Helping others doesn’t mean abandoning yourself. Your value isn’t in your usefulness. It’s safe to pour into you.Before you go: Your quiz guide is on its way to your inbox. If you don’t see it in 5 minutes, check your spam or promotions tab — and drag it into your inbox so you never miss a tip.
• 4.
  The Pleaser

  I just want to keep the peace.You’re always tuned in to others, what they need, what they want, how they feel. You anticipate before they even ask. But this often means your own needs are buried, delayed, or ignored. Time for yourself? It gets sacrificed to avoid conflict, guilt, or the fear of being seen as selfish.This pattern usually stems from a childhood where love and safety felt conditional, on your behavior, helpfulness, or emotional tone. Your nervous system is often in fawn mode, over-accommodating, over-apologizing, over-explaining.You don’t need to earn your right to exist. The world won’t fall apart when you say no. Your worth isn’t measured by how small you can make yourself.Before you go: Your quiz guide is on its way to your inbox. If you don’t see it in 5 minutes, check your spam or promotions tab — and drag it into your inbox so you never miss a tip.
• 5.
  The Overfunctioner

  If I don't do it, it won't get done.You’re the go-to woman. The one who carries it all emotionally, mentally, sometimes even physically. You pride yourself on being dependable, but underneath the hyper-responsibility is a deep exhaustion and resentment. You rarely feel like there’s time left over for you and even when there is, you can’t fully relax.This pattern often forms in childhood, when your safety or worth depended on being the “strong one,” the helper, or the achiever. Your nervous system may be stuck in fight mode, always alert, always performing, always doing.It’s not laziness to rest. It’s leadership to release what was never yours to carry. It’s time to regulate your nervous system, reclaim your energy, and create rhythms that nourish you too.Before you go: Your quiz guide is on its way to your inbox. If you don’t see it in 5 minutes, check your spam or promotions tab — and drag it into your inbox so you never miss a tip.