Craving more connection—with yourself, and your people?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  If I woke up tomorrow and magically had ONE of these things, which would I choose?

  • A.
    A full day to myself with no responsibilities or expectations
  • B.
    Spending the day on something that makes me feel excited and filled with purpose
  • C.
    Connective time with someone who fully accepts me for who I am
  • D.
    A peaceful mind that’s not stressed or anxious about anything
• 2.
  What feels hardest for me right now?

  • A.
    I feel like I’m always the one sacrificing in my relationships
  • B.
    Quieting my mind and trusting myself
  • C.
    Keeping up with everything I’m responsible for
  • D.
    Figuring out what I actually want for myself or what’s next for me
• 3.
  When I get time to myself:

  • A.
    It feels kind of flat or aimless—I wish something sounded meaningful or exciting, but nothing really does
  • B.
    I’m excited for the break, but I feel guilty or restless because there’s still so much I should be doing
  • C.
    I feel relief that I don’t have to monitor anyone’s mood, smooth things over, or keep the peace for a while
  • D.
    I sometimes avoid it or fill it up because being alone with my thoughts can turn into overthinking or spiraling
• 4.
  If I’m being honest…

  • A.
    No matter what I accomplish, I still worry I’m not enough
  • B.
    I hold a lot in to keep things smooth, and sometimes resentment builds—which makes me feel guilty
  • C.
    I feel like I’m just going through the motions but don’t know what I actually want
  • D.
    The amount on my plate is a LOT, but I don’t always know what or who to say no to
• 5.
  Which of these tends to get to me the most?

  • A.
    When I’m already stretched thin and one more thing goes wrong or gets added to my plate
  • B.
    My mind won’t shut off at night—replaying things I said or worrying about what I got wrong
  • C.
    Realizing I should probably know what I want for myself by now… but I don’t
  • D.
    Feeling unappreciated or unseen in my relationships, but not knowing how to say that without causing tension
• 6.
  In relationships I:

  • A.
    Do a lot of the emotional work—smoothing things over, keeping the peace, and avoiding tension
  • B.
    Work hard to appear capable and put together, even when I don’t feel that way inside
  • C.
    Feel responsible for keeping everything running and organized
  • D.
    Go along with what others want because I’m not always sure what I want myself
• 7.
  When something stressful happens, my first instinct is to:

  • A.
    Take control and handle it
  • B.
    Wait and see what others want
  • C.
    Try to keep everyone calm
  • D.
    Worry that I’m going to mess it up
• 8.
  The thing I need most right now is:

  • A.
    Clarity about who I am and what I want — a stronger sense of direction and purpose
  • B.
    More confidence in myself — less overthinking, less self-doubt, and more trust in my own voice and abilities
  • C.
    Relationships where I can be fully myself—where my needs matter and I feel valued, not just relied on
  • D.
    Relief from carrying so much and time for myself in ways that feel fulfilling/replenishing

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  You’re Carrying a Lot Right Now

  You’ve got a lot on your plate and a lot going on in your head—things you’re tracking, managing, remembering, and making sure don’t fall through the cracks.The hard part is that most of it really matters to you.These are people and responsibilities you care deeply about, so even when you feel stretched thin, it’s hard to know what you could possibly set down.And even if it doesn’t always feel like it, you’re likely doing far better than you give yourself credit for.What you really want isn’t to care less or do less for the people you love.You want to keep showing up for what matters—your kids, your partner, your work, your life—without feeling constantly overwhelmed while you do it.Check your email—I’ve sent you more about why this happens and where to start easing the load.And if this already feels very familiar, this short read may help put words to what you’ve been experiencing:
• 2.
  You’re Ready for Something More

  From the outside, your life may look fine or “good enough.” But inside, something feels a little flat—like you’re going through the motions without feeling fully connected or energized by your own life.This often happens after years of focusing on roles, responsibilities, or caring for others. Somewhere along the way, your own desires, interests, and sense of direction may have gotten a little blurry.Nothing is wrong with you. This isn’t a crisis—it’s often the beginning of reconnecting with who you are now and what actually brings you meaning.You don’t need to reinvent your life overnight. You just need a place to begin finding a sense of who you are now.Check your email—I’ve sent you more about why this happens and how to start finding your direction again.And if this feels familiar, this starting point may help you reconnect with what’s been missing:
• 3.
  You Care Deeply About Your Relationships

  Connection matters a lot to you. You notice how others feel, you work to keep harmony, and you often step in to smooth things over so the people you love can feel okay.Over time, though, this can mean setting aside your own thoughts, needs, or preferences—not because you don’t have them, but because protecting the relationship feels more important in the moment.If you’ve started to feel unseen, a little resentful, or kind of unsure how to be fully yourself while still keeping connection, you’re not alone. Many caring and thoughtful people find themselves here without realizing how gradually it happened.Wanting closeness and wanting to be yourself are not opposing goals. Real connection actually grows when both people get to exist fully within the relationship.Check your email—I’ve sent you more about why this pattern develops and how connection and authenticity can begin to work together.If this feels familiar, this short read may help you understand why keeping the peace can slowly lead to losing parts of yourself—and how connection doesn’t have to come at that cost.
• 4.
  Your Mind Has Been Carrying a Lot

  You might look capable on the outside, but internally your mind is often busy evaluating, replaying, or questioning yourself.You go back over conversations in your mind. You're awake at night thinking. You wonder whether you handled something the right way.And even when things seem to go well, you can usually find something to worry about.Over time, this constant monitoring gets exhausting.What you’re really wanting isn’t perfection or constant reassurance—you want to feel more at peace in your own head. To trust your own voice. To move through your life without second-guessing every step or overthinking every choice.And the good news is: you're not alone. This is incredibly common but also a pattern you don't have to stay stuck in.Check your email—I’ve sent you more about why this pattern develops and how you can begin quieting the mental noise and rebuilding trust in yourself.If you often find your mind circling back to conversations or second-guessing yourself afterward, this short read may help you understand why this happens for so many of us: