The Love Life Wake-Up Call Quiz

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Quiz Questions

1.
When emotional closeness builds in a relationship, what feels most familiar?
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- A.
  • I stay grounded and open, while holding my own centre
- B.
  • I crave more connection but also feel anxious or over-aware
- C.
  • I start analysing everything or pull back
- D.
  • I go quiet and wait to see if it’s safe
- E.
  • I do whatever I can to protect the bond
- F.
  • I enjoy the closeness but still scan for what could go wrong
2.
What happens in your body when someone starts loving you well?
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- A.
  • I feel calm, present, and emotionally available
- B.
  • I tense up or become self-conscious
- C.
  • I want it, but I also feel I don’t deserve it
- D.
  • I keep waiting for them to change or disappoint me
- E.
  • I start giving more than I receive
- F.
  • I lose interest or pull away without knowing why
3.
Which hidden belief most often shapes how you love or connect?
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- A.
  • I have to earn love by proving my worth
- B.
  • If I’m vulnerable, I’ll get hurt or abandoned
- C.
  • Real love must involve struggle or sacrifice
- D.
  • I don’t really trust anyone to choose me and stay
- E.
  • If I’m single too long, something must be wrong with me
- F.
  • I can be loved as I am, and I am learning to trust that
4.
How did you first learn what love looks and feels like?
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- A.
  • Through silence, guilt, or emotional distance
- B.
  • Through chaos, control, or intense emotional swings
- C.
  • Through pressure to perform, behave, or achieve
- D.
  • Through love that felt conditional or inconsistent
- E.
  • Through presence, patience, and emotional safety
- F.
  • Through culture, tradition, or faith – where love was defined for me
5.
Which statement feels most true in your current love life?
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- A.
  • I keep attracting intense relationships that burn out
- B.
  • I give too much and lose myself
- C.
  • I stay longer than I should out of fear or hope
- D.
  • I get scared and leave before I can be hurt
- E.
  • I’m choosing better now, but love still feels foreign
- F.
  • I’ve started breaking the pattern and protecting my peace
6.
When someone truly sees and accepts you, how do you respond inside?
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- A.
  • I feel like I need to keep earning it
- B.
  • I get uncomfortable and try to hide something
- C.
  • I feel calm, but part of me keeps waiting to be judged
- D.
  • I test the connection or try to control how they see me
- E.
  • I soften into it, even if it feels new
- F.
  • I trust it and let myself be held
7.
Which quiet fear are you still carrying?
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- A.
  • I will always be too much or not enough
- B.
  • I’ll end up in the same pain I swore I’d never repeat
- C.
  • No one can really handle the real me
- D.
  • I can do the inner work and still not get the love I want
- E.
  • I’ll outgrow everyone if I keep healing
- F.
  • I am afraid, but I believe something better is possible

Quiz Outcomes

1.
You’re Operating in Survival Mode, Not Relationship Mode
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Disclaimer:This quiz is not a medical or clinical diagnostic tool. It is intended for educational and emotional self-awareness purposes only. If you are in significant distress or experiencing a mental health crisis, please speak to a licensed mental health professional. You can also access culturally sensitive support through the YesLove! community by creating a free account.Your nervous system has been on high alert for years - not because something is wrong with you, but because your body is still protecting you from emotional danger. You might find love triggering, overwhelming, or unsafe, even when your heart wants closeness.Relationships can activate fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses. This isn’t because you’re broken. It’s because love touches the exact parts of you that were never soothed.You might: Feel anxious when someone gets close Pull away when someone is kind Confuse peace with boredom Feel emotionally numb or over-responsible Attract chaos, then blame yourself for being overwhelmedThis is not a mindset issue. It’s a nervous system pattern. And it can change - with time, support, and the right tools.[Create your FREE YesLove! account to access tools, support, and our healing community.]
2.
You’re Still Carrying Your Culture’s Shame About Love
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Disclaimer:This quiz is not a medical or clinical diagnostic tool. It is intended for educational and emotional self-awareness purposes only. If you are in significant distress or experiencing a mental health crisis, please speak to a licensed mental health professional. You can also access culturally sensitive support through the YesLove! community by creating a free account.Love has never been just personal. It has always been political, cultural, and generational. You carry beliefs about worth, timing, gender, sacrifice, and duty - many of which were handed to you by people who meant well but were surviving themselves.Maybe you were taught: That being single means you’ve failed That women must prove loyalty to be loved That men shouldn’t show emotion That love means sacrifice, shame, or silence That your needs are secondary to your roleThese messages can sit in your subconscious and override your healing. Even when you want different, your body and identity are still tangled in duty, fear, and survival roles.This is your chance to unlearn without guilt - and begin writing your own version of love.[Create your FREE YesLove! account to access tools, support, and our healing community.]
3.
You’re Attracting Familiar Pain, Even While Doing the Work
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Disclaimer: This quiz is not a medical or clinical diagnostic tool. It is intended for educational and emotional self-awareness purposes only. If you are in significant distress or experiencing a mental health crisis, please speak to a licensed mental health professional. You can also access culturally sensitive support through the YesLove! community by creating a free account. You’ve already started your healing journey. You’ve walked away from things that didn’t serve you. You’ve had real insights. You’ve done some inner work. But the pattern keeps finding its way back in - because insight without nervous system rewiring is not enough. You might:  Be aware of your triggers, but still act from them  Choose better partners, but still feel unfulfilled  Feel tired of “starting again” after every emotional lesson  Carry grief about how long this journey is taking Healing is not about perfection. It’s about embodied shifts - tiny new choices repeated over time, supported by people who see you. You’re not failing. You’re just not meant to do it alone anymore. [Create your FREE YesLove! account to access tools, support, and our healing community.]
4.
You’re Ready for Love, But Still Distrusting It
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Disclaimer: This quiz is not a medical or clinical diagnostic tool. It is intended for educational and emotional self-awareness purposes only. If you are in significant distress or experiencing a mental health crisis, please speak to a licensed mental health professional. You can also access culturally sensitive support through the YesLove! community by creating a free account. You’ve grown. You’ve broken generational patterns. You’ve stopped chasing. You’ve slowed down. You’ve cultivated more self-worth than ever before. But letting love in - real, safe, regulated love - still feels risky. Why? Because safety is unfamiliar. And the body doesn’t always trust what it hasn’t experienced often. You might:  Worry that real love will feel dull or distant  Still wait for the other shoe to drop  Feel emotionally exposed, even when things are healthy  Wonder if you’ll sabotage something good These are signs that you’re not stuck - you’re shifting. You’re expanding beyond survival love. You are in the phase where trust needs to be practiced, not just known. You don’t need to rush. You need to root. [Create your FREE YesLove! account to access tools, support, and our healing community.]