How Much is High Sensitivity Impacting Your Relationship?

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Quiz Questions

1.
Your partner has told you something along the lines of, “I feel like I have to walk on eggshells with you”, or “I can’t do anything right with you”, or “I feel like I need to be perfect to be good enough for you." – OR you have been called (by anyone in your life) “overly emotional”, or “too sensitive”, “moody”, or even “intense”.
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- A.
  Often
- B.
  Never
- C.
  Sometimes
2.
It's the weekend and you are worn out from a busy week. Your spouse had asked you earlier in the week to go to an event he was interested in with him this weekend. You:
- A.
  Tell him the truth: you really are just too worn out, and you're sorry but you need to stay home and recuperate.
- B.
  You go. Remembering you had this plan with him energizes you.
- C.
  You indulge yourself by squeezing in a few quiet minutes before the event, but you just have to follow through on the commitment you made to go with him, even though you know it will take a toll on you.
- D.
  You go, of course. You don't even think about not going, despite how exhausted you are. You don’t tend to notice what you need (let alone give it to yourself) when you've made a commitment to someone else.
3.
You’ve had a busy full day of one thing after the other, and lots of stimulation. On top of that the world around you is pretty crazy. It's the end of the day and you are making dinner. Your partner says something with a little bit of a snappy tone in his voice to you. You:
- A.
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  a) Feel really annoyed, but hold your tongue.
- B.
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  b) Blow up at him or melt down right then and there.
- C.
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  c) Don't give two hoots. It’s no biggy. This is just life.
4.
How often, in your relationship, do you do, say, or FEEl something, and then wonder if there is something "wrong with" you?
- A.
  never
- B.
  often
- C.
  occasionally
5.
When it comes to your relationship you take things in your relationship extremely seriously, and really dwell on things and interactions–to the point of over-analyzing– (like wishing you either didn’t say something you said or that you had said something else, or you wonder what your spouse meant, and spin out about it). You may even wonder if you take things too seriously in your relationship.
- A.
  That sounds a lot like me.
- B.
  Nope, that's not me at all.
- C.
  I'm kind of that way, but not totally
6.
You put on a new outfit, and ask your hubby if he likes how you like in it. He says, “You look okay.” You:
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- A.
  You feel a little bummed he doesn't love it, and say, “Really? Are you sure?”, while inside questioning if your tastes are up to snuff.
- B.
  Feel really hurt and like and like he must not find you beautiful anymore.
- C.
  You feel fine. His opinion doesn't matter because you like the outfit.
7.
When you notice that you and your spouse are headed for a conflict (because you have different ideas about a situation), you:
- A.
  Lean right into it, not hesitating to share your opinions loud and clear, because conflict doesn't bother you too much.
- B.
  Hold back from sharing what’s important to you or what is true for you in order to avoid the coming conflict.
- C.
  Simply stay calm and know just what to do to resolve the issue before it blows up.
- D.
  Get really agreeable, and say yes to him, even when you know deep down it’s not what you want, or you really DON'T agree with what he’s saying.
- E.
  Feel anxious or upset on the inside, and want to stop this thing before it really becomes a conflict, but you share your thoughts, anyway, even with a shaky voice.
8.
It’s your birthday. Your partner does NOT say happy birthday until an hour or two after you get up. You:
- A.
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  Feel really upset and can’t believe how oblivious he is. You feel a sort of righteous anger, knowing you would never be that inconsiderate.
- B.
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  Feel just plain old disappointed in him (and kind of like you you are a better partner than he is).
- C.
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  You get it. You aren’t that great at paying attention to special days like this either.
9.
Ever gotten pretty insensitive to your partner (maybe even snapped at him) when you were briefly overwhelmed (like the house was especially cluttered, and the kids were yelling in the background, and your hubby was trying to talk to you all at once?)
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- A.
  Often
- B.
  Not too often
- C.
  Never
10.
Imagine your partner normally hugs you goodbye before you part for the day. But today, they simply said goodbye, with no hug. You:
- A.
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  Feel hurt and sad for a couple of hours about it.
- B.
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  You feel a quick ouch, but you bounce back somewhat quickly.
- C.
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  It’s no biggy whatsoever, and you don’t feel anything.
11.
When your partner doesn't do the chore he said he would, you:
- A.
  Feel annoyed and say to him” Ugh, you’re always doing this kind of thing!!" or “Why do I always have to remind you if I want you to follow through on your agreements?!"
- B.
  Not even realize it.
- C.
  Tell him in a chill voice, "Hey, do you mind getting that done asap?"
- D.
  Feel resentful or irritated, but hold that in as you point out he neglected to do the chore.
- E.
  Say nothing and do it yourself. You'd don't want to cause any friction.
12.
Visual clutter, bright lights, strong smells or noisy sounds get to you. This can sometimes be an issue between you and your spouse (like, the smell of his breath can make you not want to kiss him, or you’ve thought about sleeping in your own bedroom because of his nighttime breathing, or you’ve had to negotiate a dimmer lighting situation in the evenings, or the sight of his socks left on the floor bothers you).
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- A.
  Yep, that's me!
- B.
  Nope.That's not really an issue.
- C.
  I guess....Kinda sorta.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Sensitivity IS making things in your relationship harder (but only because you haven't learned to work with it yet).
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Congrats! You are almost definitely a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) – yes, it really IS a good thing! And, it does appear that your sensitivity is affecting you and your relationship in a way that may be more painful than I want for you. More than it needs to when you know how to caretake and and work with your Sensitive Mind-Body-Heart System well (and get a few relationship skills under your belt, which anyone can learn). Don’t worry, I was there, too. And not only did discovering that I'm an HSP give me the capacity to make the best kind of changes in my life and relationship, learning how to work with this genetic trait allowed my marriage to thrive beyond what I thought possible: I now have an incredibly loving, supportive, deeply connected marriage. And this is NOT luck. In fact, HSPs are able to have the very BEST relationships on this planet, once they learn a few specific things. SO, if your relationship isn't all you want it to be, don’t despair! It’s just time to learn how to work with your sensitivity in a way that totally supports the kind of transformation in your marriage you want! WHERE DO YOU START? Seeing as you are a totally unique human being, in a very unique relationship, that will depend! That’s why I created another free quiz (only 6 questions long) that will identify YOUR Next Best Step To Improve Your Marriage.(What can I say, I’m a bit of a quiz fan, because they allow me to give you much more personalized help and advice than I could any other way except talking directly with you!)Not everyone has the same obstacles to overcome or the same areas of growth in order to have a great marriage. So this 2 minute quiz will identify the very most impactful place for you personally to focus on right away to improve your unique relationship as an HSP as quickly as possible! Once you get your results, you’ll receive your personally tailored, specific steps for the fastest most permanent shift towards that deeply connected, light, team-feel relationship you want with your significant other. Take this 2 minute quiz here now. It is the doorway into the marriage you want. Hey there, and welcome! If you don't know me yet, I'm Hannah Brooks 👋 I'm a Love Expert, Marriage Coach, and host of the “Highly Sensitive, Happily Married Podcast” (The first 3 episodes really set the stage for understanding all about how high sensitivity plays into relationship health and fulfillment.) I help highly sensitive and deep feeling women release patterns that lead to conflict and disconnection, put an end to the upset in their marriage, and create the loving, light, genuinely connected and collaborative relationship they really want with their significant other – one that gets better by the day – even when their partner isn’t actively working on their relationship, too. Find me at hspmarriagecoaching.comOne last thing before you go: Feel free to check out this article, 33 Clues You're A Highly Sensitive Person As Revealed In Your Relationship, which will help you get a better sense of what the impact of being a highly sensitive person can be on relationships–both the wonderful and the challenging.
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High Sensitivity is making things in your relationship moderately harder (luckily, just a bit more learning to work with it will improve things a lot!)
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Congrats on learning more about yourself! 🎉 You are most likely an Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). You can’t get rid of your sensitivity (and you don’t want to, because it really IS a good thing!). But you can learn to work with it to help things feel so much better in your life and relationship. Because, truth? Being an HSP actually makes it possible to have one of the very BEST relationships on this planet, so long as you learn to work well with your sensitivity and develop a few specific relationship skills (which anyone can learn). So where do you start? Seeing as you are a totally unique human being, in a very unique relationship, that will depend! That’s why I created another free quiz (only 6 questions long) that will identify YOUR Next Best Step To Improve Your Marriage. (What can I say, I’m a bit of a quiz fan, because they allow me to give you much more personalized help and advice than I could any other way except talking directly with you!)Not everyone has the same obstacles to overcome or the same areas of growth in order to have a great marriage. So this 2 minute quiz will identify the very most impactful place for you personally to focus on right away to improve your unique relationship as an HSP as quickly as possible! Once you get your results, you’ll receive your personally tailored, specific steps for the fastest most permanent shift towards that deeply connected, light, team-feel relationship you want with your significant other. Take this 2 minute quiz here now. It is the doorway into the marriage you want. Hey there, and welcome! If you don't know me yet, I'm Hannah Brooks 👋 I'm a Love Expert, Marriage Coach, and host of the “Highly Sensitive, Happily Married Podcast” (The first 3 episodes really set the stage for understanding all about how high sensitivity plays into relationship health and fulfillment.) I help highly sensitive and deep feeling women release patterns that lead to conflict and disconnection, put an end to the upset in their marriage, and create the loving, light, genuinely connected and collaborative relationship they really want with their significant other – one that gets better by the day – even when their partner isn’t actively working on their relationship, too. Find me at hspmarriagecoaching.comOne last thing before you go: Feel free to check out this article, 33 Clues You're A Highly Sensitive Person As Revealed In Your Relationship, which will help you get a better sense of what the impact of being a highly sensitive person can be on relationships–both the wonderful and the challenging.
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You either are NOT highly sensitive, or you have already learned to work with it pretty well, so it's not impacting your relationship negatively. But you may still want a better relationship!
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And if you haven’t looked into what it means to be highly sensitive, and the impact it has on a relationship, you definitely want to! Because, high sensitivity is a HUGE asset in love, when you know how to harness its power. And if it turns out you actually are an HSP (highly sensitive person), and you aren't as fulfilled as you want to be in your relationship, then it means you are sitting on an incredible power to bring alive the love, deep connection, and loving intimacy you want with your spouse. And for you, given your results, it should just take some subtle shifts to really tap into that power. Your 1st step)Get a better sense of if you are highly sensitive by reading this article I wrote: 33 Clues You're A Highly Sensitive Person As Revealed In Your Relationship It will go into more depth to determine if you are highly sensitive. Come back here for your next step, after you've read that and confirmed one way or the other!Step 2)If you think you are an HSP after reading that, take this other 2 minute free quiz: What's Your Best Next Step To Improve Your Marriage? This quiz was created to point HSPs like YOU to the very most impactful place for you to focus on NOW to quickly improve your unique relationship as an HSP! Once you get to your results, you will receive your personally tailored, specific steps for the fastest most permanent shift towards that deeply connected, light, team-feel relationship you want with your significant other. Take it here now. If it turns out you don't think you’re an HSP: I’d recommend taking THIS short quiz, instead: How Connected Are You And Your Spouse?(And How Much Potential Is There For More Intimacy?). (What can I say, I’m a bit of a quiz fan, because they allow me to give you much more personalized help and advice than I could any other way except talking directly with you!)What I share in your results of this quiz will give you, in your unique marriage, a more targeted, personalized sense of what will help you get closer and more connected with your spouse–whether you are HSP or not. And by taking just 2 minutes to run through it, and a couple more minutes to read your results, you will feel a subtle shift toward that next deeper level of connection with your partner then and there, as well as the empowerment to create even more of it! Take it here.Hey there, and welcome! If you don't know me yet, I'm Hannah Brooks 👋 I'm a Love Expert, Marriage Coach, and host of the “Highly Sensitive, Happily Married Podcast”. I help highly sensitive and deep feeling women release patterns that lead to conflict and disconnection, put an end to the upset in their marriage, and create the loving, light, genuinely connected and collaborative relationship they really want with their significant other – one that gets better by the day – even when their partner isn’t actively working on their relationship, too. Find me at hspmarriagecoaching.com