What's Actually Driving Your Emotional Attachment?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When a relationship ends, your first though is

  • A.
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    What did I do wrong?
  • B.
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    I should've tried harder to make it work.
  • C.
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    Why do people always leave me?
  • D.
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    Who am I now without them?
• 2.
  which statement feels most like your inner dialogue?

  • A.
    If they don’t choose me, something must be wrong with me.
  • B.
    If I don’t help them, who will?
  • C.
    People always leave me eventually.
  • D.
    I have to keep showing up strong, or no one will stay.
• 3.
  You tend to stay too long in relationships because:

  • A.
    You're hoping they’ll finally see your worth.
  • B.
    You feel responsible for their growth or healing.
  • C.
    You’d rather endure pain than feel abandoned.
  • D.
    You’re not sure who you are without them.
• 4.
  In childhood, love felt like:

  • A.
    Earning approval through performance or perfection.
  • B.
    Fixing others’ emotions so the home felt safe.
  • C.
    Being afraid someone would leave if you made a mistake.
  • D.
    Constantly proving you were enough to be loved.
• 5.
  You’re most emotionally triggered by:

  • A.
    Being ignored or rejected.
  • B.
    Feeling powerless in a situation.
  • C.
    Being left out or forgotten.
  • D.
    Not being seen for how much you’re doing.
• 6.
  When you feel emotionally disconnected from someone, your response is to:

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    Over-explain yourself so they see your heart..
  • B.
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    Try to fix what’s broken, even if it wasn’t your fault.
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    Panic and do whatever it takes to keep them close.
  • D.
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    Work harder to earn their attention back.
• 7.
  You tend to feel safest when:

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    You're being praised or validated.
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    You’re in control of the relationship.
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    You feel needed or indispensable.
  • D.
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    You're performing well and being seen as "the strong one."
• 8.
  Your biggest fear in relationships is:

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  • A.
    Not being chosen.
  • B.
    Being out of control.
  • C.
    Being abandoned.
  • D.
    Being unseen.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  You’re a... Performer

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  Driven. Capable. Secretly exhausted.You carry the room. The team. The weight. You’ve been the one everyone could count on....not because they earned it, but because you never gave yourself permission to fall apart.You perform excellence like it’s armor, hiding the fear that without it, you’ll be ignored, overlooked, or left behind. Your worth has been attached to your doing for so long, you don’t know how to rest without guilt.Your biggest fear? That if you stop producing, you’ll be forgotten. That your presence without performance won’t be enough.But God is confronting that lie.He’s not calling you to be impressive. He’s calling you to drop the shield that whispers:“I’m only worthy when I’m achieving.”Underneath your drive is a little girl who learned, "If I do it all myself, no one can abandon me. If I’m strong, they’ll stay."You curated a version of yourself that looked emotionally detached so when they disappointed you or left, you could survive. But God wants to re-establish your original design , the one that is valuable whether she’s hitting quarterly goals or resting in His presence.You weren’t made to perform for love. You were made to rest in it.
• 2.
  THE CO-SIGNER

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  Loyal. Soft-hearted. Often silenced.You’ve made a lifestyle out of emotional shrinking. You read the room before you read yourself. You gauge what others need and abandon your own in the name of peace.But deep down, you’re tired. Tired of minimizing your emotions to make others comfortable. Tired of apologizing for your truth. Tired of over-explaining and under-receiving.You learned early: your honesty might cost you connection. So instead, you stayed quiet. Safe. Invisible. Your nervous system flinches at confrontation, because somewhere along the way, truth started to feel like danger.But God is not asking for your silence. He’s asking for your surrender of the false belief that love only survives in your absence. You vowed: "If I shrink, I’ll stay loved." But shrinking isn’t sustaining you anymore. It’s slowly erasing you.God is calling back your voice to anchor your identity. Peace doesn’t require pretending.You weren’t called to be agreeable. You were called to be authentic.
• 3.
  THE COASTER

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  Chill. Unbothered. Emotionally unplugged.Use this journaling exercise to get really clear about the kind of content you can use to bolster your authority. 2. Research your ideal clients and customersWhen it comes to marketing, copywriting, and content… research is king.A great way to understand your ideal clients is to pay special attention to the questions people are asking on their feeds of the biggest influencers in your industry. Become intimately familiar with your customers needs, fears, desires, and dreams. Pay attention to the words they use the most, so that you can echo this language back to them. Make this kind of research a regular habit, so you can always stay on top of what's current… and so that you're always one step ahead of the game. 3. Write a letter to your ideal customerThis is a classic copywriting exercise that will help you to really empathize with your customer. It can also become the backbone of any content you put out. Write a letter to your ideal customer. Tell them why your product or service can help them. Get as specific as possible. Write from the heart. Write until you feel something.Then print out your letter and put it somewhere in your office that you can see it. Keep connecting to the heartbeat of your business: your customer.Copy cat or cool cat?Hey Friend, I'm Olivia Chia, conversion copywriter and business coach for up-and-coming entrepreneurs who want to blast into the online space. Wondering what drew me to copywriting? PR was my first love. I cut my teeth doing PR for global lifestyle brands… and eventually realized that I was absolutely obsessed with helping brands get more visible.Since 2017, I've been working with entrepreneurs and fellow copywriters to stop being wallflowers and step into their own spotlight. Former clients include photography influencer Miko Hatori, and green beauty phenom Bella Opal.Natural born influencerHere are some resources to grow your brand's authority faster than wild bamboo 🌱✨1. Want copy that creates authentic connection and conversions? Check out my interview on The Copywriter Club Podcast. I share how to unlock your brand's special sauce… so that you can boost your know, like, and trust factor with your audience in no time. You'll also learn my foolproof methods to sell without sounding overly salesy. 2. Need a sales page that reads like a love letter? Grab my Super Sweet Sales Page Mini Course. In this free course, I share seven steps to writing a sales page that both converts and really sounds like you.3. Need clarity on your copy? Book a private consultation with yours truly. In just twenty minutes, I'll help you discover your biggest opportunities to boost your audience with irresistible copy that actually converts. 💌 Wrote you a love letter 💌Now that you've got some insight into how you can grow your brand's authority… head on over to your inbox for a special surprise from moi! You'll also get my Magic Words List for writing more engaging headlines. I'm soooo excited for your brand to become a household name, friend!
• 4.
  THE GHOST

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  Independent. Guarded. Emotionally absent.You’ve made an art of disappearing. You don’t get close. You don’t explain. You just withdraw, before anyone can decide they don’t want you. Because being seen has always felt like being set up. So you chose distance as your defense.You’ve convinced yourself it’s strength. That needing no one is wisdom. That closeness is chaos. But what you’re calling peace is really protection.You made an emotional contract: "If I stay hidden, I can’t be hurt."But God isn’t after your image. He’s after your heart, the one you buried to stay alive.He’s not trying to control you. He’s trying to love the parts of you you thought had to stay exiled.You’re not protecting your heart. You’ve buried it. But the Father sees through the layers. And He’s calling you out of ghost mode and back into relationship with Him, with others, and with your true self.You don’t have to be found worthy. You already were. Even when you disappeared.