What's Really Getting in the Way of Your Money Talks?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When you and your partner talk about money, it usually ends with...

  • A.
    We tend to avoid the conversation altogether until something forces our hand.
  • B.
    We don’t always agree, but we’re getting better at finding middle ground.
  • C.
    We’re trying, but it’s easy for one of us to take charge and the other to shut down.
  • D.
    We bring different perspectives, and without a clear structure, we often walk away without real resolution.
• 2.
  How does it feel when you try to make financial decisions together?

  • A.
    It’s frustrating. We try, but it feels like we go in circles without making much progress.
  • B.
    It’s not perfect, but we’re learning and getting more confident as a team.
  • C.
    Honestly, it’s tense or stressful, so we usually put it off.
  • D.
    It feels like a tug-of-war. Each of us try to hold onto our way of doing things.
• 3.
  Which of these sounds most like your current situation?

  • A.
    We often clash or get stuck in blame, which makes it hard to move forward.
  • B.
    We care and want to do this better, but we keep repeating the same unproductive patterns.
  • C.
    We don’t fight about money, but we also don’t really talk about it.
  • D.
    We’re working at it—our conversations are more open, even if they still need work.
• 4.
  How do your money conversations typically end?

  • A.
    We come to an agreement most of the time, even if it takes some effort.
  • B.
    We usually never start the conversation at all unless something urgent comes up.
  • C.
    One of us ends up walking away frustrated or hurt.
  • D.
    They often trail off—neither of us feels like we’ve gotten anywhere.
• 5.
  If you had one magic wish for your financial conversations, it would be...

  • A.
    That we’d stop blaming and start listening.
  • B.
    That we could keep growing and get even better at this together.
  • C.
    That we could actually have them without so much tension or dread.
  • D.
    That they didn’t feel so exhausting or repetitive.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  You're the Side-Steppers

  💬 “Let’s not talk about it right now…”What this means:You care about your finances (sort of), but money conversations feel stressful, unclear, or like they always lead somewhere you don’t want to go. One of you might delay or sidestep the topic until something urgent forces it to happen.It’s not that you don’t want to figure it out. It’s just hard to know how to make the conversations happen, and you wonder where they'll lead.Why this is normal:Most of us weren’t taught how to talk about money, and you may have grown up with very different money stories. Avoidance can feel safer, but it also keeps you stuck.Your first small shift together:☑️ Try a short, no-pressure conversation with each another: “Can we talk for 10 minutes about where we are and what we want?”You don’t need to fix everything. You just need to normalize these conversations. Exercise your muscles and make them more comfortable.Your next step:💐 Download your free WealthTalk Starter Kit for short check-in prompts, conversation tools, and gentle structure based on the Gottman method—designed to help you talk about money without fear and avoidance.👉 Download Now
• 2.
  You're the Sparring Partners

  💬 “If you'd just listen, we wouldn't be here.”What this means:Money talks usually turn into disagreements about who’s right. One person might feel criticized, while the other feels unheard.Instead of working together, you end up defending your own perspective, and feeling stuck. These conversations tend to feel more combative than productive.Why this is normal:Blame is a way of protecting yourself, especially when money feels scary. But it can push you into a cycle where no one feels heard.Your first small shift together:☑️ Replace blame with curiosity: “Can you help me understand how you’re seeing this?”It’s a simple phrase, but it invites connection instead of conflict.Your next step:💐 Grab your WealthTalk Starter Kit for simple phrases, reflection tools, and tips grounded in Gottman’s Four Horsemen research to help you stop the blame cycle and start making progress, together.👉 Download Now
• 3.
  You're the Circlers

  💬 “We try, but it always falls apart.”What this means:You’re both trying, but your money conversations go off-course. You might start with good intentions but lose focus, get overwhelmed, or talk in circles.Without a clear structure or shared direction, it’s hard to know what you’ve decided—or whether anything has really changed.Why this is normal:If you’ve never had a model for healthy money talks, it makes sense that you’re winging it. But you can create structure that makes conversations calmer, and more productive.Your first small shift together:☑️ “What are we working toward?”Start with shared goals before diving into the numbers.Your next step:💐 Get the WealthTalk Starter Kit for tools that help you plan money talks more clearly, before things go off track. You’ll learn how to reduce miscommunication and move forward using principles based on the Gottman Four Horsemen framework.👉 Download Now
• 4.
  You're the Builders

  💬 “We're not perfect, but we're learning together.”What this means:You’re making progress and actively trying to improve how you talk about money. Your conversations aren’t always smooth, but they’re happening—and that matters!There’s effort on both sides, and you’re beginning to build more trust and understanding around your financial decisions.Why this is powerful:You’re already ahead of the curve. Most couples don’t even talk about money, let alone try to do it well. Your openness is your superpower.Your first small shift together:☑️ Make your talks even smoother by adding structure: weekly check-ins, money conversation prompts, and clearly assigned roles.Your next step:💐 Download your WealthTalk Starter Kit for practical ways to keep building on the momentum you’ve already started. The tools inside are based on Gottman’s research and help you bring more structure and intention to your money conversations.👉 Download Now