Why you can't stop obsessing over what they did

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When I think about what happened:

  • A.
    My mind races and I feel overwhelmed
  • B.
    It hurts, but I can think about it
  • C.
    I can look back without falling apart
• 2.
  My daily routine is 

  • A.
    Gone - I'm just trying to survive
  • B.
    Hit or miss - some days I can't function
  • C.
    Back on track with healthy habits
• 3.
  Which of these feels closest to your experience right now?

  • A.
    Really overwhelmed - it feels like a lot to carry.
  • B.
    Still really hard, but I’m starting to find little ways to cope.
  • C.
    More stable - I can handle more than I could before.
  • D.
    It changes day to day - hard to pin down.
• 4.
  When I look in the mirror, I see 

  • A.
    Someone broken - I don't recognize myself
  • B.
    Someone hurt but fighting to heal
  • C.
    Someone stronger who survived this
• 5.
  My relationship with them now:

  • A.
    Feels impossible - I'm either furious or numb
  • B.
    Complicated but I'm setting boundaries
  • C.
    We rebuilt or I've moved on
• 6.
  What do you need most right now?

  • A.
    Help just making it through today
  • B.
    To understand what happened and deal with my emotions
  • C.
    Ways to build the kind of love and life I want
  • D.
    I'm not sure what I need right now

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  CRISIS + SHOCK STAGE: You're in Survival Mode, and That's Okay 

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  Your Quiz Results Are Ready. It looks like you're in the Crisis + Shock Stage of betrayal recovery. This is the most difficult phase, and it's also temporary.Right now, your nervous system is trying to process something that feels impossible to understand.What This Means:Your overwhelming emotions are normal trauma responses.Your brain is working to keep you safe, even if it doesn't feel like it.This phase is about stabilization, not major decisions.What You Need Right Now:Daily grounding and safety practicesProfessional support (therapist, betrayal recovery coach)Basic self-care routinesTrusted friends who can sit with youWhat's Next:You'll receive emails with gentle, practical tools for getting through each day, plus reminders that you're not alone in this.Check your email for full results, along with next steps and resources to help you through this stage. If you don't see the email in a few minutes, check your spam or promotion folder.
• 2.
  MEANING-MAKING STAGE: You're Piecing Your Story Together

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  Your Quiz Results Are Ready. It looks like you're in the Meaning Making Stage of betrayal recovery. This is the detective work phase of recovery.You're starting to make sense of what happened while processing complex emotions.This takes tremendous courage.What This Means:You're strong enough now to look at the bigger picture.Your brain is working to integrate this experience.You're building understanding that will serve your healing.What You Need Right Now:A framework for understanding betrayal and traumaTools for processing difficult emotionsGuidance on self-compassion and boundary-settingCommunity with others who understandWhat's Next:You'll receive emails that help you understand betrayal's impact, process your emotions healthily, and prepare for rebuilding.Check your email for full results, along with next steps and resources to help you through this stage. If you don't see the email in a few minutes, check your spam or promotion folder.
• 3.
  REBUILDING STAGE: You're Actively Creating Your New Life

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  Your Quiz Results Are Ready. It looks like you're in the REBUILDING Stage of betrayal recovery. This is the reconstruction phase where you begin creating a new foundation for your life.You're actively working to rebuild trust—both in yourself and in your capacity for healthy relationships.This requires both patience and persistent effort.What This Means:You've processed enough of the trauma to start looking forward.Your nervous system is stabilizing and you're ready for intentional growth.You're developing new patterns and boundaries based on your hard-won wisdom.What You Need Right Now:Clear action steps for rebuilding your life and relationshipsSkills for healthy communication and conflict resolutionSupport in developing authentic self-trustTools for maintaining the progress you've madeWhat's Next:You'll receive emails focused on practical rebuilding strategies, relationship skills, and maintaining your healing momentum as you create the life you truly want.Check your email for full results, along with next steps and resources to help you through this stage. If you don't see the email in a few minutes, check your spam or promotion folder.