Question 1: Daily Thought Patterns. When you have free time or quiet moments, what typically occupies your mind?
A.
Thoughts about potential romantic partners, current relationships, or analyzing past relationships
B.
A mix of relationship thoughts and personal goals, but relationships still take up significant mental space
C.
Mostly personal goals, projects, and interests with occasional relationship thoughts
D.
Almost entirely focused on personal growth, goals, and experiences that fulfill me independently
2.
Question 2: Decision-Making Process. How do you make major life decisions (career, living situation, major purchases)?
A.
I often consider how decisions will affect my dating prospects or appeal to potential partners
B.
I make decisions for myself, but still factor in how they might impact future relationships
C.
I make decisions primarily for myself, though I might briefly consider relationship implications.
D.
I make decisions based solely on what serves my personal growth and happiness
3.
Question 3: Social Conversations. When spending time with friends, what topics dominate your conversations?
A.
Men, dating, relationships, and analyzing romantic situations take up most of our time.
B.
Relationship topics are frequent, but we also discuss other areas of life
C.
We talk about various life topics, with relationships being just one of many subjects
D.
Our conversations center on personal growth, goals, experiences, and interests beyond romantic relationships
4.
Question 4: Comfort Level with Alone Time. How do you feel about spending extended periods alone?
A.
I feel restless, lonely, or bored, and often reach out to dating apps or past connections to fill the void.
B.
I can be alone, but often feel like something is missing, or wish I had someone to share experiences with
C.
I generally enjoy alone time but occasionally feel lonely and wonder about having a partner
D.
I genuinely enjoy and value my alone time, feeling complete and content in my own company
5.
Question 5: Personal Goals and Interests. How developed are your personal goals and interests outside of relationships?
A.
Most of my goals revolve around becoming more attractive to potential partners or preparing for a future relationship.
B.
I have some personal goals, but many are still influenced by what might appeal to a future partner
C.
I have clear personal goals that are mostly about my own fulfillment, with minimal consideration of romantic appeal
D.
I have well-defined goals and interests that are entirely focused on my personal growth and satisfaction
6.
Question 6: Response to Dating OpportunitiesWhen presented with dating opportunities, how do you typically respond?
A.
I almost always say yes, even if I'm not particularly interested, because I don't want to miss out on potential love.
B.
I often say yes but am starting to be more selective about who I spend time with
C.
I'm selective and only pursue connections that genuinely interest me and align with my values
D.
I'm highly selective and comfortable saying no to opportunities that don't truly excite me or fit my life (
7.
Question 7: Self-Worth and ValidationWhere do you primarily derive your sense of worth and validation?
A.
Largely from romantic attention, being desired by others, or being in a relationship.
B.
From a combination of romantic validation and personal achievements, but relationships still carry significant weight
C.
Mostly from personal accomplishments, growth, and relationships with friends/family, with romantic validation being nice but not necessary
D.
From my own self-acceptance, achievements, and internal sense of worth, independent of romantic validation
8.
Question 8: Life SatisfactionHow satisfied do you feel with your life as it currently exists?
A.
I feel like something major is missing and that I can't be truly happy or complete without a romantic partner
B.
I'm somewhat satisfied, but still feel like a relationship would significantly improve my happiness
C.
I'm generally satisfied and feel like a relationship would be a nice addition, but not necessary for my happiness
D.
I feel genuinely fulfilled and complete, viewing a relationship as a potential enhancement rather than a need
9.
Question 9: Childhood Patterns Recognition. How aware are you of how your childhood and family patterns influence your relationship with romantic partnerships?
A.
I haven't really considered how my upbringing affects my dating patterns or relationship needs.
B.
I've started to notice some patterns but haven't done much work to address them
C.
I recognize several patterns and am actively working to address them through self-reflection or therapy.
D.
I have a clear awareness of my patterns and have done significant work to heal and break unhealthy cycles.
10.
Question 10: Future Vision.When you envision your ideal future, what does it look like?
A.
It centers around finding the right partner and building a life together - I struggle to imagine fulfillment without this.
B.
It includes a relationship as a major component, but I also have some individual goals and dreams
C.
It's primarily focused on my personal goals and experiences, with a relationship being a welcome but not essential element
D.
It's richly detailed with personal achievements, experiences, and growth, where a relationship would complement rather than define my life
You're operating within deeply embedded societal conditioning that positions romantic relationships as the primary source of validation, purpose, and completion.
You're beginning to recognize the patterns of male-centered living and questioning why so much of your mental and emotional energy goes toward romantic relationships.
