When 'Not Enough' Becomes an Ally

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Quiz Questions

1.
When a family member asks you for something you don’t really want to give (time, money, energy), you usually…
- A.
  I just agree and figure it out later.
- B.
  I sit on the message trying to figure out the best way to respond.
- C.
  I ignore it for a while and hope it goes away.
- D.
  I try to squeeze it into my schedule somehow.
- E.
  I worry that saying no will make me look bad.
2.
When you see someone post about their success on social media, your first reaction is…
- A.
  No way I’d post anything looking like that.
- B.
  Ooh, I should share something too.
- C.
  I think they’re making it sound bigger than it is.
- D.
  I’m so behind.
- E.
  Time to push harder.
3.
When you’re finishing a project, you tend to…
- A.
  I tweak things to make sure people will like it.
- B.
  Fuss over the small stuff
- C.
  Immediately spot what could’ve been better.
- D.
  Polish and adjust to get it tip top.
- E.
  Wonder how others would have done it.
4.
In an uncomfortable conversation with someone close to you, you’re most likely to…
- A.
  Shut down and wait for it to end.
- B.
  Wonder if you’re even right to bring it up.
- C.
  Try to get them back on my side quickly.
- D.
  Nod along and go with it.
- E.
  Push to fix things as fast as possible.
5.
When your to-do list feels out of control, you…
- A.
  Get annoyed with yourself for being behind.
- B.
  Wonder where to start but can’t decide.
- C.
  Make lists and plans to get organised.
- D.
  Think about other people that manage things so much better.
- E.
  Mention how busy you are so people know you’re trying.
6.
When someone gives you a compliment, you usually…
- A.
  Brush it off and say it’s nothing.
- B.
  Thank them quickly and turn the focus back on them.
- C.
  Change the subject so it doesn’t get awkward.
- D.
  Feel good for a second, then move on to what’s next.
- E.
  Light up and want to hear more.
7.
When a plan doesn’t go the way you expected, you…
- A.
  Dwell on how you should’ve done it differently.
- B.
  Get annoyed at yourself for messing up.
- C.
  Replay it over and over in your head.
- D.
  Doubt whether you’re cut out for it.
- E.
  Think about how other people wouldn’t have messed it up.
8.
When you finally get some free time, you…
- A.
  Zone out with distractions and lose track of time.
- B.
  Only relax if you’ve checked enough off your list.
- C.
  Enjoy it more if someone tells you to take a break.
- D.
  Feel guilty for not using it to help someone.
- E.
  Call yourself lazy for not doing something useful with your time.
9.
In a romantic relationship, what do you find most challenging?
- A.
  Find it hard to let go of things that happened in the past.
- B.
  Feel like you’re not attractive enough.
- C.
  Worry they’d rather be with someone else.
- D.
  Trying to be the best partner ever.
- E.
  Letting someone get really close.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
The Achiever
2.
The Avoider
3.
The Comparer
4.
The Critic
5.
The Doubter
6.
The Over-Thinker
7.
The People Pleaser
8.
The Perfectionist
9.
The Validation Seeker