Which Mask Do You Wear? A Soulful Quiz for Black Women Ready to Begin Becoming UnWounded.

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When life feels overwhelming, how do you usually cope?

  • A.
    I hold it in until I explode.
  • B.
    “I put up walls and push people away.”
  • C.
    “I take care of everyone else’s needs first.”
  • D.
    “I push harder and try to get everything right.”
  • E.
    I go quiet and fade into the background.
  • F.
    “I keep going, no matter how exhausted I feel.”
  • G.
    “I smile and pretend I’m okay.”
• 2.
  What do you fear people might think if you showed your true self?

  • A.
    “That I’m not good enough unless I’m perfect.”
  • B.
    “That I don’t matter or belong.”
  • C.
    “That I’m too much if I share my real feelings.”
  • D.
    “That I’m weak if I can’t do it all.”
  • E.
    “That I’m mean or unapproachable.”
  • F.
    “That I’m angry or intimidating.”
  • G.
    “That I’m selfish if I put myself first.”
• 3.
  Which statement feels most familiar to you?

  • A.
    “It’s easier to stay quiet than risk conflict.”
  • B.
    “I don’t care what people think; I’ll do me regardless.”
  • C.
    “I’d rather keep the peace than rock the boat.”
  • D.
    “If I do it perfectly, I’ll finally feel safe.”
  • E.
    “I have to be strong because everyone depends on me.”
  • F.
    “I’ll just handle it for them — it’s easier that way.”
  • G.
    “I can’t let people see how mad I really am.”
• 4.
  What’s the hardest thing for you to admit to yourself?

  • A.
    “That I feel fire and rage I don’t know how to express.”
  • B.
    “That I’m tough on the outside, but I long for peace.”
  • C.
    “That I sometimes feel invisible and unseen.”
  • D.
    “That I’m drained from giving too much.”
  • E.
    That my smile doesn’t always match how I feel inside.
  • F.
    “That I’m tired of always trying to be flawless.”
  • G.
    “That I don’t want to be strong all the time.”
• 5.
  When someone crosses your boundary, how do you react?

  • A.
    “I give in, because their needs seem more important.”
  • B.
    “I try harder to be perfect so they can’t criticize me.”
  • C.
    “I let it slide and stay agreeable.”
  • D.
    “I withdraw and make myself smaller.”
  • E.
    “I feel furious but try to hide it.”
  • F.
    “I push back hard, even if it makes people uncomfortable.”
  • G.
    “I just carry it silently and keep going.”
• 6.
  Which compliment feels hardest to receive?

  • A.
    “You don’t always have to take care of everyone.”
  • B.
    “Your fire is powerful and needed.”
  • C.
    “You deserve to rest.”
  • D.
    “Your voice matters.”
  • E.
    “You are powerful without needing to fight.”
  • F.
    “You don’t have to be perfect to be loved.”
  • G.
    “It’s okay to not be happy all the time.”

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  1. The Mask of Perfection

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  You strive to appear flawless, polished, and beyond critique. This mask tells you that mistakes make you unworthy, so you overachieve and hide your vulnerability. But your wholeness does not require perfection.
• 2.
  2. The Mask of the Good Girl / Happy

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  You smile even when you hurt. You say yes when your spirit wants to say no. This mask taught you that obedience and agreeableness keep you safe. But your truth deserves more than a smile.
• 3.
  3. The Mask of the Strong Black Woman

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  You carry everyone’s burdens, rarely ask for help, and equate your worth with survival and resilience. This mask protects, but it also denies you softness, rest, and ease.
• 4.
  4. The Mask of the Angry Black Woman

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  Description: This mask suppresses your fire until it erupts. It’s the silenced scream, the passion mistaken for threat, the rage that’s been misinterpreted. Yet your anger is not your enemy—it is your compass.
• 5.
  5. The Mask of Silence / Invisibility

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  Description: You hide your voice and dim your presence. You shrink to avoid conflict or erase yourself to keep others comfortable. This mask whispers that disappearing keeps you safe. But your voice is medicine, your presence is power.
• 6.
  6. The Mask of the Caretaker / Mule

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  Description: You give endlessly, take on responsibilities that aren’t yours, and place everyone else’s needs above your own. This mask tells you that self-sacrifice equals love. But your life belongs to you too.
• 7.
  7. The Mask of The Bitch / Rebel

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  Description: You push back hard, defy expectations, and use toughness as protection. This mask often emerges when your boundaries have been crossed too many times. Behind it lies your longing for sovereignty and peace.