Where Are You Abandoning Yourself?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
   When life feels “off,” where do you notice it most? 

  • A.
    In my work. I’m drained, overcommitted, or questioning the point.
  • B.
    In my relationships. I keep giving but rarely feel seen or fulfilled.
  • C.
    In my body. I’m tired, stressed, or dealing with nagging health issues.
  • D.
    In myself. I feel disconnected, restless, or like I’ve lost who I am.
  • E.
    In my security. I feel trapped by money, responsibilities, or stability.
• 2.
  Which thought do you secretly relate to most? 

  • A.
    “If I speak up, I’ll let people down.”
  • B.
    “If I slow down, I’ll lose everything I’ve worked for.”
  • C.
    “If I risk my stability, I might regret it forever.”
  • D.
    “If I stop pushing, I might fall apart.”
  • E.
    “If this is it… I’m wasting my life.”
• 3.
  How do you usually respond when your body/mind signals it’s had enough? 

  • A.
    I remind myself “I can’t afford to stop now.”
  • B.
    I numb it (caffeine, scrolling, wine, whatever works).
  • C.
    I ignore it. Someone else’s needs feel more urgent.
  • D.
    I silence it and go on autopilot.
  • E.
    I push through and finish the task.
• 4.
  Which statement hits closest to home? 

  • A.
    I have what I should want, but I feel numb.
  • B.
    I’m dependable, but I feel invisible.
  • C.
    I’m successful, but I’m exhausted.
  • D.
    I’m secure, but I feel trapped.
  • E.
    I look “fine,” but I’m falling apart inside.
• 5.
  If you could change just one thing tomorrow, what would it be? 

  • A.
    Feeling like myself again.
  • B.
    My workload and pace.
  • C.
    Freedom from financial or lifestyle obligations.
  • D.
    The way I show up in relationships.
  • E.
    How I treat and care for my body.
• 6.
  Which best describes your mornings right now? 

  • A.
    I wake up already stressed about work.
  • B.
    I wake up already unmotivated.
  • C.
    I wake up already tired.
  • D.
    I wake up already anxious about money or obligations.
  • E.
    I wake up already thinking about other people’s needs.
• 7.
  What’s the story you catch yourself repeating most? 

  • A.
    “I can’t rock the boat.”
  • B.
    “I don’t have time to take care of myself.”
  • C.
    “I can’t afford to risk what I’ve built.”
  • D.
    “I just need to push a little harder.”
  • E.
    “I should be happy, but I’m not.”
• 8.
  Which fear do you carry most quietly? 

  • A.
    Waking up 10 years from now and still feeling empty.
  • B.
    Losing my financial footing or stability if I change.
  • C.
    Losing credibility if I stop overachieving.
  • D.
    Losing control of my health if I stop pushing.
  • E.
    Being rejected or abandoned if I speak my truth.
• 9.
  How do you know you’re abandoning yourself? 

  • A.
    My body feels like it’s breaking down.
  • B.
    My work leaves me drained instead of energized.
  • C.
    I can’t remember what excites me anymore.
  • D.
    I say yes when I want to say no.
  • E.
    I measure everything by money, but joy is missing.
• 10.
  Which “dream version” of life feels most appealing right now? 

  • A.
    A life that feels aligned with who I really am.
  • B.
    Freedom to make choices without fear of losing stability.
  • C.
    Relationships where my needs matter too.
  • D.
    A body that feels strong, rested, and energized.
  • E.
    A. A career where I can succeed without burning out.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  The Overworked Achiever (Career) 

  DefinitionYou’re the one who can “make it happen.” Colleagues rely on you, leaders promote you, friends call you ambitious. But the truth? You’ve built success on abandoning yourself. Work has become a proving ground instead of a place of purpose. Success looks shiny, but inside it feels like weight you can’t set down.What’s Really Going OnThis is self-abandonment disguised as achievement. You’ve been performing for recognition instead of honoring your rhythm. Radical Recognition invites you to lay it all out: the skipped meals, 10 p.m. emails, the weekends “just catching up.” When you put it on the proverbial table, you see the cost is bigger than the paycheck.Proof You’re Not Alone66% of employees report burnout; among managers, the risk spikes to 96%.Working 55+ hours/week raises stroke risk by 35% and heart disease risk by 17%.Arianna Huffington collapsed from exhaustion and built Thrive Global on the truth: real success requires rest.“I’ve ticked every box, and I feel more numb than full.” (r/AskWomenOver30)The Honor You Method ConnectionRadical Recognition: Admit the grind isn’t working. Put it all on the table without shame.Higher Self Leadership: Become the Sacred Observer and start to notice how often you override your body and intuition.Sacred Union: Give yourself Inner Permission to succeed in ways that don’t cost your peace or health.7-Day Honor You Action PlanDay 1, Radical Recognition: Journal every demand at work. Circle what feels draining vs. life-giving. Day 2, Sacred Observer: Notice each time you override hunger, fatigue, or intuition. Write down the pattern. Day 3, Signature Frequency Check: Recall when work once felt energizing. Compare that frequency to now. Day 4, Shed the Story: Rewrite one old belief (“Rest is weakness”) into truth (“Rest sharpens me”). Day 5, Inner Permission: Say: “I give myself permission to succeed without abandoning myself.” Day 6, Set a Boundary: Stop work one hour earlier. Notice the resistance and the relief. Day 7, Soul-Aligned Choice: Spend 20 minutes on something that excites you, not just what “has” to be done.Bridge to The Honor You LabYou don’t have to torch your career. You just need a new operating system. In the Lab, we’ll help you redefine achievement so you can keep your edge without losing yourself.Next StepsIf you’d like to talk through your results, click below to schedule a free consultation call. Not quite ready for that step? Start with my free 3-part series, ""An Introduction to The Honor You Method" and learn how to create a life that feels aligned with who you are, not where you are.
• 2.
  The Self-Sacrificer (Relationships) 

  DefinitionYou’re the glue, the one everyone leans on. You anticipate needs, keep the peace, and rarely rock the boat. Outwardly, you’re dependable. Inwardly, you’re disappearing. Your needs, voice, and truth are buried under layers of “I’m fine.”What’s Really Going OnThis is abandonment through appeasement. Psychology calls it the fawn response, which is staying safe by meeting everyone else’s needs. Radical Recognition means pulling it all onto the table: the times you said yes when you wanted no, the moments you swallowed your truth just to avoid tension.Proof You’re Not AloneResearch shows people with “unmitigated communion” (others-first to the extreme) have higher distress and depression rates.Blurred boundaries are a major predictor of unhappiness and burnout.Simone Biles shocked the world by stepping back from Olympic competition & modeling that protecting yourself isn’t weakness, it’s strength.“I hold it all together, and I feel invisible.” (r/AskWomenOver30)The Honor You Method ConnectionRadical Recognition: Own the resentment you’ve been hiding. Put it on the table without blame.Higher Self Leadership: From the Sacred Observer, notice how often you silence yourself to “keep harmony.”Sacred Union: Inner Permission is your medicine, the green light to speak your truth and still be loved.7-Day Honor You Action PlanDay 1, Radical Recognition: Write down every place you’re saying “yes” but meaning “no.” Day 2, Sacred Observer: Track one physical cue (tight chest, jaw clench) when you abandon yourself. Day 3, Shed the Story: Replace “I’m selfish if I say no” with “My honesty creates real connection.” Day 4, Inner Permission: Say: “I am allowed to have needs.” Repeat when guilt rises. Day 5, Micro-Ask: Request one small thing (help with a chore, 10 minutes alone). Day 6, Boundary Test: Decline one request without over-explaining. Day 7, Soul-Aligned Connection: Share one truth with someone close, not dramatic, just honest.Bridge to The Honor You LabThe people who truly love you don’t need you as a martyr, they need you whole. In the Lab, you’ll learn to rebuild relationships with clarity and honesty, so you stop abandoning yourself in the name of love.Next StepsIf you’d like to talk through your results, click below to schedule a free consultation call. Not quite ready for that step? Start with my free 3-part series, ""An Introduction to The Honor You Method" and learn how to create a life that feels aligned with who you are, not where you are.
• 3.
  The Burned-Out Pusher (Health / Body)

  DefinitionYou treat your body like a machine that should never break down. You push past fatigue, silence the signals, and keep grinding because slowing down feels dangerous. Outwardly, you look “high-performing.” Inwardly, your body is screaming for mercy.What’s Really Going OnThis is self-abandonment of the body. You’ve convinced yourself that pushing harder is the only way forward. Radical Recognition asks you to put the truth on the table: the skipped workouts, the skipped rest days, the late nights, the constant caffeine, the aches you dismiss. Instead of judging, just look.Your body isn’t betraying you, it’s begging you to come home.Proof You’re Not Alone83% of U.S. workers say they’re stressed by work, and nearly half report high daily stress.Overwork (55+ hrs/wk) is linked to 35% more strokes and 17% more heart disease deaths.Rihanna ended up hospitalized from burnout, admitting she cried in her hotel room from the pressure.“I made the life, but my body is waving the white flag.” (r/careerguidance)The Honor You Method ConnectionRadical Recognition: Admit the truth, your body is not a machine. Put the exhaustion, the aches, the neglect on the table.Higher Self Leadership: Step into the Sacred Observer and witness the moments you override your body’s signals.Sacred Union: Give yourself Inner Permission to rest without guilt. Fulfillment comes when your body is included in your success.7-Day Honor You Action PlanDay 1, Radical Recognition: List every way you’ve been overriding your body. Be brutally honest. Day 2, Sacred Observer: Notice body signals (tension, fatigue) in real time. Write them down. Day 3, Shed the Story: Replace “Rest is weakness” with “Rest is my strength.” Day 4, Inner Permission: Say: “I am allowed to honor my body before I honor my to-do list.” Day 5, Energy Audit: Write one thing that fuels you and one that drains you. Swap one drain for one fuel. Day 6, Body Boundary: End one draining habit early (screen time, extra task). Replace it with 15 minutes of real restoration. Day 7, Soul-Aligned Movement: Choose one movement (walk, yoga, stretch) for no other reason than it feels good.Bridge to The Honor You LabYour body isn’t optional in your success story, it’s the foundation. In the Lab, we help you build rhythms that protect your energy and health while still letting you win big.Next StepsIf you’d like to talk through your results, click below to schedule a free consultation call. Not quite ready for that step? Start with my free 3-part series, ""An Introduction to The Honor You Method" and learn how to create a life that feels aligned with who you are, not where you are.
• 4.
  The Disconnected Soul (Identity / Self) 

  DefinitionYou’ve built the life you thought you were “supposed to”; the job, the family, the milestones. But somewhere along the way, you went missing. On the outside, you look fine. On the inside, you’re restless, numb, or quietly wondering, “Is this really it?”What’s Really Going OnThis is self-abandonment of your soul. You’ve been living the script instead of your story. Radical Recognition asks you to put it all on the table: the roles you play, the masks you wear, the ways you’ve ignored your own voice.This isn’t weakness. It’s a wake-up call.Proof You’re Not AloneResearch shows midlife often brings a dip in well-being, not because you’ve failed, but because you’re reevaluating.Millennials and Gen Xers increasingly reject the “midlife crisis” label, calling it a chance for authenticity.Michelle Obama: “Success is only meaningful and enjoyable if it feels like your own.”“My life looks good. I feel… numb.” (r/AskWomenOver30)The Honor You Method ConnectionRadical Recognition: Admit you’re disconnected. List the ways you’ve lost touch with your truth.Higher Self Leadership: Step into the Sacred Observer and notice when you’re living on autopilot.Sacred Union: Inner Permission means reclaiming your identity. You are allowed to choose yourself now.7-Day Honor You Action PlanDay 1, Radical Recognition: Write down every role you play (mom, VP, spouse, friend). Circle the ones that feel most misaligned. Day 2, Sacred Observer: Notice autopilot moments (when you say yes without thinking). Day 3, Aliveness Clues: Write 3 times in your life you felt most you. Day 4, Shed the Story: Replace “I have to keep playing this role” with “I can choose roles that fit me now.” Day 5, Inner Permission: Say: “I am allowed to change, even if others don’t understand.” Day 6, Small Courage: Do one thing this week that feels “off-script” but aligned with your truth. Day 7, Soul Practice: Spend 30 minutes on something purely for you, such as art, writing, music, silence.Bridge to The Honor You LabThe emptiness you feel isn’t failure, it’s your soul calling you back. In the Lab, we’ll reconnect you to your true identity and give you tools to live from your soul, not just society’s script.Next StepsIf you’d like to talk through your results, click below to schedule a free consultation call. Not quite ready for that step? Start with my free 3-part series, ""An Introduction to The Honor You Method" and learn how to create a life that feels aligned with who you are, not where you are.
• 5.
  The Security Seeker (Money / Stability) 

  DefinitionYou’ve built your life around safety; the steady paycheck, the benefits, the stability. On paper, it’s smart. But inside, it feels like a cage. You’re not greedy, but you’re afraid of losing what you’ve built. And that fear has kept you stuck.What’s Really Going OnThis is self-abandonment through fear. Loss aversion and the “status quo bias” convince you staying put is safer than pursuing fulfillment. Radical Recognition asks you to put it all on the table, all of the ways you’ve chosen safety over soul.Stability without fulfillment is just a prettier prison.Proof You’re Not AloneProfessionals in their 40s are most likely to hit career dissatisfaction, despite financial success.Many admit staying in jobs or marriages for “security,” even when it kills joy.Michelle Obama: “Success is only meaningful and enjoyable if it feels like your own.”“I have the salary, the benefits… and I feel trapped.” (r/careerguidance)The Honor You Method ConnectionRadical Recognition: Admit where fear, not desire, is driving your choices.Higher Self Leadership: Step into the Sacred Observer and notice every time money or “stability” overrides your soul’s voice.Sacred Union: Give yourself Inner Permission to want more than safety, to want joy, freedom, and fulfillment.7-Day Honor You Action PlanDay 1, Radical Recognition: Write down every place you’re choosing safety over soul. Day 2, Sacred Observer: Notice how often you say “I can’t risk it” this week. Day 3, Shed the Story: Replace “Security is everything” with “Fulfillment is part of security.” Day 4, Inner Permission: Say: “I am allowed to want more than just safety.” Day 5, Tiny Risk: Take one low-stakes step toward freedom (research a dream, start a conversation, block one hour for creativity). Day 6, Safety Floor: Calculate your real monthly needs, not the inflated lifestyle, to see your actual freedom number. Day 7, Soul-Aligned Test: Invest 20 minutes this week in something that excites you, even if it doesn’t “make sense.”Bridge to The Honor You LabYou don’t have to blow up your life to move beyond the cage of security. In the Lab, we help you design experiments that protect stability and create freedom so success feels safe and soulful.Next StepsIf you’d like to talk through your results, click below to schedule a free consultation call. Not quite ready for that step? Start with my free 3-part series, ""An Introduction to The Honor You Method" and learn how to create a life that feels aligned with who you are, not where you are.